Pregnancy after Long Term TTC #5 - 2009

[barney]

to all you belly growing beufiduls,
thank you all so much for thinking of me in your posts i love reading through and seeing my personal little messages me im not as clever to be able to keep up thats why i always say hi to everyone i cant miss you then pmsl.
you are all plodding along so nicely and its so nice to see .
i hope you all have a wonderful weekend,im just hopeing no more dust like the other day how terrible was that ? i was honestly worried about poor little charlie and with what i was breathing in yukko.
BOC: well done sweety on 12 weeks and go them dorritos and dip if your hungry why not hey lol., all i ever seem to do is eat latley .
PERSEPHONE: CONGRATULATIONS SWEETY you so so deserve to be in here and in very happy you are i hope you have a wonderful pg.by the way great numbers there chicky,woohoo great news.
BDT: just had to say WOOHOO for the new avvy you look hot.

[Loveinamist]

Ladies,

We have a

Whilst I know some of you from the LTTTC and TWW threads, I also know many of you because I've stalked this thread for 6 months

We are 14dpo today. HcG results this morning are 137. I'll be having a 6 week scan on 12 October, but no further blood tests at this point - is that normal? I'd personally like to have a few more BTs to make me feel more comfortable that the levels are increasing.

Feeling quite and a little sicky. Have stocked up on ginger and am off to see the Naturopath tomorrow, because after 3 years of TTC, I've never actually had to think about a pregnancy or how I'm meant to deal with that.

BDT - I LOVE your avvy, very cool.

Smithy, 20 weeks!? That's fantastic! I've been enjoying watching your belly photos, keep them coming.

I'll get to know everyone in the next few weeks, but for now am just desperate for my 6-week scan.

See you all soon,
Seph

Congratulations on your BFP!!
About the blood tests some clinics don't bother after a BFP. In fact my clinic didn't even do a blood test after the initial consultation to start a cycle. So I had one blood test to check my hormones were ok for beginning and nothing after that! I literally rang them 13DPO (or 13DPEPU) and told them the result of my POAS. They then said congratulations come in for a scan in two weeks or so!! I was so surprised with their laidback attitude but they are apparently the top Fertility clinic in London so they must be pretty confident! (BTW I was lucky and got them as my NHS freebie as I was living in the right area...real postcode lottery here in the UK!) So in short I never knew what my HCG levels were or anything. I think it did help me be a bit less stressed about it but as you are probably aware us LTTCers get used to being proactive about our fertility and it is very hard to just sit back!

[Loveinamist]

Neptune, I wanted to tell you a different story of the perfectly imagined baby's room and then maybe yours won't seem so bad. My house is soooo small, we have only one room (when Mum stayed last week, we set her up outside in a tent...sorry, the Safari Suite). So someone mentioned they were getting a wardrobe fitted this week and i had a chuckle. Don't call DOCS on me but Jasmine's bedroom will be exactly one half of a regular sliding wardrobe. I bought a gorgeous cradle that fits the space exactly with barely an inch to spare and DH and I are sharing the other side of the wardrobe for our clothes not our bed. That is my baby's room in with us. we have a huge bedroom but have very few walls as there are sensational views all around and it's all windows. we have to contend with strong sunlight, mozzies, and sandflies so have to have her somewhere we can contain her. Oh by the way, there are no doors on the cupboard of course. The cradle is the Boori/Kingparrot one on wheels. It's gorgeous and should last til she is 6 or 7 months before needing a cot (when maybe we will have a house of of own, but who knows where we will be when DH finishes his PhD). Even the change table and bath on wheels will be moved to allow us to use the loo or open the bathroom cupboards, so there is no clutter as such, it's just that this house is built by boat builders whose other house is their yacht (usually parked in the Carribean I might add!). It was not designed with babies in mind, but that's okay, they have very few needs in the first 6 months, bed, bath and boob and they're all pretty accessible. Hope you can get some room to access yours

Okay, better try to get some sleep again!

