A quicky to say hope you are okay PoppyFairy and the nappies you asked about are not wonderoos, they are an all in one Itty Bitty D'lish. they are quite a small size so watch that if you have a regular size bub. The smallest size will last Jasmine for a while yet but not most. they are just gorgeous and wash up well with no special care,lovely and fluffy and definately delish
I will check in to see how you are fairing. take care.
Wantbaby, thinking of you and your scan tomorrow and hope your mum is okay too.
lil miss - thanks for the info on induction. I am being induced at 37 weeks and had no idea what it involved. Will talk to ob about it tomorrow. Finished my holiday trash reading today. Nicholas sparks The Last Song OMG read with a box of tissues I was sobbing for hours. Oh well of to bed I go Goodnight and belly rubs.
Happy to report the tests and monitoring today were all good. There was ++ protein in my urine but more importantly my bloods came back normal. My blood pressure is still high for me but they are not diagnosing preeclampsia. The baby was very good and active on the monitor (I was very proud!!) I have to do a 24 hour urine test just so they can pin point the cause of the protein and they will do all the bloods and monitoring again on Thursday but at this point I am back on track for baby deciding when he comes and me having a go at hypno/calm birthing him without any intervention.
Londonmiss- chips and curry sauce is devine!! Might have some tonight from our local Chinese chippy!! Got you jealous now haven't I? LOL!!!!!
Wantbaby - not sure about the timezone difference (always get it wrong!!) but you must be near to having your scan soon. Good luck!!!
Got to go have another raspberrry leaf tea and then squat for a bit somewhere thinking downward pressure thoughts! Bellyrubs everyone!
Ok girls, a bit of a question for you, having a little DH dilemma at the moment. Regarding the labour & post-birth.
I don't want to be telling anyone other than DH & my parents when I go into labour, they need to be there of course but I don't want other people calling or "popping in" to the hospital while I'm in labour, or ringing becasue they think it's been long enough and we should be telling them the news. I also don't want anyone visiting us on the first day post-birth either, I want time to rest up, recover and bond with our baby privately, and to attempt to establish BF before the hordes arrive. I want to stipulate to DH when he sends the arrival text message to tell people "visitors welcome from tomorrow".
This is my dilemma, my DH does not see the "big deal" about either (of course he doesn't, it's not him going through it all!) things have changed a lot in the last 27 years since his son was born and he just doesn't get how it's done now. He thinks it would be quite normal to have a waiting room full of people while I'm in delivering and to have visitors straight away after the birth and wouldn't see the big deal in a stack of people sitting there watching me trying to establish BF (which for me IS a big deal, I can't do any new things with people watching me, let alone this. When I'm learning I have to be left on my own and discover it my own way)
He also has a REALLY bad habit of refusing to "be told" i.e. if I say to do things a certain way, then that's the last thing he will do, he will go as out of his way as he has to to prove the point. Especially if he doesn't understand or agree with my reasons why.
He also refuses to discuss the matters now as it's "too early" or even ahead of time at all, and just fobs me off with "we'll see what happens on the day" which translates into "I'll wait til you're in labour and can't do anything about it and just go ahead and do it my way".
So I really don't know how I'm going to get around all this and make him respect my wishes. Any suggestions? Grub did they cover this one at the NPH antenatal classes? I think if the suggestions came from a professional he might listen.
I know how you feel about wanting time after delivery to bond with bubs. I told my DH that his parents could not come into hossy while we were in surgery (as we had the elective c/s) and that they had to wait at home until they were told they could come to visit as I didn't know how I would be after delivery (my parent were insterstate when Tara was born). Once we were at the hospital it seemed to become more real for DH and he wasn't going to go against what I wanted, but I also told the midwives what I wanted and they were more than happy to act as "bouncers" if necessary to keep people out. I think in most Australian hospitals they also don't like a circus of people coimg and going while you are in labour (not like you see on TV with American hospitals) as this can have a negative influence on you.
