Parenting after LT TTC #5

[Loveinamist]

Hey Murph! Yep I am with you! I am doing everything wrong too!! LOL! But I sat and thought about it and I thought that half of the things we sometimes feel pressured to do are not 'lifetime' skills. Daytime napping in a cot for example, by two they are out of a cot and by five they are at preschool or like here in the UK at school all day with no naps. So why the big fight to get them to settle in a cot? DS naps on me, in the sling, in the carseat and sometimes on our bed (most times with me napping beside him!!) He may sleep for 15 minutes or an hour...if he wakes up happy then it must have been enough for him. Night time sleeps are different. He will need to be able to go to sleep at night as he has to do that for the rest of his life. So we do have a routine for that. But it does involve me feeding him to sleep. But I figure that other mums are using dummies or rocking or some other tool to get them to sleep so what is so bad about him getting his favourite thing as his sleep association? Going to sleep is meant to feel good isn't it? We cosleep with a cot sidecarred to our bed. He starts off in that for about two hours before we go to bed. Then at his first feed he comes in with us. I think he feeds about twice in the night....I have no idea...I am asleep for a lot of it!!! I LOVE cosleeping. Love waking up and snuggling in the morning. Love when you stir slightly and see their little golden head sleeping soundly and contentedly beside you!!! LOVE breastfeeding lying down and we both drop off to sleep and stay in a cuddle for alot of the night. Although my SPD is coming back so I sometimes wake in a bit of pain from sleeping on my side too much but I take a few paracetamol and it helps and I am going to see a physio so hopefully that will help. Anyway the crux of it is I have no idea when DS naps, I have no idea when he feeds. Even his nighttime routine depends on what we are doing.....there have been a few nights lately where because of our committments with our new vegetable allotments we have been to evening meetings and get togethers and he has slept in the sling in the pub or wherever till midnight!! LOL While we can do that with only one child we will!!
Anyway everytime I feel a pang when I read something about what a 'normal' 4 month old does or hear people talkiing about putting their LOs down for a two hour nap in their cot, I just think 'there are millions of babies around the world now who have never seen a cot, live in a one room house which probably doesn't have a clock in it to record their naps, but they still manage to function as children and adults eventually!!!' And even in 'first world' countries the attitude is different. In fact an Italian lady who we met in the pub the other night responded beautifully to someone's protest to us that 'isn't it past his bedtime' when they saw DS asleep in his sling. She said 'bedtimes are for adults, babies sleep whenever and wherever!!' Love it!!!!!

[Greenslw]

Murph :Hug: hope you're out in the sun today sounds like you're doing things just perfect for you and yours and you can't do anything else.

Hi Grub, Sithy, Poppy, Marcellus, Boc, Kelly and all

Just wanted to share a minor miricle Linc slept 5.15pm to wait for it da da dum 3.45am! although DH and I both got up to check him He didn't sleep much yesterday at Aunty's 2x20mins and 1 45! got home guzzeled a bottle shower with DH and SLEEP! Week two of work is blah but I'm getting a plan in order. I wonder if I could get a nanny for the mornings! LOL nice thought anyways. It seams just 8-10am is my issue, and Linc's most unsettled time.


Cold here today but pretty sun is making all the grass glissen and sparkle I do love winter. (for a while)

[saph204]

Poppy I am with you, we have a nighttime routine which really is a cuddle and bed a 7pm. But during the day he is all over the place and I have given up trying to do a routine. He sleeps when he wants to or not as he is today. I have a friend who is trying to force her newborn into a very structured routine of you will feed now because it is time and you will sleep now because the routine says you will, I have had to back away because it doesnt work for me. I hear you about the back pain. I slept with X this morning and I feel like a cripple today. But then my pelvis is so bad again that I an back in the brace that I used whilst I was preg.

[saph204]

Just need to have a little brag. Xavier sept from 8pm til 6.10 this morning. Yay

[grub17]

oh saph that's wonderful although i'm hugely jealous!
just discovered a 3rd tooth coming through... one of the top fangs!!! his 2nd one isn't even all the way through yet, and i thought the front 2 came next! should i be worried? see someone? He's only 6 months next friday, at this rate he'll have a head full of teeth by 8 months!

[Lenny]

Just need to have a little brag. Xavier sept from 8pm til 6.10 this morning. Yay

Shaddup you!

I am soooo jealous. Master A is 5 months and I'm lucky if we get away with only being woken ywice at night. Usually it's 3 times! Ahhh, sleep...you are a fond memory

I wouldn't worry about teeth grub. Some children get them all really early and some take forever. I heard that your children's teeth (and when they come through etc) is roughly the same as your own. Do you know if yours came early?

[briggsy's girl]

Shaddup you!

I am soooo jealous. Master A is 5 months and I'm lucky if we get away with only being woken ywice at night. Usually it's 3 times! Ahhh, sleep...you are a fond memory

I wouldn't worry about teeth grub. Some children get them all really early and some take forever. I heard that your children's teeth (and when they come through etc) is roughly the same as your own. Do you know if yours came early?

i WISH miss E teethed like me! i had no issues - mum never knew i was teething! E is pretty good, but she loses it completely when it gets bad - and is then inconsolable!
and bah - she is over 12 months, and cos of teething, we're still getting at least two wake ups during the night

am reading but not posting much - i tend to read while feeding, and it's hard to reply while holding E (she wiggles too much now) - esp at the moment - dislocated my wrist five times in three days. it's something that has been happening over half my life, but this is the worst it's happened in the last several years and is being made worse cos i can't just put it in a sling and retire it like i need to - i have to look after E!

[onthefly]

We spent our first night away from litle A teh other night - he slept 11.5 hours straight. lucky granma! He sill wakes up most nights. 2-3 times a night is good at 5 months Lenny! Or it was for A anyway

Do'nt worry grub, they get their teeth when adn in whichever order they come. Would be good to get then over with quickly, though.

Oh, have to tell you, A is a man now. He keeps telling us 'me a man'. Not sure where this came from.

ETA - me too BG. I slept through from 4 weeks and mum never knew I was teething till they apperaed. NOT like A at all.

[TaRhLi.]

Big hello to all my girls. I'm still here and still sane but geez this teething is going from bad to worse.

Marcellus: I've got a teething necklace for Tara, but find it hard to us as she has such many folds around her neck the necklace keeps getting stuck and cuts into her skin. I think I'll have to hold off using until maybe the big back teeth start to come through (ie: when she has lost soem of the chubby folds around her neck).

Grub: Yay for Ash, I hope he is coping better than we are....

I so want these top teeth to come through..... we are now getting the horrid nappies as well as the grumpiness... yesterday we had 4 dirty nappies and I've already had 2 this morning as well. She must have the clearest system around now.......

Anyway better get moving, little miss cranly is sleeping at the moment so that's mummy's que to get some housework done.