I think I spoke too soon. I have had the crappiest night, went to bed about 10, woke up pretty much every half hour. Have been wide awake since 2am my back is killing no matter which side I lay on. I finally gave in at 4:30am and took some panadol and have also used the hot water bottle but it just seems to make it worse. I feel like absolute s#%t.
Oh and a little rant, what is it with sick people inflicting themselves on the public? Makes me so mad! I help run this preschoolers music class at our church, and yesterday the older retired lady who leads on a Thursday turned up and halfway through the class tells me she has gastro! I asked her why she bothered coming, I could have done the class for her and she just waved me off saying "Oh but I just love seeing all the kiddies" Nice. So not only is she unnecessarily inflicting gastro on to 30-odd babies & preschoolers, but there are also 9 pregnant women in the room too! Some people are so selfish!
Anyway enough of my ranting, I'm going to go & try to lay down again, hoping even for just one more hour sleep! Gto a busy day today & have to clean up & get ready as the parentals are coming for the weekend.
Lise - how bloody irritating and how rude! Some of the people I've told have wanted to tell other people, and I don't think they realise I've told them early as a privilege, not in their capacity of town crier! I got very stroppy with one and said that no one else is to know until after my next scan and I'd be really cross with anyone who said anything... why can't people just respect that! Honestly
Surely people see that it is your news to tell not theirs? I am ranting as I know that lovely though my mother in law is, this is precisely what is going to happen next weekend. And I can't forewarn them in anyway, otherwise they'll guess anyway! It's going to have to be a military style operation of phone calls - for the first time since I was here (and I do love it) I would quite like to be at home for this bit .... oh well.
BOC - completely agree with your rant too. I had a streaming cold last time I was pregnant - weeks 4 to 6 because of a stupid woman who keeps coming in ill, and although I don't think it caused my miscarriage, it certainly don't think it helped me be in a good physical place. I think there is a lot of american style presenteeism creeping into the workplace - for goodness sake, only take the day off if you are ill, and if you are ill take the day off! And gastro with 30 kids and 9 pregnant women - honestly!
I was lying on the sofa yesterday and the furbaby was licking my tummy - it was so sweet.... I don't think she realises (could she?) but it was lovely...
LM - lol furbaby licking your belly! my furbaby has a little neurotic thing ... she licks the carpet... yuk!
LISE - i'm from a small town where goss spreads extremely quickly. but we soo wanted to tell our families the day we got out BFP... my mother is a terrible terrible blabber... so i put the hard word on her and dad and completely guilted them. Told them I and I alone wanted to tell my GFs (who all live up there still) and they weren't to tell anyone but my nanna and aunt (who live on the otherside of the country). I think it nearly killed them lol. but it worked. It's YOUR news, not theirs.
are your sil/bil cranky about you not telling them? or understanding?
BOC - this is why i always say "we hate people" because people are rude idiots generally lol. i ended up complaining to my boss about people gonig to work sick and making me sick constantly ie swine flu, cold, gastro, gastro, cold etc He ended up turning people around at the door with a "**** off and get better, we don't want to get sick'' lol. I would be having a little word to this lady "oh thanks for coming in sick, you gave me gastro". maybe she might be a little less selfish next time. bbrrrhhh. I"m sooooo cranky for you love. Keep your fluids up and hope you get some rest.
well NO MORE SLEEPS now. DH is packing up his room and heading off soon ! Not that i slept that well. Swollen hands are killing me and the relaxin is causing heaps of hip/back pain when i lay down (overstretching all my bits). Hope the day doesn't drag out too much. But i have to do the groceries and have one Painting left to do! so hope that helps pass the time.
yes, thanks girls, I"ve decided it will be a full frontal assault on DH when he gets in the door lol. I think i might scare him, remember he hasn't seen me for 8 weeks! imagine how much i've expanded lol. I have this image of this two skinny, white, hairy legs sticking out from under a large, swollen blob hheeheehheee
i'm sooo excited! excited he's home and excited to finally focus on the baby! and excited about getting some lurvin! will never ever do this again! it was just too hard and i've been soo stressed (in a quite sort of way), i think i'm probaby going to have a huge emotional break down tonight just through sheer relief and a release of all my worries etc.
