All the best worry wart i hope you have your precious bundle by now. If not good luck for tomoz!!!
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All the best worry wart i hope you have your precious bundle by now. If not good luck for tomoz!!!
oh ww good luck tomorrow if bub doesn't come of it's own accord before then. Remember nothing to be scared of ... you can trust your body! Hope to see your birth arrival announcement soon love... oxoxoxoxoxoxoxo (typed with fingers that don't hurt!)
Hi everyone,
WW, Goodluck for tomorrow. I wouldn't worry about being induced. I was induced with my daughter because she was between 17 days and 1 day overdue (I had 2 due dates and even after she was born they couldn't decide how far overdue she was!). The only issue I had with it was I had to be hooked to a monitor as the contractions were so strong that her heart kept stopping so they had a fetal heart monitor attached to me to make sure her heart started again all the time. The machine measured the strength of the contractions too and they were way over what was normally considered the "strongest contractions"! Anyway she arrived healthy and safe with no complications and was in my arms within moments of coming out so I wouldn't be worried about doing it again if need be.
AFM - we arrived back in Oz this morning after a very early start to leave New Zealand. Our 10 days there were fun but I have been becoming more and more anxious about this baby. I feel detached and I'm not sure if this is a normal response to the fact it has taken so long to get to this point and maybe it's my body's way of protecting me in case something goes wrong or just a response because I can't believe it has finally worked (I started this journey in Dec 2006). I'm now worried that I'm heading towards anti-natal depression. I'm also really worried that something is wrong with the baby. I have the NT scan on Tuesday. I still haven't vommitted at all (just had a few moments of queaziness each day). With my daughter I was chucking my guts up every day all day from around 10 weeks to 20 weeks of pregnancy and I'm 13 weeks tomorrow.
Lori
DD - 14yrs
WW, thinking of you! looking forward to hearing some happy news from you soon
lori- glad you had a good trip...sorry you are feeling so anxious though...i think detachment is a form of protection when it's been hard to fall pregnant etc. just remember every pregnancy and its symptoms is different, and i have also had friends who were very sick with one, and ok with the next. Best of luck for your scan today.
afm- it feels like an eternity until my next scan at 18 weeks (although if i really panic i can call my ivf nurse/midwife and she will let me come in for an extra scan)....my next clinic appt is next week, and i will at least get to hear the heartbeat then. I feel all is going Ok though. I am trying to go with it! had a great weekend camping by the beach with DH so that was a good mini break. bought some more stretchy clothes yday ;-)
WW: I hope you are holding your little bundle by now and enjoying those newborn snuggles.
Dream: I agree with Possum's every pregnancy is so different that trying to compare them will drive you crazy. Hope your scan went well and that has put your mind at rest..
Possum: Yay for stretchy pants, I had to get some more Maternity tops (Extra Large) as I have started growing out of the ones I had with DD. I really didn't want to get any more as we are planning no more babies after these 2 but I had to bite the bullet and I told DH that I will be able to wear them for a little while once the boys arrive as I'm sure to have the residual tummy for a little bit. I also went to target and got 4 pairs of black leggings, I always just buy normal sizes in pants and roll the band under my belly (although I got 1 size bigger than I normally wear for comfort) and I will live in them once the boys arrive so that justified the expense - although I used a gift voucher I got for my birthday to buy them so no cost to me yay...
How's everyone else travelling, with WW hopefully holding her baby who does that make next??? Is it you Jaki & then Airline...
Hi everyone,
Thanks for the reassurances regarding my concerns about feeling detached etc.
I had the NT scan today. The guy doing it was quite a character - cracking a lot of jokes along the way. Anyway baby is measuring exactly right for my dates and every thing seems fine (stomach, bladder and heart in right places etc). I'm a little concerned the neck measurement (for the NT test) was a little bigger than what we had been told to expect so I hope it's not anything too serious. I've been told it could take a week for me to get the combined blood test and scan results back. I hope it doesn't take that long as I've been getting quite stressed.
Lori
Lori i didnt 'bond' with my baby until 30+ weeks. It can be very upsetting. I felt like i was destined to be a bad mum and have depression.
lori- glad the scan went well, and fingers crossed the results are fine too
afm- DH and I are obviously thrilled but also slightly terrified about becoming parents, and hoping we will do a good job and that our relationship will hold up ok! I wonder how I will cope as a new mum...it is an exciting, and also a scary time I think..well for me anyway, lol
possums - dh and I got a bit ratty at each other when bub was about 8 weeks old. we were both tired and short-fused and just found we were bickering a lot. It all came to a head one day and finally resulted in us talking through it... things improved from there. So it's not all a bed of roses and being a parent is so so so so much harder than i ever thought (yeah and all that gushy rewarding/loving stuff too lol) but it definitely changed our relationship, particularly at first. I think DH had a hard time adjusting to being number 2 to DS. But as with all things, communication was the key... and time to adjust!
