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  1. #1

    Apr 2009
    Melbourne
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    KellyD, the MumMum thing freaks me out. Blegh, I don't like that. I think it's creepy. Tell her that she doesn't actually get to decide that without you agreeing. YOU'RE Mum, not HER! GL with explaining it to DH. We have several grandmothers in our family (same-sex relationships make for lots of Nanna's!), but everyone is Nanna and then her name - so, like 'Nanna Judy,' etc.

    Anyway, I can't do any more persies (except Smithy, I love the belly pics!) because I'm I'm 6 weeks pregnant today and the MS has kicked in with vengeance. And my nipples could get me a starring role in a porno I have to go and lie down now...but I love being sick! (Please don't remind me that I said that later).

    BBL.
    Seph

  2. #2
    barney Guest

    seph you poor girl with that m/s but its a wonderful sign that things are going great take care sweets and thanks for looking at my pics

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Nov 2008
    on the verge of greatness!
    1,301

    well i'm going to say YAY seph for the sickness. i was the same - a very love/hate relationship with m/s. it was a bit of a security blanket - just like the movements become.

    bluey has been very quiet this morning, only a couple of moves i've felt so far. He must be feeling sad like his mummy because daddy left an hour ago and won't be home for 7 weeks. But i've had a good cry and blubber (scared the dog) and am treating myself to a burger and chips with a movie and puppy cuddles on the lounge (about to go fetch it all now).

    kellyd - what did you do/decide to do?

    smithy! murph, greenslw, boc, bella, neptune, poppyfairy, persephone, BDT, miss magpie, bella and all the lovelies who are reading - whether you are part of the thread or not.

    hope you all have a better weekend than me.

  4. #4
    barney Guest

    oh grub hunny i wish i could give you a real smithy hug and just say come round for a cuppa but just imagine it ok your at my house and youve just said good bye to dh your very upset but just know my friend hes coming home to you very soon and that beautiful bub and dh wont recignize you when he gets home youll be huge by then lol oh hunny hope this silly msg made you giggle in some funny way .love to you sweety keep busy
    oh and go the burger yummo

  5. #5
    Platinum Member. Love a friend xxx

    Aug 2008
    408

    Hellooooooo!

    So sorry for the long post guys and sorry if it's a bit me first I'll put some persies in at the end...

    Just wanted to pop my head in and say hi, and I'm still here! Been MIA a bit this week, we've had DH's 2 eldest gkids (aged 9 & 11) staying with us this week and they've kept me on my toes! Oh it was sooo great to have them here, just one-on-one, us & them, the way it used to be years ago, no interruptions just us & them 24/7. We have missed this precious time with them because of some family issues that have kept us apart and can't wait to bring them here again! Hopefully their 3yo sister will feel up to leaving Mum and come next time too. We'll try to do it a couple more times before Cookie arrives.

    I must admit I've had a bit of a shocker, their Mum came up and stayed last night too, she is the same age as me and mostly we get on ok, although we have our moments, but last night was fantastic, we were chatting all things babies & families, which is great as that common denominator has always been the missing link for us, and it's always been the one thing I'd hoped to be able to share with her, which is why I'm glad we're all back on speaking terms. She gave me lots of great advice and I really think it made her night to have someone listen to her "expertise" and making her feel valuable for a change. And then we were enjoying ourselves so much we lost track of time and finally dragged ourselves to bed at 4am ! And then I was wide awake at 6:30am! Which is why I am rambling and probably not making much sense. So as soon as I finish this mammoth post I'm off to bed for a nanna nap!

    Also I finally got my NT results yesterday, I don't know which one to use though (hopefully the last one!) so here goes all of them:

    Trisomy 21 Background Risk 1:583, Adjusted Risk 1:8468
    Trisomy 13/18 Background Risk 1:1078, Adjusted Risk 1:23868

    Anyway enough about me,


    Azzenrae: Congratulations on the safe arrival of Harper & Cody! Love the names btw and hope they're home with you soon!


    Grub: hunny, hopefully the next 7 weeks flies by for you. Glad you have your furbaby for comfort. Mine is always a godsend in the bad times!

    Seph: Glad the MS has kicked in, should put your mind a little at ease. Bet you'd never thought you'd be praying you'd be "driving the porcelain bus" every day!

    KellyD: You poor thing! I'd tell them all (very nicely) to get stuffed, Mum is yours and your alone, especially after what you've gone through to get here! And when a child is learning to speak they usually say everything twice anyway, so MumMum, DadDad etc. and that is just not on! Maybe offer a compromise like MaaMaa or even just Maa and DH's dad could be Paa.

    Also a big Hiiii!!! to smithy murph, greenslw, bella, neptune, poppyfairy, BDT, miss magpie, bella and everyone else I've missed (sorry grub I am a big slack-a@$e and copied yours )

    Big to you all! Promise I'll try better next week!

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Oct 2008
    Far north Queensland
    371

    Hi lovelies,
    it will be a bit of a me post just to catch you up on what's been happening with me even though I am following all of you.

    First, yay Seph...I know that feeling. It's a sign if nothing else and hopefully it won't last too long and make you regret it. 6 weeks, congrats!

    Grub...oh defence family life just sucks. I grew up an Army brat and DH was Army when we met so I know the cr.ap they put you through. I'm so sorry it's all happening to you at the moment when you least need it and hope that the family helps ease the feelings. On the plus side, I loved all the time we had apart for really writing letters and communicating. No one does that these days and I'm sure that's what made our relationship so strong when DH was in Rwanda at the start of our relationship.