Thank you all you girl for your love and support these past 2 months. You have been a god send... a lifeline for me. ANd thanks for letting me woffle on when i have no one else to talke to! You girls are so lovely!!!
question:my mother keeps harping on that i should call her when i go into labour.. but i know that means she calls half the town to tell them. they live 2 plane trips away so there's no risk of them turning up at the hospy but I just don't want to tell anyone. I want to make one call "he's here". and I want to tell my friends. Also there's a potential mum will start calling the hospital if things don't happen quick enough for her. Plus people calling my mobile.. anyhoo, i ust don't want to. I"ve said to her "i'll be focussed on other things'' and she counters "well your DH can call"... anyway i've tried nicely to put her off but she isn't getting the hint. What should i say??? (this is a very difficult woman to deal with and she's driving me nuts).
I can't keep up. Grub you are officially the winner! I'm never buying anything on the internet again. Still no computer and neither courier nor Dell know where in the ethos it has disappeared to. It sucks that we refuse to get upset at such things. I know people love to yell and rant at these moments but it never works for us, bad karma and we always end up feeling worse. When we had all our dramas being stuffed around with broken t.v and trying to organise repairs and delivery, instead of getting mad and spending hours on fruitless p*ssed off phone calls, (well to be fair, we did a bit of that over several months), but in the end I took the lovely new appliance and threw it out on the lawn in the rain. Problem solvered!
I simply can't believe all the D'ingTD going on in here!!! Are you sure you are all pregnant? I can count on one hand how many times I've DTD. It's was just too distressing to see blood each time in the first trimester, then I was too sick, then too sore and by third trimester, OMG, too tired! I couldn't go through with the dramas that followed. I'm still not back in the game 5 weeks after giving birth (yay Jazzy is 5 weeks old and 3 kilos!!) This is just a time in our lives when we are sitting on the sidelines and letting other things take priority. I am supremely jealous but I'm nearing the point of getting things back to normal. I still have a lot of the caesarian soreness some days worse than others. Here's a link to that inthe next line.
I never filled out that list of questions that was going around, but my main point to add would be for constipation. I don't think anyone mentioned pear juice. My mum works with oldies and told me about it in my last weeks of pg. I wish I"d known earlier, it kicks prune juice's bum for taste and get things going. In hospy (both hospys I went to) they gave me pear juice with every meal and soaked prunes in juice with my daily porridge. I still can't go without the porridge and prunes but note to new players, post birth, the lovely pear juice goes straight through your baby. Doh! Really bummed but have had to let it go now. I was so low on iron after the birth, I had transfusion in hosp. and put on really strong iron tablets that bung you up like you wouldn't believe and do I need to talk about colour of those rabbit droppings???? the pain nearly put me back in hospital after I;d left so you really have to manage it with more water than you can ever remember drinking and those soaked prunes, even a daily constitutional coffee. Really, look after your bowels or you will split yourself a new one. From experience, I know....ouchiiiiees!!!!
Grub, I found myself calling Jasmine, Grubby Bubby the other day when I looked down' and saw my milk sprayed all over her face (they're quite the little fire hydrants some days )...
LondonMiss, you picked up on your own freudian slip but I was having a chuckle about the pup walking the neighbours in the middle of the night. very cute. Oh who doesn't love a lab? I've had an 18 year relationship with my first golden and disappointingly, 12 years with my second (went way too early). As for your quaint turn of phrase in describing your man farts, you outdid Grub in that department.
airline, fingers crossed for you. You are doing so well and hope you have the news you are waiting for very soon.
Jasmine is going really well, still little, still get stopped by everyone in the street as babies just draw people and it's quite lovely for the most part. sometimes I just have to put my head down and not make eye contact as you know someone just has to see your baby and you have to tellthem for the 16th time today her weight and age. I feel like it's nice to give back to people. At the pub last night, 2 old bar flies were so clucky and just asking all the questions like little old ladies but they were men, tickling her feet and doing all the guesses about age etc. Quite cute. what a leveller a little newborn life is.