I think scared and excited all at once is pretty normal :) I feel the same atm too! how in the smeg i'm going to handle 2 under 2! Kelly you must be packing your pants :ROFL: - only joking, i know you are a great mum to tara and will take it all in your stride :)
Lori - try not to stress yourself love. remember it's just a ratio, even if it comes back at higher than you hoped, it doesn't mean anything is set in stone, it's a mathematical equation based on a few factors they can measure. But I'm sure it'll be fine, big hugs! hope the results come in soon.
Yeah where is airline??? hmmm good news i hope.
WW - hope those sore hands are holding a beautiful baby :)
Jaki --..... oooohhhhh so close!
Well bub started moving heaps lately and then the other night went quiet. I totally freaked out quietly and got myself all stressed for several hours... then the party started and I had a big cry to DH and admitted i've been plagued with terrible worries etc. I felt so much better and have been heaps better since... helps that someone is holding daily bladder parties!!! My hope that this babe, unlike DS, might be all tranquil and quiet have been dashed already lol.
But i think i'm carrying very low as even sitting on the lounge or a chair just normally is rather uncomfy!
OMG i drank close to three litres of milk in the past 36 hours!!! strawberry flavoured - of course lol.
Grub, thanks, I always love to hear from you. Glad you have all that movement (sounds wonderful, even if uncomfy sometimes) and glad you could talk to DH about your worries, always helps. I seem to keep demanding more from poor DH lately ;-) I think DH and I expect things to be hard once this little one is born.. DH is a bit freaked out too, happy of course, but scared too. and yum strawberry milk :-) I am so hungry at the moment! trying not to pig out too much and eat well, but some days I just seem to graze all day :-)
jaki- you are very close now :-) how are you doing?
a big hi to everyone else
Hi ladies :)
Yes getting closer..... heading to brisvegas on the 7th to play the waiting game. Having all my appointments on the 9th, endo, m/w and OB. So hoping to find out when they will plan on doing an induction :)
Had a bit of a boo boo last night, i slipped on my tiles after spraying a ****y, and did the splits. OUCH!!! Pulled all the muscles in my fanjita and belly and down the left side of my back. Feels much better today tho :)
Wish i could have strawberry milk :( Or banana quick! YUM. At least im aloud milo before bed :)
Speaking of getting close.... ive not seen the list in a while. Im wondering who is still ahead of me?
Waiting to see a B/A from WW too :)
Jaki: Sorry but your description made me laugh, if you think those pulled Vajayjay muscles hurt just wait until you have a head squeezing through it..
Grub: So happy you got some movement, it is a bit freaky when you feel nothing but then WHAM it's like hello mummy here I am. You can keep the strawberry milk, I'm more into iced coffee at the moment..
Possums: You will find that your relationship will change while you are pregnant and especially after bub's arrives, my DH seemed pretty laid back when I was pregnant with DD (I don't think reality hit until she arrived) but then when she was here it was like "OMG, I now have a family to support and someone is now more important than me". My advise is to talk to each other and try not to put too much pressure on each other as well. These men get hit with the responsibility stick when the baby is here where we have our whole pregnancy to get used to it. Even now DH thought I was mad getting stuff organised for the boys so early, but now the realisation is sinking in that very soon there will be another 2 mouths to feed.
Dream: Don't be too concerned about the attachment thing I think it comes with the AC territory. On the day DD was born I still felt that something was going to happen or that she wasn't actually mine and even to this day I look at her and can't believe that she is here to stay. Because we are so used to dissappointment or failure we seem to keep our feelings in check and find it hard to accept that we are actually having a baby. Even now as I walk (or waddle) around with my huge belly I find it hard to believe that yes I was lucky again to get pregnant, but still count down every day as we pass important milestones.
Big belly rubs to all our other yummy mummies, I hope you are all doing well.
:rofl::
It was pretty funny, painful but funny.
Hi Everyone,
Jaki - Oh my lordy! Ouch ouch ouch. Ha ha ha, your description was awesome. Good luck in the Vegas giving birth. I would feel safe there. And if we hadn't moved down to the Goldy 18 months ago I would be giving birth there too! Many great docs and nurses.
WW - where are you and bub? We are all dying to hear your fantastic news!!!
Grubs - I'm drinking so much milk. Totally into the Boost Juice 'Chocolate Sports' shake as it's full of protein!!! I've had so many they gave me a "Boostie's Frequent Juicy" card ;)
Possums - My next scan is at 20 weeks. What' the 18 weeks one? I really want to buy stretchy clothes, but the sceptic in me is waiting it out until that next scan. Thank god for the Belly Belt!!!
