Thanks duchess. My time is running out too due to very low egg count so I think I either keep trying immediately or give up as in another year I may not have the option anymore.
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Thanks duchess. My time is running out too due to very low egg count so I think I either keep trying immediately or give up as in another year I may not have the option anymore.
Oh Desailly, I am so sorry :comfort: I hope you can find comfort with your DH, maybe confide in a friend? I'm sure your Mum would be ok with you telling her. Life is not fair at times :shakehead:
I saw the Dr - hcg has risen to 5959 so not doubling but increasing so the Dr is happy. She has scheduled me for weekly blood tests and has advised that I cancel my u/s for the 24th and have it on the 12th July as she thinks my dates are out by a week or so and that's why only the sac could be seen. I don't know what to think anymore, I'm just going to go with it and try to not drive myself and DP crazy in the process. Guess we wait and see.
Desaily -- low egg count then keep going, just keep believing it will happen, you do not deserve it less because you have two beautiful children, you don't want it less either. Be kind to yourself and share your loss with real life support people, you need to let it out :(
Tictock!!!!! Keep thinking positive!
Desaily - I'm so very sorry :hug:
TicToc - glad your numbers are still going up, hoping you get some good news at your next ultrasound x
Desailly :hug: I hope you are able to try again with no pressure if that's what you want big cuddle to you
Tic toc sounds like a sensible dr you have I waited for first scan till I knew there would be a hb. I know waiting drives us all nuts but I hope you can keep yourself busy and July 12 will come soon. Numbers going up is good.
Kbudgie multa! Now I really am green enjoy.
:hug: Desailly, Im so sorry for your loss
Good luck Tic Toc. Thinking of you hun.
so sorry desailly xx
I'm so sorry for your loss Desailly :( Sending you big hugs.
Desaily ..... I'm so so sorry :hug::hug: did you have the health issues ? Do you have to have testing or anything. You need someone to talk too!!!!!!! Talk as much as you need. Do you have a friend to confide in
Tick tok .... I hope ur scan comes quickly and you get some great news. Try and keep really busy till ur scan and keep ur mind busy.
Hi everyone
Thanks so much for your messages of support. Bit down today but guess that's understandable. So frustrating that my body hasn't realised it's not pregnant. I've been getting angry every time I have a wave of morning sickness or my boobs start aching - why can't my body stop torturing me!
Melster - I don't have any health issues as such. My first 2 kids were conceived naturally and relatively easily but for some reason when I went to have the third something went wrong and I just keep miscarrying. After the last miscarriage Dr did a range of tests and said the only one that came back abnormal was the one indicating egg count. Apparently number supposed to be about 15 and mine was about 4 meaning my eggs may run out soon so if I want another child need to keep trying now in case I go into early menopause in the next couple of years (I'm only 33). He can't explain how that's related to miscarriages though. I did some internet research and read one theory that your body naturally releases better quality eggs first so when you're getting towards the end of the egg supply there is a higher portion of low quality eggs which therefore increases chances of miscarriage. Seems kind of logical but not proven though so who knows.
Desailly - that sounds like premature ovarian failure - you still have eggs just your ovaries have stopped looking after them, that's one of my conditions I was diagnosed with last year (31)
There is nothing you can do about it as far as I know but I was concerned about miscarrying but then I hoped the egg just wouldn't fertilise if it was dodgy.
Where are you located? My fertility specialist is one of the best especially with these conditions...
Half way yesterday..... I'll be meeting bub around 38 weeks so yay!! Backwards countdown makes me think I can do this, this is going up happen... But then I look at the rare medical conditions I have and think I actually could be unlucky enough to be one of the 1% who lose their bub late :(
Desailly how are you feeling today? I've been thinking of you, I hope you've been able to talk to someone & debrief.
Try to think positive duchess, there are miracle babies born all the time so why shouldn't your bubba be one of them? ;) You are growing a baby despite medical conditions, keep up the good work.
AFM I'm ok - tired & feeling blah but I keep reminding myself I am pregnant & I will continue to think of myself as pregnant until told otherwise. Am looking forward to having my weekly hcg check. I know it's not guaranteed but it makes me feel like I'm being productive.