I love sound of your room! Sounds like us. We are renting and although we do have a small room that we call the baby's room I don't think he will ever get in it. We would have to move all our extra junk out of there like my wardrobe full of clothes and the four or five armchairs and a large ottoman that we have in there that we had room for in our much more spacious house in Australia (and can't bear to part with since we spent so much shipping it all over here!!! aghhh) So the baby's room should really be called 'My dressing room with assorted chairs' The only thing that makes it the baby's room is his little moses basket, baby bath and change mat is stored on top of my wardrobe and he has a little shelf with all his little clothes on it. (my stepmother has been knitting furiously so he already has enough jackets and pants to last him the whole first year!)
We have bought a baby hammock and we plan to have him sleep beside our bed (although I can see us co-sleeping a bit) and DH promises me he is going to convert our dressing table into a change table and he is going to put shelves up in our room for his nappies etc

EDIT- forgot that also since we live in the UK and seems to be never sunny I have to hang my wet laundry inside so the poor baby's room is usually full of hanging rails and shirts hanging from the curtain poles and ironing tidies. And that situation is not going to get any better in winter when the baby will actually be born!!

[grub17]

welcome and big congrats peresphone.

my clinic did two bts - the first to see if i was UTD or not 9 days post transfer (5day old embies) and another a few days after that to check the levels were rising.

then we had to wait for a scan at 7 weeks - itwas actually nearly 8 weeks cos of the appointment times. it was a horrid, slow, tortuous time - sorry to be so blunt. It's just as bad or worse as the two week wait.

hey but the whole pregnancy game is a waiting game and can be stressful with milestones always weeks away - nt scan, sexiing/growth scan, 3rd tri, 34week scan, birth and all the worreis that come with that.

suppose what i'm saying is enjoy it while you can love. the time has really felt like it's gone quite quickly, most of the time. I really believe at the end of the day you've got to live in the moment and enjoy what you have now.

i know you can't help but stress but i hope that helps you abit. did you have one or two transfered?

BOC - ROFL - am loving the dorrito massacre of 2009 lol. wouldn't worry too much about it love ... i think you can absorb a few more naughties that usual while preg. my crime is sausage rolls. i just love those hot little rolls - particuulary the spinach and feta ones.... hmmmmmmmmm fffooooooodddddd big congrats for making ot the the magic 12... do you feel a sense of relief??? for me that didn't come until about 14 weeks, i think it took 2 weeks for the worry and concern to leave my body lol.

enjoy your footy today miss tania - i'm not an afl follower and can't remember - did your team make the finals? (which i know are today so i'm not a total numbskull). and enjoy those last few days at work.

hi to all our lurkers and lovely ladies

afm - feel a bit better this morn. i'll feel better abut dh's work thing after monday once it's sorted and I can execute a plan of action... i'm better when i can cover my bases. i was just completely mentally prepared to do 7 weeks alone before bubs arrival!

off to look at garage sales this morn with my honey.

Oh just wanted to share something fun we've been doing - we've been practising singing our nursery rhymes to bluey - he responds accordingly and it's heaps of fun! even a bit silly!! lol (ps I really suck at remembering the words but dh remembers them all!).

ox

[TwoMums]

Hi Girls

Just thought I'd pop in and let you all know that Noah is going great guns. Never needed any oxygen since birth. Is on CPAP and currently off it 4 hours twice a day. Been concentrating on getting him to full feeds which will happen on his next feed. Its 10 mls every two hours and then he has to tolerate that for 24 hours and then his central line can come out!

He was born at 750 grams then went down to 640 grams which is completely normal for a weight loss. They hope for a weight gain of 30 grams every two days which he has done so he is now 730 grams. Tomorrow fully expect him to be at his birth weight and that usually takes about 3 weeks and he's done it in almost 2!! Not bad seen as how he only started on breast milk on day 3 and only half a ml every 4 hours. When he tolerated that they increased it to 1 ml every 4 hours then to 1 ml every 2 hours, then 2 mls every 2 hours and so on and so forth. His next feed will be 10 mls!!

