Parenting after LTTTC #2

Thanks for your kind words girls. I knew I could rely on you guys to understand my mentalness :) It has been two days now and I am feeling happier about it already. We even spent time with my 9week old neice today and I didnt feel sad at all, just nostalgic for when C was like that as they seem quite similar. Now we can concentrate on the three of us, not what might be in the future. No more TTC stresses for our little girl to get involved in.
I wonder how long it will take me to stop thinking of my AF/cycles in the same conception way after so many years of microanalysing it? OMG do we actually need to think of contraception when I get to the age I would consider a cut off???? Alien idea to us!

I am kind of excited about going through all our baby gear and selling stuff off and clearing out the spare/junk/storage/office room. I'd like to get C in here as its a bigger room and she can have her toys in here rather than all over the lounge.
We can plan things now like we know we will be able to afford to send her to the catholic school but didnt think we would afford to send 2 or 3 kids there. We can plan for a big holiday soonish rather than "one day when the kids are big enough".

Marcellus :rofl: at your DS switching his boobie fixation to someone elses!!!! It's scary to think of them at that age! I must admit I was sad that C weaned herself at 8months but relieved that I didnt have a persistant toddler pulling at me in public. She is interested in my boobs mostly because she likes bras and sometimes there is a spare tissue stuffed in there, not for the boobs themselves. She can say bra. She walks around with my enourmous ones on. She likes to delve in there for the tissue.

Lenny. OMG at cutting the last feed so close to your FET. I guess it was really meant to succeed! How long after did he still ask?

I'm glad this thread is active again. I miss it when we dont chat. :)

Sazz - you're not mental at all hun! it makes sense to be able to make a decision and to not have so much of your emotion tied up in AC if you're content with your life as is. DH and I have already talked about it, and don't think we'll go through AC again - or if we do, it won't be for quite some time. we have a perfect little family as it is - no child would be turned away, but we won't put ourselves or DD through the roller coaster for as long as possible. i guess there is always a chance it could happen naturally for us so it's not out of the question another would come along - but we won't actively "try". hell, DH is working away so not much chance of anything fun happening - let alone that fun being productive lol!

DD is such a wonderful addition to our lives - i was seriously starting to wonder last year whether it was a waste of time, money and emotional energy - but now that she's here i wouldn't have it any other way. she's such a happy girl most of the time (not so much this week - had needles and seems to have decided that demanding attention after that is the go!) - sleeps really well most nights, smiles for everyone... i'm already dreading going back to work - in APRIL next year lol

waiting for her to wake up again - she's a bit of a night owl (like mummy) so goes to bed "properly" at around 10 or 11 - last night was half 10, slept til 7, awake for about half hour, then asleep til half 10, back asleep by half 11.... in between she had a bit of a kick around in our bed, talked to daddy on the phone, giggled her little heart out at the candle holders on the wall.... very cute little girl! the morning sleep is good for me cos i've been a bit off the last few nights (really nasty nausea) and really tired and just needing rest, so i've been able to sleep in. doesn't make it easy to get out of the house in the mornings though! lol

That sounds so great Sazz.
LOL at C with your bras! DS likes putting my undies or bra on his head and running off with them when I'm in the shower. He actually never asks for "nya-nya" when we're out - far too busy then!
Enjoy your holiday planning - anywhere in particular in mind? We're off to NZ this christmas:)

Glad to hear you guys have settled in BG. Your little girl sounds delightful. Hope you're feeling better soon & enjoy those sleep ins.

Sazz, the more I think about it, the more I envy your ability to be able to move on and close the AC door. I'd like to, I'm happy with Sam and I'm not sure my health could stand up to another child, but with two frozen embryos, it's really hard. I'm still no closer to being able to make a decision as to what to do with them, but still can't put them out of my mind, even though we're probably about two years away from being able to use them ourselves. *sigh*

Unfortunately, Mr Sam has had enough of watching mummy play with the puter so I've got to run away...

Hi to everyone!

