Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss #7

Damprye-- when do you get your blood test results?

Hi everyone, just letting you know I'm still alive. I've been reading but not posting. I had my hcg levels checked again yesterday & initially I thought the receptionist said 336702 & I was almost crying with happiness but as the day worn on I started to doubt myself so I gave into temptation & checked my results before I left work - gutted, it's only 33602 :( Obviously my GP isn't concerned or else she would've rang but taking 7 says to double?? Wth?? I know doubling time increases after 6000 is registered but 7 days? Feel angry & betrayed by my body. My u/s is next week & I'm tempted to bring it forward but I want DP with me & he can't get there this week. I know my levels are still within "normal" but I'm really concerned about the doubling time.

I will hop on tomorrow & write personals, sorry for being a negative nelly again. Dampyre your swelling sounds really concerning, please look after yourself

Tic toc :hug: try not to worry if gp isn't hope scan comes quickly.

Me4 take a break girl lol it won't happen when bubs comes thanks for the positive vibes need it.

Mel me thinks we might be in the same part of the world :) was thinking I was the only one. Step kids are hard just know that even if they yell scream at you if they have been loved they will come around. Hope you enjoyed pink lots sof girls in my office went.

Damprye hope today is a good day.

Hi to others

Me going CRAZY need to know NOW but hay that is me not a patient person. Lots of colleges asked today but don't know. I need to start planning a hand over either way no job or maternity leave, just can't believe it isn't far away. I was having a little day dream about not working full time after baby, being able to take ds to kindy no child care for baby and more balance in my life, then I woke up :( mortgage bills and I'm the main earner, blah, I worked three jobs to pull it all together with ds I don't want to but I can do it again if I have to. Not sleeping or eating a lot think Friday can't come soon enough.

Greenslw- Being the main earner is hard.

Tictoc- I hope your scan goes well.

Duchess- I get my results on Monday :)

Me4- Yup, trying to drink and keep down 3ltrs per day as requested by OB :)

thanks ladies.....im just praying and praying things start sorting them selves out..its been a really rough trott....im not liking being this stressed when im pregnant, i feel really bad about it. Been getting some period type pains...hope its just baby pains and not stress pains

Greenslw....yes STEP KIDS!!!...between the crazy ex....and the kids..........they have come and go through the 10 years and everytime they disrupt our lives and then disrupt it again when they leave....they are starting to get themselves into ALOT of trouble.......we have tried to give them a stable. healthy. responsible. strict enviroment but they are choosing the other side....and now this SK has just dug a whole for herself....long long story and scary and police involved and lying...silly silly girl...her mum still doesnt want her so she is going to her aunties apparently.....we just cant keep picking up the peaces everytime the ex kicks them out or they do something wrong..i will have 3 children in the house soon and we just cant do it.....its too stressful....theres alot more too it but you can imagine. Its a very messy situation. then it disrupts our money to and causes financial stress........OH i hope you find out soon and have some good news

Damprye...thats no good at all.......

Me4ever...you're good going for that walk !!!!!!! the baby must be hungry :)

Tick Tok...sorry its so stressful for you...keep youre fingers crossed and i hope youre scan comes around soon enough

Mel sounds like you and dh have done your best and it is very sensible to think of how this is effecting the small children in the house. Never easy. :hug:

Staying distracted today planning df and my 7 year anniversary. Bit excited ds is having his first sleep over with my mum, I just booked gold class movie tickets now to pick a spot for dinner, movie starts at 9.10 I hope I don't fall asleep lol don't think I've been up this late for a while. So much changes in 7 years and both of us are much better people now. Just need the white picket fence :lol:

Damprye have you found any relief? Good luck with your results on Monday.

me4ever you're so lucky having a hubby who gives back rubs! Jealous :)

Greenslw good luck with today :) I also day dream about not going back to work full time after baby is born. I only worked part time when DD is young and it was great although I didn't appreciate it at the time and was so caught up in other rubbish. It's silly but now she's heading to high school next year I really feel she needs me home more than ever. Or is that just mummy guilt talking?

Mel I'm sorry you're under so much stress instead of being able to put your feet up and enjoy your growing belly. It really sounds like you and DH have done everything you can to provide stability. There does come a time unfortunatley when you do have to just say "enough" and do what's best for you and your family. I have had a similar situation with my mum where I have had to walk away. People often ask "but she's your mum, don't you miss her?" and yes I miss her like crazy but her negative behaviour doesn't just impact me, my DD ends up hurt as well. :hug: Hopefully in time trust can be rebuilt and she realises how much you have supported her.