KellyD - you must be experienced at this belly growing stuff. Any good suggestions for creams or oils to rub in? I bought the "Tinderbox Belly Oil" but can't stand the smell right now. So I'm looking for something new. All I keep hearing is Clarins Clarins Clarins OIL. But at $80 a bottle I'm hoping for an alternative.
Hello to the rest of you gorgeous girlies.
AFM - I'm laying low and battling - Low blood pressure, low lying placenta, headaches and pregnancy acne on my chest (of all places!!!). At least the sickness has backed off some, which made me panic at first, but now I'm trying to embrace it. I still can't prepare food without dry wretching - poor hubby is on dinner duties for now.
MH: With DD I only got stretch marks in my last week of pregnancy and even then it was only a couple. This time around I have started getting stretch marks now - which is to be expected seeing I am measuring full term. I am using Body Shop Hemp body butter to try and help this time, it is for very dry skin (which I don't have, my skin in more on the oily side) but it was recommended to me to help with the stretching. I've also been told that Bio Oil is very good, especially afterwards as it helps to reduce any redness in the stretch marks.
jaki- ouch, but yes, a bit of a chuckle too...glad you feel better today and hope all goes well in Brisvegas
kelly- thanks for your relationship insights...it does often feel like I am more aware of what needs to be done before our little one arrives and of things to prepare for once they are here etc. DH is doing his best though, and I know he feels pressure to be a good 'provider' and bring in a good income etc.
mindhugs- i think the next big scan for both of us is the same thing, and it can be done from 18-20 weeks, and our ante-natal clinic likes to do it around 18 weeks instead of 20. glad your sickness has eased off a bit now, but your other symptoms don't sound fun- hope things ease as you move into the second tri.
and i know what you mean with the clothes, i am buying normal clothes, that just are comfy around the belly etc...not maternity stuff yet. And i have been using bio oil, which i get from our local chemist and it's not too expensive, it was recommended to me.
afm- had a bit of a freak out today....i think just one of those things were your head goes a bit mad. Basically, I have been walking our dogs each day and also continuing to go to the gym a few times a week (used to go more often, so it's something my body is used to). I have modified all my exercises, and do less/easier cardio, and also lighter weights, with more reps, as advised by my OB and all the pregnancy books etc. I am careful not to get too hot or exert too hard etc. Anyway today I went to do an exercise on a weight machine i hadnt done for a while and i couldnt remember the weight i usually have...so i selected a weight, went to start, and it felt way too heavy (I think it was a weight from way before this pregnancy when i used to work out harder etc). So anyway, I reduced it a bit, and did a few reps, but realised I was still having to exert too much and it was too much for now, so reduced the weight again, then it felt fine. I was OK at the time, but afterwards, I thought about it, and suddenly felt this fear I could have hurt the baby at the start, or pulled the placenta or something. It grew and grew in my mind into a big worry, when at time, I hadn't thought much of it. Anyway, DH told me to relax and just always start out light next time to be sure, which of course I will.
I had a similar mind snap the other night after I had my first bath of the pregnancy to ease a sore back. I made sure it wasn't too hot so I wouldn't overheat and didnt fill it up too much etc, but afterwards I was convinced it must have been too hot and I might have hurt the baby! Again DH told me it was fine (he felt the bathwater) and encouraged me to calm down. It can be hard when you want things to be ok sooooo much and worry about not just big things, but small things too!!
Awww possums try not to worry.... i used to stress about the bath thing too so i understand. Not so much with the exercise tho. LOL. Just remember your body will protect that baby. Thats its job :D
Hi girls
I was waiting to get dates from our two newest girls before I posted, but here goes
Worrywart Feb 7th - it's a ???
Lisa B Mar 5th - it's a ???
MaggiePie Mar 22nd - it's a Boy!!
Jaki80 Mar 28th - Little Man
Airline Mar 30th - it's a Boy!!! - Baby M
Kelly D May 18th - it's 2x Boys - Bubble & Squeak
Grub17 June 26th - it's a ???
Bug’sMum July 19th – it’s a ???
Babytruj July 22nd - it's a ???
Mum-2-Be Aug 12th – it’s a ???
Kaybee Aug 18th – it’s a ???
Aimee Aug 25th – it’s a ???
Mindhugs Aug 27th – it’s a ???
Dreamrise659 Aug 30th – it’s a ???
Possums Aug 30th – it’s a???
BABIES BORN
Maggie Feb 2nd –Welcome ???
Lairdoz – Welcome Thomas!
KitKat --- Welcome???
Juniper76 --- Welcome Amber!
Leabie --- Welcome Chloe!
Renee --- Welcome Ava!
CK77 --- Welcome Rossi!
Glenny C --- Welcome Katherine!
Brunette - Welcome Jack & Zara!
S'Rose --- Welcome Oscar!
Miss K --- Welcome ???
Emerald Star --- Welcome ???
Loula---Welcome William!!
Nix76---Welcome????