Hi all. I'm ok I guess. Just want Wed to hurry up so I can get d&c done and move on. Waiting is hard while its still inside me and I'm still getting some nausea etc to remind me.
Duchess haven't had premature ovarian failure mentioned to me but sounds about right. Im in ACT so limited specialists.Part of my prob seems to be that I get pregnant easily and my body isn't recognizing dodgy eggs. Dr said there's a new treatment where you take a steroid drug that is supposed to help increase the immuno response of the uterine lining to help it identify bad eggs and not allow them to implant. So it takes longer to get pg as your body waits for a good egg but hopefully minimises miscarriage. Not sure if I like the idea of being on steroids whilst getting pg though...
Hope everyone else is going ok. Thanks again for your support.
Desailly do you ovulate naturally? Could you go to a specialist and have a scan before you ovulate to see the egg that has been produced? A seperate condition I have means I don't ovulate naturally so I wonder if my doc knew what to look for before triggering me to ovulate after we grew eggs? My levels were 2 last year so maybe being less than you gives me the condition POF and yours not quite that "bad"?
I would be open to the steroids, I had to take them when miss 2 was 33-35 weeks to make sure she was strong enough if she had to be born early due to my gallbladder failing, I held out til 36+6 but knowing the steroids had been given made me feel more in control of the situation. (I also had to have morphine which prior to doing freaked me out but with no choice and some education I realised how tough these babies are... Morphine was the only thing to stop gallbladder/pancreas pain which enabled me to continue the pregnancy to a safe week)
Ticktoc - I am starting to think more positively, I don't think I can tell myself I haven't popped anymore so having a belly helps and this morning I felt him/her from the outside and hubby felt the baby, not a kick but a definately hard area that is where the baby is, all these things make it feel more real. We have a boy and girl name and out scan in a week and a half and then maybe I'll be a lot more settled and feel pregnant.
When is your next scan TickToc?? how are you feeling? Are you having symptoms still?
Desailly how are you? You're being very brave while waiting for wednesday. I was lucky to have had my D&C within 24hrs of finding out I had had a missed m/c and I was a mess. I admire your ability to being able to talk on here and discuss your options for possible future pregnancies. I'm not an expert but I believe they wouldn't be offering the use of steroids if there was any risk to the baby. I hope you get some good news soon from your Dr and you are finally able to have the sticky baby that you want and deserve xxx
Feeling bub from the outside and sharing that with your hubby is wonderful news Duchess (actually got a silly smile on my face). I hope your scan helps to put your mind at ease and you can settle in and enjoy your pregnancy. All we can do is make plans for the future and think positive.
I'm feeling ok - so tired at night that I feel drunk (it's not a good feeling at all) and have noticed that in the morning's I don't feel sick as such but I feel weak and jittery until I have something to eat or drink. I usually feel seedy in the afternoon if I'm late eating lunch. I just keep telling myself that it's out of my hands and until I'm told otherwise then I am pregnant and I am going to enjoy it. I had two helpings of dinner last night (even though I was saying I wasn't hungry while cooking it) and then polished off a piece off cake so I guess it's save to say my appetite is increasing lol. I need to learn some self control.
Morning
How's everyone start to the week?
Not much happening here except some out side stresses. Not sleeping real well and dd2 is being extremely difficult and clingy. Got her 2nd bday coming up.
Hi Melster! All's well on board here! Have another ob appointment today and can't wait to see little bub again. I can't believe that we're already 22 weeks! I just weighed myself and was shocked to see I"m 9 kilos above my usual weight :$ Most of it has gone to my boobs, they're humungous... Some of it to my belly, but it's still very small. Have you been feeling your baby move? I keep feeling it on and off, some days hardly anything, especially when I'm working and am too busy to notice. Other days when it's more quiet it's dancing around and kicking away. Is your dd2 healthy? Hope she starts getting less clingy... She's almost 2? Your signature says born in 2012?
Hi to everyone else! Hope all's progressing nicely for you! Am mostly stalking at the moment.
I'm feeling bub from outside now :) kicking lots at night and I can't kid myself about not showing anymore, but anyone who doesn't know me wouldn't be sure because of body shape before.
