Pregnancy after Long Term TTC #5 - 2009

[juniper76]

Seph, I know exactly what you mean. After all those failed AC cycles I never felt a need to talk to anyone, but the anxiety I've felt over the last few days has had me seriously considering it. I saw Up the other week too and loved it. It was just before my bfp and I had tears streaming down my face (seriously, it was a torrent!!) at a number of points in the movie... That was my first "sign" that had one of my friends urging me to poas!!

[Krikkit]

Sorry in advance this is a selfish post.

When we found out we were pregnant, I told a few close friends and family. I have specifically told my mum not to tell anyone from the moment I picked up the phone and told her. Being IVF and the fact that I am still on prednisolone and combined pessaries, we may miscarry.

But I have already heard her infront of me blurt it out and I had massive go at her and told her to keep her mouth shut.

Today I get home and have a message from a friend telling me congratulations - she bumped into my mum and she told her.

I have called my sister and asked her what part of "dont tell anyone" doesn't mum understand. My sister and I are pregnant, she has never had any issues and we are 6 weeks apart, she just hit 12 weeks.

I called mum and told her that for the 100th time, keep your mouth shut and explained that we might miscarry once I come off all my support drugs and hormones. She has a go at me and says she is sick of MY attitude and hangs up on me

My sister calls me back telling me that mum has called her and is now going to call the whole family that I am pregnant and tell them. Because with my attitude she is hoping that I miscarry - lovely.

I haven't called mum and let rip again, cause I don't want to put my sister in that position, but its great to hear what she really thinks.

[grub17]

OMG kriskit. i'm so sorry to hear your mum's attitude. that is just bloody awful and absolutely no excuse for her treating you that way love. you just need to take care of you and try not to get too worked up about it love - although i completely understand why you are feeling so upset.

my mum was under the same rules and i have very strong suspicions she blabbed. and she is also extremely good a turning the tables - if you get upset about something, she'll just turn the tables and make it about her.

sending you lots of love and do try to take care of that precious bundle. can your hubby maybe make the call to your mother and give her a good what for? or go through your dad or such?

we are here for you lovey.
ox

[Greenslw]

Saph glad the brace is working and I hope you're getting loads of support from DH. I've put in an order for a new back should I make it a double for you too??? Goodluck for Tuesday

Grub hehehe picturing you propped up with a mound of pillows, very queen like. Yay for 3rd timester you're motoring along. Does it keep feeling like the weeks are flying? I can't belive It's been 4 weeks since my scan, I'm sure if you're still wearing the same cloths when bubs comes it won't be long till Grub's body's back!

Welcome Juniper

JENC YAYAYAYA welcome Hamish and Lachlan well done. glad Csection was ok.

Poppyfairy when DF felt squeak for the first time it was great glad your DH is now able to enjoy your feelings, although DF says it's really faint, not on the inside!

KellyD wow you're still so busy, when are you resting?

Bridget oh hun I think names are hard,

BOC no fair I've had breakfast and now I want french toast. Maybe tea.

Azz wow the 2nd how exciting.

BabyDreamtime, can I make an early xmas wish for more hours in a day? I'm too busy, although got some news yesterday which made me slow down. No teaching next year aparently so less $$$ but more time maybe the universe is telling me something.

MissMagpie yayaya for last week of work.

Hi to Smithy and Murph glad you are both going well.

Hi to everyone else.

Few think i'm all caught up now.

ATM: well my brain is officially gone, I left my handbage jumper and class roll in different places yesterday I forgot a birthday party TODAY! and really am overloaded with thoughts, I had so many dreams last night so I'm hoping that my brain has been emptied of some things.

There is so much to do and it doesn't seam to be any time, I didn't feel stressed until DF decided to have a mini meltdown last week saying he wants to move back to the country NOW! well with DSS is in year 10, I"m 23weeks pg and NO YOU CAN"T but he didn't even want to talk about it. all I got was "I hate the city" and "I'll just be depressed forever" bloody timing DF really! So I cried for like an hour and then decided that I can't do anything about it, If he wants to go he can but I'm not going anywere now or in the next two years. And to be honest that kind of selfish outburst makes me want to dig in my heals and never go, There is no work for me there and he only earnt minimal money so we'd both need to work, I didn't spend 5.5 years in uni and tafe to work in the Post Office! Ok vent over.

