Parenting after LT TTC #5

[Murph01]

Hello,

well thankfully it's been a quiet time on here so not too much to catch up on for a change. drum roll please...results in on thursday....all Jasmine's MRI and CT scans came back normal so looks like a green light for the cochlears. I still haven't had the answer to my appeal against medibank's decision not to fund us early but apparently the decision is in and if I didn't hear on Friday (nope), then on Monday I will know one way or the other. It's been a tense time.

In other news, Jazzy and I travelled to Townsvillle on our own and her dad caught up with us on the weekend and flew home with us. Oh dear what a lot to arrange the morning of the flight there. Took Andy to the airport for his flight to Canberra for a conference, came home and got ourselves ready, then drive to catch ferry, caught ferry, drove to Adelaide, then for the most important bit, I forgot to go to the loo before arriving in the long term car parking and nearly wet myself trying to work out how to get from the car, struggle with lugggage and a baby in a sling, find out if and when the bus takes us to the terminal ...pheww. made it. Deep breath. My sister was texting stuff to me and all I could manage, was "I'm having a crisis, need to pee". Oh I honestly bow down to single mothers who have no choice other than to do everything on their own.

Townsville was great. We went for a wedding, the wedding was cancelled (no sadness there), the groom went ahead with the reception (albeit a watered down version because most of the guests are his long time friends and we were all there for him). How awkward, the raving bride showed up so you can imagine the lead balloon effect that hung over the funeral, err, I mean...err.

Meanwhile my sister arranged an impromptu Welcoming party so that the kids could all wear their wedding gear. They were meant to be in the wedding party so were a bit bummed that all their dum dum de dum practice was for naught. Anyway, we had a lovely little photo sesh with the kids and ate party pies so it was just perfect. We are not religious but my auntie made a christening gown when my sister's oldest was born 10 years ago and both of my sister's daughters have worn it at about 4 months old. it was such an honour and it fitted Jazz at 71/2 months.

Lots to say but I'll tell you the milestone of the day. Jazzy ate a pancake. Firsts real solid, other than fingers of food and mash. She bit everything off and chewed it up and finally the dogs discovered what babies are good for as she dutifully broke bits off and fed them. Life is a dream at nearly 8 months, it just gets better every day.

I've attached a huge heap of photos cos I just got FB working for me again. Scroll through very quickly if at all cos there are 71! they are for my family but for any of my BB family too.

Take care and talk soon,

xoxo

[briggsy's girl]

Yay on the green light for the implants Murph - fantastic news!

i haven't been posting much - lots going on here and yet nothing really! am now working three looooong days a week - if DH is working, i have to be otu of the house at 6.30 (so up at 5.30), drop DD at mum's, and get to work by 7.40. thankfully mum has a cuppa waiting for me when i arrive so i at least get another drink before work. am now working til 5 - home at 5.30ish if DH at home, 6 or after if i have to get DD from mums. depends on whether the poppet demands a feed straight away or not! it's very tiring. next week i have to work four days so it's going to be a long week!

DD had her 12 month needles yesterday (only a few weeks late - she had snuffles when she was first due to have them) - she was a trooper. screamed for a minute but got over it quick enough. she was getting lots of compliments for her attitude and being such a gorgeous little girl. she really IS gorgeous - such a lovely personality (albeit a bit strong willed) and she is just so friendly and beautiful. ahhhh gushy mummy moment! she is walking properly (little miss independent), talking soooooooooo much (short sentences like "who is it" "where's daddy" "what you doing" "i don't want to" lol) - the GP said she was significantly advanced for her age - which is fantastic for us to hear, and confirms for me that we'll have to keep extending her development. i don't want her to be like me and get bored and rebellious. need to work on ways to develop her social smarts as well as any academic smarts. she is young for me to be thinking about it, but mum has been talkign to me about how alike E and I are, and "OMG, you needed constant stimulation" (and social skills therapy cos i was so damn shy - still am!) - so i guess that's what i'm facing lol. my brother's two DD's are very much the same - needing art/craft/reading/writing entertainment all the time. so i guess it's somewhat to be expected. E's favourite toy at the moment is a noises book - she will find the pictures that go with the noises! ahhh extended gushy mummy moment! lol. guess i'm just proud that the GP noticed that she was doing really well for her age...