    Okay, so I went to hospital for my 36 week appt on Thursday only to be told that Jazzy is quite small and they wanted to do measurements as they're concerned she may have a small tummy and not getting enough placental nutrients. so there it is. I've been defending the 20 comments a week I get about how small I am/she is and then the first obstetrician I see, confirms it. I've just been seeing midwives and doctors and they haven't seen the need to send me for more tests or to see an obs so I'm semi miffed, but then again, I'm still sure I have nothing to worry about. I've just been messed around a bit through my rural hospital and share care system and I would have given anything to have more tests done down in Cairns for peace of mind, the amount of times I've been scoffed at and I've defended this little bundle.

    anyway, the obs wanted me back in Cairns on Monday for proper tests as she couldn't get all the accurate measurement info she needed on the ultrasound and didn't want to wait a week, but they can't fit me in til Wednesday, so there's a bit of sweating in the meantime I must admit (that mother guilt creeping in) and still a breech bub, weighing approx 2 kg (what the???), with no plan. DH has been doing the moxa to turn her and I think I've given up on that working. the obs wanted to turn her and I'm so against that physical manipulation as I've heard really bad stories, but then again, Caesarian....????

    I've been doing as Kelly suggested and reading all about the procedure and feeling okay about it but it's so major isnt it? I was so naieve about it all and thought of just a few more days recovery thatn regular birth Now I'm reading about the recovery after 6, 8, 10, 12 weeks etc. that's a long time to be bloody sore hey? Ahhhh, confusion reigns today. D H tells me not to get attached to one thing or another and to stay in limbo where I am because guaranteed things will change as soon as I set my mind on something. Oh dear, you poor things stumbling across my rant today.

    I'm also a bit flat cos I celebrated my wonder cure too soon and have been soooooo sick with the worst reflux that absolutely nothing will fix no matter what. I think I've done damage and burnt out my oesophagus as I'm just living on ice and I can't stomach the thought of food. I'm just doing prune juice and almonds. Ha ha, so I celevrated my wedding anniversary yesterday not by going to a Japanese restaurant in Cairns as planned, but by stopping in at Maccas and munging down on huge cups of ice. Yay!!!

    i really am just ranting so spare any sympathy for the ones who need it. I should be celebrating 30 days at the outset and maybe less than that and that is just amazing whatever way you look at it.

    Kel- 2 more sleeps hey? I can't imagine going into labour after all this time being prepared not to, you poor bugger. Maybe it will make you happy to know that I envied your plans for washing on Tues and wed and whatever the schedule was, because can you believe we have no water? Our tanks are nearly dry and that's all we have, and we have to find someone to cart water to fill our tanks. We recycle every drop and do all the right thiings and yet we've just had the driest winter on record!!! In the wet tropics so yep I have washing envy and I'm currently in triage mode with everything that makes it to the machine.

    I won't apologise about the post as I enjoy reading yours and hopefully you won't mind. xox

  7. #7
    barney Guest

    oh murph hun its all gonna be ok hun you will do just fine if you need a c/s your to strong not to as for letting them try and turn little girl welllllllll thats another story i wouldnt have that done (ouchy lol ) but thats my opinion lol.as your wonderful dh says dont stress or get to worried about things (yeh rite smithy ****er lol ) i will be praying all theses tests will be A- OK and youll have a beautiful little girl in your arms soon hang in there sweets xoxo



    boc, hello there hun

    and murph im sure your rite chicky kelly only has 2 SLEEPS

    oh and i forgot ive added a new montage in the blogs but its only a very short one.

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Nov 2007
    Country Vic - West of Ballarat
    1,568

    Hi Everyone

    Thanks for your comments regarding the Grandparent name thing, I was sure that I wouldn't be the only one to freak out at that one. Well I think I have decided that when I introdruce these new Grandparents to the baby and like to the midwives and stuff I'm going to say..."This is .....'s Grandma/Grandpa". I think that is going to be the best way so that I am making my subtle point without being blatantly obvious of my dislike. I suppose the only consolation is that they live 10 hours away from us, so regular contact face to face will probably only be a few times a year where as my parents live 30 minutes away so they will be the grandparents she will see regularly and as they have been grandparents for so long they automatically refer to themselves using the names of Nanna and Grandad.

    Anyway as you have said, only 2 sleeps to go. We went out today and bought the last item I wanted before she arrives, a baby sling. We already have the baby carrier but a friend of our who has a 6 week old told me that the sling has been her godsend as when her baby has been unsettled and she just has to get stuff done around the house, she just puts the baby in the sling so it has close body contact but then has left her with her hands free to do stuff around the house. So I invested in one today as once DH goes back to work when bubs is 3 weeks, I will need to start doing basic housework and anything that helps get that done without causing too much distress to the baby must be a good thing.

    Anyway girls, if I don't catch you all tomorrow I will try and drop in next week and let you know all the news. I'm going to take the laptop with me to hossy (can you imagine 5 days without internet) so I can also keep a watch on your journey's as well.

    Murph: I hope that everything goes o.k on Wednesday with your growth scan, you have always felt Jasmine was on the little side and they say you can't beat a mothers intuition. It must be so frustrating to get this far down the track though and have this to now deal with, but so long as she has strong lungs when she comes out that is the most important thing.