Congratulations Mon!! It's always lovely to see a LTTTC'er joining in!!
I think Buddy is having a growth spurt. Have had lots of aches and stretching pains the last couple of days and have been having way too many nana naps. No idea how I am going to go at work next week after 2 weeks off. Sorry for no personals. So tired I can barely think straight tonight.
Funny that we have been discussing it....the checking everytime we go to the loo.
Well, It's happened to me. The dreaded blood spot at 6 this morning. It's not a lot, but it's definitely there. I called the birthing suite as instructed by my OB. They said to hang tight and see if there is anymore/stops/gets heavier.
I'm trying not to panic - in fact trying not to think about it until it's time to go check again.
I've had nothing more so far. Not sure that I will be able to sleep too good tonight. *sigh*.
How is everyone else anyway? TL - did those maternity clothes go alright? I'm dubious about buying off the internet. I am pear shaped naturally and find it difficult to buy skirts, trousers, dresses because of my big-butt. How do you know the clothes will fit/look good?
MON!!! So happy to see you here! Must have missed something because it was a complete surprise to me, but I must say that it's an absolutely WONDERFUL surprise anyway!
Nixon, I hope the spotting goes away and never comes back. I had a small episode at 17 weeks that my OB could never find a source for it and there's been nothing since.
With maternity clothing... I've bought a lot online and had very few problems. Because they are generally much looser around the belly area getting them to fit is heaps easier.
Sweets - I wish I could say something that would make it easier. You need to be angry, sad, bitter, numb and the horrible part is you have to allow yourself to feel it all.
If you have a brick wall in your drive way I suggest purchasing some cheap plates and smashing them or getting some sort of punching bag and give it a good beating. I need a physical release in times of high emotional distress.
Is DH ok? I hope you are both able to support each other at the moment. It can be hard sometimes because boys sometimes don't get it. The pressure we put on ourselves to be career women, mothers, lovers, best friends, sisters, aunty and to be the best in all areas. They sometimes don't get how responsible we feel for our families and friends and I really hope that you are not blaming yourself for this sweetheart.
Nixon, I think it was you who asked how DH is- he's obviously really upset also and a bit angry and bitter too.
Having said that, we deal with these things very differently, and it does sometimes make it hard for me. He doesn't say much about how he's feeling, or express much, and i am very emotional and a big talker. So sometimes I feel a bit isolated and separate from him, even though I know he hurts too and is also upset to see me so upset. Plus, he doesn't get as upset as I do...I think it's different when you are the woman and the baby is inside you. He is more able to recover quickly and move on (we experienced this with our earlier loss this year and also during IVF).
Can any of you relate to this...? It would be easier for me if he was crying alongside me.
Possums, my DH won't allow me to see him in pain very often - i can see it in his eyes, but he won't openly grieve unless i have fallen apart and have pretty much walked away from him cos i think he's not there for me. i know he feels the pain, but he won't express it at all as he feels he needs to be strong for me. i don't agree, but hey, i can't change who he is! the only time he allows me to see him vulnerable is about his parents, and his dogs - because that is HIS pain and i can be the strong one then - when it's OUR pain, he tries to be my rock - sometimes i need him to be soft and squishy and not so rock-like though...
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It's always lovely to see a LTTTC'er joining in!!
Must have missed something because it was a complete surprise to me, but I must say that it's an absolutely WONDERFUL surprise anyway!
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