Parenting after LTTTC #2

Welcome to Megan (and Noah) & Nixon (and Asher).
Congrats to you and I hope you are all settling in and getting used to mummy-hood.

Mako - your little escape artist is too cute. I bet he was quite happy with himself!

Hugs for your DD nic, she has been having a rough time!

Marcellus - :( I hope you enjoy work again after your break. You will have to make a note on your profile so that I remember when you are coming back. But good on you for banning yourself! I'm still thinking about visiting your way, but it was hard enough flying to NZ on my own, can i cope flying to WA? :redface:

Monnie - we can't seem to get rid of our cold either. DH seems immune, but me and DS have had it on and off for a month now.

No news in our house really, except that DS is fully walking now. He only crawls when he is nude? Go figure?! Maybe he likes the added security of all those layers on his bum in case he falls. It's cute though, having him walking everywhere. It does take forever to collect the mail though!

Hello new faces!!! Welcome :) We are a friendly bunch so I hope you feel comfy and happy chatting with us.

Mako, how scary for you with your little escapee! That feeling of horror is just about unbeatable. So glad he was safe and happy outside. Celeste managed to open the door by pushing hard enough till the latch opened. Luckily I was just hanging washing under the verandah but she toppled out and bumped down the step. (I was hoping to get it done and back inside before she noticed I slipped out) Scary how far they can go so quickly though. She is very interested in the gate and latch too so I worry she will let herself out soon :o

Lenny, I still get a surprise occasionally when I see C coming in from the other room, walking. I guess she crawled for so long i expect to see it. So much easier being outside now that the ground is damp. Trouble is she wont let me hold her hand and when we go places she is all over the place. Went out yesterday and had to put her cute backpack leash thingy on her. Still all over the place and not going where I wanted her to but at least not far!!

Nothing exciting to report here. C and I both have yucky cough/nose colds. Missing swimming, mum's group, playing squash, kindergym etc because of it this week so pretty boring really!

Sazz May I ask where you bought your little backpack leash thingy from? I'm thinking about getting 1 for Sage as he likes to walk everywhere but I refuse to let him when we are out most of the time as he has no sense of direction and he won't let me hold his hand for long either. I always swore I'd never buy a harness or leash type thing for my kids lo as I remember clear as day telling MY mum that "I could walk myself" one day when she had 1 on me :rofl:l. How things change :redface:

Lenny Yep Sage was very pleased with himself when I found him...Cheeky little monkey lol.

Well, you wouldn't believe it! After DD having gastro 2 weeks ago, then hurting her neck which resulted in another 2 days off school, she ended up with Gastro AGAIN late Monday night :wall: This is after I had it Friday, and had to call DH and ask him to come home from work (he has worked 2 days the last fornight, not including this week) as I couldn't go any longer than 20 minutes before needing to be sick again. THEN, DS came down with it over the weekend, and DH and I ended up having an arguement as to what to do with him. DH didn't want to take him to the local hospital, but wanted to drive 2 hours and go straight to the private hospital. I said we would be better off getting him assessed locally, and if need be they would get the chopper out to transfer us if he needed.
So in the end i called 13health, who told me to go to the hospital, so I called them, and they said to keep him home, what we were doing was fine, and to call them if he got worse during the night and they would unlock the doors to let us in. He was going red in the face while he was vomiting and kept throwing his head back as well. I ended up in tears watching him, and poor DH was just about the same i think. We managed to get him checked out by a Dr on Monday, who did a very thorough check up and said he was fine. DS stopped vomiting Sunday night, but then started up again early Monday morning. I've had about 12 hours sleep since saturday, and am so very tired. Finally have DS down for a nap, so am going to have my first shower since he chucked up all over me on Sunday.
Sorry for my lack of personals, I have been reading really quickly when I can. hello to all the new mummies joining us.
BW - I noticed another thread of yours about Samuel. Hope the Dr's appointment today is a helpful one for you all

Nic

Mako, it was a gift but I have seen them online at bambini pronto for about $35. They don't have the full range of characters though. We have a dog. If you know DD at all you would assume we have the dog.... she LOVES her dogs. We have two and they are both called Jemma at the moment :lol: ALL dogs are called Jemma apparently!