You might find that once it all starts happening for you that your DH may not have enough time to let everyone know what is going on, as you said 27 years is a big gap and I'm sure he will be playing a more active role during your labour and won't get the time to be making phone calls or sending text messages. I hope you can get him to see your side before the big day, and maybe you could chat to the midwife at your anti natal classes for them to share there opinion.
hey girls,
i've been trying to get on and keep up but only get halfway there most days! lol.
boc - yep they cover this pretty well in the classes. and pretty much say it's your time and no one elses. I would be gettig the cranks big time with DH... he's not the one whose body has taken it all through AC/TCC and pregnancy and then labour and birth. HE doesn't get a say in this one i'm sorry, in my opinion. I know when i was in labour the nicities and trying to be polite or appease anyone else went out the window...my stress balls became projectiles and i told DH to shove "his effing balls'' during transition (i would never usally talk to my honey like that)... he complied with my orders.
poppy fairy you are my friend! lol. hope everything clears up for you love.
oh dear, bub is stirrig, nearly got persies done.
BF is coming along. he hasn' had a bottle for more than 24hrs now! but we re both still learning. i hope i'll be more proficient soon! but i have oodles of milk
had our outing the other day, sssooo glad i bought a hug-a-bub! the other million dollar item was the electric breast pump! it's paid for itself.
must go... thanks for all the comments about Ash. i completely agree! he's gorgeous lol.
oxox
Hey BOC, just got a minute before Jasmine discovers no milk is gonna come out of her doll's foot and turn a bit cranky
that's quite a serious dilemma. Sometimes you have to get the situation really calm and absolutely make your needs clear to your DH. He must care or you wouldn't be with him, but sometimes people are so set in their ways or convinced things will come round in the end that they just don't hear you. So in no uncertain terms, I would be saying"this is really important to me" and anything less is a deal breaker.
I just had an issue with my MIL suddenly deciding her new husband is to be called Grandpa...no way, never, not gonna happen. He will be known by his own name and nothing that links him to our child. He's not even a father, let alone our father. I felt like DH wasn't that in my corner and maybe thinking I was being nasty because I don't respect his mum for the way she raised him (neglected him). I think with the weight of support from the girls I talked to on BB I faced him down and told him how important it was to me. He's not known for being difficult but I needed his total support unreservedly. He ended up saying, he doesn't necessarily understand or agree but he knows it is important to me and he will support my decision fully. we also got to the bottom of some issues of outrage I have with his mother and it was a healthy exercise, I will never understand or forgive her for the way she raised DH and he knows that she and I are so diabolically opposed in the way we make decisions. I value the mother role above all else in life and can't understand her at all, but anyway, it's so nice that he respects that I won't budge on this issue. I hope that you are able to make your DH really "hear" how important this is to you. Consider your words and your voice and really get through to him on the right level and he will come around.
by the way, i am not ignoring my poor deluded little girl, i am now multitasking (again)
in my experience with my c/s, i had no idea what day it was when i had my first visitors and it was only looking back at photos that i realise my mum and sister came up to see us only hours later. in my case, i am so close to them and discussed it with dh before hand that he could make the decision at the time depending on how he felt. so they were very discreet, the kids were left at the hotel (as they were visiting from out of town) and they just popped in for a quick cuddle and congrats. Jasmine and Idid the latching thing and crawl in recovery and dh spent more time bonding with her than me because he spent all night doing the nurse's job wheeling her back and forth between the special care unit and the ward. it's a time when you need that peace of mind to know that your wishes are respected and you can relax.
by the way girls, you should be warned that those pesky midwives come around at any time of the day or night the whole time you are in hospital to see how you are latching, etc,so prepare for the booby show! i hated it and it nearly did my head in, but if you expect it you can deal with it better and don't come out swinging like i nearly did. there were so many of them and it would shoo your visitors away when you just wanted to be with them and i was much better with just dh and i, relaxed and alone as usual. i'm totally the same, can't perform under pressure,but i'm a champ at the discreet feed now (even in front of my crusty old dad)
well i broke my record for shortest post lastnight so it's to be expected that i offload another novel of a post good luck with that conversation BOC
BOC - I hear you, with DS My MIL wanted to be at the hospital waiting. No way I didnt want a bar of it. Anyway Campbell was wisked away to NICU and she didnt get to see him for 3 days, Like everyone else. This time we have the added drama that we want Campbell to have time with the new baby before anyone else comes. I really dont like my MIL and have now learnt that she is a very selfish person. Me and Mine come first. DH supported me and had it out with his mother and this time he will just tell her what is happening.
AFM - had an hour of really strong contractions and 1 oclock this morning was just starting to panic when they eased off, with the help of some pain killers. Will discuss these with OB today. Let you know what she says.