So it seems the only pregnancy symptom I still have is being constipated (lucky me). Boobs are no longer sensitive, no more waking during the night to pee, no ravenous appetite, no more baby growing stretching or pulling, no more feeling seedy - nothing. I feel empty and unsocial. I lay in bed in the morning with my hand on my belly and try to "feel" baby but it seems we have a bad connection and if he's there I can't hear him. I have lost all my excitement at being pregnant and no longer look at baby clothes and want to buy the whole rack. I have one more week of this "no mans land" and I think by the end of it I'm going to be numb. I'm hoping my mind has just gone into self protect mode and everything will be fine at the scan. We shall see.

I better get off the computer, I am going to be 20mins late for work at this rate and since I finally have my interview in 2 weeks it's a good thing there are no bosses at work today :) Hope everyone has a lovely Friday.

Tic toc nothing wrong with protecting yourself just keep a little spark in your mind and belly :hug: I assume you won't share you pg news? Good luck. I agree teenagers seem to need us as much as babies.

Ladies I'm having a bad day ds is sick with gastro and I'm home just waiting for job news. I spoke to my manager about handover when I'm on mat leave and he made a comment about that being easy but hard if its sooner. Tease! A watched phone never rings and like you tic toc I'm preparing for bad news but still hopefully.

No, won't be sharing preg news until as late as possible & my excuse will be that due to my previous history I'm not confident sharing the information if pregnancy isn't viable. It would be nice to tell a few of the girls at work though, even so they have an understanding of why I am a bit distracted at the moment. They have assumed its due to finding another rental property - add that to my list of stress!

How's the phone going? Have you checked to see if it's still working? Lol

Haha tic toc I only have a mobile and I'm sure it's working. Just got puked on changed all my cloths need some good news soon.

I have everything crossed for you greenslw!
Sucks that DS is sick.

Ticktock-- I can't imagine what waiting another week not knowing will be like I had scans at 6,8,10,12, 20 weeks and then 13 in hospital, and every OB appointment he does quick ultrasound on bub.
After my 20 week scan on Tuesday and more and more kicks I'm feeling a lot better about everything.
I really want to enjoy my last pregnancy now that the biggest risks are over. With DD2 I spent so much time in hospital at beginning and end and then my town flooded and DD1's teacher was washed away in the floods and I had to give away my dog and my cat was hit by a car the pregnancy was a blur.

I'm going to leave this thread soonish (i need to know how you all end up!) and go and not think about all the things that could happen to bub now I'm actually bonding.
Xxx

ticktoc I had a few people at work I could confide in. a few knew the day of my bfp and it helped knowing they would understand should the worst happen in the first few weeks. They were there for me when I had the mc too.

duchess I am glad you are feeling better and more confident xx I can understand you thinking about leaving but personally i still feel such support here, maybe I am not ready and maybe I won't be. .

afm hospital booking in appointment on Monday. Time to get my goodie bag, Yay!

Duchess I have scan envy! I know having scans doesn't guarantee anything but having that reassurance must be wonderful. I just said to DP that this time next week we'll either be celebrating or I'll be drinking a bottle of red.

Yay for your appt kbudgie, you'll have to let me know what's in your goodie bag - I don't remember getting one with DD

Duchess I totally get why this thread may not work for some ppl long term, for me it's the only place to stay connected to all the ppl I've met on my ttc adventure. So good to hear you're bonding awwwww

Kbudgie good luck with app enjoy your treats

Well ds is finally in bed still pretty sick, and I didn't hear but that's ok now to look forward to my anniversary on Sunday 7 years. Just hope for a good sleep.

Thanks for understanding.
The support here is amazing :)

My last pregnancy was so bitter sweet losing little twin and I know this one is my last and OB was very pleased with everything today I am really feeling its real and I will meet my bubba in 17 weeks (at 38wks) and I'm so excited.

Ticktoc-- I wish this week would hurry up for you!!
Greenslw-- I can't believe you didn't find out!! And DS is sick! What a day!!

My DD2 still has hand foot and mouth disease so the whole second week of holidays has been a write off

But I've started nesting?!? And my kitchen looks amazing lol

Duchess are you having a cs? Do they normally do that at 38 weeks? My dr said I may need a cs last visit due to BIG baby. Does that mean I on.y have 15 weeks? :omg: I need to nest more :lol:

Ds is flaked out on the couch. Had a big cry this morning cos I said no milk. Df just vacuumed and I'm relaxed not a bad Saturday even if it 12c and raining. I just hope ds is ok enough for df and I to go out tonight we will see.

Hey

Is anyone else getting achy period type pains???? There not real painful as such. It's not Braxton's. It's kinda hard to explain
I hope it's just coz the baby is getting bigger and it's stretching pains rather than anything else. Step daughter has left... All the mother is worried about is what money her or her sister will get. The other kids came over , feel like there blaming me plus I'm Not sure if they knew I was pregnant. It's dd second bday today so just celebrating that today

Yeah you normally have sections early to avoid labour and having an emergency. Although both times I have had to have them at 37 weeks.