OMG poor you Nic. I hope you are all on lthe mend and getting some decent sleep now!!! You've had more than your share.

Celeste and I have had a cold for over a week now. I am sooooo over coughing. I will be happy if I never cough again in my life. ! C is doing well though considering she fell on the concrete yesterday and has a graze on her nose/nostril area which makes it sore for her with nose wiping. Today she stacked it again and has little cut on her eyebrow, an egg and a bruised cheek. I am embarrassed to take her out with all her injuries!!

I am officially TTC again. I booked on yesterday for another frosty cycle. Praying like mad cause we only have one left - please thaw frostie!!!!! Have booked for a review appt in 8weeks if worse comes to worse and we need to stim again... AAAArrrgh am I ready to go through it all again so soon after feb???

Good luck, Sazz. I hope that embryo thaws and the FET is successful. I really struggle with the idea of going through another stim cycle ever again, so I admire anyone who can actually go back and do it all over again.

Yep, Sam's been quite sick this week. We thought it was just teething, but turns out it's RSV and bronchiolitis and the poor little guy has been struggling for breath all week and wheezing quite horribly. He's improving now, but I'm going through the stress of trying to get him to drink more... he's dropped from getting through 240mL in one sitting to going through about half of that. Feeding him more often doesn't seem to help... and who ever claimed that bottle feeding just poured the milk down a baby's throat so they have no choice but to swallow hasn't ever tried to feed my son!

Oh... amber teething necklaces rock!

BW

hi all

just poking my nose in to say hello - will definitely be back to post again in the next few days but just dropping in while DH cooking dinner

we welcomed our precious girl Emerald Nevaeh Rose on May 29 - and i'm loving being a mummy sooooo much!

Yay Welcome BG!!!! Soooooo good to see you in here finally hunni. Glad you have DH home for a while and great to hear Miss Emerald is settling in and you are going great guns at your new "Mum" position. :)

Will try to liven things up in here again... I think we have all fallen asleep :rolleyes:

C is well again and has stopped the never ending clumsies that come with being sick. I was afraid to take her in public for all the bumps, lumps, grazes and bruises she had for a while there. Poor thing had a fat lip, egg head and nose graze all within 24hours. mending now.

I am going for my transfer on monday which, conveniently, is a public holiday so DH can come without losing work or arrousing suspicions! Hooray!

Celeste has learned a new sign "baby". I taught her cause my friend and SIL are both having babies this week. Went to visit my new niece yesterday but C had performance anxiety and wouldnt do the sign. She does it AALL the time at home.

She has started a new thing lately. When I'm changing her she will run through and list the members of the family. At least that's what I think she's doing. SHe says/signs: Mum, Dad, baby, and Molly and Jemma (the dogs) so I'm assuming she thinks of herself as a baby still. I guess she is the smallest/youngest person she knows. Except for the new cousin now. I think that's pretty interesting and clever!

Willow, Hope your little man's leg is on the mend now.

BW, How is poor Sam? Hope he is breathing easier. Such a worry for you!

Nic, hope everyone in your house is well again finally. You have had a rough trot. Getting some sleep I hope.

Mako, did you get your "leash"? I have seeen some super cute new designs recently online somewhere.

How are you feeling Lenny?

Hello everyone else... where are you all? :doh:

YAY Welcome BG and Baby Emerald. Its wonderful to see you here :dance:

Sazz I did buy a "leash" lol. Its a monkey one as it was the only type I could find at the shops. I haven't tried it on Sage yet though. DH thinks I'm mad lol as I swore for many many years that I would never put a "leash" on my child :redface: Oh well I'll see how it goes sometime in the near future.
Good luck for Monday. I have everything crossed that your transfer goes exceptionally well.

Lenny How are you going? Hope you're feeling ok ;)

I have to agree that its very quiet in here but I'm thinking of you all.