Paula---Welcome Tiana!!!
Dusty---Welcome Freya!!
Ninah---Welcome Dylan!!
Seachange---Welcome Thomas!!
Londonmiss --- Welcome Charlotte!!
Wantbaby#2 ---Welcome Ellie!!
Wishes --- Welcome Casey!!
Mitf --- Welcome Luke!!
Lise --- Welcome Finnian!!
Mrs Slyder welcome two lovely girls!
Persephone --- Welcome Archie!
Kyrawolfe--- Welcome Tristan!
LilMissHaveachat --- Welcome Ethan!
Sammiejam - Welcome Colt!
BOC - Welcome Jagger Dylan!
BDT---- Welcome Sophia & Aria!
Saph----Welcome Xavier!
Greenslw---- Welcome Lincoln!
Smithy---- Welcome Charlie!
Ella'sMum---- Welcome Emme!
Poppyfairy---- Welcome Robin!
Grub17---- Welcome Ashton!
Laniwantsababy---- Welcome Jett!
Bella55---- Welcome Jack & Samuel!
Miss Magpie---- Welcome Trent!
Murph01----Welcome Jasmine!
Neptune----Welcome Adam!
KellyD---Welcome Tara Rose!
Our thoughts and prayers go to those beautiful mothers whose precious babies have been taken too soon.
Much loved & wanted son of Frosty'sMum, Benjamin born sleeping @ 14 weeks 4days. Our thoughts are with you.
Much loved & wanted daughter of Hippy Mum & Hippy Dad, Georgia Ariela taken too early from this earth 12-03-09 @ 22wk 6d
Much loved and wanted son of Chez67 & her DH, Ryan Patrick, born sleeping 17-03-09 @ 18wk 1d
Also, can't stop for persies but glad to hear everyone is still mostly intact (poor Jaki that sounds painful!)
Had our anatomy scan on Monday - all perfect although is measuring way ahead (although so did DS and he was average size at term - the usual ultrasound story!) But I am pretty sure the FS clinic got my dates wrong and I should be due on the 14th July but it will all depend on when I'm scheduled for my C/S anyway...
Feeling a bit "meh" about the whole thing - I think I'd waited so long for the big scan and now it's just waiting for the next 21 weeks. It seems soooo far away. We've at least started telling people though now which helps with the excitement a bit.
Hi to everyone!
Hey bugs mum my GP told me im due on the 17th OCT but i know this could change so will let you know if it does.
I hope everyone is doing well, congrats on scans and i know what you mean about time dragging, these 2 weeks that have passed since i found out i was pg have felt like an eternity! scan in 5 days!!! just keep thinking, pls make it there, pls let there be a baby, pls let there be a heart beat!!!!! Not alot of pg symptoms, sore and itchy boobs on and off but nothing today but my friend said her sore boobs were on and off all the time, but i think thats why i keep thinking im not pg becuse i dont feel it.
oneday - both my pregnancies I didn't think i was cos I had no real early symptoms. From memory i started to feel yucky from about 6 or 8 weeks hth
hi girls, feeling pretty blah today... bad night with DS and he's gotten up in a foul mood. he's in his cot so i don't brain him with the dvd player, which he keeps turning on, off, on, off, on, off. get told NO and then crack a narny.... well you get hte picture. i'm so tired atm.
Stretch mark creams - buy cheap, buy expensive I don't think it matters as it's the elasticity of your skin that dictates it iykwim. I used bio oil til i did a bit of reading and didn't really think it was doing much... so switched to homebrand vitamin e cream. I got a couple of marks at the end and they had pretty much faded and shrunk by the time I got this pregnancy going. I don't think there's a 'secret' forumla that'll work iykwim.
have a good one girls. :)
If your gonna get stretch marks then your gonna get them no matter what you do or how much you spend. All he creams are good for is the dry itchy skin, and then taking the colour out of the marks later on.
Hi girls, thanks for asking after me, I'm still here lurking around. Hadn't even been reading the last couple of days. Finished work on Sunday WHOO HOO!! it wasn't the work, I was well looked after by my colleagues, it was the commute to and from work at peak hour urrrghhh!
So starting to feel like getting more prepared...finishing the nursery...the art side of things, and a few storage things. Packing my hospital bag is on the to do list...I'm sure people have packed theirs before now, but I just hadn't got around to it, but my girlfriend has 'encouraged' me to do it soon ;-)
Don't know about you Jaki, but my wee boy is a Squirmer...he moves a lot from morning till night, with obvious rest/sleep periods inbetween. It's very reassuring, but if i'm wearing a clingy top/dress my tummy's all over the place in public!! I wonder how many do a double take in the Target queue or when I'm having a coffee and my tummy literally has a mind of its own, rippling and rolling while he practices his tai chi.
