oh kellyD, men are truly idiots aren't they! i'm with poppyfairy and murph. I would be saying absolutely no way. this is OUR family and I AM the ONLY mother, mum, mum-mum or otherwise. His mother has had her turn... it's yours now!

i'd also suggest pointing out that your brother/father etc should be called DadDad then. I bet he won't go for that one!

I'd sit down with him and calmly point out why you don't wish this name for your MIL - your are the mother; you feel its robbing you of your hard fought for title and name; it's not your family tradition - you can start a new one with a new name; a baby would not be able to distinguish betwee the two.

If he is not open to your point of view, I would just start referring to her as "grandmother'' or 'grandma'. It's hers and DH's problem. and if MIL says somehing or Dh 'corrects' you in front of her i'd calmly say "i believe I am so-and-so's mother''.

Or say "MIL didn't carry bub for 9 mths and birth the baby so she hasn't earnt that right''.

oohhh i'm cranky for you lovey.

hi to all - so glad its the weekend except DH leaves 10am tomorrow. all i had to do was look at him this arvo and i burst into tears. am feeling very sad and alone atm
oh and my mother has decided to grace me with her presence while dh is away "to make sure i'm okay". could be more trouble that its worth, she can be a very painful, precious person sometimes.