- oh frosty's mum, i am feeling so upset for you love. sending you all my good vibes and love for both you and DH at this most horrible, trying time. I hope you can surround yourself with lots of love and support. i'm glad you were able to give your bub a send off.
sammiejam i can really hear you on feeling so torn between heartbreak and joy. i would also find that situation so confusing but i personally think it would help you by the acknowledgement that this is still a loss, even if you still have a healthy bubbee, that doesn't dimish any feelings of loss for your other little angel.
Frosty/smum I am so sorry for your loss. Try and be kind to yourself and give yourself time to grieve and to heal.
I am just guttered after reading these posts, why is life so cruel to those who have tried so hard.
Feeling a little insignificant in the world right now and this news has just made it seem to hard for some. A friend told us she is preg today. I dont have a problem with it, but this will be three under the age of three and she was on the pill. Why is it so easy for some and so dam hard for others?
Sorry for the emotional outburst/ Have OB appointment tommorrow and have a list of questions as long as my leg ( Arm is not long enough). Sorry no persies just cant keep up. Hope everyone is doing well.
frostysmum - im so sorry for you, I couldnt imagine going through that, you are very strong.
Murph - about the hiccups, it feels like a jump in the belly every 2 or 3 seconds and lasts about 5 to 10 mins, further down the track it feels deep down in the pelvis, sometimes it feels like my vagina is jumping! you will know trust me!
Jen - I cant believe you may give birth before me! i admire you! and all women carrying twins, god there is no way I could have coped!
Smithy - just a shout out to you! you look great and i hope the MS is getting better! i still have mine but am in control of it most days.
Also someone mentioned about sleeping on their left side, trust me, its the way to go, when i lie on my right i feel short of breath and have heart palpitations and my doc told me its the flow of the blood that gets restricted, it feels awful so i can only sleep on the left, and i miss tummy sleeping!
AFM- I cant believe i only have 3 and a half weeks! less according to the ultrasound dates! have my appointment tomorrow to check my bloods one more time and see if i need to be induced RE liver function and BP, but I think all will be fine! i have too much to do before bubs is due anyway so I am against induction! ive been getting little period type cramps on and off for the past 2 days and DF and I TRIED to DTD the other night but it was impossible! I felt like I couldnt breathe no matter which way plus my girly bits were BURNING! like extreme burning inside and I dont know why, its been like this the whole pregnancy! sorry TMI? but im over it! i want to feel close to my DF. hope everyone isnt in too much discomfort! if not you will be!!!
Frosty/mum - i am so sorry to hear fo your loss. Please take some time out to grieve and spend some quality time with DH. Remember we are all here if you need a shoulder to cry on. xxx take care luv xxx
MHB - I'm hoping to keep the little boys in here for longer than that!
Saw my ob today, and learned that I am now in here until the boys are delivered. argh! I suppose I knew it was a possibility, I just didn't expect it.
oh well. it's for the very best. I need daily monitoring, plus i am on nifedipine every 4 hours. apparently if I go 2 days with no contractions I could be given a 'leave pass' to go home or out for a few hours.
well, the waiting begins!!! imagine if I held out until 01 Oct when c-section is booked - that's a loooong time in here.
very nice hospy though - lovely midwives. so it's not too bad.
miss my DH at night though
Oh jen I can only imagine what it must be like stuck in hossie looking at the same four walls it would drive me insane. But take some advice from a mum already rest up because when they are here there will be no rest for the wicked.
MHB So hear you about being uncomfortable but how can it be already I am only 13 weeks.
AFM went to OB today. All is looking ok at the moment. About resricted growth issue, I will be having an extra scan at 34 weeks to assess growth and the plan is for induction at 37/38 weeks. She is not worried about a small baby she is actually more worried about a baby that is to big and having the tramtic birth that we had with Campbell. She said that when the baby is to big its shoulders get stuck and that then causes breathing problems. Campbell did not breath and ended up in the intensive care unit for 3 days because he got so stuck. He was the biggest baby in there and got a twin bed all to himself. LOL
Being kicked off the computer so hope everyone is doing well and will check in later.
Jen I know it is not much help - but at least you can feel some confidence at being monitored and have answers to questions at hand. Definately suggest getting some good books!
Sorry no personals - there are so many people on here, if I don't look every day it is very hard to catch up -
AFM - all well here so far, just tired still and sick as a dog - I am really hoping the MS goes in a few weeks. It is so speradic - can wake up fine some mornings, but go terribly downhill by mid morning, or can wake up feeling like crap and that continues - but find the worse time is from about 4.30 onwards till bed - I may as well set up camp in our bathroom!
It is just hard to function at work when all I want to do is crawl up on my office floor. But have to continue to be perky as know one knows - very hard.
