Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss #6

[Greenslw]

Me4 I hear you my dad ,over to Canada then my bro went for a holiday got a girl pg and 8 years later and three beautiful kids he's still there I miss them heaps but my mum is here and prob has kept me in sa longer than I would have. Where's your crew from? If not tmi no storms but he is sick today so there was a reason.

Mini mouse welcome and goodluck

Mel vent any time

Duchess happy birthday to dd. hope that shook the dream off.

Me work is doing my head in three places need me all urgent ahhhhh pg lady should not have to prioritise anything lol.

[Duchess]

I do occasionally, like when I can tell Miss 6 is going to be a chatterbox and get hyped up and silly or when she asks inappropriate questions or when she makes her sister scream or when at the shops and she just won't stop touching everything... Or at someone's house who's kid is a sook or at an elderly persons house that is no kid friendly...

[me4ever]

Hugs Melster - I can't really speak from experience as I don't have any kids yet. One thing to keep in mind is that older people forget what it's like to have kids, that of course they can be a hand full or bored quickly. Also they grew up in a different time where kids were supposed to be mini adults and were supposed to be behaving and not to be heard at all times...

Greenslw - family lives in the Netherlands, so miles away... Have met my nieces and nephews a couple of times over the years (oldest is 6, youngest is almost 1), there is one more nephew on the way and I probably won't see him for a long long time. Have your brother and his family come over here for a visit? or have you gone to visit them there?

Ob appointment went well! Bub is all wiggly and alive! I'm so relieved. We were both so nervous beforehand and I think part of that made me feel very down yesterday. We celebrated tonight with a bit of vanilla slice my mother in law made us The midwife told us first that the placenta was at the front, but the obstetrician said that the placenta was mostly at the back and curved around a tad bit to the front. He suspects we'll be able to feel baby soon. Now I wonder if the tiny little blobs I've been feeling might have been little one kicking me, so exciting! Now countdown till 5th of June for the morph scan Can't wait!

[minniemouse]

thanks for the welcome everyone

Duchess: no all my tests were normal so i don't have any genetic issues that might be causing a problem, I think it is basically down to my age although i do have quite a few endocrine problems (had half my thyroid removed, previous pituitary tumour etc).
I hope you had a nice day with your DD, those questions about the baby are so hard to answer I'm sure

Melster: you sound really stressed ! I'm starting to wonder how I'm going to cope getting 2 children ready for school next year and organise a baby too, i guess it will all fall into place, at least i hope so !

me4ever: great news your ob appointment went well, hopefully you can relax a bit now

[kbudgie]

does anyone else have trouble believing it's real? i feel this it's all surreal at times,work is there really a very active little foetus in my tummy! not sure if it's a mc thing or a lttcc thing, maybe both?

[Calluna]

Yes, definately. Despite feeling like crap all the time, the various pains and the odd movement I havent really connected at all with this bub. I think its a self protecting thing. If Im not attached then it wont hurt as much if it dies. Which sounds awful, and Im slowly getting better now that I can feel bub moving, but my phych says its normal and understandable after loss.

[Duchess]

Minniemouse!! I had a massive pituitary tumor! I had cushings disease and they removed the whole pituitary gland, and my eggs were fine at first then as a seperate condition 3 years after surgery I got premature ovarian failure and they tested to see if I was a carrier for the factor x gene because premature ovarian failure is rare for my age but more common in carriers of the gene. The gene means there is a 50% chance if I have a boy he will have the most common form of retardation. So I was one of the super rare people to have the ovarian failure without being a carrier...
Other than that with no pit gland I take meds to make thyroid work, meds to make adrenals work and meds to make kidneys work.
I've been a miracle patient for my specialist firstly just being cured from cushings then six month later getting pregnant with twins first fertility treatment and now getting pregnant again after only 9 months of trying.
But I won't be pushing the luck any further, this will be it!

Miss 6 is sleeping beside me with a terrible juicy cough and miss 2 has a husky voice but no cough but cries in pain most nights lately so I have a feeling today is going to be a long day...

[Lily Dust]

does anyone else have trouble believing it's real? i feel this it's all surreal at times,work is there really a very active little foetus in my tummy! not sure if it's a mc thing or a lttcc thing, maybe both?

Couldn't read this and not post kbudgie! Yep, I think its a combo of both. It never dawned on me in 38.5 weeks with DD that I was gonna bring home a baby, it just didn't compute. I was still POAS at 37 weeks. This time, Im 38 weeks and it's just hit me, I might be having a baby :O

[Melster]

Greenslw...thanks

Duchess...sounds fimilar

Me4ever....i think they get used to there lives and peace without children LOL...i have noticed a change in my mum also, even though she works at a creche ...she has become really short and gets frustrated at the kids...she has been sick though and has been different since my dad passed...but she is also very particular about her house and stuff the the right spot etc....that is so true, my dad died at 71 and he was like that, he was very strict and we had to be quiet and do as we were told and not allowed to mess the house up etc.....im quiet strict on my children, but there is only so much you can do when the kids get bored and have energy. Do you feel a bit better today, glad you had a good scan

Minniemouse, yes i do dont i....think these hormones are getting there way with me and the external factors. need to do something about it......and quick ill have a 5 year old at school doing drop offs and pick ups..and 21/2 year old and baby......FUN FUN...ha ha ha

Kbudgie....with the other 2 they were planned and i was very on it and on it and excited..especially after my mc...this one was a surprise and shock and for me although i talk about being pregnant and know im pregnant...i am also in denial i think...i sometime forget and it doesnt actually seem real even when i look at the scans and have the sickness etc....its like when she pops out it will sink in for me

Calluna..i am the same..i feel a bit disconnected with this one and feel bad because i was connected with the other two..