[grub17]

gloat away bg. that's what we are hear for and that's your job! you must feel soo proud of E oh my goodness I felt tired just reading about your day! how do you not just fall in a heap at 7pm?
I reckon in 6 mths i'd feel ready to go back to work but only part time. HOwever we are getting posted from here a month after i'm supposed to go back from mat leave so I won't be going back. Fortunately we don't have a home loan or such and can afford for me not to work.

murph - hope the answer comes tomorrow for you and glad the tests have been done and it's looking like things are getting sorted... finally! i hope. lol Had to laugh about the dogs discovering the advantages of a baby. My community health nurse helpfully suggessted that some people put down old shower curtains for solids... i was like "oh, we just let the dog in''. Cookie Monster now knows its dinner/lunch time and waits patientlly for the mess to ensue

oh saph that just sounds so adorable - campbell comforting X. you must get a pic of that one

green - yeah i was alwasy johnny on the spot with Ash whenever he cried but now I have learnt to leave him a little while... especially at night as often he'll call out a couple of times and just decide it's all too much effort and he'll go back to sleep.

hi smithy. saw your pics... how much has your bubba grown!!!

and big hello to marcellus. looking forward to work?

we'll it's generally agreed, the thread has slowed.BUT we are not slack, we're busy!!!

all is well here. Ash is continuing to love his solids and has cut back his breastfeeds. Having trouble getting any fluid into him after his early morn feed til his afternoon tea. We've tried every sippy cup ever made, dreamfeeding during the day, cutting back his solids (pft he just got hungrier and didn't sleep at night) and have dabbled with forumla over the weekend all to no avail.

He has a reasonable bedtime feed, a good dreamfeed and a fairly good early morning feed with small snack feeds until after his 2nd nap. Been stressing out that he's not getting enough fluid but am trying to relax as he's very certain he doesn't want anything! SO MY question is how many breastfeeds were you 7/8mth olds having.
Ash is only 6 and a bit months but we started solids early for various reasons and on the advice of our doctor.

anyhoo have done a backflip on using our frozen embies. have now decided we weill use them before we leave here so that's by december and i have to go on metformin so will have to wean Ash in a couple of months. it's been a big decision and given our foray into formula and bottle was an absolute disaster this weekend i'm feeling very nervous about it.

going away to visit my family this week... Ash's first trip to my hometown. super excited. Will probably think about weaning bub after that. but talk about feeling guilty!!! i feel like an awful mum but i can't bf him on the drugs so have no choice really.

anyhoo sorry for the rant. am feeling pretty low about bf atm and terrible about deciding to wean him. all the reassuring arguements go through my head (i gave him 6+mnths of breast; lots of babies are on forumla with no ill effects; he's basically weaning himself etc etc) but my heart doesn't hear what my logic is saying!

hi to all the lovely ladies reading ox

[briggsy's girl]

at 8 months e would snack all day - but as to REAL feeds, she was only feeding maybe half a dozen times a day. she is down to about four decent feeds now (and whatever snacks she can sneak - but it's three sucks, "thanks mum, i'm gong now!". it was around then that we could go out and she would go for several hours without feeds BUT, she has always been a fantastic water drinker. she has cups stashed everywhere and tells us when they need filling up

Grub, i live in an exhausted haze atm! thankfully when i'm home DH is here too so i can at least relax a little - provided we have nothing on (which is very rare for us at the moment!). am struggling with it all, but given DH isn't really able to work much (no spud farming work in the wet, and not much else happening locally that he can do due to his visual problems) it's a case of either me working or we have no income at all. it's hard but it is what it is. going longer hours and more days (for us to have the income) has made me seriously consider weaning DD onto cows milk (so i get your thoughts there grub!) so that DH can do the overnight stuff - but it just seems too hard! i'm struggling with the insulin resistance on the long days too so may have to speak to a dietician to help me work out a better eating plan that is sustainable both at home and at work. not sure there is one really. a choccy bar on the way home from work is my cure for the flat evenings at the moment. it's not working some days, but it's all i've got! this week i'll probably have fresh vegie soup waiting for me when i get home - oh, and a baby hanging for boobie milk!