BOC - hmm tricky one. I have a very stubborn DH myself and can see where you are coming from. I'm not there yet, but the two things that had occured to me are a) I plan on telling people that mobile phones are not allowed in the labour ward, ie. it will be switched off. If they must have news they can ring the hospital direct. Who of course won't tell them anything other than 'She's in labour'. This is more pertinent to me, as all my family will be in the UK and unlikely to turn up for a spectator show.
The other one is that I plan to tell friends openly that I don't want any callers whilst I'm there, and that the nurses won't be letting in anyone than X and Y (let them look like the bad guys), and when the baby is born, we'll text you the visiting hours. Once you are home, it's a bit harder unless you don't answer the doorbell! You could always say to people who insist on turning up that you'd really appreciate it if they would go and fetch you some nappies/ milk/ vodka (wishful thinking) or something if you need to BF and get them out for a walk. Good luck with making him see your point of view. Thanks for asking the question, DH and I have just sat and discussed it over lunch!
Poppyfairy google is good but you have the best people to ask at your hospital. Use them. Hope all is ok today. just read second post well done and
Wantbaby hope your mum is ok.
Saph that sounds very uncomfortable. did you ever get a support belt? Saph I'm having the same conversation with my OB in an hour re contractions vs braxton hicks.
Oh Londonmiss that is so heartbreaking isn't it. I'd like to say I've never seen that but "sigh" I have or at least similar.
Boc I'm sure you gave me some great words of wisdom re my MIL and my birth. IT's YOU're Day and YOU have the final SAY No Matter what. DH needs to tow the line.
ATM HOT. Off to the OB Dh is working and may not be there "sulk" but I guess that is life, if I didn't have to go out in this heat I wouldn't!
Poppyfairy~ i do hope that all turns out well for you.Im sure it will.Im thinking of you.
Hoping everyone else is doing well and has a great New Years Eve.I have just found out that my dh just bought tickets at $100pp for the pair of us to go to a new years celebration at a restauurant in Cronulla.We have to wear white.Luckily i recently bought a lovely white maxi strapless maxi dress which looks very roman'ish. Can wear that but am dreading going out actually.Ive become so boring the past 9 weeks,having left the house only 4 times to go shopping.I havent eaten chocolate or even been intimate for 7 weeks!! Driving dh mad,i am.I just am soooooo tired.I cant be bothered.
Anyhow hoping everyone else has a great time.
WELL..... I had my 9 week scan and it was BEAUTIFUL!!! Everything looked fabulous and the heartbeat was sooooo fast and strong.The difference in 2 weeks is amazing.Last time we were calling 'him' Tic Tac because he was half the size of one and shaped like one...this time 'he' was big,fat and looked like a giant peanut with little arms and legs.Oh it was amazing.The specialist said the baby looked very healthy and i now have 2 little pics for my album.
Im so glad that it turned out.Im now booked in for my first prenatal visit.A bit shocked at the costs involved though! Wow! So no more IVF care.Im just a regular pregnant woman,and couldnt be happier. DH missed it as he couldnt get time off work so i rubbed it in and he is on his way home soon with gourmet chicken/vege pizza.Im sure he will be so excited to see a pic that actually 'looks' like a baby now.
Well Happy New year everyone..again.Love Alicia.x
BOC~ Are you sure we dont have the same husband?? LOL My hubby does EVERYTHING HIS way and never listens to me.When i had my son,most people called the hospital and were told "She is still in labour".When i came down from recovery (emergency c sec) my room was FULL of people..Sooo annoying and i was swollen up like a balloon as i had a allergic reaction to morphine so make sure you put your foot down on this one.Im sure he will be too busy anyway to text people but if you dont trust that he will respect your decision for privacy,simply flush his mobile down the toilet.That should buy some more time.
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Thanks for all the advice girls. I agree with you all, it's totally my call. I just want it all sorted out beforehand, cause I don't want to be fighting on the day (and just secretly, he was married for about 25 years to a woman that screamed and ranted and raved at him day in & day out so I doubt me yelling at him during labour would make much difference ) I thought of grabbing his phone and throwing it across the room mid-contraction hoping it would smash but then I remembered it's one of those unbreakable tradie models that can be run over by a 12 tonne truck and remain unscathed
But I DO plan on getting the midwives clued in on my plans and let them be the nasty ones. I also broached the subject again on the way home from dinner tonight, in a real nonchalant way and used my cousin as an example, i.e "Liz is planning on not having anyone there either and her midwives have said they will keep people out and tell those who call not to come for a couple of days until she's had a chance to rest, recover and establish breastfeeding so I think I might do the same. Cause you know the first couple of days I'm just gonna be totally wiped out and need to recover, know what I mean?" and then said "Anyway I think they cover all this in the antenatal classes and tell us what to do so I guess we'll find out in a couple of weeks" and he was a bit "Oh ok then" so it worked!