Welcome BG :)
Have been quiet as we are having day sleep issues at the moment. Noah is being a little terror and wont sleep in his cot anymore, so we are now co-sleeping. He's so noisy though, so now I don't sleep properly! It's a vicious circle! Night sleeps are a bit better than day, it's just getting him down initially at night that can take around 2 hours. To get more than 2.5 hours sleep straight just once would be fantastic.

Megan, I'm having sleep issues with Asher too. She will NOT sleep in her cot - only in my arms at the moment. Don't know if I'm doing the right or wrong thing, but I don't believe in 'crying it out' and I can't stand to hear her cry. It tears my heart out. Night is better than day, she's sleeping thru maybe 4 hours at a time, but hardly getting a break during the day. The baby bjorn is my best friend at the moment - at least I can get a few things done around the house.

Maybe I was spoilt with how good a sleeper she was for the first 4 weeks.....the tide as certainly turned. We're off to buy the "baby whisperer" book tomorrow and maybe "Save our sleep".

Hope you get a good night sleep soon.
X

Sazz How did everything go today? I hope everything goes really well for you and I'll be keeping fingers,toes and everything else crossed that you get your BFP very soon ;)

Megan and Nic I hope you get some sleep soon. I know all to well how hard it is to function with very little sleep. I ended up going to "sleep school" in October last year when Sage was 1 year old cos I couldn't take it anymore. It was very hard work and heart renching too as I hate hearing my boy cry but it has helped a bit. He doesn't sleep through every night even now at 19 months but atleast he's now in his cot for each day sleep and he starts out in his cot for the night time too but may wake for a feed and a snuggle in our bed. I should tell you that before we went Sage would only sleep in my arms during the day and sleep in our bed of a night. He would scream the house down if I put him anywhere near his cot. Sending lots of "sleep vibes"to you both.

Things are much better around here at the moment.. I think DS is teething again! He goes down for his first sleep for about 2 hours, then it's every hour, which can go through to about 4am, then he sleeps till maybe 7. Wearing me out little bugger..The other night he went down for 2 hours then was up till 6.45am! I went to bed for half an hour before waking DD to get ready for school.. BUT, they are healthy, no colds or gastro or anything else, so I just have to make up the sleep elsewhere :)

Megan and Nic, hope your little ones start sleeping better soon. :hug:

Sazz, hope everything went smoothly for you today :)

BIG Hello to everyone, hope you are all well :) Just dropping in quickly to try to keep up somewhat with everyone

Nic

Nixon, sounds like our bubs are following a similar pattern! Noah was perfect until about 5weeks. Then from 6 weeks his sleeping became a lot worse. I have spent so much of the last 2 weeks rocking him and just sitting with him on the couch for 2 hours so he will get sleep. Doesn't help me in the sleep department, but whenever I would put him down anywhere by himself he would wake and get upset.
He has been perfect this weekend. Yesterday and today he had two long sleeps of nearly 2 hours in his cot during the day. I couldn't believe it. DH must think I am making it all up when I say he doesn't sleep because he's been great while DH was home the last 3 days! lol Nights aren't too bad at the moment. Have had a couple of 4 hour stretches this weekend which has been nice and I'm feeling almost human again. I just hope he can keep it up!
Thanks mako... at least I can see some light at the end of the tunnel now! It is such a relief to get some good sleep.
Nic I hope you manage some sleep soon too. :)

Hey guys

Reading your posts really reminds me of our battles with sleep! You poor things!!!

BUT...it does get better!

Felix slept through from 8 weeks to 16 weeks then it all went downhill until he was about 15 months old!

But now...he sleeps through 95% of the time...

I got so much comfort from hearing 'babies are terrible sleepers'...it really took the pressure off trying to figure out what I was doing wrong...it was so much easier once I 'went the flow of things'.

Anyway...just wanted to let you guys know that it WILL get better...hang in there!

BG....WELCOME!!! So wonderful to hear your gorgeous news!