BW

Sazz definately not mental i think extremely brave and selfless are the words that come to mind here. I really wish i could do it sometimes i feel like its kind of an addiction (i know maybe im the mental one) after we fell pregnant i was a little lost i didn't know who i was if i wasn't ttc because we had been doing it for so long, and now the thought of going again is scary because i dont want to end up like that again. Ahh i HATE AC!

We have an appt with FS on the 31st August. We are going to see how we feel after the appt, DH want to get he little fellas tested again in the hope that there is an improvement but i doubt it so then we are looking at a stim again.

Kids are good Julia finally got at tooth and Owen got the top two so he is still 3 ahead of Julia. And we have crawling babies Julia is off and running and O is so close he has going backwards down pat! We took them on a plane to Sydney last week which was... interesting... lol you should have seen the guy who had the seat next to us when he realised we had twins!

Also i was wondering what you guys think of the genetic link with infertility whilst in Syd last week i caught up with my many cousins. My mother is 1 of 7 and she has 3 sisters from the 4 sisters they had 19 children so as you can imagine they were extremely fertile. My mum had the only issues she had 6 pregnancies but miscarried 3 times. So if you can still keep up from the 19 there are 9 girl cousins (myself included) 4 of us have needed AC to have children and 3 others are currently undergoing AC so thats 7.. one other is gay so will need AC to conceive.. thats 8.. and 1 is yet to try. This blew my mind!

Sorry for the ramble...

Shan
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Shan - I love reading the stories of your little ones. That thing about genetic links with fertility issues is sometimes brought up by people who are anti IVF etc. I'm not sure i believe that you can pass it on to your kids - but I guess time will tell. I hope not :pray: I guess DS can't get endometriosis from me - but he could inherit DH's wonky sperm :doh: At least I'll be a bit better at being supportive to my kids than my parents were to me.
BW - I can't believe Sam is 7 months old...time really does fly.
BG - DD sounds so cute, I can't wait to meet her one day.
Marcellus - we have given up calling our visits to NZ 'holidays', because we seem to be more stressed and tired than if we'd stayed at home. We are planning to visit in March 2010 - eek, number 2 will be nearly 2 months, and DS will be almost two. The other passengers on the plane aren't going to like us much!

Well DH is coming home tomorrow night after being away for 2 weeks straight, and he has actually been home for about 1 week on and off in the last 5 weeks. I am not sure if I miss him - or if i just miss having someone else to help with DS. It's been hard - DS has given up looking for him, so he is just going to go crazy when he wakes up on saturday to find his daddy home. I hope the weather is nice so the two of them can go outside and run around, and let me catch up on all the things that need doing!

Shannon - the mental image of that person on the plane is priceless! :lol:
Hope the FS appointment goes well.
Dunno about genetic links. There seems to have been a general increase in the number of people using AC, probably for a variety of reasons, so it's not surprising that there would be some amongst all of our relatives. One of my cousins used AC, but the others appear pretty fecund. My siblings are the only ones that haven't started families yet, actually.

WOW Lenny, how do you manage on your own for so long? Your DH needs to get a different job ;). Have you got some nice personal-time activities planned for when he's back?
I can completely understand why trips away, particularly if they're long and/or frequent, are anything but holidays. Let's face it, you're never really on holidays with kids.

Lenny, hope you all have a fantastic catch up when DH gets home. DS will go bananas when he realises. C goes a bit mad when Nige gets home after a couple of hours :)

Shannon, I wondered the same thing. I actually mentioned it to the FS and he almost laughed at me. Ours is diff though, being DH family. His mum and eldest sister had hysterectomies in their mid 30s, second sister almost died of heamorrage at first AF and last sister had several miscarriages plus first child was very preterm, and had preterm problems with second child. DH had undecended testes. I'm thinking all sex organs start out the same in early foetus so perhaps his problems COULD be related back to his mother. FS didnt care to discuss.