Everything is just wonderful at NICU and he is the smallest baby there but the least trouble. He never skips a beat! Guess i should find a new home for my updates now. I just wanted to come and thank everyone for their prayers and good wishes, seems to have worked! Kim and I are just so in love with him its not even funny.

[Loveinamist]

Grub- I am obsessed with sausage rolls too and my bakery does this creamy vegetable lattice puff pastry thing too that I cannot get enough of!!

Belly rubs everyone!

[barney]

TWOMUMS... i am totally thrilled to bits for you pair your little man sounds like such a little fighter and boy does he sound small and ever so cute.you pair keep doing what your doing seems to be going great guns all the best and im thinking of the 3 of you.grow big and strong noah

[saph204]

Hi all, have been lurking but unable to post as feeling to sick. Glad to see everyone is doing well. We have our big scan on Tuesday so will finally know if it is a he or a she as I keep flip flopping between the two. Have a great weekend and enjoy the footy.

[grub17]

oh 2mums thanks so much for dropping in! i'm so glad noah is thriving. I was just telling dh about 20 mins ago that it was exciting knowing that you will fall in love by the end of the year! lol.

good luck with the scan saph!

[Persephone1]

Hi Ladies,

Thank you all for your kind welcomes and thoughts. I also wanted to send out another to everyone - I'll start keeping track of everyone as I go and will try a few persies soon!

So today is 4wd1d. You'd think that wouldn't be so different from 4wk0d, but perhaps not. I went and saw the Naturopath this morning in order to get some nutrition advice for early pregnancy. I came home loaded with supplements and morning sickness remedies (lots of protein in my meals!), but have also felt really low since then.

Perhaps I'm just stressing myself out more, but I have been quite flat and teary all afternoon. Is this just hormones? Or anxiety from LTTTC? Or maybe the full enormity is hitting me - I'm a control freak in general, and I have no control over my pregnancy (apart from the obvious controls about what I put in my mouth etc). Why, after all these years of TTC, do I feel so awful?

So...I've been seeing a counsellor recently for help to get me through the TTC...but ironically, now that I'm pregnant, I feel like I need the counsellor more now than I did then!

Sorry, this was a downer of a post. On the plus side, DH and I went and saw 'Up' at the movies (better than watching the footy!) - good movie. Now I'm going to go and snuggle on the couch with DH.

Thanks again for the welcome and all your kind thoughts. I'm looking forward to enjoying my pregnancy - soon!

[TaRhLi.]

Hi Girls

Just a quick drop in... Big Yay to my Cats for winning the Premiership today. Although can I say that being 36 weeks pregnant and living through such a close game is not ideal but I am so happy that they won this year. Now I'm just waiting for my little "Cats Supporter" to arrive.

[juniper76]

Seph, I know exactly what you mean. After all those failed AC cycles I never felt a need to talk to anyone, but the anxiety I've felt over the last few days has had me seriously considering it. I saw Up the other week too and loved it. It was just before my bfp and I had tears streaming down my face (seriously, it was a torrent!!) at a number of points in the movie... That was my first "sign" that had one of my friends urging me to poas!!

[Krikkit]

Sorry in advance this is a selfish post.

When we found out we were pregnant, I told a few close friends and family. I have specifically told my mum not to tell anyone from the moment I picked up the phone and told her. Being IVF and the fact that I am still on prednisolone and combined pessaries, we may miscarry.

But I have already heard her infront of me blurt it out and I had massive go at her and told her to keep her mouth shut.

Today I get home and have a message from a friend telling me congratulations - she bumped into my mum and she told her.

I have called my sister and asked her what part of "dont tell anyone" doesn't mum understand. My sister and I are pregnant, she has never had any issues and we are 6 weeks apart, she just hit 12 weeks.

I called mum and told her that for the 100th time, keep your mouth shut and explained that we might miscarry once I come off all my support drugs and hormones. She has a go at me and says she is sick of MY attitude and hangs up on me

My sister calls me back telling me that mum has called her and is now going to call the whole family that I am pregnant and tell them. Because with my attitude she is hoping that I miscarry - lovely.

I haven't called mum and let rip again, cause I don't want to put my sister in that position, but its great to hear what she really thinks.

