OMG thnak goodness that day is over. I am shattered. Xavier has had all of about an hours sleep today and he is only happy when he is upright and I mean completely unright not lying in the bouncer.
Quick question has anyone used a bumbo. thinking of getting one to see if that helps the reflux. Back to the doctor tomorrow maybe they will have some other suggestions.
For some reason I haven't been getting updates, so didn't realise you were all here cheering for me while I had my back turned!
I love you girls, thanks so much for the kind words and support from every corner of OZ. I'm feeling a bit better.
I keep wavering from decision to decision. I have NO desire to leave despite living in a shambles, so at the moment my decision is to stay until I am forced to do something for Adam's sake. In the meantime, I will try and get some counselling for myself organised because I do need someone to just hear me out. I am still in the middle of composing my letter, trying to balance it is the key with him, he will jsut block out everything that I say if I am too harsh! Have to give him some good stuff too.
I'm in Sydney and my parents are in Melbourne which is hard. However, they go away every winter to QLD, and they have offered for me to move down there while they are gone (or for however long I want) to save me the hassle of getting a lease etc.......it is nice to have that as a backup, but I would hate for Adam and DH to be so far apart. Anyway, at least it is an option if all else fails. And a comforting one, because it would stop me feeling so incredibly awful at leaving because it is kind of 'home' and I grew up there. Also, I thought I could tell DH that I could stay there to give him some space to clean up without him having to worry about Adam's safety ie he could do his worst!
Yesterday, we had a break through with one aspect of the house, so this MAY get things moving a bit better. So I'm happy at the moment to stop thinking about it so much and just get on with it. And keep writing my letter (novel!).
I have read everyone's posts and thinking about all of you lovely mummies. To those not getting much sleep, hang in there and take each day as it comes.
Thanks again for listening....it REALLY helps. I have a couple of paths to walk, and I do feel better.
saph, i use a hugabub when Ash is particularly feral either through over tiredness or reflux. i love it, it's very good on my back, which has caused me problems for many years. i can walk around and potter about in it but i don't do a lot of house work cos he gets int he way ie can't reach the stink to wash up lol. hope the doc helps.
neptune - that's great about having an out of your parents place. it might embarrass him into doing something if he knows that everyone else knows. you could not do it as "i'm leaving you'' but "i'm going away, I need a break and i need things to change dramatically while i'm away or we'll have to consider different living arrangments permanently''. If you went for just a week or two it might jostle him into action? maybe? Is there someone else who may get through to him. Have a little chat mano e mano.
oh dear have a tired bub all his squealing and chatting must be wearing him out lol.
Just thought I'd pop in. Been lurking but so far haven't had a whole lot to say, not a lot happens around here just yet.
BG & Janie: What gorgeous little princesses you both have!
Neptune, I agree with Grub, I like the idea of putting it as a break & a chance for him to clean up his act rather than leaving him. and definitely think you should see a professional for yourself too!
Had to at the little boy discussion, I have a little wizzer on my hands too. He's recently discovered that he hates even a droplet of wet in his nappy & cries instantly. Night before last we went through 3 nappies in the space of 10mins at he 2am feed! And somehow he keeps managing to pee out the side or back of the nappies, (I have absolutely no idea how!) he goes through 3-4 clothing changes a day too. And this morning I put him in bed with me for the first time ever. Picked him up an hour later and there's a big puddle in my bed! But I can't complain, that's the worst of what I'm dealing with, for now. He's so easygoing, eats sleeps. But I'm waiting for the axe to fall in these wonder weeks! It's starting to freak me out at the thought!
Oh and my little guzzle-guts has gained 320g this week! 630g in just under 3 weeks total! I think he's gonna be a hunka chunka LOL.
Anyway the little cherub is calling so had best run. Just thought I'd put a link to some of my FB pics here, hopefully you can all see it! If you can't, can somebody please tell me what I need to do to make it visible?
Well doc said just hang in there and see her when we get back. We could also see Nagala which helps parents with sleep issues. Although Woo hoo I got 5 hours sleep last night in a row. And he has slept today so lets see what happens from here.
Boc just a thought (don't worry) does your little man get upset when he wees too? Linc had a a UTI when he was small and I missed it just thinking he was fussy antibiotics cleared it up. If he is unhappy when passing urine I'd get a pee sample to the GP and get it checked can be serious in little ones and it's not comfortable. if only crying post pee how bout a bigger nappie? Linc grew out of newborns like overnight (ebay the 1/2 box left)
Saph glad you got a good sleep in
Poppyfairy Linc is the same when in bed with me, I do the upright for 10mins guess he'll grow out of it. I'm glad the BF is easier now Linc still sleeps in the sling every time, but he's HEAVY now. and so glad less screaming for you.