No Mel that means even less time ahhhhhhhhhhhh feel like I've been procrastinating a lot lately. Maybe I just need the rest of my stuff "work" to be settled. I seem to be getter worse at multi tasking.

As for pain I'd say baby growing or you've been doing too much. With ds sick I've lifted him a couple of times and my tummy feels sore. I've been getting a few "capow" tripe stabbing pains around my belly button, I've blamed ds and df but although it felt external it wasn't bit weird. Hope bday celebrations go well. It's always easier for step kids to blame the non paternal adult, even as kids get older blaming their biological parent is the last resort. Been on the end of that a few times.

My previous OB did them at 38.5 or 37.5 but mine ended up 36.6
My current one does them at 39!!!
My endocrinologist won't let me go past 38

Oh my goodness! Despite being in limbo & waiting to see what that scan shows we just bided on a pram/bassinet/capsule on eBay!! I've been researching & every design I liked was not practical price wise so we had a look on eBay & surprise! DP is even happy to pay for it & pick it up tomorrow. :D sorry, I just wanted to share my happiness :)

Just went & picked up our eBay purchase :) Yay!! And today is the first time I've felt really seedy since last week so am feeling a lot more positive. Trying on jeans & realising I only have 1 pair that still fit almost made me cry so off to check out the maternity section at Kmart. Didn't realise my hips & belly had changed so much. :o

:)
Soooooo exciting!!!!!!!!
That all sounds so positive!!

I think I had my first EVER (like I never had for past pregnancies) braxton hicks today kinda shocked me... But a nice reminder of bubba...

Just popping in quickly before I can only access fb again (Vodafail fails) to say that OB appt went well, bp down, way down, 108/68 and no protein! How awesome is that? Got GTT results (repeat normal gestation test) and all good there. Other tests I have no idea, I not long called to book another appt as he definitely forgot to check them as I remembered not long ago that I was supposed to have my anti-D today lol. Still have swelling and have had high readings at different points and different readings so not sure if things are good, better or just fluctuating. I can't blow balloons via mouth anymore as I get pretty white sparkly spots dancing around for about 5mins and last night when DTD (I am determined to have a love life, even if it hurts and we have to not do so some nights lol) I was on top and just about passed out when I O'd. Had to lay down immediately otherwise I would have. Did let OB know that one though so I could get the ok to still DTD. Too much blood can go to the uterus, especially with how large it is now.

I will be back when I can use DP's PC to do perssies

:wall::wall::wall::redface::redface::redface:

I have completely and utterly had it........

So far..

Car fail
Phone fail
glasses fail

is that my 3 bad things and is it over now..???????????????

So far i have had my breaks fail and had to pay 700.00...then to fix the door 450.00..then some sensor 400.00
Yesterday DD2 spilt a whole cup of milk on my iphone.......mmmmmmmmmmm soaked in rice...not working..need new phone
then someone steps on my glasses for vision.....cant be fixed and need a new pair

Step daughter moves out...drop in centerlink..pay back money

mmmmmm and thats not the end of it...the list goes on and on and on........

im so stressed...and getting pains still.......period type pains.......

Greenslw - any job news?? How was date night?

Duchess would you like to "nest" at my place lol, my kitchens a mess.

Damprye - good news about the drop in BP & I nearly pmsl at your "determined to have a love life" statement - go girl! :D

Melstar have you put your phone in a bowl & covered it with rice? Apparently if you leave it over night the rice draws the moisture out of the circuits.
Also centrelink cannot make you pay back more than you can afford, have you spoken about a payment plan? That way you can nominate your repayment amount.
Can your glasses be claimed on insurance? How frustrating for you! Hope belly pains ease off and don't cause too much worry.

How are you kbudgie?

We got accepted for a rental today (happy dance) which saves us $20 a wk & is a bigger, more baby friendly house :) Belly feels tight & feels like I'm stretching. Decided to not have my hcg levels checked this week as I will have a definite answer at the scan on Friday.

Melster- bloody heck, something needs to go right soon :hugs:

Tictoc- yays on the better house :)

I just had my scan. Bub is now transverse and finally got to see her brain lol

Tick tok...yeah i put it into some rice and covered it all yesterday/last night and today...i ended up getting a new phone, it will probably cost me an extra 30.00 a month...ill see what happens with my bill...

Yeah i will have to speak to centerlink, and then live off less money..and have to sort out that and Child support etc....cant believe the ex was only texting and spewing about money.....not to talk to him about the incident that happened with her or that she has gone up to one of her relatives house.....that woman makes me so mad

and we dont have insurance....we have to pay the babies fees next week but i have rang her and asked if i can pay it the next time and hopefully i would have my tax done by then.

