Just a quick one becuase I'm at work and I was just going to do a quick skim read, but there was something I wanted to mention about the whole furniture/people not understanding thing....
Bascially when we were doing IVF all our friends & immediate family knew. It was a nightmare...constant calls asking about progress...constant reassurances etc. I think that was becuase it was big, scary IVF and big scary fertility issues.
No though we hardly hear boo from anyone asking us how things are going. Every now and then I'll get a 'how are you feeling? Any m/s yet? So it feels very strange to be left alone in this now by all and sundry. I think it's cause now ' we're just like the "normal" pregnant women '. It is easy for friends and family to forget how we got here.
Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining. I think it is just that our friends and family will NEVER really understand what those days were like wondering if it will happen, injecting, BT's, scans, appointments, disappointments, acupuncture, praying, crying, stressing.
So, I think now that we have all managed to get that BFP we have all dreamt of....our friends and familys kind of look at it different to us. They don't see the special new furniture as something that has been a part of a dream for so long, they may mistakenly see it as an expense that not necessary.
I'm not taking BG's family side in this - I too will be purchasing new for my little squid, but maybe all you need to do is sit them down and really explain to them what it has been like and why (at least for the first) you want to buy things new.
I know that I have never truely sat any of my friends and family down and told them blow by blow what it was like. I couldn't have. I think if I had spoken the heart ache it would have made it impossibly real and too hard to go on.
Anyway - I don't know - you guys may have made your journeys very clear to your friends and families. I didn't and just thought it might be an explanation as to why they are so not understanding where you are coming from.
Possums - take care babe. Focus on the positive for now. Thinking of you.
Everyone else - sorry for the lack of personals. I really have to get back to work.
Nixon- i can relate to much of what you said, because our friends and family all knew about IVF too...and now we don't get many questions about how things are...and yet to us, and me especially, this still feels HUGE and exciting and scary and like a fragile miracle.
thanks for your encouragement to me too
afm....well, I rang my ob (not related to my ivf clinic, but the guy i saw before IVF) and they said, "if you are worried come in for an early scan"...then rang back, and said I could come in tomorrow at 4pm!!!! OMG. So soon. I am now a nervous wreck. I sooo want everything to be OK in there. Am excitied and terrified to be honest.
Is this too soon?? I'll be 6 weeks 5 days...has anyone else had a scan that early?
Possums I had my first scan at 6 weeks 3 days and saw a wonderful Heart Beat and a baby that looked a bit like a worm! This was actually my FS scan to check everything was in the right place.
I think this is such a good idea to set your mind at ease.
First pregancy - heartbeat detected at 6w5d. This pregnancy, heartbeat detected at 6w3d.
Apparently with an internal ultrasound they can detect a heartbeat from 6 weeks onwards. It can be a little later if they only have abdominal whatsies (can't think of the name now!), but at the very least, they will be able to measure the gestational sack and see if that's the right size for dates.
Good luck! We're going away tomorrow, so I won't be able to find out how things went until late Monday night/early Tuesday. I'll be praying for you and thinking of you while I'm away.
I've discovered the reason behind my anemia... it's kinda scary. Latest blog entry, I'm too tired to post it here as well. Lets just say that I'll be biting my nails until I can contact my specialists!
Possums good luck with your U/S tomorrow, hope everything is perfect!
I had a 6 week U/S with my pregnancy for DD, and got a great pic of a dot, and heard the heartbeat.
Very exciting. Fingers crossed everything is OK and you can start the weekend on a positive note
My U/S is end of next week, so I am looking forward to it too. Will probably tell our parents after that. No one knows we did IVF, so it will be a complete suprise to announce a pregnancy, esp after them knowing we have been having difficulty conceiving. I think we are probably in the minority with this, but we had to do what made us comfortable and we chose to keep it to ourselves. It was hard on some ways not having people to talk to about it, but on the other hand we didnt get people constantly asking. Each way has its pros and cons I guess.