I have to agree that I dealt better with the sleep hassles when I just realised that babies wake. sometimes often, sometimes for a long time. Celeste was a pretty good sleeper once we got past the first 10weeks of colic. Around the 11month mark things took a turn and she has been waking up to 7 times for the last few months but mostly around 2 or 3 times. Thankfully it's not for long and she goes down ok again. I am heartily sick of it now though and am longing for this teething business to go away! She is cutting all her eye teeth and the first 4 molars are all moving too so I can understand why!

Embryo transfer went well on monday. Lucky last I hope!!! Just playing the waiting game now....

Sazz - i have everything crossed for you.
BG - I texted you but not sure if you got it or not. I have your number from a LONG time ago. I hope you are all settling in at home and enjoying your precious little Emerald. I LOVE her name, so gorgeous.

Sleep is something we all seem to miss. We have good days/nights and bad days/nights. I think that is normal. I think it's important to just accept that your baby is normal.

DH is away, and it's pretty tough doing it all on my own. I just wish sometimes we had someone around to help a bit. Especially with having ms too. I feel a bit for DS - he must get bored with just mummy all day, every day!

:hello: Jo

I'm back! but gotta go, hopefully back properly later
missed you all

argh! what a shocker of an afternoon - bubba slept for only about an hour and a half from 11am til half four - the rest of the time she has been either screaming blue murder or feeding - til i got her to sleep about 8. she'd kip before that, but wouldnt' actually sleep! poor little mite - i think she has a bit of a cold... it's taking it's toll on both of us i think...

having a bad enough day on my own - wonder if that's impacting her. have a headache that i really need to take something decent to kill but don't want to take anything too strong for her... had a tanty at DH before - he kept taking her off me to try and settle her - which is fantastic - but i need him to remember that he leaves next week for work again and i'm going to have to do things solo so sometimes (like when she's really worked up) he needs to leave me to it. Emerald needs to learn sometimes she just has to wait a little bit - mummy can only get things done so quick on her own!

Lenny, I know what you mean about feeling like you might get sick of looking at each other all day every day. I try to get out for a bit every day: Walk in the pram, go to the playground, the shops, etc. C gets cabin fever otherwise. It's not easy doing it on your own... although I sometimes feel I am doing it all, I usually get to have that debrief at the end of the day, spill my guts, update the achievements. It makes all the difference. Hope time passes quickly for you!

BG, Oh I remember those unsettled early weeks. Hang in there, you will get through it. It must be tricky for DH to help but let you get your groove too. Glad you've had him home so long. Is he on local work now? I see on FB Emmy's weight is going well, you must be super pleased! Well done hun.

Hi Marcellus!!! How was your time away from BB???? You survived I see. LOL

As for me: have had a few blue days lately but picking myself up now and shaking those stupid thoughts out of my head!!! Trying to not obssess over my body and it's every going on... not easy though! I have the boobie thing happeining again like last time but I'm not getting my hopes up yet... havent even bought a POAS yet and today would be around 10dpo. must hold off, must be strong.......:lol:

Sazz - NO POAS!!!
THIS IS IT - GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK GOOD LUCK!!!!

Lenny - must be so hard on your own. I think I remember you saying you have no family there either (well, I guess they're all in NZ). How about mother's group or other friends with kids that you could pitch in together with sometimes...?
ANyway, now that you've committed yourself to visiting - you have! you wrote it in a public forum - I very much look forward to meeting you guys. :lol:

Hi Briggsy's Girl and congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl. Lovely name!

Those early months are so tough, but I promise you all you'll get through it. You'll be sleep deprived and pulling your hair out, but you'll get there.:rolleyes:
On sleep - in the early months we couldn't have gotten by without our hug-a-bub and 'no-cry sleep solution' book. Made a WORLD of difference. No, it didn't stick and we've had to find new tactics along the way, but those things did make a big difference in the first 4-5 months. A still doesn't sleep through or anything.

We've certainly had a big month! So many things to tell you guys about....
actually, nothing of note. I worked. DS was super, super clingy and wanted mummy all the time and is teething again and sleeping really badly (or not sleeping really well).
A's walking all the time. He only crawls when he gets himself stuck in a tight spot ;). He's signing more and more too. Do you do a class Sazz, or all on your own?
No words besides mam and da yet though.