Grub, all the luck in the world mate. Thinking of you all, huge hugs xoxoxox
Grub: the day is here! Hope you're limbering up to avoid any unnecessary injuries
As for the mother, well just don't ring her. If she wants reasons tell her you weren't sure what exactly was happening and didn't want to worry her unnecessarily and by the time you realised it was too late and DH wasn't going anywhere. Or maybe say one of the midwives offered to call her so DH wouldn't have to leave but they were unable to get through or got caught up with another patient or something. And if all else fails, and she starts complaining, just simply roll your eyes and say “Mum, come on, do you honestly think the only thing on my mind in the middle of labour was who I should be calling?” Remember this is the one time in your life you can behave completely irrationally without question and get away with it
LM: I think they DEFINITELY realise something is going on, although may not be sure exactly what. From about 5 weeks my furbaby started constantly sniffing me, especially my pulse points, wrist, elbows etc. All the time. I'm sure she could smell the change in my hormones. Then she became very protective & wouldn't leave my side. Then when my bump appeared she started laying across my lap & using bump as her personal pillow (until she copped a kick to the head LOL). Now she just thinks my pillow nest is especially for her, and when I lie down for a nap she insists on laying in front of me, up against the bump cuddling into me. Her back legs twitch when she sleeps so sometimes I have her kicking me from the outside and Cookie kicking me from the inside at the same time. So cute! Although she's not impressed that she barely fits on my lap anymore, I often get dirty looks
Happy to say girls that I went back to bed and got another 2hrs in so now it's off to tackle the housework! Have a good Friday (well we all know grub will hehehe)
Murph - you are so right..... I have to say LTTTC is just about a killer for marital relations, and I'm loving it right now, it becomes so timed and predictable. **********WTMI****************** (w = way) we did it in the kitchen the other day I'm loving not bloody trying anymore! It was super, but probably nothing like what's going to be going on in the Grub Household tonight
(I'm sat here grinning at work, I'd forgotten about this... nice thoughts )
OMG haha I havnt been on here one day and you are all blabbermuffins!!
LM -=- How in the world did your proivate cover screw up so much.. I wouldve given them some mouth for that! But at least your in the Royal womens Ive heard they are pretty good.. One of my gf's had her little one there, and she was happy Im not too far away actually hehe having mine at the Mater Mothers. As for thinking about maternity clothes early.. I think its a great idea.. You know how just above your pelvis gets really hard and tender? Wearing the stretchy pants early makes that so much more comfy especialy if your working. Good luck with the scan on Tuesday! I have my 20 week one this wednesday comeing. HAHA at furbaby licking your tummy! They say children and dogs are meant for each other.. She/hes just getting a head start!
Mrs Slider -=- Sorry to hear your still tired and sick. I know what you mean about it being so hard to take in after so long ttc.. Especially when your so early because you really dont feel much difference.. Other then feeling like youve got food poisening every morning and havnt slept for a month.
Greenslaw -=- Good to hear theres no diabetes. And especially good everything is fine with you and bubs! Ive never been to an antenatal class (yes i know naughty ol me) But during my last labour I found standing during contractions, leaning over with my hands flat on the bed and rocking my hips really helped.. especially when my mum (who was at the labour) stood behind me and held onto my hips while i focused on breathing.. Also I had a hot shower on my lower back towards the end with the midwife, the heat was soothing.. and between contractins i was also sipping an up n go for energy.. by the time he was coming laying on my back closing my eyes and just thinking a positivly as i could and screaming when i found control again helped haha.. your right everyone is different.. but hope this might help in some way anyway
Lise -=- that is so rude! did they even stop to think you may have been waiting for the 12 week mark before telling everyone! you poor thing im sorry you didnt get to spread the news yourself.. I think sometimes people get so excited they forget there manners and act without thinking.. I think you should point out why thats upset you to them and have it known that it was not ok! hopefully they will realise and you can get a sincere apology out of them and try to move on.. something im still trying to get out of my mother for abusing my husband while we were on the way to the hospital bleeding after 2 mc's before.. and you know what for.. because I couldnt drive around and help her out at the last minute for things she wanted that day.. We still arnt talking and her arrogance and selfishness poisens me with frustration everyday.. but eventually I think she will come around.. If she doesnt want to miss out on her family over such a trivial thing!
