Pregnancy after LT TTC #16

[dreamrise659]

I got a bfn today after my first transfer (2nd stim cycle). Just wondering if there is anything you each did differently on your bfp cycle?? I am working out a plan of attack and any tips of what you think helped would be most welcome!N2l

Hi,
I had two cycles. One I only got one egg and therefore just a fresh transfer and it resulted in a chemical pregnancy. The 2nd I got 4 eggs - had two transferred fresh and then 2 transferred frozen - all BFN's.
I was working in a very stressful sitation at the time. A few weeks before what was going to be my last IVF attempt I quit my job and started a new lower stress one. I also had accupuncture. My blood pressure went back to my normal (which is actually low) whereas throughout the other cycles it had been "normal" which is actually high for me. The accupuncturist commented on how much better I was looking by the time I had my session with him just before egg pick up (compared to my first one a few weeks earlier). And I got my BFP. I truly believe in my case that stress was the major reason I wasn't getting pregnant (I had also done a year of donor insemination prior to IVF) and once I had got free of that stressful situation my body responded well.

don't know what your personal circumstances are like but if you have stress in your life it might be worth looking into what you can do to relieve it. :-)

Lori (single mum)
DD- 14yrs old (unplanned and we were using contraception - the best thing to ever happen to me)
Bub no.2 - due late August (over 4 years in the making).

[TaRhLi.]

OMG Airline: I know you are very busy now but how exciting that you will meet your little man so soon. I can't wait to hear your BA...

FREAK GIRLS this means I'm next on our list...

Kaybee: Yep some huge increase in size in the last 2 weeks, I can't believe so much can fit in such a small space lol..

Grub: DH is home sick today and I've been making sure he doses up on cold & flu tablets, I really don't think I could cope if I got sick or DD at the moment. I'm feeling for you love.

Possums, MH & DR: sending you all belly rubs. Can you believe how close you all are to being 1/2 way.

N2L: I wish I could tell you something that would make it happen but with my BFP for DD I went in with no expectations after having already had 1 fresh and 2 FET's. Although with her successful transfer I had just quit my job, been on a much needed holiday and we moved house 1 week before the transfer so I had other things to focus on as well. This time around I didn't think we would be successful at all so my thinking was more along the line of "I have to give it a go or I'll never know" but really wasn't expecting anything. So when we got a BFN with FET #4 I wasn't suprised but we went again as we still had frosties in the freezer and what do you know #5 was a double surprise. After the transfer life carried on as normal for us as I had a toddler to chase after and apart from being on progesterone (which is standard for my clinic) I did nothing different. Hopefully you will get you BFP very soon.

[Possums]

thinking of you airline

kelly- exciting and scary being next on the list!

N2L- this cycle i basically lowered my expectations, I had had a long break from IVF and had more balance back in my life...I also had a couple of great holidays not long before we started the cycle, so I went into it with less stress I believe. I did use acupuncture also, and just continued to do my normal activities/fitness etc and eat well. I dont know whether there is a reason why it worked this time, but I certainly felt calmer about it all than previously. wishing you the best of luck!

[Mindhugs]

You know what..................I have to add to the above posts that I had endured 2 gutwrenching IVF miscarriages last year and although we had one frostie left to use DH and I had resigned ourselves that perhaps this just wasn't in the cards for us. So I began moving on to a plan B. I applied for and was accepted into a very difficult uni course. Same week I got my 1st round offer I got my BFP, and this time it has stuck! So yes, there is something to be said for taking the stress and focus away from the whole IVF transfer thing. I agree with the girls. Add to that the usual acupuncture, supplements and exercise (plus a clinic that puts you on the progesterone pessaries) and.................

Good luck N2L. Pop in whenever you like and we all look forward to you joining us to share your wonderful pregnancy journey xoxo

[nothing2lose]

Thanks soooo much girls!!

I am devising a plan of attack...I am doing a natural FET this month so hopefully I will be back soon as a bone fide thread member!!!