A discovered the joys of slides at a park the other day, so I think that'll have to be a new activity for us. He's happy if he gets to roam around the backyard, which is where he's spent most of the last few weeks as that was the only way our babysitter could keep him happy & distracted.

Oh, time for swimming class.

Stay safe everyone

Nope, this is not it Marcellus. :( All over. didn't even make it to the blood test this time. Follow up appt in 6weeks. Have a lot of thinking to do in that time: not sure if I want to do another stim cycle but I dont want to get to next year and decide I am ready and have missed out on the medicare rebates avail this year.

Yay on the signing Marcellus. I just bought a book when C was a couple of months old. She still uses about 5 or so signs but mostly words. She has over 20 words or phrases plus the signs which I think is excellent for 17months so maybe I can attribute some of that to signing?

Playgrounds are great arent they? If C is having a crabby day I take her for a big walk in the pram to the playground for around half hour and then she cheers up for a few hours. Yesterday I had to go down the slide with her on my lap to dry it off with my pants :lol: The sacrifices we mums make!!! The other kids were pretty happy to be allowed to use it after I did that.

SIck to death of the waking in the night. FOr a few months now she has woken at least twice, up to 7 times. Last night I got very cranky. I think it started with a cold, waking with a snotty nose. Then it went on to teething pain. Now it's just a habit she has gotten into. I am heading for a tough crack down I think. I cant go on like this for years!!!

I have a cracker of a headache today, period pain, emotional pain and only 5hours sleep. AND I have to play squash tonight in the grand final... not really feeling like it.

hugs Sazz - so sorry to hear the witch showed up - she's a rude biatch! shows when she's not welcome, and doesn't show where needed. hate her with a passion

and blurgh on the seven wake up's! thats just nasty! E isn't a great sleeper, but she isn't too bad. just takes a few "tries" to get her to sleep as opposed to cat napping! when she does go into a proper sleep, we get between 5 and 6 hours, and then usually she'll have a nappy change, feed and back to sleep for at least another 3 or 4. i really can't whinge too much. last night she decided not to play nice though - sleep didn't come properly til 11ish (even though mummy had been in bed with her from 8 - she was feeding, napping then waking to play!) slept til 4 ish - then didn't go back to sleep til almost 6 - and started stirring again at 8 - took til 9 for her to wake up - but she was making so much noise in her sleep fighting against the wrap holding her hands in that DH and I couldn't sleep anyway! it's taken from her 9am wakeup until about half 2 to get her to have anything more than a cat nap today too - feed, nap, wake up and observe the world. love her to bits - but i can't do much cos i seem to have her attached to my boob all the time!

AH CRAP!!! That sucks Sazz. As if this wasn't bad enough but now you have to be thinking about doing another stim cycle or worrying about finances or.... it just sucks.
If I could take that witch I would, cause she hasn't dared show her ugly face around here in over 2 years now!!!

I know how it goes with teh 7+ wakeups too! Aric was doing that for a while, and still does at least 2-3 most nights. The good news for us is that we've got him down to one feed per night max (or even none on a few nights). DH is getting up to him for at least the first half of the night and I now hold out on him but for one feed ("no more, milk is sleeping now"). He still gets so hungry some nights, but I'm hopeful that when this bout of teething settles down he'll sleep through without a feed... I am ever optimistic.
The first few nights were tough, but he's adjusted and doesn't really expect more than one feed now till the sun's up. Hope you guys can come to a mutually acceptable arrangement Sazz. and soon!