I had terrible sciatica for over 2 weeks, but that disappeared as has the calf sprain from a morning cramp I got so I'm feeling pretty good again. For those suffering sciatica, a fabulous massage from my wee lady I go to eased that away very quickly.
5 weeks to go.....although, will he arrive early, maybe 3 weeks (don't think so), or late, up to 6 1/2 weeks to go?? who knows. He's certainly already testing his boundries, pushing and stretching. He's started to descend head down into pelvis OB said, so that's good.
Where is WW..?? any news??
Hope everyone is well and enjoying the cooler weather if you're in Brissy xx
Hi Ladies,
I'm still here - have just been dropping in to catch up on what's happening, but have been so tired still - isn't that supposed to stop after 12 weeks. Anyway, I am nodding and laughing at everything said in here, but can't remember anything to reply to.
Um... oh yeah the stretchies. I think it's genetic - like jaki said - if you're gonna get em, you'll get em. It's good to feel like you're doing something to help it though.
All is boring and uneventful here - just the way I want it to stay. Am hanging out to feel some movements soon though. When did everyone else feel them with their second?
Ah, I'm getting all queasy from looking at the screen for so long. Really hope you are all doing well. I miss you all!!!
Worrywart??????? News???????
I've had sciatica on and off in bed at night from about week 8. Massage has been awesome for it - you're right!
Kaybee - I'm 14 weeks today and only just beginning to feel tired. However this could be to do with my low blood pressure. Although not sure how long I've had that for.
Stretchmarks - hmm, funny things. I have a few on my bum and thighs from growth spurts as a child, the same as my sisters. However, neither of my sisters got them with pregnancy - they both used the oil. So it seem to be a mystery to me............
I must admit, I've had that many scans leading up to the 12 weeks that now I am wondering if there is still a baby in there. If the MS and acne is anything to go by then it's still there!!! Trying to relax and trust my body to do it's job, but I do have my moments of panic like Possums and everyone else in here!!!
Hey Ladies,
How's everyone's weekend going? Any news from WW yet? Hopefully she's on the fun side of birth!
How wierd is this? I have a fairly close friend who knows my TTC story - although nowhere near as long and bumpy as many, I have spent several years of my life TTC including a couple of miscarriages. She has fallen pregnant twice on her first month of trying - the first gave her a beautiful son, and the second very sadly was ectopic. She has now begun to try again and has been unsuccessful for 2 months. Anyway, she seems really jealous and annoyed with me. When I told her I was finally pregnant the first thing she said was "Oh, that's not fair, I'm so jealous" and when I saw her for the first time in ages last night she didn't ask me once how things were going or make any reference to my pregnancy at all. I obviously didn't breath a word about it either, but just thought it wasn't fair. I have been jealous many many many a time (and still do) but have always tried to put on a happy face and get on with it. I've offered to talk about her pain as I only too well know how it feels, but I think she thought that was a ridiculous idea, seeing as I am pregnant. I guess, really, seeing as I have lived it I also know too well the isolation TTC creates. Pain isn't logical. I am pregnant so I guess that negates my past, in her eyes. I hope we can sort things out!
Sorry - just needed to get it out to those who might understand. Thanks for listening!!! xxx
Kaybee she is either not a very good friend, or she is not thinking rationally. If that's the case she will probably realise and appologise. Possible after she falls pregnant again. I hope not to much time passes or by that stage you probably just wont want to hear it by then. If she is just a crappy friend to begin with then return the attitude when she does get pregnant ;)
Hi Kaybee,:
It does seem ridiculous for your friend to act jealous of you just because she has tried unsuccessfully twice and you have finally had success on your 6th attempt. As you said even though you are pregnant now it doesn't mean that your past is forgotten. If anyone can relate to her disappointment it would probably be you (though I have to say I would find it difficult to relate to it too much just yet because 2 unsuccessful tries seems like a drop in the ocean really). Maybe your friend realises how ridiculous it is for her to be jealous of you and that's why she didn't want to discuss it with you - because she feels silly for her behaviour but doesn't know how to apologise for it. Perhaps she also feels that talking to you about her difficulty concieving would seem silly when you have been through so much more and her journey would seem trival?
I know when I was doing IVF I had a friend who had a young son who she had concieved on her 3rd attempt of donor insemination (but first with that particular donor). I had tried unsuccessfully with her successful donor for 13 months before moving to IVF and after my 2nd IVF failure I was so depressed. She told me "remember I'm always here for you if you need to talk" but I didn't feel like I could share what I was going through with her because it had been "so easy" for her. I did feel really jealous of her. Last November she tried for her 2nd child - same donor and we were all shocked when she didn't get pregnant on her first attempt again. She hasn't tried again since then (has decided to wait another 6 months and try to lose some weight before trying again). But it meant when I finally found out I was pregnant in Dec she seemed unable to share my excitement due to her one let down.
