Parenting After LT TTC ~ January - April 2008

[monnie]

Hey Sazz

Sorry to hear about Celeste's potential fall...it's scary isn't it? We've had a situation like that too. DH's 9 year old niece was holding Felix and panicked when she thought he had wet through his nappy...and literally threw him to the ground. DH and I were in such shock. Thankfully we were down the beach and he landed on sand but it was a huge thud...and very scary! It's so hard trying to get the balance right of wanting people to be involved (e.g. our niece) but knowing when to draw the line.

I think your child health nurse is so right though. I know I really started to cocoon myself in recent months...wanting to keep Felix at home just in case I upset his routine. But what ended up happening is that I became more and more insular...and a little resentful too. My only outlet was bellybelly...and although it's great, it's cyber-life. Thankfully, my Mum had a really good chat to me and encouraged me to get out more.

I feel so much better as a result. I've started to do a few little things just for myself and actually feel like a much more balanced Mum now.

I too would encourage you to give DH a go. You're right, he doesn't know Celeste like you do...so giving him some practice would be fantastic. No doubt, it would help with his confidence too. And it would be great for you...just plan a little trip out...but I'd encourage you do something for yourself.

What about if he took her for a walk so you can have a little sleep in?

It's hard...but I think in the long run, it's worth it.

Take care chickie!

[sazzafrazz]

Wow Jason, Louisa certainly is growing!! Thats fantastic news. Celeste is still inthe bottom 10% for weight but 25% for length. Im happy with that though cause she did drop to the 5%for weight for a bit there. She is catching up now though. I think she will be a slight girl till mid high school like I was. I was skinny as a kid too.

How cute is that new nappy ad with the baby making the big fart noise? Cracks me up! hehe

Thanks Monnie for your words. Can imagine how you felt when the niece dropped Felix!!!! I would have cried I reckon.
It is hard not to take things personally when people offer advice but if offered in the right way it helps.

People, please dont think I dont let DH do anything for Celeste. In the evenings he spends a lot of time settling her, especially if she has had a really unsettled day (like yesterday) and often I will go to bed after the last feed and he sorts her out. Or in the mornings I give him to her in bed while I shower and sort the dogs out. It is just that when I can hear her screaming with a stuck burp and he is thinking she needs her nappy changed I just want to go tell him to pick her up as I know it will fix things right away, instead of her screaming for 5mins while he struggles with the nappy. I guess it took such effort to get BF sorted out and she fed so often in the early days that there was very little time I could be away conveniently and I have just gotten used to it.

Have to give myself a pat on the back: yesterday we went to a meeting and Celeste was not settled so I let our friend's almost 12yo daughter take her for a little walk in the pram. DH gave me "the look" which meant "are you sure?" and another bloke on the other side of the room did too which I thought was a bit rude. As soon as they left the room I was worried and wanted to rush out and bring her back but I didnt. They were gone for 10mins or so and of course everything was ok. Celeste was happy as larry when they came back and I felt soooo relieved. It really was a big step for me to let her out of my control for that time. Not wanting to do it again too soon though. Need a haircut soon, will try making it when DH can have Celeste. Not sure if she would take a bottle if Im not there to feed her. Have offered her some water in this heat and not sure if it is the bottle or the water she is refusing? Must find out how much EBM to have on hand if needed at some stage.... ok rambling now hehe.

Yeah, fur babies are great. We got our first dog the year we got married and still have her now. I was worried how she would cope with a baby after having her for 12years but she has been really good.

Mums group has been really good for me. It is hard to know if anyone else has had TTC issues there. It kind of makes me feel different to the rest of the group same as with my baby buddies group too. There is one mum there who cant BF and I s'pose she feels different to the group too: we all have our own issues I guess.

Well that's it for me at present... hello all!

[sushee]

Sazz,

I can so relate to wanting total control over bub - I was definitely the same. Yes DH could look after him, but I wouldn't allow anyone else to, even for a little while, esp when he was young. I got better as he got older, and would go to dinner with MIL while DH watched him, but I worried about him and felt like I was being 'forced' away from him.

The biggest challenge for me was when he went to daycare at 18 months - just one day a week. I have a thread about it somewhere. I was absolutely devastated about not having him with me anymore. But it's been 6 months now, and he's now in 4 days a week while I work, and it's been good for me and for him. I was probably way too overprotective of him, and resented the time he spent away from me, and while I look back on that as an intense bonding time for us, he's now growing older and learning to be more independant.

It'll come for you too, and you will adapt. But for now, I reckon it's okay to want to be there for her every minute of everyday! Well of course I'd think it's okay, I did it too! Lol!

[Willow]

Sushee, I remember when Charlie started day care - I can't believe that was 6 months ago!!!

[sushee]

I know, Willow. I can't believe it either. You should see him now, as soon as he gets dropped off he's off and playing. Even gives me a kiss and waves goodbye. He really has adapted well to it. I, on the other hand, still miss him soooo much.

[Willow]

Awww Sushee, it's awesome that he enjoys it though, makes it so much easier on mum.

My DD started preschool this year and I've had her standing at the gate at pick up time telling me to get back in the car and go home

[mako]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAZZ.I hope you had a great day today.

Not too much going on here atm. Sage is still having trouble with his tooth.
He has just discovered that he can giggle out loud now which is hilarious and oh so cute. He is rolling all over the place too.

I hope you and bubs are all ok. Its been a bit quiet in here for a while. I know how busy I am so I imagine you are all just as busy too.