Hopefully some of this starts sorting it self out..

Im really starting to worry about the baby....i can feel her kicking but i feel like i have constant pressure as well as tightness and period pains..im just not sure if its normal and if i should be worrying about it...its not sharp pains...but like heavy/dull/aching/full pains..so hard to describe..

Fighting with hubby and all the rest is not helping and worrying about the step kids situation and feeling there blaming me...

congratulations on the new plc tt..

Thanks damprye.....hope things get better for you

Hello everyone else...

:hug: Mel, no one should have to deal with that much stress

So I had tenants moving in tomorrow and now I don't.
Not happy :(
There was two weeks between our old and new tenants and another agent had a keen buyer so I said see what you can do in those two weeks otherwise its off the market for 12 months.
I didn't realise how serious or positive the inspections were and didn't say anything to other agent who arranged tenants.
Today they found out we had a second inspection today, then they rang and abused me for selling the house without telling them. Which is not true, they then told our tenants to go elsewhere :/

So now we have a contract yay but they don't know yet there are no tenants so I dot know of they will still want to go through.
Really needed that stress.
Hopefully will find out ASAP if it all good still.

I also hope miss 2 finally gets the all clear tomorrow from hand foot and mouth, he had it for almost 2 weeks... And give it to my adult brother the week he started new job :/

Baby kicks everyday and loves about and keeps me feeling positive about pregnancy.

Have rental inspection tomorrow so have to clean this place :/

Melstar-- if you are unsure about pains just ring ob or midwife, it can't hurt to ask, I hope everything sorts itself out ASAP

Tictock-- count down to scan!!! :)


Damprye-- so all was good with bub and brain :)

I am still here, so very tired. I thought the 2nd trimester was meant to bring more energy? !? could be residual jet lag I guess

Mel :hug: :hug: :hug: yes no more bad luck for you. Have you been lifting the kids? My belly is so sore today after ds being sooky and needing loads of cuddles.

Tic toc sounds like you are in a positive mood great only 3 more sleeps :)

Kbudgie hope energy kicks in soon.

Duchess hope tenants get sorted soon and yay for kicks and feeling positive.

Damprye sounds like a good scan.

Me no job news but not giving up two others in my office went for it to and they don't know so not over till the fat lady sings right or maybe pg lady :lol:
Ds is on the mend thank goodness. My belly is sore today and feeling ms hope it isn't gastro just me over doing it.

thankyou for all my hugs!!!!!!!!!!

Duchess i hope all youre house stuff sorts out!!

Kbudgie.....i think the jet lag would defiantly not help...i defiantly felt better this second tri..but i am starting to get tired again

greenslw....thanks.....i have a 2 yr old but nothing out of the ordinary...i think im going to put it down to stress and maybe the baby growing and my belly growing.....i think if it gets really painful or the baby stops moving ill ring...illl keep crossing my fingers for you for youre job..hopefully they tell you soon

My friend had her baby today...yayyy now for my cousin.......babies babies......

Man, I either have all day sickness or my body's not liking what I've eaten - have been queasy all day, feels like I'm getting gastro or AF. Had to walk around the block this afternoon to get fresh air as I didn't think I was going to be able to finish work without it. Have been noticing more cramps over the last few days & feeling more fatigued. House is a mess & we have visitors coming this weekend but I don't have the energy to clean.

2 sleeps until the scan, starting to feel very nervous but also excited.

Hope everyone has had a good "hump" day :)

With the twins I had terrible morning sickness from week 9 til week 16
Friday will be here before you know it!!

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Good luck for tomorrow TickToc.

Duchess am sure there's no twins here, better not be anyway :D

Thanks for tidying up the threads Divvy.

Thank you for your well wishes Cheshire, as it gets closer I'm feeling more confident. Fingers crossed ;)

Tic toc good luck tomorrow thinking of you. Xx

Divvy thank you

No job news and work has been HELL. I'm ok sort of with not getting the job but just want to know! Been feeling sick ms like for three days now, headache and neck out, not a happy camper ATM. First Braxton hicks last night :) nothing like being pg to bring me back to what's important BUT I still want to know.

Greenslw that's terrible on their part to drag it out so long, I'd be getting really frustrated too. Yay for braxton hicks :)

Well today is the day & I've woken up & burst into tears - I don't want to have the u/s now, after all my agonising & stress the last few weeks I just don't want to know. Is this normal? Am I just scared or is my subconscious preparing me for the shock of having my fears confirmed?
If I don't have the scan then I can pretend everything is ok. Can't stop crying :( It's going to be a long day.