Im right there with you girl. I am in a bad way today. Headache that wont quit, puking - the works. Body still thinks it carrying twins Just realised that we are babybuddies. I am 8w 5 days today also
FrostiesM. Omg. I cried when I read your post. I am so so so sorry. I have felt your pain more times than I care to think about and I know nothing anyone can say will take away the pain, time is the only thing that eases it - (but even then you carry it, tucked away deep in your heart) We are all here with you, holding your hand. Please know we are here if you need to vent, cry, scream, anything that you want to express. Huge hugs darling.
I also want to say thank you so much to everyone for your beautiful and kind words. Means so much to me. (damn it, tearing up again) I cant really talk about this IRL because everyone is so overjoyed that Lil Peanut #1 is going good and they dont seem to understand that looking at Lil Peanut #2 all teeny and not living is very hard. I guess the longer my pregnancy goes on the better I will feel about it all. I am very worried that Peanut #1 will just "vanish" like #2 did...
anyways, enough about me. I hope everyone is feeling ok, especially our gals on bedrest and Jenc77 in hospital. I hope you have foxtel and unlimited interwebz!
Big hugs everyone,
Sammie
Last edited by sammiejam; August 20th, 2009 at 12:08 PM.
Sammyjam - what date are you due - I was 21 March - but after scan it is now 27 March - I guess have to wait until next scan at 12 weeks to definately know.
I won't make you tear up again. But it is good that your #1 is looking good.
I am tearing up alot atm, so dont worry about it Apparently the 9th week is when the CRAZY behaviour starts
I was due on the 22/3 (according to IVF dates) but after my scan the 27/3. I am having another scan next week due to the vanishing twin so I am hoping to find out for certain then also.
Baby Dream Time glad NT scan was good that must be a load off. No pool here but lots of AC! and summer clothes are much prettier than winter ones.
Janie thanks for the pep talk, I need to shut my ears more.
Mahli hehehe love the comment re DH's stubborness. I hope my baby doesn't get that from me. how long do they take? 20 minutes with a full bladder ahhhhhhhhhhhh
Frusty's Mum I am so sorry look after yourself.
Smithy love the belly
Saph i know how you feel just feel the emotions I think. I have had the same thing happen with three of my friends. Sux but now that I"m pg I can let it go. But still wish it was easier for us.
MissMagpie thank you and I was a bit of a hint dropper over the past year. I'm a stirer and I like to watch DF squirm but I stopped when we got pg. and well I guess he felt like he could do it without thinking it was 'my idea' I hope you get one soon
MHB thanks for the warning of uncomfort to come but it's worth it. Goodluck for nedxt 3.5 weeks.
Jenc Wow a date is set. Bet that's nice. I'd miss DF too
Becc hope you feel better soon
SamieJam I'm 17 weeks and I'm still an emotional mess. Tears are so good for me, just cleans out the bad and makes the happy seam so much more happy. Funny but true, Hope you're having a good day today.
ATM OB went well 19wk scan booked in for 31st DF can't make it but my mum is comming which will be cool. DF is coming on the 2nd to OB so he's sort of forgiven. Appointments aren't work friendly are they. I am lucky that I'm the boss and can make it up early/late. My bp was 125/70 so relieved and the heart flutters are normal. Oh and baby looked great. Had a bit of a sook.
This weekend is demoliton and clean up time, DF and DSS are doing all the work while I got to work. I know who's having the easier day but that means the baby room is edging ever closer. So exciting.
I have been reading daily, but short of time to reply.
Frosty's mum if you are reading, I am so sorry for you and I hope you are holding up okay
To everyone else, Keep up the good work, keep baking up those fat little baby's.
I have been missing in action for several reasons, but mainly I have been hiding out over in the family crisis help group. I am going to air my dirty laundry to you all now, because I feel a bit stronger. I don't expect any magical suggestions for this problem, but I just wanted my belly buddies to know what's going on with me I guess.
My DH is a compulsive hoarder. It is very, very bad. The only functional room in the house is the lounge room, and that is only because when he starts piling things in there, i just lift it and transfer it to any other room and pile it on top. Otherwise I would have been committed ages ago. It is a very long story, and I won't bore you with the long background except to say that I had no idea of the problme when I moved up here from Melbourne when we got married, and I just assumed that he would clean it up. It's only got worse and worse. I have thought of leaving, but the bottom line is I don't want to leave the marriage and I love him so much.
He does not think that he has a problme, he thinks he has a storage problem! Despite my nagging and getting increasingly upset over the last few moths, he has not started on the inside of the house. When we fell PG, he had amazing plans and I believed him, because he has never given me a plan before (also part of my non-coping is the fact that he cannot tell me what he is doing or when grrrrrrrr).
Obviously I do not have a nursery or baby's room of any description yet, and I am 3 weeks off maternity leave. i have not been able to 'nest'. All the bub's clothes and things are in garbage bags on the floor, I haven't even washed them because I can't see the point until I have somewhere to put them. He is trying in the sense that he is doing things for the baby....buying the cot and paraphernalia etc.....but he has not moved one item of cr@p in the house out. We have had countless discussions and rows, with no solution. Or there have been solutions (storage units, building another shed, shipping containers etc) but he just won't do them. I have paid for a storage unit in the past but he refused to move anything in and I can't physically do it because it is all machinery etc.
