Congratulations on your pregnancy! Unfortunately I think your mind steps up and tries to protect you as best it can once you have had any kind of loss. I know my pregnancy with DD1 was never exciting - I spent almost the entire time absolutely convinced I would miscarry. I was a bit of a basket case really! I was much better with DD2 fortunately.
Its not like its not bad enough that you've already had your heart broken when your angel is stolen from you, but you have all the normal excitement and joy that you have every right to feel stolen from you too in subsequent pregnancies. Its a very cruel twist.
Hang in there. The feelings do ease - when you get to see ultrasounds its great but (for me anyway) the reassurance of those kicks and flutters is heaven.
Congratulating sweetheart! I've read a few of your posts and I know where your coming from. It's hard after a loss to get attached to another pg.
Attached probably isn't the right word....connected? I'm now nearly 18 weeks, and I'm still terrified. I haven't felt Bub move so that hasnt helped either. I can't name the Bub either, I just can't cope with it.
So your not alone, and I wish you the very best Hun. Lots of love xxxx
Congrats i was in your shoes about a year ago when i got pregnat right after a mc.
I had no support durning the MC or during the pregnancy from my bf becouse as your DH says its not a baby until the baby is born. He was even saying this in the delvery room.
I felt the same as you do last year. I think i hated myself for not being so excited that i was pregnat i was going week by week with the us and them listeing for the hb. So your not the only one who feels as you do...... Sending you hugs
Boys are funny aren't they? They don't get that the moment there are two lines we're having a baby do they?? My DH was the same, lovely, but didn't understand the sense of loss I had, just kept saying that there must have been something wrong. Doesn't help.
I've really struggled. To start with I did 7 pg tests, then had a 6 week scan (heartbeat), then freaked out when I wasn't feeling sick or anything and had another scan at 9 weeks. Seeing the growth and more heartbeat helped, but I'm still hanging out for the next scan. My Ob did say there is no harm in having weekly scans if you're worried - it's better than stressing out about it. And don't worry - as the other girls here have said, it's normal to still be worried after a loss!! Good luck for a happy and healthy pregnancy!
I'm over halfway, have almost everything I need, feel bubs move, see it on the screen but still question myself sometimes as to whether or not there is a baby in there lol
I know what you mean about the distance thing. I hope its the same with us, with it being the longer the pregnancy, the more connected we feel with our beautiful little bubba's.
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