Sounds like you guys are doing well Briggsy's girl. Do you have a wrap or sling? Sometimes that's the only way to get anything done. It seems like an enternity but it won't be long and she'll be pushing you away to run off and play :lol:

Marcellus - we have both a HAB and a sling - and miss muffett hates them both with a passion! she will scream blue murder if i put her in either of them. i am hoping things settle when DH goes back to work - at the moment, he is pottering around all the time and when i am trying to settle her, he'll walk in the door and disturb her, or when i get to the point i take her to bed to feed (has to be bad) he "checks up on us" - and his voice disturbs her again. she is such a little beak! we do have a problem with wind (she refuses to part with it) so i'm thinking we may have to get some stuff from the chemist next time i'm in town... it's not fun dealing with a bubba crying cos it hurts - but she will fight the urge to burp every time!

oh dear - thankfully they do grow out of the wind problems. We found brauers stuff to be good.
It's kind of funny the way you describe your DH pottering around - that was me back when DH was the stay-at-home while I worked ;). You just need space to figure stuff out, hey? DH had to get cross and tell me to leave him to it. DS always cried & fought the HAB, but would settle after a few minutes of jiggling. Oh, except we could not sit down with him on, had to be standing :rolleyes:

Hi to everyone else

Thought I should drop in and see how everyone is :)

sazz, so sorry to hear that awful witch arrived :hug:

BG, Hope Miss E is burping like a champion now! We had the same problems with DS. We tried a couple of different brands, but for us the best by far was one called Marina's Infant Mixture. Our chemist stopped selling it, so I had to buy it online, but it was fantastic.

how is everyone else?
We are teething here AGAIN! It seems to be pretty constant i tell ya! Poor DS, he spent yesterday arvo screaming non stop from around 2pm through to 5.30 and had no daytime nap at all either.
He has started walking too, just between DH and I for now, and only a few steps...but oh my gosh! he is just so damn cute..and doesnt he know it too. I can't believe he is turning 1 on Tuesday. The past year has flown by in a blur of sleepless nights lol. He has started to throw a 3-4 hour sleep in the mix of a night time too. So he usually goes down around 10-11pm wakes after 2 hours, then goes back down for another 2, wakes for another feed, then back down for 3-4 hours.... we are slowly getting there....slowly!

Hi Nic
Damn teeth! We are in the midst of teething too.... there's a BIG one on the way, but it has been poised to break through for a few weeks now.
Happy birthday little man for Tuesday! Can't believe it's been a year already. Sorry he's still not a great sleeper for you, that's a tough year for his parents. I spose he's doing just fine on little/no sleep, hey? :doh:

A said duck - his first word besides mum & dad. In fact, he's been saying it all weekend. Very proud of himself.

Hope you are all doing well

Hi all - quiet in here lately! Hope you are all doing well

Today was a wrenching day - DS' first time at daycare. He was quite distressed and confused I think, crying most of the time though the carers said he calmed down with some cuddles. He must really have been crying a lot though cause he actually fell asleep! only a quick 30 minute nap, but still, for him to fall asleep like that in a strange place.... I think seeing him lying there was the worst thing of all.
I feel so bad at having left him there. We decided to go ahead and start cc now before I find a regular job (hopefully I will actually find one!) so we have the flexibility to start him off slowly and pull him out if it's not working. I had to come back here and clean the house so I was doing something useful and thus justify leaving him there.
He was back to normal shortly after coming home, so don't think he's too traumatised. Now I just have to see if I can leave him again tomorrow :doh:

marcellus, how did you go today? :hug: I remember when i first dropped DD at daycare/kindy, she screamed "NO MUMMY" as I walked out to the car...I drove away in tears.... hope today was a little easier on you both though... And a big YAY for A saying duck! how cool!

Hi to everyone else, hope you are all well. We have yet again all jsut had the flu! Unbelievable I tell ya! Poor DD did her first day at school last week then spent the rest of the week at home unwell, which then passed to DS, who is just starting to hand out loads of smooshie face kisses lol, and as a result, I ended up with it as well as DH! DD is good, just has a cough, DS is better, he has a very slight cough and still has a slightly gunky nose, DH has been sent to work tonight (after having a sickie last night) and I'm feeling much better, just very tired and unable to sleep with a million things running through my mind lol...
In other news :shhh: DH and I are now discussing time frames for #3...I'm still uncertain if we will add to our family, but deep down i think I still have the urge to have another bubba...wonder if i can order one that sleeps a bit better than their brother??

Hi everyone.