Good luck to you all in your baby-growing

take care x

n2l

[Possums]

good luck N2L, hope to see you in here very soon

airline- thinking of you

[JBM]

n2L; hope you and i will both be in here together. i too am trying the less stress thing with a 4 day holiday with a friend (female) just before i start sniffing and jabbing. and acupuncture which i have been doing for about 3 years now and continued pregnancy vitamins and chinese fertility herbs.
now breathe and relax. lol
hi to all you preggers ladies too. i'll be seeing you in here soon. ;-)

[airline]

Hello girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm 'shouting' cos i'm sooo excited and happy!

On the 22nd march at 1658, my little boy arrived, lewis evan, weighing 3.450kg by c-section after a failed induction with no progression. He had a little fluid on his lungs so went to special care, but has been discharged just now to 'room' it with me - whoo hoo!! He is gorgeous, dh and i are very happy - understatement! Concerned about bf due to a reduction many years ago....but i seem to be doing ok, and midwives happy. Bursting with pride, and can't believe our dream finally came true. Did i mention how absolutely gorgeous he is?????!!!

To everyone who uses this forum, thank you for helping me over the very long timeline that was the ivf journey to get to this point today. Good luck to everyone, and i'll try and catch up again soon between dozing, feeding, eating myself, visitors, physio, cuddles etc.

Yeh for lewis!!!!!! ;-) xxx

[LizLemon]

Yay airline!!!! Big congrats! He sounds beautiful - and weighs exactly what my DS did. Perfect weight! Not too big, not too small. Enjoy every minute of it.

Sorry I've been a tad absent girls, have still been reading but have buried my head in the sand about being pregnant myself - it seems to make the stress easier. I'll update the "list" for the latest arrivals and will post it as a new thread. It should be easier for everyone to find then and SHOULD be easier for people to update themselves as they join the group.

Will come back soon for some more persies - just have to stop DS from destroying my pantry. He's currently throwing potatoes....

[TaRhLi.]

Congrats Airline and welcome to the big world little Lewis, enjoy your special time together.

[dreamrise659]

On the 22nd march at 1658, my little boy arrived, lewis evan, weighing 3.450kg by c-section after a failed induction with no progression. He had a little fluid on his lungs so went to special care, but has been discharged just now to 'room' it with me - whoo hoo!! He is gorgeous, dh and i are very happy - understatement! Concerned about bf due to a reduction many years ago....but i seem to be doing ok, and midwives happy. Bursting with pride, and can't believe our dream finally came true. Did i mention how absolutely gorgeous he is?????!!!
To everyone who uses this forum, thank you for helping me over the very long timeline that was the ivf journey to get to this point today. Good luck to everyone, and i'll try and catch up again soon between dozing, feeding, eating myself, visitors, physio, cuddles etc.

Congratulations on the birth of Lewis. Glad to hear he arrived safely and everything is going well.

Lori
DD - 14
Bub no.2 due 28th August.

[Aimee]

Hi Everyone!!!

Congratulations Airline! What lovely news, so glad you are enjoying lots of cuddles with your precious Lewis!!!!!!!!

hi everyone else - so sorry I have been so slack! I mainly hop on the computer at night, but have been exhausted and falling asleep early and brain has not wanted to do more typing - i often have to do work related emails in the day.

Glad to hear everyone is going well though and hoping to see JBM and nothing2lose soon.

I am 18 weeks now and just counting down the days till my scan next week! excited and nervous. I hate the month long wait between visits!

Hopefully I can manage to catch up with everyone this time - my last attempt was a failure. We still haven't told many people but its getting quite obvious. Does anyone remember how much weight they put on in the first 20 weeks of pregnancy - I feel my weight is all in my bum! Can feel some little kicks now so thats exciting but worrying on the other hand when baby rests, but I guess its still early.

Hope you're all having a good week!

[WeeMansMummy]

Congratz Airline!!!!
I'm so excited for you!
Your post brought tears to my eyes.
Enjoy your wee man.
xoxo

[grub17]

lol bugs mum. I locked my pantry... but have to go searching the house for various pieces of tupperware! gotta love those cheeky toddlers.