Anyway I hope your friend comes around and is able to share in your happiness too.
Lori
DD - 14
Started donor search Dec 06 with many disappointments, Donor insemination with known donor Jan 09 - Jan 10, Started IVF with anon donor Feb 10 - success on 4th IVF attempt.
oh kaybee i'm nowhere near as nice or understanding as the other lovely ladies here. I'd be telling her to pull her head in, trying for 2 months does NOT constitute a 'poor me' situation. Yes she must be frustrated but jealous, of you! pft. Personally, a real friend would never wish what you've been through on anyone and would be so excited for their mate to have achieved their dream ... and not make it all about themselves iykwim. Personally, I never felt jealous of my friends having babies when I couldn't... sad but excited for them iykwim. Anyway, i'd be telling her to get a sensitivity chip and realise what it's been like for you all these years ..... all done with a smile and kind word for her!
ggrrrhhh people. I hate people.
Okay I MAY have woken up badly from my arvo nap. I admit it, got the cranks this arvo.
Um someone asked kicks for number 2... wel i know all the material says "you'll feel it sooner'' etc but for me that really wasn't the case. DS was about 17 weeks and this one wasn't really til about 18 weeks and even then i wasn't sure. It's really been only in the last fortnight it's upped the ante :) But i'm not sure it's cos i was pregnant with DS not long ago that i was expecting full term baby movements instead of those little flutters iykwim.
Mindhugs - i found I go mental between scans... I didn't get my 20 week scan til 21.5weeks so nearly 10 weeks of nothing and I really got myself so worried and in a twist. I think i posted here a few times about evil thoughts taking me over. I think that's the worst time as you feel on your own and you feel so insecure about this pregnancy, like "is it true? did they make a mistake? it is the bub still there" all that sort of stuff. And worst of all, there ain't much you can do to alleviate it, but do TRY not to send yourself mental. One thing that helped me was, "well there's no blood, so that's good". A bit silly i know but hey, it helped.
Mindhugs and Airline - hows your sciatica going? got any relief??? I hope so, it's awful.
Possums - lurking? how are you feeling love ???
WW - going to start chanting your name. You've HAD to have had the bub by now! oohhh baby snuggles :)
Hey Jaki - not far off!!!! and then Airline tteeeehhheeee so exciting!
Bug's Mum thanks for the list. How are you??
Kelly - hope you are going okay and coping iwith that ever expanding tum!
OneDay - oct 17 is my dh's bday... so a great day to be born. I'm also born on the 17th (not of oct tho) so we likey 17! hope you are well.
Hi to all the other girls here. And the girls coming up due soon, can't wait to hear from you all :)
I unpacked all DS's baby clothes today and sorted out the 'boy' ones from the 'neutral' ones. Surprisingly I have quite a bit of grey, red, yellow, purple sort of colours and a few of the bluer outfits could easily do a little girl if needed. So i'm pretty happy that I have some clothes for this little one to come home to if it's a girl... and a whole wardrobe if its a boy lol. But i did go and buy two of the most gorgeous 0000 girl outfits JIC... I couldn't help myself and figured i could give them to a friend or another mum if they aren't needed... I'll need SOMETHING to bring a little girl home in, hey! lol.
oops better go fold washing... oxox
hi everyone
grub- sorting the clothes sounds fun, and there are some very cute girl outfits out there! :-) And I have had a few cranky moments myself this past week ;-)
kaybee- it's so tough with friends sometimes. I know that I have retreated from many pregnant friends in the past, and even a friend who fell pregnant after LTTTC, i found too hard to be around, so I pulled away (although I did tell her I was so pleased for her and explained it was just a painful time for me). I was really pleased for her after her long journey, but it was just too hard for me. However, your friend's situation/experiences are very different to mine, so it is hard to understand that she cant be more pleased for you. I guess everyone handles things differently. I can understand it being upsetting though.
mindhugs- i relate to how you feel, about all the scans and checks up to 12 weeks, then it just stops and you are left wondering and hoping all is ok, and just with symptoms to give you an indication. hang in there...and hope that back pain eases, glad the massages help
WW- thinking of you
oneday- hope you are going ok, we all understand the early anxiety so well
kelly- hope you are travelling along ok with those two boys
a big hi to everyone else
afm- hi, doing OK...next clinic appt is tomorrow, and I will get to hear the baby's heartbeat then (i hope!!), thankgoodness..I am ready for some reassurance!! Been a bit emotional, and moody this past week...but generally things seem OK. I was feeling well, although the past couple of days have had the old queasy feeling come back. I thought it was gone! (but luckily nothing too bad). I am more tired than usual still, but better than I was all through the first tri.
And my tummy has started to show...well I think it has anyway, lol. It's a noticeable bump. I am only small so i guess there isn't anywhere to hide anything.
