Parenting after LT TTC #4

[barney]

awww neptune hun i just dont know what to say hunny but i just wanted to give you a big hug im soo not good at giving relationship advice as k me anything else and ive always got a comment but this im not too sure about,just know im thinking of you hunny and give adam sloppys for me and charlie .

[grub17]

oh neptune i remmber just before you had adam you were trying to overcome this big issue. big hugs for you love. I hope he reads your letter and takes it on board. chin up love. oxox

[Neptune]

Thanks Smithy and Grub, your thoughts mean heaps. Letters have worked temporarily in the past, so it's worth a shot. After 13 years together though, I think he is overwhelmed but won't ask for help and anything he does to try and clean up is just an attempt to deflect me because he knows that the job is too big. All complicated by the fact that he feels that he needs to fic it himself therefore won't ask/pay for help. If I try to do anything proactive like paying for storage etc, he gives me the silent treatment for days (I do not cope well with this) and I just abandon plans. I think he needs a big shock, but I feel to weak to do it!

[saph204]

Oh neptune, just know we are hear to lend an ear for where ever this bumpy road ahead takes you. It is delicate situation you dont want to alienate him but you do want to kick him into gear to get the help he needs. Big hugs to you.

[BOC]

Oh Neptune you poor thing, I remember from before Adam was born too, oh I hope you get something sorted out soon, for all your sakes.

[barney]

just wanted to pop in and give our beautiful neptune big hugs for today,im soo thinking of you hun

[onthefly]

Oh Neptune
He sounds like my FIL.... he's had longer to accumulate stuff and it is scary bad but he really has no idea. I don't know how my MIL has put up with it for so long - I do know she has little breakdowns every now and then. Gosh I do too and DH only has slight tendancies in that area.
He does need a kick in the pants somehow or other so he can get his priorities straight! All the best - we're all here for you however we can be. I hope you can get through to him.