For some reason I still believe he will get something done, but it will be by the skin of his teeth and me consequently being as calm as I possibly can. I am doing what I can, trying to sort stuff out and throwing things out when he''s at work, and the 'crisis' part is over and I am feeling better, but still no resolution as such.
Sorry to burden you with all of that, but wanted to get it out there! Apart from that I am well and counting down the days until I finish work. I am feeling much better about that as the girl who will replace me is wonderful and will keep the service going well (I am a breast cancer nurse counselor).
hi neptune. Oh you poor love. hoarding is a psychological thing and i'm sure it's been suggested, but it sounds like he needs professional help.
I know exactly what you are talking about cos my aunty is exactly the same. her haording has escaped the house and gone onto the veranda, yard, shed etc. but she lives alone with 3 cats and several stray dogs she took in (yes, those crazy cat aunties really exist lol). so she's only impacting herself (and she says she hates it but can't control it).
so i completely understand where you are coming from. it's a complusion and there's underlying issues. i'm sorry to say this, but i doubt he'll change just on his own but I know just ''throwing it all out'' by yourself is not an option - that will really really hurt him and could lead to other issues.
there's no easy solution is there love. but vent away. i really feel for you and i hope he does at the very least give up one room for bubbee and you.
off to pilates now so will be back later for persies but just wanted to send neptune a hug. and thank her for being so brave and sharing.
i wish i had something helpful to tell you other than : i understand. oxoxo
Neptune: How hard it must be for you. I am such an organised person that if my DH had a similar problem I don't know how I would cope. I hope that you can get something sorted out soon so you can at least get the nursery set up. If I think my DH is leaving dangerous stuff around the house already I keep reminding him nicely that once baby is on the move the house needs to be safe so he better start putting things away safely now so he doesn't need me nagging him later.
Been quiet in here the past couple of days, so hopefully everyone is cooking along nicely.
Well, I never thought I would be one of those women but I am officially over being pregnant (bizarre when we try so hard to get there). I don't mind having my little bundle inside me it is all the other things that are really getting me down now... ie:
1. My belly in now so big that I can't reach the sink or stove in the kitchen to cook or clean.
2. I am exhausted all the time, it takes me around 2 hours every morning to get showered and dressed as the smallest thing wears me out.
3. I am so boring at the moment as all I want to do everyday is sleep. I think I'm awake for about 8 hours max per day.
4. No motivation. I really have to plan my days to get things done or else I would turn into a big sloth.
Anyway that's my rant, I really don't know how you girls who are working can do it you are such stars in my books. Oh well at least the sun is out today so hopefully some Vitamin D will help my mood.
Hope you are all well. Just popping in, currently have the memory span of a goldfish so won't attempt persies this time, but am thinking of each and every one of you!
Had our 7 week scan yesterday! Didn't get to see much as Cookie was hiding in the far back corner the little bugger, but we saw the heartbeat, a healthy 154bpm! What an amazing moment! I almost cried! And cause of the hiding we couldn't get any measurements. Anyway we're having another scan at the OB's in 3 weeks should get a better idea then. They also said they think there's only one but can't really say for sure (again cause of the hiding)
What I don't understand is FS said bubs looks more like 6 or 6.5 weeks. Well how does that work? We know exactly what date I O-ed & when Cookie went in etc witht he IVF, and I clearly felt the implantation so how can the dates change? I figure Cookie is just on the small side, I was only just 5lb when born and both my DH & I are quite small. Any thoughts?
Wishing you all lots of Hope you are all getting good rest and away nicely!
BOC how exciting seeing your little one's heart beating away. The week thing I'm not sure, I think it's when cookie decided to stick not float around? So excited for you
KellyD I'm going to comment on 1-4
1: great no housework for you.
2: 2 hours wow I hope you have good morning tv on
3: If you need sleep and can enjoy!
4: Sloths are very intelegent.
Enjoy looking after yourself
Grub hope pilates is going well. I can't wait to start yoga when I clear my diary "it will happen"
Neptune
DF did such a good job of demolition today, I baught him a drink on the way home, and now he's cooking tea. I'm a lucky lady. Glad my week is finally over. Saturdays are so exhausting, time to put my feet up.
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Just realised that we are babybuddies. I am 8w 5 days today also 
Apparently the 9th week is when the CRAZY behaviour starts 
glad NT scan was good that must be a load off. No pool here but lots of AC! and summer clothes are much prettier than winter ones.
I am so sorry look after yourself.
but it's worth it. Goodluck for nedxt 3.5 weeks.
Hope you are all getting good rest and 
away nicely!
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