Just wondering how much weight people have gained by this stage? (if any, I know some people lose weight due to feeling so sick etc)...I think I have gained around 1 to 1.5kg, so not much change,...for ages the scales didnt change at all, but in the past few weeks they have gone up a bit. I am conscious of trying to eat well, but am definately hungrier. :-)
Hey ladies,
I have been MIA for a fair while now - I think since before Christmas!!
Looks like there are a lot of new comers - CONGRATULATIONS!! - and some births - CONGRATULATIONS!!
I really need to do some reading to catch up!!
grub- I think its great you're not finding out - we arn't either - although there seems some practicality in finding out!! That's great you have some 'neautral' clothes - but I agree with you that you needed a new 0000 girl's outfit - JIC!! I think that (because this is our first) I will have 1 boy and 1 girl outfit to take bub home in !! Gotta be prepared!! As for the crankiness - I really only seem to get cranky at hubby - I think its because I'm a little emotional and if he says something I can always construe it into him not wanting to spend time with me (or something like that!!) ... poor DH!!
kaybee- I agree with the others - its not right that a 'friend' - knowing how much you have gone through - could act like that. But I guess it's times like these that you find out who your real friends are.
Possums - I'm 16 weeks and have now put on 3kgs but I hadn't put on any until week 12 - it just all come on since then - but I think a bit of it is the extra blood and stuff!! I'm trying not to think about the weight part - just eating healthy and whenever I am hungry - I think that is best for me.
A big hello to everyone else!!
AFM - Well, we have hit the 16 weeks!! It's amazing at how time has passed!! I was a little worried about going to Vietnam at Christmas (I was 7 and 8 weeks pregnant) but all went really well - just watched what I ate and drank, so it was fine - except for feeling squimish at the throught of asian food (which is not a good thing in Vietnam!). Anyway - my belly has now changed from looking fat to getting a little rounder and pregnant looking!! Other than that - it seems this pregnancy is a truely wonderful experience!!
Oh thanks so much for your advice and kind words about my jealous friend. Like I said - I justed wanted to get it out to those who 'get it' but knew how silly I was to care. I am starting to realise that she is quite a selfish person. I stayed over the other night and in the morning she got up and made herself a coffee - while we were both sitting there chatting together - and didn't even offer me one. No biggy at all, but who does that?
Anyway, back to US happy fatties!
Mum2be - I'm 16 weeks too. Yay for having a belly. Mine isn't really a preggy one yet, I just look like I've let myself go. Glad Vietnam was good - I am dying to go there.
Possums - I have probably gained about 1 or 2 kilos - I never really weigh myself, but just have a little pudge around the tum. Enjoy your galloping horse tomorrow!
Grub - How exciting buying clothes! Don't think I'll be game until I'm 8 months, but probably won't be able to stop myself either. Where did you get them from? AND, thanks for the 'movement' info (I asked) I'm looking out for them now. Don't think there's anything yet. I keep thinking I can feel flutters, but if it ends with a fart (SORRY TMI) then it's not the baby. Go get back to your washing!
Hello to everyone else! Thanks again for your advice on my friend.
Take care xxoo
kaybee- lol about the possible movements...hope you get to feel something very soon! Cant believe you are 16 weeks now, the time seems to have zipped by (although not during moments of anxiety, lol) My placenta is at the front, so I have been told I might have to wait until as late as 22 weeks...hope not. Your friend does sound selfish and self absorbed to me!
mum2be- glad all is going well, and I bet vietnam was great! 16 weeks, yay!
afm- nothing else to report for now...just looking forward to tomorrow and enjoying being pregnant and have started chatting to my little one
Hi everyone,
Possums, good on you for talking to baby. This pregnancy still doesn't feel real to me (I'm 14 weeks today) so I haven't started talking to baby.
Grub, I've unpacked alot of my daughters netural baby clothes. I already had them packed away as "girls" and "either" so I've just unpacked the either box as I'm more and more sure this one is a boy (though I would prefer another girl). It's funny how people have such a thing about colour. When my daughter was a couple of months old she had this beautiful blue dress which my mother had made her. It was pale blue with a trim which was white with blue flowers and it had a matching headband made from the same trim. I remember one day I had taken her into the library where I worked to see some of my co-workers and a customer stopped to have a look at the baby and she said "what a beautiful boy... ahhh... girl... ahhh?" and looked at me confused. I just stared at her and said "Girl - she is wearing a dress!" And the woman said "well yes but it's blue - she's wearing blue!" I guess I can kinda understand people thinking you can't dress a boy in pink but what is wrong with dressing a girl in blue and I wouldn't put a boy in a dress either - unless he was like a friend's son and was born breach and his bottom was rubbed raw by the pelvic bones so he couldn't have anything over his bottom for over a month so lived in "nighties" with cloth nappies just lying under him.