I am excited tomorrow is Friday and the week is over, have been so UNMOTIVATED at work!
Possums - my scan is tomorrow AM - and i'll be, at best, 6w2d - my clinic were more than happy with that....
Nixon - thanks for the comments hun - my bro and SIL have been with us for everything through this journey so i thought they'd be more understanding. they have been my primary support with DH working away... anyone else, i'd understand them not getting it, but this pair should! ah well, i still love 'em!
Woo Hoo for Scan Day.....all the very best today BG and Possum.....
LuckyStrike, I think I've been unmotivated at work since I found out last week let alone today is Friday Hope you are feeling well...I recon I'm still in a little shock!!
AFM, sorry to keep it short I have to go get ready for work for another day of Death By PowerPoint....
Hope you all have a great day and BRING ON THE LONG WEEKEND
Thanks for the support and encouragement ladies. I am nervous. I just hope everything is OK. I actually lost two babies last time...one ectopic and one in my uterus...and those scans were pretty depressing...suddenly the memories are flooding back in.
Good luck for your scan BG!
Nicole and Luckystrike- tell me about unmotivated at work!! I am right there with you- have been the same way since we got our BFP too
Hi everyone
Just a quicky wanted to say good luck to BG and Possums for the scans. Hate to rain on the parade but i really just wanted to give a word of warning, i had an early scan with DS 6weeks and 3 days i think and he had a very low HB (86bpm) hemmoraging and enlarged yolk sac. so i was very dubious about having an early scan again. Needless to say he is a healthy 5 year old now, but i can tell you the week in between till the next scan was a living hell the dr told me id MC, but i found out later it was just too early!! And is heart would just have been starting up.
Sorry dont want to be the bad guy but i just was very well forwarned about having an early scan and what to expect (its in a thread somewhere) i'd hate for you to panic today if things dont seem up to speed! it can be very normal not to get a HB till 7 weeks. In saying that i hope today is wonderful and you get to see your little bub thriving and doing well.
Hi ti everyone else !!!! Be on for personal later
thanks for the warning and advice Scooby. I guess that was my worry with going in so soon too. Here's hoping. I am really really nervous and trying to distract myself with work, which isn't really working!!!
Hey possums
Big i woudl say not to stress but i just remember that day so well! Esppicially after the ectopic as well, i know were your coming from, i was terrified going in for the scan and also so upset with myself as it should have been such an exciting day and i just couldnt get past my fear. It not nice! Sending you loads of cyber good vibes, have you got any "rescue remedy" that is my other little life saver.
Oh good luck i will be thinking of you and hanging out to hear your wonderful news this avo
Thanks so much Scooby, it's great knowing people here really do understand! I do have rescue remedy, but it's at home..! My DH keeps telling me to be calm and positive, but as you say, it's so hard getting past the fear
hi all - just got back from the scan (and a touch of shopping - and sharing with family!) - scan this morning was fantastic. was feeling very anxious - to the point of nausea being almost more than i could take! But, everything looking great. we're measuring a couple of days smaller than expected, but the clinic don't care at all - and we have a heartbeat! woo hoo!! i see the FS again in 10 days, but they don't seem to be stressing at all - HCG numbers are climbing as they should be, the Gremlin has a heartbeat - so everything is kicking along nicely
the guy doing the scan was a little concerned about the size of the ovary that i ovulated from - the left has a volume of 8.4ml, the right is 342ml - no wonder i've been getting niggles! i'm not too phased though - we knew it was enlarged before i triggered, so this is just something i need to be aware of
so, as it stands, it looks to be that we're due somewhere between May 28 and May 31 - i can deal with that window of time!
Hope you are feeling well...I recon I'm still in a little shock!!
i woudl say not to stress but i just remember that day so well! Esppicially after the ectopic as well, i know were your coming from, i was terrified going in for the scan and also so upset with myself as it should have been such an exciting day and i just couldnt get past my fear. It not nice! Sending you loads of cyber good vibes, have you got any "rescue remedy" that is my other little life saver. 
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