Parenting after LT TTC #4

[grub17]

saph, i use a hugabub when Ash is particularly feral either through over tiredness or reflux. i love it, it's very good on my back, which has caused me problems for many years. i can walk around and potter about in it but i don't do a lot of house work cos he gets int he way ie can't reach the stink to wash up lol. hope the doc helps.

neptune - that's great about having an out of your parents place. it might embarrass him into doing something if he knows that everyone else knows. you could not do it as "i'm leaving you'' but "i'm going away, I need a break and i need things to change dramatically while i'm away or we'll have to consider different living arrangments permanently''. If you went for just a week or two it might jostle him into action? maybe? Is there someone else who may get through to him. Have a little chat mano e mano.

oh dear have a tired bub all his squealing and chatting must be wearing him out lol.

back soon.
ox

[BOC]

Hi Ladies!

Just thought I'd pop in. Been lurking but so far haven't had a whole lot to say, not a lot happens around here just yet.

BG & Janie: What gorgeous little princesses you both have!

Neptune, I agree with Grub, I like the idea of putting it as a break & a chance for him to clean up his act rather than leaving him. and definitely think you should see a professional for yourself too!

Had to at the little boy discussion, I have a little wizzer on my hands too. He's recently discovered that he hates even a droplet of wet in his nappy & cries instantly. Night before last we went through 3 nappies in the space of 10mins at he 2am feed! And somehow he keeps managing to pee out the side or back of the nappies, (I have absolutely no idea how!) he goes through 3-4 clothing changes a day too. And this morning I put him in bed with me for the first time ever. Picked him up an hour later and there's a big puddle in my bed! But I can't complain, that's the worst of what I'm dealing with, for now. He's so easygoing, eats sleeps. But I'm waiting for the axe to fall in these wonder weeks! It's starting to freak me out at the thought!

Oh and my little guzzle-guts has gained 320g this week! 630g in just under 3 weeks total! I think he's gonna be a hunka chunka LOL.

Anyway the little cherub is calling so had best run. Just thought I'd put a link to some of my FB pics here, hopefully you can all see it! If you can't, can somebody please tell me what I need to do to make it visible?

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/...1&id=676751461

Have a great day!

[saph204]

Well doc said just hang in there and see her when we get back. We could also see Nagala which helps parents with sleep issues. Although Woo hoo I got 5 hours sleep last night in a row. And he has slept today so lets see what happens from here.

[Greenslw]

what is a hugabub?????????????????? sounds cute.

grub Linc just learnt to squeal LOUD

Boc just a thought (don't worry) does your little man get upset when he wees too? Linc had a a UTI when he was small and I missed it just thinking he was fussy antibiotics cleared it up. If he is unhappy when passing urine I'd get a pee sample to the GP and get it checked can be serious in little ones and it's not comfortable. if only crying post pee how bout a bigger nappie? Linc grew out of newborns like overnight (ebay the 1/2 box left)

Saph glad you got a good sleep in

Poppyfairy Linc is the same when in bed with me, I do the upright for 10mins guess he'll grow out of it. I'm glad the BF is easier now Linc still sleeps in the sling every time, but he's HEAVY now. and so glad less screaming for you.

Neptune any time you need an ear

ATM in shock Lincoln slept 8pm-3.30am DH woke me at 2am "should we wake him" NO! DH had already checked on him at Midnight such a cute DH sometimes. So up STARVING and screaming at 3.30am then back down to 6.50! Lucky me, although I still was a zombie for half an hour, I have no idea how I'm going to get going in the mornings when work starts in a couple of months. Linc is still sleeping an hour up 90ish minutes during the day most of them happy but the 9am up time seams to be grizzly.

have any of you ladies put your little ones in child care? I'm so scared they wont look after him when he's grizzly? I think I'm being silly but I can't get it out of my head.

[grub17]

hi green, it's a sling/baby carrier thing, it's just a really long piece of material that you tie around yourself and pop bub into. Ash loves it, he had a good kip this morn for an hour or so while i did the shopping.

oh i would have killed Dh if he'd woken me! lol.

We had a very good day with ash yesterday. he went down for all his sleeps very well. 2 mins of grizzle then pass out! he did exactly what he is 'supposed' to. lol. And slept from 7pm to 4.45am! (with a dreamfeed at 9.30pm). then from 5.15am to 7am (well he falls asleep about 2 seconds into his night feed lol.

he's feeding really well atm. so relieved. still up chucking heaps but at least he's feeding better! so happy. sure it'll change but amm really trying to get less stressed about things as i think it rubs off.

boc i couldns't see your pics. you need to make the album a public one. not your whole profile, just the album.

neptune - how isit going?

poppy - not sure if i say HELLO LADY back! so true about can't fake or fudge this. there's no shortcuts in caring for bub cos it'll be your undoing - as i learnt the other night. i was soo tired i couldn't stay awake the extra hour to dream feed ash before bed... so he woke at 11pm rather than 2 or 4am like usual!!! and i only got a few hours sleep so felt awful awful awful.

well dirty nappy calls!

where's my murph!

