hi neptune. Oh you poor love. hoarding is a psychological thing and i'm sure it's been suggested, but it sounds like he needs professional help.

I know exactly what you are talking about cos my aunty is exactly the same. her haording has escaped the house and gone onto the veranda, yard, shed etc. but she lives alone with 3 cats and several stray dogs she took in (yes, those crazy cat aunties really exist lol). so she's only impacting herself (and she says she hates it but can't control it).

so i completely understand where you are coming from. it's a complusion and there's underlying issues. i'm sorry to say this, but i doubt he'll change just on his own but I know just ''throwing it all out'' by yourself is not an option - that will really really hurt him and could lead to other issues.

there's no easy solution is there love. but vent away. i really feel for you and i hope he does at the very least give up one room for bubbee and you.

off to pilates now so will be back later for persies but just wanted to send neptune a hug. and thank her for being so brave and sharing.

i wish i had something helpful to tell you other than : i understand. oxoxo