[vic261]

does anyone else have trouble believing it's real? i feel this it's all surreal at times,work is there really a very active little foetus in my tummy! not sure if it's a mc thing or a lttcc thing, maybe both?

Sneaking in...I am currently 34 weeks, have endless movements, our nursery is all set up and ready to go and I still feel like its very surreal. I dont know if it will sink in until after the birth. I know I am pg, but it still doesn't compute that I get to leave hospital with our very own baby. I think it is a LTTTC and a mc thing too. Good luck with everything xxx

Sneaks out...

[Duchess]

Kbudgie
Every scan I tell myself wow its real, I walk out and start to doubt it again. I can't comprehend that I actually beat the medical condition and that it actually worked. With a whole heap of other negative stuff I just can't believe something so wonderful will actually happen. Little twin stopped growing so randomly and silently I fear every scan will give me similar news.

[Duchess]

Kbudgie
Every scan I tell myself wow its real, I walk out and start to doubt it again. I can't comprehend that I actually beat the medical condition and that it actually worked. With a whole heap of other negative stuff I just can't believe something so wonderful will actually happen. Little twin stopped growing so randomly and silently I fear every scan will give me similar news.

[minniemouse]

Duchess: it's not often you come across someone else who has had a pituitary tumour ! Mine was found when I was 27 weeks with my daughter after it had a haemorrhage ! (It wasn't there 12 months before when I had an MRI)

Kbudgie: I'm in denial about this pregnancy, I really felt with the Ivf the odds were against us at every step and I can't believe it worked. I don't think I will believe it until it is born safely.

This stage is very much limbo for me, baby isn't viable so I'm really no 'safer' than I was at 6/8/10 weeks

Fingers crossed the scan tomorrow shows everything is fine because I have really bad backache & stretching pain right now and it's worrying me ! Luckily I have felt baby move since 12 weeks & it's jumping around in there but I don't like this pain !

[Desailly]

Hi everyone

I'm new here. I'm 5wks pregnant, have been TTC for 18 months and had 2 miscarriages in that time. Both were missed miscarriages so I thought all was fine until scan revealed no heartbeat and I had to have D&C to remove (one at 11wks, one at 9wks).

I am blessed with two children aged 5 and 3 but for some reason having a third has proved more difficult than expected. I joined the forum as I just feel the need to talk about it. My hubby has not wanted anyone to know about our MCs or that we have been TTC and it is so hard not to talk about it when it becomes so all consuming in your life. My mum knows about the MCs but she's the only one, not even my siblings and friends know which is really hard. I feel like I'm constantly biting my tongue remembering not to give anything away.

So hard to know what to think being pregnant again now. Want to be excited but feel like I can't yet. Dr has ordered weekly blood test to check HCG levels so at least might be alerted to any issues earlier this time.

Look forward to chatting to you all.

[Duchess]

Desailly- it's tough having it a secret, it shouldn't be, it's a tragic part of life. People know I need to have fertility treatment and because my twin died at 14 weeks we had already announced it, I publically remember the anniversary of when I found out to try and remove the stingma associated with it.

I hope this is it, I hope this bub stays and is a lovely pregnancy.

[Duchess]

Double

[Greenslw]

Wow busy day in here

Me4 my brother has been with his family twice but I haven't met his daughter 3. I've been twice prior to kids. My dad only met DS last year it is hard although I probably wouldn't have pushed DF for another bubs if they were here glad your ob app went well hmmmmmm vanilla slice

Desaily welcome I hope with ever week your nerves settle

Minniemouse hope scan goes great tomorrow

Kbudgie I totally don't feel like pg is real prob due to not being completely out in the open with it until i feel a kick then I feel it lol

Me what a day DS is sick but not too bad this morning took him to child care and instead of them phoning me they decided to tell me he was off all day when I picked him up. Tomorrow is pre entry with DS school and I think I should have the day off with ds but have 1000 things to do at work everything at once. My mum is going into hospital yhursday and im designTed driver so another short day at work. Anyone else having trouble making choices ATM? Feels like my brain is fine with what I know anything new is stressful. Not like me at all.

[kbudgie]

welcome desaily, men are a strange breed! my Dh didn't want to talk much to me about our trouble tcc or mc, we should just keep trying he said but i pushed and eventually we discovered the problem was endometriosis. we did a cycle using insemination and it worked. dealing with mc i needed to talk to people (still do) but many do not know what it's like. belly belly is such a great place as there are lots of wonderful and supportive ladies here who know how it feels and can sympathise. you may not be able to talk to people in real life but you can speak (or type) to us x
lets hope this pregnancy gives you your healthy and happy 3rd bub. i think we all worry when we have had a mc and i am not sure when it will subside x