Kirkkit that is a terrible thing for anyone to say let alone your own mum I really hope she didn't mean it. I totally agree with Grub this is one of the only times that you should really be thinking about you IVF is not an easy journey, I hope that you can start enjoying your pg soon. Once you see that little heart beat for the first time everything will just melt away.
AFM I had great day at home for DD's birthday I laid on my bed for 20 minutes arrrrrrh it was so nice. DD enjoyed herself eating lollies and opening pressies can't believe she is 2 how time flys. I was so tired lastnight when I got back to the hossy I just flopped on the bed.
Just wanted to finally drop in and say hello to everyone and wish everyone who is in here well with their
'Puter probs have meant that I've been away from BB for many weeks, and during that time my beautiful little boy, Archer Darcy Tex, arrived (a little early).
So lots of and good luck everyone. Thanks also for the heaps of support over the past 9 + months - has really been wonderful!
FG
CONGRATS FG!!! SOOOO GOOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU LOVEY.
Is archer doing well? how's you? hope the birth went okay sweet. ox
how azz sounds like you had a lovely day. i think that's the worst part about life - it seems to fly by! aftr all this trouble we've all gone to get preggers, it'll all go by so quickly bbrrhhh.
greenslw - Oh men! maybe he's just feeling nervous/anxious etc about the new arrival and is trying the 'fix' how he's feeling in a man way??? why can't we all just win the lottery and live and do whatever we please??? you are a vrery good step mum indeed and it souds like you have a great rapport with dh's boy.
kriskit - how you going love?
Murph - how did that study go love?
hi to all the other lovelies here.
also wanted to update you - I am so pleased that i had a great reason for feeling sssooo awful lately - i have gastro! go the full effects of it yesterday evening and went to the after hours GP service this morning. Heard Bluey's nice strong heartbeat - so he's okay... i think it's passing now ... i hope so anyway! feeling much more upbeat this arvo.
hope you all had a much much better weekend than me girls.ox
Things are going better now...our little boy arrived at 37wks +4days by emergency c section after labour 'failed to progress' (got to love that term) after my waters broke - even though I was put on the drip etc. He was born on the little side (only 2.8kg) - but DH and I are only short so that was not surprising. Our major drama was that he was that while in hospital he lost more than 10% of his body weight, and depite this and the fact I was still having probs with BF (milk came in very late which resulted in him getting formula as a top up from day 2), + some other issues, we were discharged after 5 days. I had booked into the laction clinic before leaving hospital knowing that I was still going to be having probs! Because he was also jaundiced, DH and I were having to wake him every 3 hrs to try and feed him, I was stuggling to get him on the breast and then we were basically having to force his mouth open to get whatever forumula into him that we could - which was heartbreaking to do. Anyway, 3 days later we were back in hospital as he had only put on 10grams! Was very stressful as he was put in special care nursery and I just felt that I was a failure as I could not feed my baby. I now swing between blaming myself and total anger at the hospital for allowing us to go home (although I admit I thought we would be ok) when I could not BF properly, plus for all the conflicting advice we recived (dont get me started) and that we had no plan for how to top up with formula (eg how much he should be getting and how much to increase it by each day - all the advice in the world on BF and nothing on the bottle). Anyway, he is now putting weight on well, I am still BF'ing him although we still top him up with formula. I dont think that he is the happiest baby on the planet and we have probs getting him to stop crying and sleep, but we are getting there...I think
I wish everyone here a better time than us, but in the end we have our little boy and he is well, and that is what matters!
OMG Farmgirl, my heart sunk when I read your story I felt exactly the same with my DD when I had her, and it annoys me that it is still going on the conflicting advice you get from each midwife I understand that everyone is different but you would think they know the signs. I got baby blues and it was all because no one pick up that my milk had came in late very stressful for a first time mum. I do have some advice don't be affraid to go to formula if YOU want to and his weight isn't picking up. I had a great Paed when I went for my DD 6 week check up he said that she has only got about a week of fat reserve left and wasn't putting on enough weight what a slap in the face I felt like a big fat failer the nurses did not tell me about her weight. He suggested formula and I put her on it straight away and never looked back it was the best thing I had ever done.
I do plan to BF my twins if I can this time I know I will proberly have some issues as the are going to be premmie but I will try my best and if I can't do it then I will put them on formula.
BF is really harder for some then others you do what is best for you and Archer. I hope I helped a little bit.
Hi folks, just sneaking in to dip my toes in as I have been told I have to get over it and embrace this pregnancy.....lol!
Like most of you we have had a rough ride to get here...nearly sixe of years of TTC with five miscarriages along the way, one of them being this little man's gestational twin. Tp top it off we had a really bad nuchal scan at 13 weeks and were told we had a 1 in 2 chance of downs syndrome and 1 in 18 chance of other chromosomal issues....needless to say we had an incredibly stressful days as we waited to have a CVS done and then another stressfule few weeks waiting for the results.
Turns out our bubba is chromosomally normal and is a boy so we have known for quite a few weeks the sex of bubba which has made baby shopping so much easier (or harder as the case may be as there is so little selection for boys compared to girls we have found...hehe).
Discussion with our Ob came to the conlusion that most of our high risk score had come from the low papp-a score and that this low score could also mean the possibility of heart issues or IUGR.
The 18 weeks scan has shown normal heart function for the gestational date so now we just have the risk of slow growth to deal with. So i have to have detailed scans every four weeks for now to make sure we have no issues.
My ob also me on baby aspirin and clexane 40mg daily as there is a school of thought that this may help reduce the risk....so no belly shots for me as it is covered in injection bruises....LOL!
