Parenting After LT TTC ~ January - April 2008

[monnie]

Oh Mako...sorry to hear that poor little Sage has a cold...it's horrible when they are just not well, hey?

Sorry to hear about your Mum's comment...glad to hear that the GP cleared up the convulsion thing...

Hoping Sage gets better really quickly...

Just wanted to add that I too really struggle with the fear of secondary infertility...we are starting to talk about when we are going to TTC again...I would love to leave it a bit longer (like when Felix is about 18 months) but given my age and our 3 year TTC journey with Felix, we don't have time on our side...

I have also had some 'pangs' recently when seeing pregnant woman...or woman with a 2+ kids...I so hope that will be us one day...but I'm just not sure if it will be...

Anyway...must go...DH needs to use my computer...will come back and chat later...

[Willow]

Mako - stick to your guns hun, if she says anything out of line, tell her! It's hard when it's your mum but at the end of the day, he's your bub! Big 3-0 hey??!! Mine's not far off either!

or woman with a 2+ kids...

Monnie - this is a killer for me because it's not very likely I'll have any more and I always, ALWAYS wanted 3. I understand your fear about ttc #2, but if I remember correctly you had success very quickly on clomid? So maybe it will happen a lot quicker this time.

[mako]

Thanks Willow. I'm sure I won't hold back if she says anything to upset me

Yeh Its the big 3-0 real soon and I don't think I'm liking it too much either lol.
Its kinda snuck up on me and I had soooo many thing I wanted to have accomplished and most haven't happened yet Oh well thats life.

Monnie I hope your next pregnancy comes along quicker for you guys this time. Will you go back on the Clomid straight away or do you have to try youselves first?
My Ob told me not to wait long once we start ttc again before I see her again.In all honnesty we haven't been trying to prevent another pregnancy. I'm still BF and thats the only form of so called contraception ( not that too much DTD happens here atm lol).Sorry that may have been a little TMI.

Willow I always wanted 4 by the time I was 30. Thats certainly not going to happen I'm pretty sure we'll be stopping at 2 unless the next pregnancy is twins That will be a huge shock for my DH if that happens


Hi to Sazz, Jo,Rach,Jason,Kim,Sushee and hopefully some of the new mummys make their way here soon.

[monnie]

Yeah...I wanted 4 too, Mako!!! Mind you, my grandmother had her first baby (my Mum) at 42 (no fertility help required...she just married really late)...so maybe there's still hope!

Wow Willow...you have a great memory! I was very fortunate with Clomid so I'm hoping 2nd time around will be the same.

Deep down in my heart, I feel like we will be successful...but I just feel that fear creeping back every now and then...one of the long term side effects of LTTTC, I guess!

We aren't trying not to get pregnant either...but not a lot of DTD-ing happening...we're both SO TIRED!!!

Mako...30 is great! I've truly loved my 30's...even though alot of it was TTC...but it's a fantastic decade for a woman I think. You feel so much more comfortable with yourself (well...I did, after very insecure 20's) and I truly think you just come into your own...

Hi to all...hope life is going well. Felix is doing really well. He's at such an adorable age...very very cute! I walked in to find him sitting up in his cot today...he looked like such a big kid! He's crawling (well...dragging himself around)...we very much need to make our house crawling-proof!

Okay...have to go...we just bought the DVD set of Vicar of Dibley...The West Wing DVD set got us through our pregnancy...this will get us through the next 6 months!

Take care all...

[sazzafrazz]

Hello everyone,
Wow, I miss a few days and what happens in here? HEAPS.. oh well.

Sorry to hear about Sage's cold Mako. It is such a hard time when you cant fix it for them hey? And be strong when it comes to your mum. You dont need ppl undermining your confidence in your parenting. As if you wouldnt be doing everything possible to comfort him?

Monnie, trust that gut feeling. I had it with our successful cycle and hadnt had it before that one so it proved to work for me. I think there are somethings you just KNOW.

Had a conversation with my best friend today. She was complaining about the pill and what she is going to do. She is almost decided their family is complete but not totally sure. I was just thinking "OH, to have the luxury of that choice!!". She said it took 4months for the first conception and 2 for the second. I remember with the second, she told me she was trying and then started to complain that it hadnt worked after the first month. I told her today that it took 10years and 1month to concieve Celeste and I dont think she had ever really worked out how long it was for us till today.

Talking about how many children we would like, we would have liked 3 but if we keep going at the rate we have I will be almost 55 by the time the 3rd will be born!!!!! Somehow dont think that will be happening lol. We do have 3 frozen embryos left but I know from previous experience that the thaw and success rate with frozens isnt as good as fresh so I am not banking on it. I do however have that feeling that we will have another baby but not for a while. DH says if these frozen ones dont work we wont go for another stim cycle and I am tempted to agree. I really feel that having had Celeste has been such a blessing that I would be content if she is our only child. There is no bigger change in life than the first time you become a parent and although I would love to have more children the first born is really achieving that goal of becoming a family. YKWIM? I dont want to sound like subsequent children arent as important or anything. I hope you get my meaning: I am becoming ok with the idea she may be an only child.

I am just loving being a Mum. Every day is such a joy!!! I thought I would be missing those newborn things but with each day and each new thing Celeste does I just look at today and the future really as every day gets better and better. She is really interacting so much with me nowdays and we really love each other's company. I get such pleasure out of each new thing she learns and does. There really is nothing else like it!!! Ah, I could talk about her all day lol.

I'll agree that the 30s are pretty good. I was very insecure and emotional throughout my 20s and reaching 31 was really like a point to stop and breath a sigh of relief that they were over. I can only imagine what the 40s are like? I feel so much more comfortable with who I am and what is important around me now. I have thicker skin but more empathy.. all those things.

My new mums group has just finished the official meetings with the CYH people and we loved each others company so much we are continuing to meet weekly at each others houses. I have found new friends and that is something I was really looking forward to with being a parent. For so many years I watched my friends make new friends with others who had children and find new family type interests and really felt left behind by that. I felt it really reinforced what we didnt have. Since having Celeste so much has changed in our lives: it really does alter everything and in a good way!

(For someone who suffered depression for so many years and they were worried I would be suseptable to PND, I dont think they need to worry, do you? hahaha)

Hope everyone is loving life and feeling good too.
Where are all the new people????

[onthefly]

Hi everyone - just thought I'd make an appearance while I have a moment. Wow, this parenting lark is hard work, hey? Aric is sound asleep right now - can only hope he'll keep it up for at least some of the night. I'm getting used to the broken sleep; still working on bf - oooo my sore nipples - but he seems to be feeding well at least. 12 days in and it still doesn't quite seem real... is he really ours to keep?

I'll try and pop in later - dinner time now.

Take care everyone

[mako]

Marcellus It takes a while to get used to the idea that our bubs are ours to keep. I have moments all the time thinking how lucky I am to have my bub here after all we went through to fulfill our dream of becoming parents. It truely is a blessing and I cherish every moment including the lack of sleep lol.

You are doing a fantastic job BF hun. It certainly isn't easy to do but it does get easier as time passes by.

I've posted some pics in the gallery for anyone who's interested.They were taken just after Sage was born.