So we're off to a 2 year old B'day part today and all I want to do is retail therapy which I can't afford.

[azzrenae]

Hi lovely ladies,

Kirkkit that is a terrible thing for anyone to say let alone your own mum I really hope she didn't mean it. I totally agree with Grub this is one of the only times that you should really be thinking about you IVF is not an easy journey, I hope that you can start enjoying your pg soon. Once you see that little heart beat for the first time everything will just melt away.

AFM I had great day at home for DD's birthday I laid on my bed for 20 minutes arrrrrrh it was so nice. DD enjoyed herself eating lollies and opening pressies can't believe she is 2 how time flys. I was so tired lastnight when I got back to the hossy I just flopped on the bed.

Hope everyone is doing well.

[farmgirl77]

Hello everyone,

Just wanted to finally drop in and say hello to everyone and wish everyone who is in here well with their

'Puter probs have meant that I've been away from BB for many weeks, and during that time my beautiful little boy, Archer Darcy Tex, arrived (a little early).

So lots of and good luck everyone. Thanks also for the heaps of support over the past 9 + months - has really been wonderful!
FG

[azzrenae]

congratulations Framgirl Little Archer Darcy Tex. How early did he come. Hope everything is going well.

[grub17]

CONGRATS FG!!! SOOOO GOOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU LOVEY.

Is archer doing well? how's you? hope the birth went okay sweet. ox

how azz sounds like you had a lovely day. i think that's the worst part about life - it seems to fly by! aftr all this trouble we've all gone to get preggers, it'll all go by so quickly bbrrhhh.

greenslw - Oh men! maybe he's just feeling nervous/anxious etc about the new arrival and is trying the 'fix' how he's feeling in a man way??? why can't we all just win the lottery and live and do whatever we please??? you are a vrery good step mum indeed and it souds like you have a great rapport with dh's boy.

kriskit - how you going love?

Murph - how did that study go love?

hi to all the other lovelies here.

also wanted to update you - I am so pleased that i had a great reason for feeling sssooo awful lately - i have gastro! go the full effects of it yesterday evening and went to the after hours GP service this morning. Heard Bluey's nice strong heartbeat - so he's okay... i think it's passing now ... i hope so anyway! feeling much more upbeat this arvo.

hope you all had a much much better weekend than me girls.ox

[farmgirl77]

Thanks for the congrats on our exciting arrival.

Things are going better now...our little boy arrived at 37wks +4days by emergency c section after labour 'failed to progress' (got to love that term) after my waters broke - even though I was put on the drip etc. He was born on the little side (only 2.8kg) - but DH and I are only short so that was not surprising. Our major drama was that he was that while in hospital he lost more than 10% of his body weight, and depite this and the fact I was still having probs with BF (milk came in very late which resulted in him getting formula as a top up from day 2), + some other issues, we were discharged after 5 days. I had booked into the laction clinic before leaving hospital knowing that I was still going to be having probs! Because he was also jaundiced, DH and I were having to wake him every 3 hrs to try and feed him, I was stuggling to get him on the breast and then we were basically having to force his mouth open to get whatever forumula into him that we could - which was heartbreaking to do. Anyway, 3 days later we were back in hospital as he had only put on 10grams! Was very stressful as he was put in special care nursery and I just felt that I was a failure as I could not feed my baby. I now swing between blaming myself and total anger at the hospital for allowing us to go home (although I admit I thought we would be ok) when I could not BF properly, plus for all the conflicting advice we recived (dont get me started) and that we had no plan for how to top up with formula (eg how much he should be getting and how much to increase it by each day - all the advice in the world on BF and nothing on the bottle). Anyway, he is now putting weight on well, I am still BF'ing him although we still top him up with formula. I dont think that he is the happiest baby on the planet and we have probs getting him to stop crying and sleep, but we are getting there...I think

I wish everyone here a better time than us, but in the end we have our little boy and he is well, and that is what matters!