AIRLINE - huge congrats on lewis' arrival!!! I am loving the name and enjoy all those cuddles!!! hope your BF journey goes well and can't wait for you to tell us some more sweetie. OH, that's such great news, I"m exctied too after your post!!!!

da-dum; da-dum; da-dum (think the Jaws theme lol) ... and it's coming for you kelly!!! hahahaha. I hope you are well. How are you coping this week??? the countdown is in single digits now love so hang in there!!!

aimee - with my first pregnancy i didn't put on a huge amount of weight til the last month ... probably about 8 to 10kgs up til then. This time I swear I packed on 20kg the day of my BFP! As for your bottom, yes... well, my bum is still coming round the corner when i'm in the next room it's that freaking huge... but hey, it matches my thighs. UGH. Are you well apart from being tired???

jbm - lovely, lovely lady. I soooo wnt you in here too! fingers crossed.

Possums - how are you going??

well i've got a virus, a flu i think and kindly shared ti with my family. but they aren't as bad as I am - i have an awful chesty cough and last night was the first good night's sleep i've had in at least a week. I think it was more exhaustion than anything else tho! but my little terror has it too, so hopefully he can fight it off better than me as nothing is worse than a sick baby

DH is home sick this week from work as well. so just a couple of movies and eating crap food cos we can't be bothered cooking.

better run, i can hear dh trying to have a rational conversation with a 15 month old... and it's going to end in tears! "no ashton, you can't carry your bottle around the house and spill milk out. it makes a mess and daddy has to clean it .. blah blah blah come back, Ash, here... ashton etc etc"... Lol Good luck with that one honey!!!

oxox

[dreamrise659]

Hi everyone,

Grub, sorry to hear you and the rest of your family are sick... hope you feel better soon.

Kelly, hope everything is still going well and those twins are hanging in there so they can be born in Ballarat.

AFM: Well I had my first "proper" appointment at the hospital today. Saw the midwife and she had a student with her who is actually the mother of one of my daughter's old school friends so that was a little weird to start with but okay. Then saw the dr to see if the pregnancy will be recorded as low risk so I can go through the midwife clinic. He had a feel around of my tummy and said "Yep another beautiful girl". I said "A girl? I was thinking it was a boy?" And he said "you don't want a boy. They can be such handfuls. Girls are cute." I didn't say anything because the truth is I desperately want it to be a girl but feel 80% sure it is a boy so it's not that I want a boy it's just that I feel like that's what it is. When I got home I told my mum what the Dr said and mum asked if I asked him why he thinks it's a girl (as when she was pregnant with my brother her Dr was sure he was a boy from her first appointment with him - at around 20 weeks and he was right). But I didn't ask the Dr why he thought it was a girl. Now I'm really anxious for my 20 week scan on the 11th of April and hope I can find out for sure then.
Apparently my Dad thinks it's a girl but my mum said she has no feeling either way and as I said I think it's a boy. With my daughter my mum and I were both convinced she was a girl (and we were right) and my Dad didn't have a feeling either way.

Anyway it was quite bizzare because the Dr asked what I do job wise and I said "I'm currently doing family day care. I look after these 2 girls and their brother who is currently at kinder and their sister who is at school". And he said "And what do you want to do with the rest of your life?" I was quite thrown by this as many women do family day care for decades and could be offended by his implication that it isn't a "proper" job. I just said "I don't really know. I've already had about 6 career changes... still trying to find the right one for me. I'm a fully qualified primary teacher, librarian and TAFE teacher." He replied "I thought there was more" (I guess implying that somehow by looking at me he could tell that I had other qual's or aspirations or whatever). I said that I would wait until after bubs was born before deciding what to do next career-wise. It seemed quite strange and I'm sure other women could have been quite offended by his questioning. I did explain that I had been working as a TAFE teacher when I was going through IVF but it was very stressful as they were trying to close down the course I managed so since I had no medical reason for having difficulty getting pregnant it appeared it was probably stress related so I quit my job and started family day care and the very first cycle after that I finally got pregnant so I really feel that stress was the major factor for me. He didn't make any comments about that.