Others relate the higher incidence of AC to the environment, chemicals, electronic "stuff", foods. That could effect some families more than others if they are succeptable I guess. Hmmm, it's a tough one to think about. I do wonder if we may have passed on something to C. I sure hope not, I wouldnt want her to go through the same thing. :(

Shannon, I understand what you were saying about the addiction and feeling lost. I never really felt a normal part of my belly buddies group, because of being the only AC one. I also felt a bit the same with my mums group for ages. Not so much now but I do feel 'alone' when they are now starting with the next bubs. I guess it has been part of my life for over 12.5years so it's coloured a lot of what I have experienced in that time. I am having a difficult time letting go of that way of thinking. It is going to take some time to stop thinking about TTC or waiting etc. I have to retrain myself I think.

Went through all of C's baby clothes last night. Took 5 big bags to the opshop today and will be selling the rest once I have organised bundles. I have already been through the bottles, jolly jumper etc. Feels good to be decided and proactive for a change. I am amazed at how OK I am with it all actually. Not like me at all! It has given me a bit of a boost in the "appreciate all the little things that come with this age cause they wont last long" department.

Lenny, completely understand how you feel about your trips to NZ. I often feel for those who move far away like that cause you spend all your holidays with family, not really "Holidaying" and feel obligated to do it, not just for fun. Do they get out here much? How is your brother doing these days??

Sorry girls, I have just realised how selfish my posts have been lately. :redface: I promise it wont dominate every conversation forever, it's just been such a big one for me!

BW, can sympathise with you and your frosties. I guess just worry about it when the time comes. We were a bit the same for a while after C's traumatic birth, not knowing if we ever could go back. Just remember, you can store those bubbas for years!!!!

Hello everyone else!!! Nice to have this thread going again :)

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His mum and eldest sister had hysterectomies in their mid 30s, second sister almost died of heamorrage at first AF and last sister had several miscarriages plus first child was very preterm, and had preterm problems with second child. DH had undecended testes. I'm thinking all sex organs start out the same in early foetus so perhaps his problems COULD be related back to his mother. FS didnt care to discuss.

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Oh my goodness! That's really rough for his family. Surely it couldn't all just be a coincidence...

And it's not selfish Sazz, this is a place to get it all out and to have your 'mentalness' understood.

Those little bubbies will keep BW :hug:. In time you'll know what to do.

hi ladies

Sazz - it's ok to be talking about your decision - i guess it's something all of us have or will contemplate at some point - it's helpful to know that you can make that decision and be ok with it!

Lenny - it's hard having a DH that works away so much isn't it? mine was just away for 10 days and by the end, i couldn't wait for him to come home just for the distraction factor for Emerald. i can get so much done if i don't have a bubba in my arms - would probably be similar if she would snooze in a sling or carrier but she refuses! i was really worried about how she'd react - 10 days in the life of a 10 week old is a huge amount of time! but she woke up from sleeping in the car last night to find daddy laying there in the bed watching her (mummy was changing her nappy - i got ripped!!) - she gave him the biggest sweetest smile, and then they were in their own little world - i just didn't exist for a while. daddy gave her big snuggles before bed and she snuggled back, and when she woke this morning he got her out of bed and ust held her and talked to her. i think 10 days in the life of his 10 week old was a bit much for daddy too!

not a lot happening here - had to do the shopping today - survived - but i hate shopping - it just drives me insane. trying to shop for food for home and for DH to have in his truck withoout buying twice as much stuff... sigh... at least E was almost perfect - cried when we were in BIG W cos she wanted lunch (fair enough - it was lunch time and we'd been out and about for a while). fed, fell asleep in daddy's arms, and that was it til we came out to the car (and mummy generously fed her again, put her in her car seat, got in the front seat and her the explosion! we were on our way home though so just kept going - too cold to change her with the door open in the back of the car and the boot was full with pram and shopping)

Thanks guys... it's a bit frustrating as I'd like to make the decision *now*, but realistically, even if we decide to do something with those frosties... it's at least 12 months away... it's so hard to just put them out of my head! I'm so not a patient person, and this is really testing my patience!