I hope you had a better day with the daycare drop off today Marcellus! THat must be heartwrenching. I have yet to experience it. I dont have a need as I dont work but I do wonder how it will be when I eventually DO have to leave her somewhere? Each day will be a little easier I hear.

Nic. I hear you on the colds and flu. We have had a constant stream this year! Poor DS having swine flu! I hear it is pretty yuck. DD had a cold, good for one week, the flu, good for one week, another cold. Plus she got a canine and two molars in that time. Poor love. I have had no sleep for weeks!!!!! Poor me LOL! Lets hope the cold season passes soon. We have collected almost the full set now HAHAHAHA!

DD has her 18mths health check this week but we have put off the immunisation for aweek with her having another bloody cold. Will be good to see how she is growing now. I'm kinda looking forward to it actually. (not the needles obviously)

Hello everyone else... where are you all?

Hi Ladies

Oh Marcellus my heart was breaking for you how bloody hard! Hope yesterday was a little easier :hug:

Sazz & Nic i hear you on the sickness thing we are having a bad run too, i caught it gave to DS who gave it to DD who gave it to DH and now we are going around again!!

Hope everyone else is great :)

Things are pretty crazy here i officially resigned on Monday which is scary but nice to have made a decision. Kids are 8 months now and doing great almost crawling and DD thinks she is VERY clever because she can stand and now thats all she wants to do. Also got a referal back to our FS this week so #3 discussions are underway, one minute i am certain i want another the next im not so sure. Ahh we will see, we have to do a full stim again which i am not looking forward to.

Quick questiosn for those of you have started AC again, do you take DD or DS with you to the appointments?

Shan & the snotbots!

Thanks guys!
Well, yesterday was a bit better in that I had work and so was occupied. DS was actually happy when we first arrived at cc - signing 'play' and smiling. But his mood changed completely when we entered his room; clinging to me then crying when I tried to put him down. Went in with him for a while to settle him, then left when he seemed better - but he started crying as soon as I said goodbye. Was very hard to just go, but I did.
He fell asleep again! dropped off in one of teh carers' arms just before I got there to pick him up but he wasn't properly asleep so I took him home then.
Anyway, I guess it'll get better. They said he was happy & smiling some of the time at least. And I guess I don't need to worry about him not being able to sleep there :doh:

Happy resignation Shannon. You haven't been working with twins, have you? Or resigning from maternity leave...? I'm impressed that you're thinking about no. 3 already - you go girl! Lol at your DD standing all the time.

Teeth & flu - cripes Sazz!

Hope your family are all better Nic. Not fun. We've largely escaped so far this winter (ah, jinx!), but I spose we have more to look forward to now that DS is in daycare :rolleyes:
If you can figure out how to order a better sleeper please be sure to let me know. TIA ;)

I think I'm ready to be pregnant again. No, I am. I want to be, but it ain't happening till I can bite the bullet and wean A.

How is work for you Marcellus? How on earth did you concentrate after the CC drop off dramas? Oh you poor thing, it must be really hard. He sounds like he is adjusting already though if he was happy at the idea of going there. Each day as it comes I guess.

Shannon, We have taken C with us to appts because we do it all secretly and have noone to leave her with really. When I went for transfers DH and she waited out in the waiting room though. Not sure what we will do on EPU when that eventually happens, as DH has to "do his thing" around the time they take me in. Actually, just wondering what I will do when I have to have scans too. Will worry about it when it happens. She just plays on the floor and hasnt been a problem yet. I do feel very strange taking her there, because I know how I felt when I saw couples with a child there when I was yet to have one. I'm sure there are a lot of intense emotions when others see her there with us.

We are going to the clinic for a review appt on monday. Planning on doing a stim cycle in October. We should still be able to fit a frozen cycle or two in after that before the year is out. It will be our biggest year yet, having already had two frozen cycles so far.

Hello everyone else.....

Thanks again Sazz. Work is ok, just working as and when there is any for me (and I can get babysitter etc).
If we lived closer I'd offer to babysit for you when you go for EPU etc... but I think the drop off's probably a bit far for you;)

I know what you mean about seeing kids at the FS. I thought the same thing at first, but then of course it occurred to me that they were probably IVF kids themselves. Which is nice, in a way.

