Grub I second the day ahead schedule idea, who do we talk to about this??????? yayaya for roll over, Linc is rolling onto his side much more and yesterday was trying to sit up (crunches for babies).
Easter plans hear are RELAX sleep in (fingers crossed) and lunch with DH's parents DSS DSD and my mum on Sunday. LOADS OF CHOCOLATE THIS YEAR! now I can have caffine again. how bout you?
I agree with you about the plan but I would just like it to stay the same for more than one day at a time. we have started on the losec doesnt seem to make a difference but then we are having trouble getting it in. He either spits it out or he throws it up. Still not getting any sleep. Oh well it is very over rated.
oh saph what gorgeous pics! i love the ones of xavier and campbell having a "hug'' lol. poor xavier really doesn't look that impressed! what a lovely family you have! no wonder you've decided to not go back again for more - you have two perfect little beings right there!!!
hey, do you think the babies know that daylight savings ends tomorrow and we get an extra hour's sleep in? hhhmmm might go tell Ash.
by the way , my boy slept from 8pm to 4.45am then 5am to 8am, and i got him up and dressed when he calledout, fed him... he fell asleep again! so back to bed at 8.30am. He missed his morning kip yesterday tho so maybe he's a bit tired.
easter bunny is visiting E during her next nap (he's a clever cookie!) - we're out at my folks tomorrow and want her to have a fairly calm morning rather than one in which she trashes the egg she has to share with Daddy - so we're giving her the egg this arvo (if she stops running away and avoiding her nap!)
I'm back in Sydney, trying to keep up the momentum with study, and enjoying Adam at the same time.
Bit of a me post. Having a few probs with DH. I love him so much but he is an obsessive compulsive hoarder.....he has never been officially diagnosed, but I can vouch for the fact we live in a hovel and it is very unsafe and I'm afraid for when Adam can crawl or even be old enough to remember this. We are getting along okay mostly, except I keep breaking down crying which DH gets very upset with me and keeps saying that he is trying to fix it. It is just getting worse and I think that I will have to leave. It is the last thing I want to do, but I have tried everything and nothing works. He won't go and get help because he thinks he has a storage problem only!!! Don't know where to go, might have to get a lease on my own. I'm in the process of writing him a letter to get it all out, because he just shuts me out if I try to talk about it. I'm going to offer for us all to go and rest somewhere, but I know he won't come and he will see it as me abandoning him. I've lived here with him for 10 years and I know he won't do it.
Just a vent, I don't except anyone to come up with magical solutions. I don't want to break up our family, and I don't want to be on my won without him, but it's awful here.
awww neptune hun i just dont know what to say hunny but i just wanted to give you a big hug im soo not good at giving relationship advice as k me anything else and ive always got a comment but this im not too sure about,just know im thinking of you hunny and give adam sloppys for me and charlie .
oh neptune i remmber just before you had adam you were trying to overcome this big issue. big hugs for you love. I hope he reads your letter and takes it on board. chin up love. oxox
Thanks Smithy and Grub, your thoughts mean heaps. Letters have worked temporarily in the past, so it's worth a shot. After 13 years together though, I think he is overwhelmed but won't ask for help and anything he does to try and clean up is just an attempt to deflect me because he knows that the job is too big. All complicated by the fact that he feels that he needs to fic it himself therefore won't ask/pay for help. If I try to do anything proactive like paying for storage etc, he gives me the silent treatment for days (I do not cope well with this) and I just abandon plans. I think he needs a big shock, but I feel to weak to do it!
Oh neptune, just know we are hear to lend an ear for where ever this bumpy road ahead takes you. It is delicate situation you dont want to alienate him but you do want to kick him into gear to get the help he needs. Big hugs to you.
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He sounds like my FIL.... he's had longer to accumulate stuff and it is scary bad but he really has no idea. I don't know how my MIL has put up with it for so long - I do know she has little breakdowns every now and then. Gosh I do too and DH only has slight tendancies in that area.
He does need a kick in the pants somehow or other so he can get his priorities straight! All the best - we're all here for you however we can be. I hope you can get through to him.
I am on my third change of clothes for the day, Xavier is on his forth, I have changed his bed twice the washing machine has been going all day. DH has just come home from work I am going to bed.
oh saph look at your beatiful boys how are you coping with the lack os sleep. DH and I slept in shifts not very romantic but mummy needs sleep too.