BG, we braved BigW today as well... big mistake. In fact, I did it twice today! The first one I went to didn't have the cook book I saw yesterday and decided I wanted to get, so that meant I had to head back to a second one later in the day.

Lenny, just to give you a big fright - Sam will be 8 months old next week! DH is in complete denial over it and it's so hard to believe he's that old! Still not crawling, but the longer he stays immobile the better in my mind!

Had an interesting experience today running into an ex-student with her 3 week old baby. She just seemed so tiny, but was significantly larger than Sam was at birth... I just can't see that tiny little baby any more - just this enormous, boofy, gorgeous little boy that is snuggling in my arms... STILL not sleeping! It's been one of those days...

ETA: on the subject of inheriting infertility... I think it's a load of bull! I'm sure that in some cases it does happen, but how many of us inherited our parents' fertility? Both DH and I came from extremely fertile familes where nobody else had any issues at all... and then there's us.

BW

heheheh, car seat explosion! I love it - brings back so many memories....
8 months? and E's nearly 3 months...!
Hope the sleeping happens for you soon.... 16 months and counting here I'm afraid.

Looks like A is sick again. Maybe just a cold or something. He's perked up with some panadol so can't be too bad. Bloody daycare!

It's nice to see this thread moving again. :)
Sazz, I admire your decision to not continue with AC. It must be a weight lifted and exciting to be able to plan for the future as a family of three. :)
We have also decided no more AC. But we were almost at that decision when I found out I was pg naturally with DS. Given that I had a natural pg, we are hoping it may happen again but if it doesn't we will be content with our little boy. During my c/s I found out I have a bicornuate uterus which is possibly why I had trouble conceiving. It's good to finally know what the problem is, but frustrating to have had it go undetected all these years.
DS hit the 4 month mark on the weekend and I can see 2 teeth ready to poke through down the bottom. He had a few grouchy days over the weekend, but has been a dream ever since so I don't think they are bothering him too much. He's not rolling yet and in no hurry to either! I am certainly in no hurry for him to grow up. Have continued going to mothers group after our official sessions ended, but am a bit put off by the competitive nature of some of the mothers. Not sure if I will keep going if it's going to be like that.
Sorry, DS just woke up for his last feed for the night. Hopefully will get back to finish personals later.

Yeh, it's nice to see this thread rolling along again.

Sazz - thanks so much for asking after my brother. It's hard to think that it was a year ago. He is actually in the US for a 3 month working holiday. I would love to talk to them about their loss, but I never know what to say. I really hope they get the joy of bringing a bub home one day. And no, sadly the family (DH's and mine) never visit. It's all up to us. We have always been a long way from our families, but only now that we have DS do we really question if it is the right thing.

BG - I can imagine that Mr B found it very hard to be away for 10 days. That really IS a long time when you are only 10 weeks old. Liam has even learned a few new tricks since DH left (like playing drums on everything!).

BW & Megan - they crawl and walk in their own good time, and sometimes i think that the later they do it the better. Their little brains aren't ready, and they take the biggest tumbles and crashes.

Megan - that's such a shame about your mum's group. Mine still meets every week! There is only one competitive mother and we all just ignore her comments now. We are all VERY different, but it works well. I know we are lucky though, most groups don't survive as well as ours. I hope you can take one or two friends away with you.

marcellus - 16 months and counting. The other day someone asked me how old he was and i couldn't remember. Gone are the days of counting in weeks.
Daycare is good for getting bugs - it'll get him all immune by the time school starts!

Oh and Sazz, if you have some of C's things to give away there is a thread in Plat about a BBer who might need a bit of help.

Sorry about your mothers' group Megan. I like mine. It seems like the one safe place to just natter on about our babies and what they're doing (without boring people stupid, I mean). It doesn't feel competitive at all though. We don't meet up all that often though. Maybe you can 'take away' some new friends from the group.