Hi all,
Shannon - yay for thinking about number 3! You must be supermum by now, you could probably do twins again!
Sazz - hope the appt goes well on Monday.
I personally think that it was so much easier to go back for FET cycles than a full stim, and I'm sure I would not have started so soon if i'd had to contemplate all the cr@p that goes with stim cycles. We took DS to all our appointments/scans etc, but again, much easier with a FET. I did feel a bit guilty bringing him along (for the other peoples sake) but we have no family here, so there's not much choice.
Marcellus - good luck with weaning A. It was hard, really hard, but then when it was over with, it wasn't so bad. Now at least i have had some ' bf free time' for when number two comes along.

Hi to everyone, and I hope you and your little ones are well. I will endeavour to catch up a bit more later.
Jo

Hi Lenny, how are you feeling now? Has the MS gone yet? I hope you are going really well.

Marcellus, how is the child care going now? I guess things have settled now. I hope so.

AFM. you are all going to think I am totally mental. We had our FS appt about 2weeks ago and got all signed up to do a stim again in a few months time. I had cold feet only the night before but we talked and talked and decided to go. Well, yesterday we got a nasty tax bill (bloody employers not taking out enough tax all year) and that started money talks. That was followed by AC talks and the long story cut short is: we have decided to stop. I know you must think me mental after only just organising one~! I guess the thing is we tried for 10years to conceive C and have had 2 frozen cycles since, one with an early MC so a total of 12embryos transferred and only one baby out of it all. We are just worn out by it all and so lucky to have the darling DD we DO have. We are both very happy and feel a weight lifted having decided to not do any more AC. I am still sad at the idea of no more babies though. I just have to reconcile the two ideas. We were just feeling we have had our other life on hold all these years and never planning because of "maybe" and now we can just get on with the rest of our lives. Phew, hope that makes sense. I think I will still feel those pangs of jealousy when I hear of other pregnancies but just knowing what our future holds now for certain is reassuring. I do feel a bit anxious about C growing up an only child and have to get my head around that now.

Sorry for the selfish post but it only happened yesterday and I had to get it all out to somone who will understand!

:hug: Sazz, you're not mental at all! I think we can all understand that feeling of the weight being lifted. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise: Who knows what else life will bring for you guys now? I hope you can make peace with this and enjoy your lives & little miss C. And I don't think she will suffer for not having siblings.

Well, Master A is already suffering the scourge of 'daycare sickness' - he's missed 3 days already! Such a nuisance. And I got sick as well, though to be fair he probably didn't contract the latest illness at daycare (since he was away sick last week), but anyway. So anyway, we started over this week and who knows how long it'll take for him to settle in. It was easier for me at least :rolleyes:

Down to 2 feeds... he just keeps asking for it though! Lenny, how did you do it? I feel so mean... :( I'm wearing normal bras during the day, so there's some upside.

Hope you're all doing well

Sazz - you are not mental at all. I think it's great that you really sat down and decided what was best for you all (Miss C included) and you chose to stop all the AC madness. Good for you guys. You have to start a new phase in your life eventually. What is the best thing for you is always the best thing for your DD - she is as lucky to have you as parents, as you are to have her.

As for the pangs of jealousy - they will haunt us all i guess. These last few years have really opened my eyes to the huge number of women (and men too) who dream of children they never had, or ones that they lost too soon. Makes me hug my own a little tighter.

Marcellus - I felt mean too - very mean. But now DS has forgotten altogether about bbs. Two feeds is pretty good! I must sheepishly confess (don't tell anyone) that I cut DS's last feed the week before i did the FET :redface: He was only having one a day and my cycle was totally normal.

:hello:

So true Lenny, so true - I have a whole new perspective on these things now.
But that's great that you had a normal cycle while still breastfeeding and were able to keep going right up to 'd-day'. I just can't imagine a day when DS will forget about boobies. Well, he is a boy, so I guess he'll just switch to thinking about someone elses...:p