It's getting more exciting, my big scan next Tuesday, I'm getting my dad to look after the girls so I can really enjoy it. They have been to all the other scans and miss 2 doesn't understand and miss 6 gets bored after a while so hopefully I'll get a DVD and they can just watch that.
I kinda wish I knew what I was having but I know I'd regret finding out.
I hope no news is good news from everyone.
Me4ever...hope all goes well at ur appointment. I know I can't believe we're 22 weeks either!!!!! Soon we will be talking about pre labour .. Whoops. I just changed it. I
Don't know what's wrong with her... She seems fine.. No sickness just super clingy.. Don't know if its her age. Terrible twos. Or she senses the baby....I have put on ten or maybe a little more... That's good for me tho. First pregnancy over 35 kilo and second over 20 kilo!!!! I think I have about 3 kilo in boob lol I'm nearly a f... My belly is kinda big but small for me if that makes sense...yeah been feeling her move.... She is not as active as dd2 I don't think. I feel her daily but she is not that active
Duchess that will be nice to be able to relax during the scan.... Wish I could not know what I'm having but it gets the better of me :)
14 weeks for me. Still have that nervousness between scans but then I feel bubbles and think Ok stop stressing. We have been visiting family and friends overseas and are just waiting on our flight to London. Some of the family have given us baby gifts and is strange I feel like they should not in case....
I know you all know what I mean. I still tell myself all is fine but keep having random worrying moments.
wishing you all well xx
I'll find out what I weigh on Thursday, my endo weighs me everytime I see her which is every six months usually or every trimester when pregnant, and since not weighing any other time my weight has been good... Hopefully it will be a pleasant surprise, I only feel about 5kg heavier so we shall see.
Hi all - ob appointment went well. Ob was happy with what he saw. Even though he gave me a slight telling off about the weight I gained :$
Kbudgie - can't believe you're 14 weeks already! Seems like time is flying! Nice that you're travelling around and good on your family for being optimistic! I've been optimistic with buying for baby and even though I still worry sometimes, being hopeful and looking at all the positive outcomes on the forum (Joeve, amyjellybean, Keta are a few of them) makes me worry a little less! Especially as the pregnancy progresses! Enjoy your trip!
Duchess - yay for feeling bub on outside! So nice isn't it :) It makes me smile when it happens, as I sometimes forget there is a little human being baking in my tummy :) Countdown for the big scan! Enjoy seeing your little one and let us know how you went!
Melster - what a relief that I'm not the only one gaining "so much" weight! Good on you for it being less so far than your other pregnancies! Ha ha can't wait to be talking pre labour! Bring it on (just to get it over and done with and to have our little bundle in our arms!!)
Hi to everyone else!
Me4 glad your app went well don't worry about the weight my mum put on 25kg then right back to size 8.
Mel interesting that this bump is smaller. Eating better or is bubs just sitting different?
Duches feeling those movements and sharing is just awesome
Me off to hosp tomorrow for appointment with ob. Looking forward to hearing hb haven't yet. DS felt bubs the other night. He was so unsettled I was in his bed and he said "mummy stop moving your tummy" it was squirt so cute. Nice day today had my bump out in the sun for a bit. I'm huge as big as 8 months with DS. Got my interview time 2.30 next Monday. Nervous.
Kbudgie....that is really normal to still get worried!! i only seem to settle a bit after my 20 week scan. Hope youre having a great holiday
Duchess...5 kilo sounds great :)
Me4Ever.....glad youre appointment went well.............REALLY!!!!!!! mmmmmmmmmmm thats a tad rude isnt it :? i know they need to be concerne if you have put on extreme weight....but thats not that much...my Ob only weighs me once or twice each pregnancy...and he has never said anything about my weight....dont they say about 12-15 kilo in the pregnancy?? well i think i have put on 11ish and im over half way...ill be happy if i put on 20 kilo and no more
Greenslw...im not sure actually...i think my first i obviously over ate coz it was over 35 kilo...WHOOPS..and im normally a size 12....i had heaps of fluid tho.....and my second over 20 so wasnt as bad...but same thing alot of fluid and lost 12 kilo coming out from hospital.....this one i dont think im retaining fluid...im not as puffy or swollen and i think running around after two you dont really have time, im defiantly eating more than normal and not going to gym...but yeah probably eating better, dont feel like chocolate and things like that..more savory stuff......im going to go back to gym straight after baby and loose this weight...good luck today
Hi everyone, just popping in to say I'm still here. Am so tired I often feel tipsy & by 7pm there's no point talking to me because I cannot remember what was said. The nausea is getting worse, from mid morning until late afternoon I feel blah, I pee 3 times during the night & all my bras make my boobs feel hot & swollen! Isn't it great??? My hcg is 18086 as of yesterday so now counting down til my scan on the 12th. Oh! Forgot to mention I have a thumping headache & sore back today.