So Lenny, are you thinking about moving back to NZ? Whereabouts in NZ are you from? It must be hard when you're always the one travelling. DH's grandparents came out when DS was a couple of months old. Unfortunately they couldn't stay long. DH's mum especially loved being here with Aric - I'm sure she's really thrilled about seeing him again in December.

I'm not sure about the immunity thing - cc kids just seem to be sick all the time :(. Doesn't make weaning any easier since he needs more milk when he's sick.

Hi to everyone!

AF has returned! (cause you soooo wanted to know that:lol:)

lol Marcellus! Mine too, but last month. Not fair...fully breastfeeding and she still comes back after 3 months.
I have decided to stick out mothers group a bit longer. It's hard because we are a small group and the babies range in age from 3-6 months, so they're at different stages of development. I guess that's why I don't understand the competitiveness. I'll get over it, but once the 2 ladies I get along with go back to work in the new year I might call it a day.
Noah has had a rough day. I think it must be his teeth again. Both the bottom ones look like they are ready to break through... but they looked like that a couple of days ago and the disappeared again and he was fine. Is this how it works? They just come and go until eventually the pop through? It's been going on for about 10 days now. He is also having his 4 month needles on Wednesday. teething on top of needles :( My poor boy.

BW, I hear you about newborns. I can't imagine Noah being that little. I was looking at some photos last night and couldn't believe the difference. It made me a little teary, but he's a joy as a happy, giggling 4 month old. I don't think the first weeks were this much fun!

marcellus - amazing that AF took that long, although mine only came back when i started "scheduling" DSs feeds as opposed to more "demand" feeding.

Megan - some teeth seem to come and go and come again. Some seem to turn up overnight. It's not fair really, poor little tykes.

Ripped off Megan! I guess I've been quite lucky really. In a few months it'll start getting painful again and then I'll be slapping myself for wishing it back.

Yep, teeth do that! It's a real pain. With A's first 'batch' of 6 teeth the last one took six weeks to come through! No.s 6-12 have taken 4 months to cut... these molars are a killer.

And he's still sick. And I'm sick. And DH went off to work this morning with a cough. Oh yes, it's going to be another great week.

Just a little woohoo for me - A didn't cry when I dropped him off at daycare today!

Hope you're all doing well

that's fantastic Marcellus!

not a lot happening here - E is just travelling along,coming forward in leaps and bounds. such a lovely natured little soul most of the time - but OMG - the red-head temper is shocking lol

Oh, yay for you marcellus. It's tough, I know. L still cries when he realises that we are at daycare (he does 3 hours on a thursday). But he has an absolutely fantastic time - I know, because i have snuck in early a few times to pick him up and he is running and playing and dancing with all the other kids. But usually he starts to cry again when he sees me...they make it tough on their mummies!!

BG - pleased to hear that E is a lovely baby. Long may it last. I don't think you have to have a red-head to have a temper! Little darlings one minute, crazy tantrum throwing toddler the next :)

hi ladies I thought its time for me to join as my boy is finally here! he is 3 weeks on tuesday allready! i see some familiar faces in here!

Just a question

As i had a c section due to a failed induction (much like Briggsys experience) i found it VERY difficult to breastfeed and bubs lost half a kilo the first 3 days and only has just gotten to his birth weight now, they had to put him on top up feeds as my nipples were destroyed! he is always constipated and is even now doing solid poos! im very worried about him, he also had projectile after every feed on the weekend and we took him to the ER and spent the night in childrens ward, did some tests and couldnt find a reason although they suspect a condition that is progressive and will require an operation but to keep an eye on him and bring him back if it happens again. what im wondering is is there anyway to make him have soft and daily bowel movements as he is mostly on formula and should be pooing! and definately not solid, he is always screaming and seems in pain and im very stressed.