Neptune any time you need an ear
ATM in shock Lincoln slept 8pm-3.30am DH woke me at 2am "should we wake him" NO! DH had already checked on him at Midnight such a cute DH sometimes. So up STARVING and screaming at 3.30am then back down to 6.50! Lucky me, although I still was a zombie for half an hour, I have no idea how I'm going to get going in the mornings when work starts in a couple of months. Linc is still sleeping an hour up 90ish minutes during the day most of them happy but the 9am up time seams to be grizzly.
have any of you ladies put your little ones in child care? I'm so scared they wont look after him when he's grizzly? I think I'm being silly but I can't get it out of my head.
hi green, it's a sling/baby carrier thing, it's just a really long piece of material that you tie around yourself and pop bub into. Ash loves it, he had a good kip this morn for an hour or so while i did the shopping.
oh i would have killed Dh if he'd woken me! lol.
We had a very good day with ash yesterday. he went down for all his sleeps very well. 2 mins of grizzle then pass out! he did exactly what he is 'supposed' to. lol. And slept from 7pm to 4.45am! (with a dreamfeed at 9.30pm). then from 5.15am to 7am (well he falls asleep about 2 seconds into his night feed lol.
he's feeding really well atm. so relieved. still up chucking heaps but at least he's feeding better! so happy. sure it'll change but amm really trying to get less stressed about things as i think it rubs off.
boc i couldns't see your pics. you need to make the album a public one. not your whole profile, just the album.
neptune - how isit going?
poppy - not sure if i say HELLO LADY back! so true about can't fake or fudge this. there's no shortcuts in caring for bub cos it'll be your undoing - as i learnt the other night. i was soo tired i couldn't stay awake the extra hour to dream feed ash before bed... so he woke at 11pm rather than 2 or 4am like usual!!! and i only got a few hours sleep so felt awful awful awful.
Well... I'm home again after a few days away staying with my parents. I was reading, but didn't really have time to post anything...
Anyway, there's news on this front - after all my thinking that I could sit around and wait for ages before we tried for number two, DH has informed me that he doesn't want to be too old (he just turned 40 last month) and would prefer to go sooner rather than later. We still have the issue of needing to stop my arthritis meds and waiting 3-6 months before we can go back for another FET, so it won't be incredibly soon, but... I guess I need to start seriously thinking about a doctor and a clinic - as I seriously do NOT want to go back to my old doctor, and he's at a different clinic now, anyway.
I'm not sure whether it's because we went away or just down to teething, but Sam's sleeping has been crap and after an apparently good start, he's so far from being adjusted to the end of daylight savings that it's just not funny! Hopefully things will be better now that we are back at home.
green glad your getting some well ernt rest hun ,yay for baby linc.and luven your new ticker pic.
boc,i couldnt see the pics either hun.
poppy,grub,marcellus,bg,saph,neptune(was thinking of you today neptune wile waching opera it was about hoarders ,and its a terrible thing hun ),murph,janie,
well i just wanted to pop in and say a big hello to you all whilst i have a second,still packing and trying to manage everything in between charlies feeds,so i really hope your all well and know im thinking of you all .charlie had her very first taste of farex yesterday and again this morning,dont think she got much though she spits it all out lol..so i went and got her a baby plastic spoon today and will see how she goes tomorrow with that,she seems to love it though and OMG SHES SLEEPING AGAIN WOOHOO i think her little tummy is full .the only other thing is i feel sorry for her its like she knows were movving or something ,shes always looking round the house and its like shes thinking "were has that thing gone ' poor chicken lol.
anyways enough rambles from silly old me girls ,oh one more thing ive got my 2nd af since having miss c sorry i know tmi.
ok girls im outa here love to you all and take care.
Smithy, we moved house when Sam was 8 weeks old... he knew things were up then and got very unsettled as well. That was the point in time he completely stopped being able to self-settle and we've cuddled/rocked him to sleep ever since. Can I just ask why you are starting solids so early? I think the fact that she's spitting it out means she's just not ready.
Hi all,
I've been MIA for a long time, and I know I'll never catch up on news - but I'll try.
Murph - your darling girl is lucky to have such a strong and loving mum. Keep up the fight - I hope everyone sees sense soon.
BW - eeek, exciting!
I love all the recipes in those baby books, but to be honest I usually end up making everything up myself. I did use them to make lots of different fruit/vegetable mini muffins. DS1 still loves anything that comes in the shape of a mini muffin. And vegetable fritters/pikelets too. Picky eaters are a bit frustrating, but they force you to get creative!
DS2 is 3 months old now - wow, time flies. I can't believe he will be my last baby. Maybe just one more?!
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at the little boy discussion, I have a little wizzer on my hands too. He's recently discovered that he hates even a droplet of wet in his nappy & cries instantly. Night before last we went through 3 nappies in the space of 10mins at he 2am feed! And somehow he keeps managing to pee out the side or back of the nappies, (I have absolutely no idea how!) he goes through 3-4 clothing changes a day too. And this morning I put him in bed with me for the first time ever. Picked him up an hour later and there's a big puddle in my bed!
But I can't complain, that's the worst of what I'm dealing with, for now. He's so easygoing, eats sleeps. But I'm waiting for the axe to fall in these wonder weeks! It's starting to freak me out at the thought!
LOUD
Linc still sleeps in the sling every time, but he's HEAVY now. and so glad less screaming for you.
sorry i know tmi.
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