I got a bfp yesterday, 5 cycles after my missed miscarriage at 8 weeks (discovered at 10 week ob appt) I just feel different to the last two times I was here...I'm not really as excited as before either. Is this normal? I got a really strong bfp, heaps stronger than with my last two pregnancies so I'm not as concerned on that score, I just feel...like I'm not pregnant I have sore boobs and a desire for orange and passionfruit fruit drink so I know I'm utd, it's just strange? I feel so distant from it all...
Firstly congrats beautiful lady xoxo .... I am so sorry for the loss of your JellyBean.... I remember after my ectopic I felt similar to you, but I promise you will feel different just takes time after a loss.... after I knew that DS was in the right spot and after 3 u/s I connected with the pregnancy .... be gentle to yourself hun and wish you a smooth and uneventful pregnancy and beyond xoxo
Oh chicky I am so excited for you!!!!
I think after a loss it is never going to be shiny bouncy excitement for any of us. Its a quiet excitement and a sense of disbelief, I can imagine. Hope you get an opportunity to relax and enjoy it, but ultimately I hope you spend the next 8 months or so growing yourself a lovely healthy baby x
congratulations!
you are not alone, i think most people who have experianced this has the same feelings.. i know i have/still do..
all you can do is try to think positive, and not freak out too much.. it gets better!
And I was completely the same so I'd say it's very normal to not want to get attached after a loss, it look me til 20 ish weeks to feel 'close' to DS whilst UTD and now I'm 5 weeks and once again feel the same, I have to keep reminding myself that I'm pg, that's how interested in this pregnancy I am lol I no it will get better as time goes on but I it's my head and hearts way of not getting attached. I hope all goes well and you have a h&h 9 months xx
Thanks girls. I guess pregnancy post mc is a whole new experience my DH is also not helping, he is not at all excited, but to him it's not a baby until it's born so he was no support during my mc either.
I think it's different too because I'm not shouting it from the rooftop. I have told my mum and that's it. I'm sure some of my friends will know soon but I would usually have texted them all a photo of my pregnancy test by now. It's not even like I'm scared of a miscarriage, hopefully being on a gluten free diet will avoid the problem from last time and this bubba will be an awesome christmas present
Thanks so much, BellyBelly has been such a saviour over the last 6 months and whilst I'm a fairly unknown/low profile member I still feel part of it all iykwim? You ladies have made me feel really .... like I belong, your excitement for my bfp is amazing
I have to say I am always extremely cautious announcing until the 12 week mark since my m/c's. It is difficult for me to feel a connection in the fear of losing the bub.
I hope this one is a sticky one and you have a great pg & birth. All the best
And I totally know how you feel. After my mc, I fell pregnant with DD and we weren't excited at all. I was like "is that 2 lines" and he said "yep" and we looked at each other and smiled but that was it. It's as if the innocence of the thrill of pregnancy had been lost. We knew I was pregnant but getting pregnant was only the first step.
This pregnancy was even worse. I said to DH "guess what, 2 lines" and he said "yep of course there is" and that was it.
I'm jealous of my girlfriends who shout from the rooftops with glee and don't know the scariness of not "knowing" that everything is going to be just fine. Jealous but happy for them in their blissful state.
GL hun, stay strong and believe in yourself and this bub. It's all you can do. Xx
chick, I so know that feeling.
For me it was a long time into the pregnancy until that went away. Part of it was also allowing myself to be excited. I felt like I couldn't be excited. Not sure why.
....toddles off to find afore mentioned thread.....
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Unfortunately I think your mind steps up and tries to protect you as best it can once you have had any kind of loss. I know my pregnancy with DD1 was never exciting - I spent almost the entire time absolutely convinced I would miscarry. I was a bit of a basket case really! I was much better with DD2 fortunately.
Its not like its not bad enough that you've already had your heart broken when your angel is stolen from you, but you have all the normal excitement and joy that you have every right to feel stolen from you too in subsequent pregnancies. Its a very cruel twist.
Hang in there. The feelings do ease - when you get to see ultrasounds its great but (for me anyway) the reassurance of those kicks and flutters is heaven.
Congratulating sweetheart! I've read a few of your posts and I know where your coming from. It's hard after a loss to get attached to another pg.
Attached probably isn't the right word....connected? I'm now nearly 18 weeks, and I'm still terrified. I haven't felt Bub move so that hasnt helped either. I can't name the Bub either, I just can't cope with it.
So your not alone, and I wish you the very best Hun. Lots of love xxxx
Congrats i was in your shoes about a year ago when i got pregnat right after a mc.
I had no support durning the MC or during the pregnancy from my bf becouse as your DH says its not a baby until the baby is born. He was even saying this in the delvery room.
I felt the same as you do last year. I think i hated myself for not being so excited that i was pregnat i was going week by week with the us and them listeing for the hb. So your not the only one who feels as you do...... Sending you hugs
Boys are funny aren't they? They don't get that the moment there are two lines we're having a baby do they?? My DH was the same, lovely, but didn't understand the sense of loss I had, just kept saying that there must have been something wrong. Doesn't help.
I've really struggled. To start with I did 7 pg tests, then had a 6 week scan (heartbeat), then freaked out when I wasn't feeling sick or anything and had another scan at 9 weeks. Seeing the growth and more heartbeat helped, but I'm still hanging out for the next scan. My Ob did say there is no harm in having weekly scans if you're worried - it's better than stressing out about it. And don't worry - as the other girls here have said, it's normal to still be worried after a loss!! Good luck for a happy and healthy pregnancy!
I'm over halfway, have almost everything I need, feel bubs move, see it on the screen but still question myself sometimes as to whether or not there is a baby in there lol
I know what you mean about the distance thing. I hope its the same with us, with it being the longer the pregnancy, the more connected we feel with our beautiful little bubba's.
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It doesn't feel real?
I have sore boobs and a desire for orange and passionfruit fruit drink
so I know I'm utd, it's just strange? I feel so distant from it all...
my DH is also not helping, he is not at all excited, but to him it's not a baby until it's born so he was no support during my mc either.
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