[grub17]

OMG kriskit. i'm so sorry to hear your mum's attitude. that is just bloody awful and absolutely no excuse for her treating you that way love. you just need to take care of you and try not to get too worked up about it love - although i completely understand why you are feeling so upset.

my mum was under the same rules and i have very strong suspicions she blabbed. and she is also extremely good a turning the tables - if you get upset about something, she'll just turn the tables and make it about her.

sending you lots of love and do try to take care of that precious bundle. can your hubby maybe make the call to your mother and give her a good what for? or go through your dad or such?

we are here for you lovey.
ox

[Greenslw]

Saph glad the brace is working and I hope you're getting loads of support from DH. I've put in an order for a new back should I make it a double for you too??? Goodluck for Tuesday

Grub hehehe picturing you propped up with a mound of pillows, very queen like. Yay for 3rd timester you're motoring along. Does it keep feeling like the weeks are flying? I can't belive It's been 4 weeks since my scan, I'm sure if you're still wearing the same cloths when bubs comes it won't be long till Grub's body's back!

Welcome Juniper

JENC YAYAYAYA welcome Hamish and Lachlan well done. glad Csection was ok.

Poppyfairy when DF felt squeak for the first time it was great glad your DH is now able to enjoy your feelings, although DF says it's really faint, not on the inside!

KellyD wow you're still so busy, when are you resting?

Bridget oh hun I think names are hard,

BOC no fair I've had breakfast and now I want french toast. Maybe tea.

Azz wow the 2nd how exciting.

BabyDreamtime, can I make an early xmas wish for more hours in a day? I'm too busy, although got some news yesterday which made me slow down. No teaching next year aparently so less $$$ but more time maybe the universe is telling me something.

MissMagpie yayaya for last week of work.

Hi to Smithy and Murph glad you are both going well.

Hi to everyone else.

Few think i'm all caught up now.

ATM: well my brain is officially gone, I left my handbage jumper and class roll in different places yesterday I forgot a birthday party TODAY! and really am overloaded with thoughts, I had so many dreams last night so I'm hoping that my brain has been emptied of some things.

There is so much to do and it doesn't seam to be any time, I didn't feel stressed until DF decided to have a mini meltdown last week saying he wants to move back to the country NOW! well with DSS is in year 10, I"m 23weeks pg and NO YOU CAN"T but he didn't even want to talk about it. all I got was "I hate the city" and "I'll just be depressed forever" bloody timing DF really! So I cried for like an hour and then decided that I can't do anything about it, If he wants to go he can but I'm not going anywere now or in the next two years. And to be honest that kind of selfish outburst makes me want to dig in my heals and never go, There is no work for me there and he only earnt minimal money so we'd both need to work, I didn't spend 5.5 years in uni and tafe to work in the Post Office! Ok vent over.

So we're off to a 2 year old B'day part today and all I want to do is retail therapy which I can't afford.

[azzrenae]

Hi lovely ladies,

Kirkkit that is a terrible thing for anyone to say let alone your own mum I really hope she didn't mean it. I totally agree with Grub this is one of the only times that you should really be thinking about you IVF is not an easy journey, I hope that you can start enjoying your pg soon. Once you see that little heart beat for the first time everything will just melt away.

AFM I had great day at home for DD's birthday I laid on my bed for 20 minutes arrrrrrh it was so nice. DD enjoyed herself eating lollies and opening pressies can't believe she is 2 how time flys. I was so tired lastnight when I got back to the hossy I just flopped on the bed.

Hope everyone is doing well.

[farmgirl77]

Hello everyone,

Just wanted to finally drop in and say hello to everyone and wish everyone who is in here well with their

'Puter probs have meant that I've been away from BB for many weeks, and during that time my beautiful little boy, Archer Darcy Tex, arrived (a little early).

So lots of and good luck everyone. Thanks also for the heaps of support over the past 9 + months - has really been wonderful!
FG

[azzrenae]

congratulations Framgirl Little Archer Darcy Tex. How early did he come. Hope everything is going well.