[butterfly_warrior]

Well... I'm home again after a few days away staying with my parents. I was reading, but didn't really have time to post anything...

Anyway, there's news on this front - after all my thinking that I could sit around and wait for ages before we tried for number two, DH has informed me that he doesn't want to be too old (he just turned 40 last month) and would prefer to go sooner rather than later. We still have the issue of needing to stop my arthritis meds and waiting 3-6 months before we can go back for another FET, so it won't be incredibly soon, but... I guess I need to start seriously thinking about a doctor and a clinic - as I seriously do NOT want to go back to my old doctor, and he's at a different clinic now, anyway.

I'm not sure whether it's because we went away or just down to teething, but Sam's sleeping has been crap and after an apparently good start, he's so far from being adjusted to the end of daylight savings that it's just not funny! Hopefully things will be better now that we are back at home.

BW

[barney]

oh bw how exciting hun.

green glad your getting some well ernt rest hun ,yay for baby linc.and luven your new ticker pic.
boc,i couldnt see the pics either hun.
poppy,grub,marcellus,bg,saph,neptune(was thinking of you today neptune wile waching opera it was about hoarders ,and its a terrible thing hun ),murph,janie,
well i just wanted to pop in and say a big hello to you all whilst i have a second,still packing and trying to manage everything in between charlies feeds,so i really hope your all well and know im thinking of you all .charlie had her very first taste of farex yesterday and again this morning,dont think she got much though she spits it all out lol..so i went and got her a baby plastic spoon today and will see how she goes tomorrow with that,she seems to love it though and OMG SHES SLEEPING AGAIN WOOHOO i think her little tummy is full .the only other thing is i feel sorry for her its like she knows were movving or something ,shes always looking round the house and its like shes thinking "were has that thing gone ' poor chicken lol.
anyways enough rambles from silly old me girls ,oh one more thing ive got my 2nd af since having miss c sorry i know tmi.
ok girls im outa here love to you all and take care.

[butterfly_warrior]

Smithy, we moved house when Sam was 8 weeks old... he knew things were up then and got very unsettled as well. That was the point in time he completely stopped being able to self-settle and we've cuddled/rocked him to sleep ever since. Can I just ask why you are starting solids so early? I think the fact that she's spitting it out means she's just not ready.

BW

[barney]

BW as this is my 5th child i dont believe that charlie is not ready ,at first most babies spit it out as there just not use to it ,and after 5 babies i do believe i have some idea.all my kids have always started farex a bit ealier as they have all been very hungry kids,it has never hurt any of them,infact all my kids are highly intelligent,do very well at school, and are all state rep swimmers.
so as for charlie not being ready i beg to differ.its not like im forse feeding her i just gave her a TASTE.

[briggsy's girl]

smithy, no one passing judgement on you, just asking a question. as most of us are first time mum's, we're introducing solids based on WHO guidelines etc - 11 weeks just seems very early - i'm sure BW was asking the question out of genuine interest. i know i was recommended to start farex at 4.5 months only if DD's reflux didn't settle. prior to that, it was frowned upon. i guess a lot of us have gone the BLS route as well - and a baby pushing food from their mouth is part of the gag reflex that indicates they're not ready for something. how you choose to parent is your choice obviously. i'm sure there was no implication that feeding your child early would impair their intelligence as you seem to imply was being said from your further comments...

not having a good day here - DD has a serious belly ache if her behaviour is anything to go by. she rarely gets upset to the point of distressed - i've been spending all day settling her (or thats how it feels). so i'm off to do some reading and try again to get her to settle. not likely

[barney]

[QUOTE=briggsy's girl;2257216]smithy, no one passing judgement on you, just asking a question. as most of us are first time mum's, we're introducing solids based on WHO guidelines etc - 11 weeks just seems very early - i'm sure BW was asking the question out of genuine interest. i know i was recommended to start farex at 4.5 months only if DD's reflux didn't settle. prior to that, it was frowned upon. i guess a lot of us have gone the BLS route as well - and a baby pushing food from their mouth is part of the gag reflex that indicates they're not ready for something. how you choose to parent is your choice obviously. i'm sure there was no implication that feeding your child early would impair their intelligence as you seem to imply was being said from your further comments.

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well bg i have never mentioned once that charlie was gagging?she does a little spit from her mouth and that is farex that she hasnt eaten.i know no-one was passing judgement on me and that you are first time mums,so you are still learning about everything as am i after having 5 kids,so if you do have more than one baby maybe you will learn that all children are different.oh and i did not imply anything being said it was just my opinion of how my babies have always handled food.if my baby likes it ill give it to her.
so can you tell me when you first fed your baby that she ate it perfectly and did not dribble anything at all from her mouth ?