Grub linc didn't give me any extra sleep
neptune, hun I'm so sorry it hasn't got any better re DH did you think about talking to someone yourself? I know that's what I'd do. At least you can vent to someone and maybe talk through your options re lease on your own, I know my mum cops all my vents but a professional is good too. Also lifeline?
Saph (2nd) Xavier pee or vomit? Linc peed like 4 times one day I cried. Now we're in bigger nappies and I check. Bloody boys I don't understand the pee in ANY direction. Hope you slept and slept and slept.
ATM feeling FAT! after baby I felt so good, flat tummy etc. then 6 weeks of no sleep and huge amounts of sugar to keep awake have ended in me probably being hevier and fatter and just feeling like a big detox.
I joined Curves pre baby and will go back starting tomorrow (DH in the door Me out) and I'm trying to limit my sugar intake, (easter is hard) I used to run so I could eat but I'll have to work up to that again me thinks, also the pram I've got is lighter and smaller but not a jogger. Although the thought of doing something without DS (sorry Linc) is good too.
My good night sleeper has left Linc now sleeps 8-12 then 12.20-2.20(resettle) 2.25-4 4.20-6 the up up up. BUGGA BUGGA BUGGA! It's wind cos he's screaming and farts heaps, Grrrr I'd love this to end and soon. Wind shouldn't be so painful. He's still only sleeping for an hour or so three or four times during the day but I fig it's not worth making him sleep more during the day, but out the window with the feed play sleep, he's much happier feeding prior to bed. Ruitine when will you join my family?
oh green im glad im not the only one as my girls isnt sleeping at all either im not sure why ,she was going so good then bang no routine at all i even broke down in tears last night and said to my dh im so ready to go to sydney to try out trisilien,im at my wits end ,so tired.night times are the worst,i dont mind through the day if charlie wants to stay awakw but you would think by night time shed be tired NO WAY trying to get her to sleep is a battle on its own ..fast asleep in my arms then i put her to bed thinking oh yeh shes aslepp nope as soon as i close her door shes awake crying,put the dummy in works for 2 mins put dummy in again leave the room NOPE dummy again this happens 5-6 times by this time im just laying on her bedroom floor waiting cause its a waste of time leaving the room grrrrrrr.
not before 10.30 11pm do i finally get her to sleep then 3-4 hrs later shes awake again,feed her put her back to bed,then up again 3hrs later if that GGGRRRRRRR
im so bloody tired seems like im up and down all the time and trying to do everything else is so draining DID I MENTION IM TIRED LOL..
anyways thats my rant for the day im so sorry for the ME post but im so upset and did i mention tired
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I second the day ahead schedule idea, who do we talk to about this??????? yayaya for roll over, Linc is rolling onto his side much more and yesterday was trying to sit up (crunches for babies).
now I can have caffine again. how bout you?
then 5am to 8am, and i got him up and dressed when he calledout, fed him... he fell asleep again! so back to bed at 8.30am. He missed his morning kip yesterday tho so maybe he's a bit tired.
oh saph hun what cute boys you have and thank you sooo much for putting the link so i could see the pics too
i love them
have a good time bg being easter bunny hun
awww neptune hun i just dont know what to say hunny but i just wanted to give you a big hug im soo not good at giving relationship advice as k me anything else and ive always got a comment
Linc now sleeps 8-12 then 12.20-2.20(resettle) 2.25-4 4.20-6 the up up up. BUGGA BUGGA BUGGA! It's wind cos he's screaming and farts heaps, Grrrr I'd love this to end and soon. Wind shouldn't be so painful. He's still only sleeping for an hour or so three or four times during the day but I fig it's not worth making him sleep more during the day, but out the window with the feed play sleep, he's much happier feeding prior to bed. Ruitine when will you join my family?
oh green im glad im not the only one as my girls isnt sleeping at all either
im not sure why ,she was going so good then bang no routine at all i even broke down in tears last night and said to my dh im so ready to go to sydney to try out trisilien,im at my wits end ,so tired.night times are the worst,i dont mind through the day if charlie wants to stay awakw but you would think by night time shed be tired NO WAY
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