MHB - welcome and congratulations on the safe arrival of Jonathon. I'm unsure of what is safe to help soften up bubs poos. I know that some formula's can constipate babies, so maybe a different formula would help. In those early weeks my lifeline was the maternal health nurse (VIC) hotline. I was ringing them up all the time to check on even the smallest thing. I'm not sure if you are in VIC, if you are let me know and I will PM the number to you if you don't have it. I think every state would have something similar.

Otherwise, go to your pharmacist and see if there is anything that they would suggest.

Those early weeks really are such a big adjustment. Let me know if there is anything that I can help you with - sorry I couldn't help much with this.

Janie xxx

Hi MHB - Welcome and congratulations on the arrival of your son.
Sorry to hear you've had a rough start. Really hope you can get some answers soon about your son's condition.
As for poos -
Are you still breastfeeding at all? Cause more breastmilk may help (even if you can just express some if nipples too sore to feed, for eg).
I know poos are different for formula-fed babies, but i don't think they should be solid at all. Perhaps a different formula might work - have you posted in the ff area? The ladies there might have some good recommendations.
Otherwise I have heard of giving cooled boiled water to constipated babies. Given his age though I'd recommend calling a healthline, or talking to your nurse or doctor about what would be best to do. The ladies on the ABA helpline may also have some good advice for you.
Best to get some medical adivce in real life to try and get on top of things quickly.
All the best to you~ Hope things get a bit easier for you guys from here.
:hug: (and let us know how you're getting on)

thanks ladies, I got some advice from GP and he said try the cooled boiled water thing and it seems to have helped him a bit. I will keep an eye on him. also yes i do still breastfeed but mostly express and bottlefeed with the breastmilk coz he is so fussy on the nipple!

Other than that issue I feel really blessed as he is quite a good baby! he sleeps 3 hour intervals and wakes at midnight 3 am and 6 am every night and sleeps in his cot without a fuss like a good boy! i was so expecting him to scream constantly especially after all the horror stories i hear.

Ah good, hope the poos situation settles down for you. That's great he's settled into a nice sleeping routine for you!

Well, A is sick...again! I'm not working for the next couple of weeks so will probably just give him a break from teh daycare lurgies. the housework can wait ;)
Hope everyone is doing well

Aw Marcellus. I feel your pain! Celeste has gastro. :( She's had it on and off for a week now but last night and today are worse. I'm taking her to the hospital clinic at 6pm to get checked as she is hardly weeing anymore. Bloody sick and tired of the constant bugs!!!!!!! Hope he recovers quickly for you so you can enjoy your time off together.

Better go and get this washing hung out... we are running out of clean pjs and sheets etc!

Oh no Sazz, that's awful. Poor little thing! Good luck at the clinic and hope she's better very soon.
It is soooo hard when they're sick, hey? I guess we've been very fortunate really in that he didn't have his first illness till around 11 months.
A's ok, just snotty and coughing. Nothing too serious really.

Well I didnt take her to the clinic as she perked up a bit around 4pm and has had two pieces of toast with jam and a good drink and kept it all down. (I made her consume it slowly though, cause a big feed seems to come straight back!) She is playing again now so I'm hoping she is on the mend now.

DH also has it and is apparently dying. Men: :rolleyes:

I am meant to be hosting mum's group this week but given our record of the bug coming back after a day or two I am going to try to get someone else to do it. I'm annoyed though as one close friend is moving interstate next weekend and this is the last big get together for us all :(

Sorry to hear about the lurgies going around. Thankfully we are all sickness free at the moment - but it never lasts long.

Not much happening here, just getting larger and larger by the day :rolleyes:. I tore my abdominals during labour with DS and I never got it properly fixed :redface: Now I am suffering a bit, and I have to wear a brace. Funny thing is they don't do a pg brace in a small enough size :rolleyes: Never mind...i'll grow into it. It's not going to be fun as the weather warms up again, but better than the constant pain.

Where is everyone else these days?? You can tell that it gets easier with 18+ month olds - we are the only ones posting :lol:

hmmm, define easier ;)
Youch! I didn't even know you could do that Lenny. That must have been super painful.