[briggsy's girl]

well bg i have never mentioned once that charlie was gagging?she does a little spit from her mouth and that is farex that she hasnt eaten.i know no-one was passing judgement on me and that you are first time mums,so you are still learning about everything as am i after having 5 kids,so if you do have more than one baby maybe you will learn that all children are different.oh and i did not imply anything being said it was just my opinion of how my babies have always handled food.if my baby likes it ill give it to her.
so can you tell me when you first fed your baby that she ate it perfectly and did not dribble anything at all from her mouth ?

ok, so i said gagging rather than "tongue thrust" reflex - it's part of the same process though - if they're not ready they push food out. i apologise for using the wrong term! as to your question - no, my DD has not pushed food out with her tongue - we use baby led solids. i have never spoon fed her anything - if something requires a spoon, she feed herself. she holds her own food, she guides it herself - she eats what she wants when she wants it. this is the decision i have made in how to feed my child. but quite honestly, what difference does it make if she did? i wasn't drawing a comparison of my daughter to yours, was simply commenting on the gag/tongue thrust reflex and what i have learned both through my research since becoming a parent, but also through several years of medical science study at uni.

yes, we have made different decisions. everyone respects your right to decide on what is right for your child - we simply commented that it seemed early to be introducing solids. especially if Charlie is pushing it out. i don't know about BW, but i won't comment again as apparently it isn't welcome.

to everyone else - i have refrained from posting in here much of late as you mostly have younger bubs. it's becoming more and more apparent that what i have to offer may not be relevant to you all. i will continue to read, and if anyone asks something that i feel i can offer advice on, i will post, but i won't post as much anymore as i have in the past. if you particularly want my input, maybe put my name in your post. i will mostly skim from now on. you guys all have a bond from having shared your pregnancies and can probably offer each other more support than i can give at this point in time. i need to focus on my DD and my family.

[grub17]

well BG I'd still love your input as while my bub is a bit younger than yours, i value your advice on what has worked for you. I really like hearing from the girls with older kids as they have experience that i am still to get!! It's like sending you girls into the tigers cage first and then asking you "what should i do/not do" lol. anyway BG i'm sad that you don't feel relevant to this thread - you're a mum after LTCC! and by the looks of E, a good one! you are very relevant. And there are others here with other and older kids too.

Smithy - i'm sure BW did not mean to offend you in anyway. the posts didn't sound like your usual self either love. So big hugs, i can't imagine moving with such a young bubba! we fortunately get our place all cleaned by contractors when we leave, thankfully cos moving out of private rentals is HELL lol. How far away is the new place? Lots of ute load fulls or removalist truck job? Remember, no heavy lifting for you missy! lol.

bw - wow that is exciting news re trying again! so when do you think you'd start? Hope you had a good trip... as for daylight savings, it has worked well for us cos Ash would go to bed at 8/9pm so now it's 7/8pm

am cooking rice pud with sultanas to use some milk about to go out of date! yummo! and good practice for when Ash is ready to munch... i can just see me making a nice batch of rice pud for him and DH and I stealing it all. I went through the baby food book i bought at a garage sale and am loving those recipes! we are big health/low fat diet people, why didn't i think to look in a baby recipe book before! it's all so healthy and is all the good fats etc!!

anyway, this is usually such a supportive and friendly thread and that's why I love it. I hope it continues to be so... for everyone.

chin up girls.

oxoxo

[briggsy's girl]

grub, thanks for the words of support. as i said, i'll pop in, but may not post much. would you mind PM'ing your rice pud recipe? i love rice pud, but am too lazy to make the greek one i have so am interested in reading how yours is made

[BOC]

Hi grub please if you don't mind can you share the details of this book? I never even knew baby food books existed!

Oh and thanks for the tip on the photos, I have set album privacy as available to "Everyone" but will see how it goes.

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?id...5&id=676751461

Anyway must go. Making the most of Gran & Pa being up here to visit Jagger and being all hands on and I'm going to go to bed for a couple of hours nap while I still have someone to cover the 9pm feed! It has been such a relief having an extra couple of sets of hands around the house this week (especially when Gran kidnaps him at every opportunity ) we've got sooooo much done!

Nighty night all!

[grub17]

hi boc,

i've got a robyn barker baby and toddler meals and a Family Cirlce baby and toddler food. I picked both up from garage sales and didn't look at them til the other day. Give a really good outline of good foods for bubs, how much, and recipes for as they get older. did you knwo you can make your own farex with brownn rice! so guess what i'll be doing lol.

BG - i just pmed you my rice pud recipe ... okay it's actually the women's weekly recipe but it's been grubbied lol.

[briggsy's girl]

BOC, you can still set your album as private (friends only) so that random friends of friends or anyone googling your name can't see. if you go to the album front page (where you have 20 odd photos) at the bottom of the page is a public sharing link. it's different to the one in your address book. you can also share individual photos (like i did with E's pic on the previous page) - it limits what people can access kwim?

[onthefly]

Hi all,
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Peace out sisters