Possums, as far as weight goes I have no idea as I put on so much weight just through all the hormones and IVF process so I stopped weighing myself before I got pregnant as it was depressing. I have no idea how much I had put on by this stage with my daughter but I don't think I had really put on anything (I still wore my normal clothes without a problem). However I did put on a total of 20kg during my pregnancy with her. I had the most amazing tummy - huge! I had lost 10kg by the time I left hospital when she was 2 and a half days old and lost another 5kg within the next month or so but the last 5kg didn't really ever budge. So I went from 52kg to 57kg (pre and post pregnancy but at my peak I was 72kg).
AFM: I got the call today to tell me that my results from the NT scan are back. 1 in 400 chance of Downs and something like a 1 in 4000 chance of the other thing they test for. I was a bit concerned about the 1 in 400 result as when one of my friends had it done a couple of years ago she was 1 in 5000 but the Dr assured me that 1 in 400 is considered fine and they don't normally offer amino etc unless the risk is greater than 1 in 200. I asked her whether the 20 week scan would show it up if there was a problem and she said the 20 week scan only reveals about 50% of Down syndrome babies. Anyway she said all my other blood test results were good except that she had me tested for some virus which is common in little kids (and only looks like a normal cold when they get it) but can apparently cause miscarriage in pregnant women. She was concerned for me since I work in childcare. She had told me that often you will be exposed to it and develop a natural resistance so the test was to see if I had this. Unfortunately (and suprisingly) she said the test showed I have never been exposed to it so I need to be very careful if any child I look after has a cold in case it is this virus... unfortunately I can't remember what it was called (a series of initials).
I've tried to get myself exctied by starting to look at baby names. I already know that I want to make up it's first name and give it an unusal second name (as I did for my daughter) and it took me quite a while to come up with her name - Ashalyn (pronounced Ay-shar-len). I sometimes think I should have tested it out more beforehand and I might have changed it's spelling as she gets really annoyed at the number of people who pronounce it Ash-a-len. She has to tell them "it's not Ash, you have to pronounce the A - A-sha-lyn" and then some people act like it's just all too difficult! So I think maybe I should have spelt it Ayshalyn to prevent the association with names like Ashley.
Lori
DD - 14
hi all, I just popped in to see how WorryWart went, but nothing????
Hi ladies its very busy in here at the moment :)
Kaybee that was terrible of your friend and i think its very selfish of her and she should be so happy for you! But im sure she will realise how she treated you and hopefully apologises.
Possums you sound as nervous as me, i keep thinking i will be ok after tomorrwos scan but then i think i will still feel anxious until 12 weeks but after that iv told my self i need to enjoy this and stop worrying. I hope you start to feel more relaxed soon xx
So its my 7 week scan tomorrow and im so nervous, i wish it would hurry up but at the same time i dont want it to come incase its bad. I will come on tomorrow night to let you know how i go xxxxxxx
Hi Everyone,
I am so thrilled to announce that Anna Mary was born at 10am on Sunday 20 February, weighing 8 pounds and 1 ounce.
I just cannot believe this has finally happened.
I am happy beyond words, and pretty much still unable to type (um, yep, the carpal tunnel does not go as soon as you deliver apparently, it can stay for 4 to 6 weeks).
So, birth was certainly not as "planned", ie after nearly 2 weeks of serious anxiety and stress about induction and two rather painful (as in, brought on contractions) acupuncture sessions, early labour started by itself at 6am on Saturday. It was strong, but managable, and at one point I actually watched a bit of a favourite film, Dirty Dancing, but pretty soon, it was like background at a party when you are completely boozed out of your mind, or something. Just the vibe, I mean. I hadn't been drinking!
I made a LOT of noise. That's mainly what I remember. Then, after about 8 hours established labour (at 1am Sunday) I was still only 3cm dilated with a serious pushing urge, so I had an epidural, then about 9 hours after that, it seemed that baby was stuck in my too small of a pelvis (a big baby with a big head).
Anyway, the point is ... she is beautiful and we love her so much! BF has been tricky and there have been some tears, but it seems like it might come together so keep your fingers crossed for us.
I am just SO unbelievably happy.
Anyway, hysterical, I guess.
So you guys, I'll prob check in later in a few weeks, and hope all is well.
Take care and love to all,
WW
Oops, forgot to say it clearly: she was born by c-section in the end, my greatest fear and something that was actually just a stunning moment, and thank God I'd had the epidural because I was conscious and breastfeeding about 40 min later.
So your greatest fears can be .. totally ok in the end.
Congratulations on the birth of your daughter Worry wart. I'm glad to hear that despite things not going to plan you had an overall good experience and were able to be conscious for the birth despite having the unplanned C-section and were breastfeeding such a short time afterwards.:
I hope things continue to go well and the tears associated with breast feeding become less and less.
Congrats again
Lori
DD-14