BOC-=- Sleeping at night can be really hard, Have you tried investing in a body pillow? I had awful backpain this time around and the body pillow I got has really helped! As for sick people being jerks and disregarding the babiesand kids and pregnant women.. It sickens me, and I know it all to well.. The hospital I had my DS in was terrible and they let in so many sick people to visit the babies. THere were 4 babies and mothers in each room and about 5 visitor s to each one, and id be hiding in the corner while they all coughed and splattered all over everything.. Disgusting!
GRUB -=- Your furbaby licks the carpet?? LOL that is weird, but the kindof thing you would miss if s/he wasnt around.. That made me giggle tho..
I have to agree people are rude idiots LOL.. Good n you putting the hard word on your parents.. Unfortunately not everyone gets that.. They really should tho, your right it IS your news not theres.
WOOT for DH comeing home! Have a good one hun! thinking of you xx
I know it would sound bad.. But if she isnt going to stop ranting about it.. Maybe just pretend you didnt get the message? Or just tell her when hes born and if she complains just say you were too busy and caught up in the moment at the time.. She should be too happy the baby was born healthy and happy to be *****ing about not calling her ..
Pheew... Hi to everyone else sorry if I missed you.. Al this writing is takeing away from DS time so i really need to wrap it up..
AFM -=- I ended up writing my mother a long letter... 22 Pages long to be exact.. Moreof a book. In it I tried not to attack her, but instead point out exactly how invisable and desregarded she has made me feel the last two years.. I explained that I have a growing family now and I need her respect and support us if she wants to be a part of it.. I told her in it i miss who I know she can be and i detest the fact that she is away from all of us because of such a silly reason.. I told her too that I really hate the way she acted towards us and I expect an apology from her and for her to think before she acts from now on rather then putting herself first and only all the time.. That she needs to treat my husband nicer and stop acting like hes stolen me away from her.. and to help us out more rather then trying to act like a carefree woman with no responsibilities or obligations to us (shes never taken DS for us once) I dont know when or how to give it to her because we havnt spoken in months.. But I thinkits something that has to happen regardless of whether it will solve anything.. She needs to know how I feel
Nice. So not only is she unnecessarily inflicting gastro on to 30-odd babies & preschoolers, but there are also 9 pregnant women in the room too! Some people are so selfish!
Lise - how bloody irritating and how rude! Some of the people I've told have wanted to tell other people, and I don't think they realise I've told them early as a privilege, not in their capacity of town crier! I got very stroppy with one and said that no one else is to know until after my next scan and I'd be really cross with anyone who said anything... why can't people just respect that! Honestly 
! Not that i slept that well. Swollen hands are killing me and the relaxin is causing heaps of hip/back pain when i lay down (overstretching all my bits). Hope the day doesn't drag out too much. But i have to do the groceries and have one Painting left to do! so hope that helps pass the time.
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the day is here! Hope you're limbering up to avoid any unnecessary injuries 
so now it's off to tackle the housework! Have a good Friday (well we all know grub will 
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I'm loving not bloody trying anymore! It was super, but probably nothing like what's going to be going on in the Grub Household tonight
im sorry you didnt get to spread the news yourself.. I think sometimes people get so excited they forget there manners and act without thinking.. I think you should point out why thats upset you to them and have it known that it was not ok! hopefully they will realise and you can get a sincere apology out of them and try to move on.. something im still trying to get out of my mother for abusing my husband while we were on the way to the hospital bleeding after 2 mc's before.. and you know what for.. because I couldnt drive around and help her out at the last minute for things she wanted that day.. We still arnt talking and her arrogance and selfishness poisens me with frustration everyday.. but eventually I think she will come around.. If she doesnt want to miss out on her family over such a trivial thing!
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