I am also thinking of setting up a list of people who want to be called when the baby comes, and when I ask them all beforehand if they want to be on the list I will tell them we won't be telling anyone when we go in and not to expect to come visit for a couple of days so they are aware upfront. Thanks to whoever suggested that.
And if all else fails, I will get my mother to tell him "how it's done" *evil grin*. He usually listens to her (actually sometimes I'll tell him something and he'll totally ignore me so I ask Mum to tell him and she suggests it and suddenly it's a wonderful idea! ) Ugh MEN!
Wantbaby: Good to hear about your scan! How lovely to see your little peanut!
Green & LM: I saw a beauty today, a Mum & Dad bending over trying to strap a case of VB into the stroller while the barely-walking toddler stood beside them crying to be picked up, only to cop a whack over the head and be told to "shut the f@#% up and walk". The parents then cracked a stubby each and walked off leaving him to follow them. Kinda makes you wish there was some kind of eligibility test for becoming parents doesn't it!
Grub: Glad you love your hug-a-bub! I haven't heard a whole lot of feedback about them, but what I have heard has been positive. I scored big time and got one on eBay for $60! It looks brand new, no fading or marks or anything! I've had a few practices with a stuffed bunny and even once tested the pea ion a pod position with the furbaby and was so surprised how easy they were to operate! What colour is yours? Mine is the berry/hazelnut.
Poppy: Excellent news on your results!
Well I must head off and go to bed. We went out for dinner and I stuffed myself stupid on a kids-size dinner. Can't believe that's all it takes these days. I also have a major case of hayfever and cause I'm so full every time I sneeze I feel like my belly is going to explode. That and I have to run to the toilet so I might go lay down and let it settle.
Thank you again for all your advice! Hope you all have a great NYE!
Well a me post sorry but very excited. We have booked in for our induction and baby is to have the fourth of feb for his birthday. Very excited. I to had to lay down the law today about no visitor until the day after. Was a bit surprised that i even had to do it. I just want time with the new baby and for Campbell to bond with his new brother, the rest can come on friday. It's a bit harder having someone drop Campbell off at hospital but telling them to bugger off but that is what I am going to do. Our hossy has very strict visiting hours 3-8 pm so that is great.
Oh dont have a hernia just some pulled muscles so now have a tummy support as well as my pelvic brace. Very hot.
Poppy = I asked what being induced involves. This is the essence of what was said. Gel on cervics if required, waters broken and drugs to get it all going. We are going arrgressively as I am going to have an epidural before it all starts because of my pelvis. Very similar to what I had with Campbell except I was already in labour and didn't have the gel.
Green - braxton hicks/contractions is what they are having. she said that if they are really intence that will lead to a good labour. I cant believe you are still working. You must be superwoman.
Hi ladies
I just had to pop in and share my exciting news. We are having Twins!!! We are both in shock and still cant believe our luck. DH's dream has always been to have twins but we never thought it would really happen. Was so amazing to see them both on the screen and to see the two strong heartbeats. We are in love. On such a high!
Will be back later for personals. Hope everyone is doing really well.
OMG! Paula! Happy can't even begin to describe how I feel for you and DH - to see not only 1, but 2 beautiful strong heartbeats... WOW!!!! Best Christmas/NY pressie ever!
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. there were so many of them and it would shoo your visitors away when you just wanted to be with them and i was much better with just dh and i, relaxed and alone as usual. i'm totally the same, can't perform under pressure,but i'm a champ at the discreet feed now (even in front of my crusty old dad)
good luck with that conversation BOC
google is good but you have the best people to ask at your hospital. Use them. Hope all is ok today.
just read second post well done and
) I thought of grabbing his phone and throwing it across the room mid-contraction hoping it would smash but then I remembered it's one of those unbreakable tradie models that can be run over by a 12 tonne truck and remain unscathed
it worked!
) Ugh MEN!
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