Hi Danyelle,

I got my very first BFP yesterday morning. It's my 43rd cycle, we started trying in Jan 2007, so I share your pain.

Because we live in a remote area, I resisted IVF etc after being assured by GPs that I was physically healthy and that my partner was physically healthy. We decided to just focus on a healthy, non-toxic lifestyle and keep trying. In December I finally gave in and went to a fertility clinic, expecting to be told to start IVF or that something was drastically wrong. I was diagnosed with PCOS and put on Clomid to encourage egg production. My acupuncturist supported this by supplying me with herbs, supplements and dietary guidelines for PCOS. I have to stress, I could not have done this without my acupuncturist. I was eating so many things that antagonise PCOS, and I had no idea. Without her expert help, I would have sabotaged the Clomid each cycle by eating and drinking all the myriad things that aggravate PCOS.

This month is the 5th month I've followed a fairly strict diet of low gluten, zero soy, low dairy and zero processed foods. Previously I'd been allowing myself 3-4 alcoholic drinks in the week of my AF, sometimes in the week before ovulation, just to reward myself and stay sane, but this time I avoided all alcohol until the night before I ovulated, when I had one glass of champagne. I did this in homage to my many girlfriends who got knocked up after a big night out on the booze. I figured every little bit of luck helps!

I had acupuncture three days before I ovulated and again two days after. I was given chinese herbs that help with implantation, which I took every second day instead of every day after ovulation, which is what I was instructed to do. I know it's bad to experiment like that, but I was following a gut instinct. I also walked regularly during the week prior and during ovulation - I had endess amounts of energy and felt a strong urge to do this (I don't exercise regularly), so I'm wondering if my body was taking charge to otimise blood flow. One thing I noticed this cycle is that my body was really talking to me - everything was functioning well and I was getting very clear signals and urges to walk faster and longer or eat more spinach or don't take that herb. It was very weird.

This time my DH and I did not BD everyday for 5 days before ovulation. This time we BD'd 5 days before, then three days before, then twice on the day of ovulation. Each time I kept my hips in the air for a minimum of thirty minutes, and made sure I ogs'd only after my DH had ej'd, which is something we were not religious on before this.

Other than those minor changes, I obsessed and worried and stressed and thought negative thoughts just as much as I did the other 42 times - I don't buy into "relaxing" as the reason for finally falling pregnant, and it's the number one thing that irritates me when family or friends say, 'stop thinking about it and it will happen'. Honestly, I think any LT TTCer is fibbing just a little bit when they say they weren't thinking about possibly maybe perhaps falling pregnant!

Good luck with your own journey Danyelle, I hope the stork finds your house soon. xox