Hope C is on the road to recovery Sazz. As for your husband.... My DH is a bit like that when he's sick (oh my goodness, he has to tell me all about it in very tiny detail), but he's great when I am sick. I keep telling him he'd be an excellent nurse.
Were you able to reschedule your meetup?

Hi everyone else...

Hmm somethings are definately easier (like I am beginning to be able to reason with C) but I think other things become more difficult (like being unable to do/discuss things without her knowing).

Mum's group is going ahead. She is back to full strength so I'm crossing all fingers and toes that we have had our share now. DH went to work although there was some fuss made. I mentioned that when i am sick I still get the washing done, the dishwasher going and unpacked, cook tea and feed/change/look after a toddler all day whereas when he is sick he sits on the couch for the ENTIRE day. He is unable to take a glass to the kitchen it seems :rolleyes: Lucky I like him I guess :lol:

That sounds ouchie Lenny!!! my old aerobics teacher had similar with her abdominals and had a big gap still in the front even after many years. Are you able to get yours repaired surgically or what will you do? Will it effect this next labour?

Celeste is really starting to use imagination in her play now. It's very cute to watch! She will make sad noises if her teddy or baby are sad and then comfort them. Or she will use a calculator for a phone. And she "reads" herself a story now too. upside down with madeup language :)
I seem to be getting somewhere now with explaining that when she wakes up she can just roll over and get warm and comfy and go back to sleep instead of standing up and crying. Last night I talked about it and put her back without picking her up and she took it well and then didnt stir for the rest of the night! Wonder if she will remember though?

That's awesome sazz, what a clever girl!
A insists that anything rectangular in shape is a phone:rolleyes:

hi ladies!

just wondering when does it start to get a bit easier and when did you start to get a bit more than a 2 hour block of sleep? my boy is 3 weeks tomorrow and still isnt in a set routine he has great nights and days then some real shockers and im starting to get really exhausted.

Hang in there Lydia, it does get easier I promise! I'm sorry to say that most people say the first 6 weeks are the hardest so you are halfway there. Celeste had colic until around 9 weeks or so... so for me it was a bit longer.

He is probably still working out which is day and night and feeding etc so it's pretty full on now isnt it? Are you getting a rest in the day at all? Hopefully he will feed 3 or 4 hourly soon with maybe a cluster feed in the evening. You will feel much better once that starts to happen.

:hug: to you, Lydia. It does eventually get easier, but I couldn't exactly say when. I was blessed with a very easy baby who came home on a four hour feeding schedule from the hospital - but I think a lot of that came out of the fact that he was premmie, bottle fed and spent ten days in SCN getting put into that routine. Although, he is the type of kid who likes everything to be a certain way and probably would have got like that fairly quickly if left to his own devices anyway. I kept hearing that it would get a bit easier after 12 weeks... The times didn't really apply to us with the early arrival factor. Hang in there!

I can report that Sam now has two teeth! After a nightmare week of him refusing food - ranging from point blank refusing to eat anything to at other times refusing to eat unless it was finger food while still other times it had to be mush from a spoon... two teeth popped through on Sunday morning during church! He now seems to be making up for his week of non-eating... We used to have to convince him to open his mouth for the first spoon so he could decide whether he liked it or not - I've had him today with his mouth open, ready and waiting for the spoon before he's even had that first taste! Crazy thing is that there were no other signs of teething at all - no rosy cheeks, no more drool than normal, no rash, no nasty nappies (he's been constipated all week because of the not eating), no more chompy than normal... Strange child!

BW

:hug: Lydia. Yes, I would say generally around 8-10 weeks things settle down a lot.
How are you doing? Do you have help during the day and night? Anyone you can rope in to give you a break? It's all about survival in the early days - just gotta do whatever works best for you guys. It's hard to see things improving when you're in the thick of it, but over time you'll start to see more good nights than bad. Try not to look too far ahead - it just starts to get a demoralising after a while.

Congrats on your first teeth BW. Hope the next lot come in with a little less fuss (and more food).