Add to that the fact I am a long term Type 1 Diabetic and it's all shaping up to be a fun ride to the finish line!! Bubs EDD is Feb 28th 2010 but will likely be joining us a few weeks earlier depending on how things progress.
Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading......now I have dipped my toes in, I hope to be more regular and get to know you all better.
farmgirl - it seems we had a very similar birth experience! its in the birth stories if you want to read, also my bub was jaundiced and it took 6 days for my milk to come in so he is mostly on formula aswell, i feel like ive let him down but in the end its what put him back to his birthweight and thats the main thing my boy was also very jaundiced for almost a week but all is well now, look after yourself and that little man!
Azz - great to hear you enjoyed the party (and your own bed)
Farmgirl - hello, hope everything is on track for you soon, but don't rush it. It's taken so much to get here, it's bound to still have setbacks. You are doing a great job and have nothing to be ashamed of. goodluck with the gorgeous little "Tex" and be gentle with yourself
Grub - you take that back!! Oh it's going soooo slow now! You might be Queen muck on your 6 pillows but I am sleeping upside down, with a head under my ribs....errrr still...on a mountain of pillows...and...it's...not...working!!!! I'm going to advertise for landfill-can't get my pillow mountain high enough to sleep without spewing form reflux!!
Greenslw - I 2nd Grub's comments on your stepson - one lucky kid to have you in his corner. You are a Mum in every sense of the word and should be very proud of yourself. Sorry to hear DF not playing nice and feeling a bit less than confident at the moment. I'm sure you will work it through. Sounds yuck but emotions are high all round.
Melbel - So sorry to hear of your excruciating journey. I can only imaginesome of it. So happy your nuchal scan results were wrong. My personal opinion - nuchal scans suck a.rse! The worst time of my life too was waiting 7 weeks for the amnio to be done and results to come back. Congrats on your little boy!! We named and claimed ours the minute we got our results back. amazing post. Thanks for sharing.
Smithy - keep doing what you are doing with your posts. You are everyone's number one cheer squad, always thinking of us as we are thinking of you, Coops and Charlie.
Poppyfairy - your place sounds soooo cold. Mine will be the exact opposite. what will your baby be wearing when mine is in nothing but cloth nappies and singlets? Don't pile those chairs too high...and remember where you put that basket down
TwoMums - thanks so much for coming back and sharing. It must be the last thing on your mind. Even my DH is asking how Noah is going and it just blows our minds to those feeding details. Sooooo happy for you! Go Noah and goodluck with the 10ml feeds.
Saph - hope you are not too sick and the back is feeling a bit better. How is your pelvis...ouch! Goodluck with your scan tomorrow - hope you are celebrating whatever the outcome.
Persephone - don't underestimate the effects of stress. If you are an anxious person and who isn't after all you've been through to get here, even happy changes can rock your foundations. We spend so long trying to save ourself from giving in to too much hope. I bawled like a crazy woman when my scan confirmed a heartbeat. the nurses thought I'd been given bad news but you have to remember the journey you have been to get here. Stress!! Talk to us, talk to a counsellor, but allow yourself to feel perfectly normal and just be with your thoughts to understand the place you are in and embrace it. You are pregnant! You will enjoy it soon....and then it will suck...and then you will love it..you get the picture. Enjoy the wild ride.
KellyD - I was thinking of you on Saturday (and your waters!) Congrats on a close game. Now enjoy the countdown to the next big hooter...woo hoo! Hmm, west of Ballarat (my geography is not great), do you live anywhere near Rushy? I used to live there.
Krikkit - It's not selfish to share - I can't imagine the situation you're in but sounds like there are a lot of hurt feelings. Mums are human and can be childish and dig in their heels when hurt too. Your sis sounds like she might be adding to the situation too and maybe could have chosen not to tell you about your mum's angry outburst. Someone has to take the higher ground and be the adult. think about the relationship you want with your mum. Can it get better before it gets worse or does it have to get dragged inthe dirt first. I hope you can let it go, step back and appreciate this special time.
Just my own funny story to lighten the mood - my Dad told everyone up and down the east coast of Australia when I got my confirmed pg at 2 weeks. Oh god can you imagine my disbelief. Admittedly I had failed to tell him not to tell anyone. I let my Mum tell whoever she wanted to cos her partner had just died and I knew it would make her world. dad though, I thought he wouldn't be that into it as my bro and sis each have 3 kids. Nup Dad was pleased as punch and told everyone he knew on a big motorbike trip down from Townsville to South Australia (every friend, every relative). I didn't have a single person to break the news to but I chose to see things from Dad's point of view..kind of cute really to have that support and happiness. I kind of got up him but only to let him know that nothing is certain...his response, oh well, you win a few, lose a few. I joked that when I got to 12 weeks I'd pick up the white pages and indiscriminately call names at random to say "guess what?" like I'd always imagined and dad said they say..."yeah we know...Ken told us!)
Sorry, I know that's not how things are for you, but hope you can work it through without getting any worse Krikkit. You can choose to react differently.
If I've missed you, it's only because I might get kicked off the website for going over some world record word quota.
Hello to all the Mums still lurking and popping in - Bee, NicoleS, Nixon, Janie, Briggsysgirls eetc. Thinking of you all.xoxox
and wish everyone who is in here well with their 
and good luck everyone. Thanks also for the heaps of support over the past 9 + months - has really been wonderful!
congratulations Framgirl 
Little Archer Darcy Tex. How early did he come. Hope everything is going well.
CONGRATS FG!!! SOOOO GOOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU LOVEY. 
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