Anyway my current family move to Qld in just over 2 weeks and then I'll be out of work. I've spoken to the bank about making my morgage interest only for a while and have worked out a bit of a budget and with the rent I get from my housemate and the money from centrelink I think I will just manage to get by (I have a loan to my parents for the IVF and another for my car so have negoiated with them to stop repayments until I get another job). This has made me feel better to know that if the worst comes to the worst I should still manage to hold onto my home.
I'm kinda looking forward to not working for a while. I mean I've pretty much always worked my whole life (from age 15 I had part-time jobs while a student) so I might go a bit stir crazy but I have been gettting so tired I'm looking forward to not having to get up at 5.45am each weekday, to start work at 6.30am.

Lori
DD - 14
Bub due 28th Aug.

[Mindhugs]

Oh Airline!!! Such wonderful news for you and DH. Congrats on little Lewis. Sounds like you are enjoying being a mum already. Can't wait to hear more xxxxx

[TaRhLi.]

Hi Girls

I'm still here just very tired and unmotivated, I've been reading but find the mental capacity to post too hard at the moment...

Boys are still tucked up nice and tight - I just need to last another week at least - although I think Twin A has "dropped" now as I have more room under my ribs (well as much room as allows) and instead of the rolling & kicking movements being in my rib cage they are now happening more around my belly button. DH is now starting to freak that my water is going to break at any time but just keep telling myself to get to next week.

I'm very tired as DH gave DD his cold and the night before last I was up with her until 2am and the only way she would fall asleep was for me to lay on the floor next to her cot - where I fell asleep ouchy - I went back to bed at 4am and add that to my 3-4 nightly wee trips as well I was exhausted. DH had yesterday off work to look at DD for me so I could catch up on some rest and I think this afternoon I might crash my parents place for a couple of hours to get DD looked after as well while I put my feet up.

So apart from tiredness, a numb left thigh from my hip to my knee and now constant pressure "down below" things are going o.k... Oh and I weighed myself yesterday and only put on 10kg's to date - not bad considering the boys would weigh about 4kg's of that and then add the fluid, placenta etc it seems my body is happy to just carry baby weight only. Thank god as I think my back would snap in half if I had to carry too much more weight.

Have a good one girls.

[Possums]

airline- congratulations on the arrival of beautiful Lewis!!! so happy for you and hope you are all doing well xx

kelly- thinking of you, you are doing so well, and well done with the weight gain also..hang in there

grub- hello! hope you are much better soon as well as the rest of your family

aimee- glad to hear all is progressing along for you. I am just over 17 weeks now and think I have gained about 2 kgs...i think it's mostly my growing tummy and boobs to be honest! although I keep asking DH is my bum looks bigger! lol i need to relax about my weight I know, but I do tend to worry about gaining all over

bugsmum- great to hear from you :-)

mindhugs- hope the MS is easing and the clexane is getting easier for you

lori- good luck for your next scan

jbm- hope to see you here soon

afm- all going well (I think anyway!)...tummy and boobs keep growing, which I think is a good sign. I have my next scan wednesday, so very excited about that (the clinic here likes us to go at 18 weeks) and we hope to find out if its a boy or a girl. A healthy baby is all we really want of course! but I have always imagined having a girl at some point (i think being an only child and so close to my mum, i have always subconsciously imagined me with a daughter of my own).
I am a bit disappointed as our private scan place is closed at the moment, so we cant go to our normal sonographer, who we have come to know and who is always great and gives us a dvd and still photos and they have two screens so i can always see everything clearly too.... :-( going to the public place and will get photos (no dvd)...and hopefully they'lllet mum and dad in for a look...not ideal in comparison, but DH and I decided to go in when the clinic wanted us to (rather than waiting until 20 weeks whenthe private place reopens) and we are so keen to have a look! plus with my medical stuff, we want to make sure sooner rather than later that our baby is developing ok. I know I will be nervous on scan day as usual!
People keep telling me i am glowing, or how well i look, and i get a lot of random compliments, which i must say is lovely and makes me feel good :-)
getting maternity gear and looking for bargains...want to look nice but dont want to spend a fortune!
It's early days, but we've also started talking about our nursery- we want to go with a snugglepot and cuddlepie theme :-)