[saph204]

Grub X has five to seven feeds a day and we havent started solids yet. Have been thinking I will have to start in the next few weeks but trying to hold off a bit longer.

[grub17]

saph, definitely wait as long as you can. I really regret listening tothe doc and starting ash so early but it's done so i have to drop the guilt and move forward.
but cos we started so young (4mnths) we went very very slow. Farex with lots of EBM and just some basic veg.
Now he loves loves loves his food and eats so well.

thanks bg. Ash just doesn't want anything! not boobie, bottle, sippy cup. so i'm going to try not to stress so much and just go with the flow as I can't force him to drink (learnt that one the hard way).

omg he is just waking now! was put to bed at 6.45pm yesterday! woke at 8.30pm for a feed and 3am for more booby! better run ox

[onthefly]

Fabulous news Murph

glad you found it helpful Green. Is your DH on SAHD duties now?

Hi Grub. I'm not one to ask about number of feeds - DS would have still been having 10 or so at 8 months, but he wasn't eating much till 12+ months. You're right you can't force things - always makes things worse So back for more in December? Exciting! Is metrformin no good when breastfeeding? Good luck with it all

Yeah, I'd delay solids as long as possible for 2 reasons - mess and nasty poos (it's part of my lazy parenting philosophy)

It's tough working two jobs BG - hope you get a little time for yourself and recharging.

We're good. DS tells me he has a baby in his tummy too. and sometime he takes it out to give it milk.

[mitf]

Hello Ladies, some of you might remeber me from the pregnancy after LTTTC thread. Well I have now had my wonderful little man so I guess it is time to cross over. For those who like a few statistics.....

Luke was born on Mon, 5 July at 11.52, a healthy 3.83 kg or 8.4 pounds, 48.5 cm long.

[onthefly]

Hi mitf, welcome and congratulations! Hope you're enjyoing your newborn nuggles.

Happy half birthday Charlie - that really went fast!

You sound so positive Murph! Christmas isn't that far away really.

Hi MissMagpie. Wow at suddenly having 2 kids. Your DSD is so lucky to have a loving family to give her a second chance. I know we all fret about being good parents and doing the best we can, but some kids really never stand a chance, do they?
sounds like Trent is doing very well too!

Hope you're enjoying your time away Grub.

I'm back at work at the moment. so poping into bb every few minutes because my work is soooo boring.
Trying to get A to sleep with blankets on. Last night he kept waking up cold "mummy. put the blankets on" Well, yeah, stop kicking it off, and why don't you just pull it up yourself anyway? He's talking a mile minute with no break from teh moment he gets up to the time he drops off at night. It's exhausting.

[barney]

my miracale is 6 months old today yay

[BOC]

Happy Paddington Birthday Princess Charlie xxx

[barney]

just a big yay for miss charlie ...drumroll please........

CHARLIE GOT HER FIRST TOOTH TODAY.

[Murph01]

Just a big yay for Charlie

Yay for new toofy peg

also to the new girls who I've missed. I'd like to give more time to the forum like the old days, but haha, you'll start off with a sleeping babe who gives you lots of free time and then you will reach the point where lots of us are at, chasing round wee ones and staying on our toes. It's a fantastic time but don't wish the days away, every day improves on the one before and so does the amount of love. Enjoy and huge congrats to you lovely new Mums. xox

[onthefly]

Welcome Lise and congrats on the the arrival of your little boy. How is he? Gorgeous I'm sure. And how are you going? Hope the swelling has improved and you're getting lots of rest and help at home.

How can Charlie be that old already and teeth!

Glad she's keeping you busy Murph.

[barney]

hello to all you beautiful busy mummys.
well just a quiky as im very busy too lol..just wanted to say a big hi to all and thanks so much for sharing your pics girls ,there lovely photos.
all is wonderful here miss c has got a new walker and she loves it,and she looks eva so cute in it.
well girls hopefully soon ill get some me time and ill be able to catch up on some perssies till then love to you all and pls know i think of you all the time.