I hope everyone is happy & healthy. Sorry for no personals but although I just read them I cannot remember who wrote what. I wish I didn't work full time, I think fatigue would be better managed if I could rest during the day
*hugs* ticktoc xx
Thanks kbudgie, I think I just needed to vent. Feeling better xxx
I'm guessing 5kg I could have a shock on Thursday!! I put on 30+ kg with my eldest and 6-8kg with my youngest (morning sickness and failed gall bladder helped) so very interested in this time.
The only time they worry is if you were big to start with and renember we are only half way? So I think they want to get to to get it in check so its not extreme by end??
I wish I had with my eldest. I only lost 20 of the 30 before I got cushings disease and put on 35kg with the disease... And then lost 26kg after my surgery and was allowed to get pregnant with youngest and have started this pregnancy 10kg lighter than with youngest and 10kg heavier than with eldest....
I can't wait til this baby is born so I can get back to the body I knew before my disease and think about pre-baby weight.
For now I'm enjoying kicks :)
Tictock- when is your scan??
Not until the 12th - I should be 9 wks by then, fx. Am tempted to bring it forward but am following the advice of my dr. Plus if I have it on the 12th DP should be able to make it.
I'm worried about my weight - I put on 30kgs (in tri 2 & 3) with DD but had such a unhealthy lifestyle as well as at lot of fluid. This time I'll 11kgs heavier to start with but my diet & lifestyle are healthier.
Tictock/- you seriously won't put on too much if you are trying not too, first bub you have no idea til its too late or you don't understand how it could be different.
With my first I had 10kg in first trimester :/ and kept going up steadily knowing I was eating wrong and telling myself it was for the baby.
Second time was different for other reasons
But this bub I've been eating when hungry but not going overboard.
Don't stress, that's the last thing you her right now!
Morning...
Putting on the weight is the easy part...getting it off is the problem :o think it took me a year to get the 35 kilo off...think my second i had lost the majority off it by six months..this one im praying i dont put on more than 20kilo...the only thing is the baby puts majority of weight on in the later stages..so hopefully i dont put much body weight on....im eating more and not as healthy..but im not going completely over board..tick tok i think being aware of it defiantly helps and you probably wont put as much on
Im a TAD hormonal :o but whats new LOL...............my hips are starting to hurt a bit especially when i walk for longer periods and the heart burns ramping up....i havent been sleeping to well again...i have been waking up and being wide awake.....so im pretty tired. think the kids have colds and my body is starting to ache so im wondering if im getting something...i have the counslor next week so im hoping that will start helping me being so stressed and soooo hormonal....
Two ppl are due around the middle of july so im looking forward to that and seeing there new tiny bundles
Melster - hearing you with the sore hips during walks. I'm trying to walk my dog twice a day for half an hour. We'll see how long I can keep it up. Also had some heartburn starting last week. I'm trying to drink 2.7litres during the day and then only about 300 ml at night, if that. Also no drinks with dinner - this seems to help. After dinner try to sit up for as long as possible, don't lay down on the lounge. And the sleeping! I sleep well for a couple of hours, then am wide awake for about 2, then have loads of dreams, so wake up feeling tired as well. Today acupuncture, so hopefully she can help me some with the dreams... Hope we sleep better soon :) And yay for other people having bubs :) I've been enjoying cuddles with my new nephew ( 5 weeks old now) sooo cute. And a cousin had a baby as well, now 7 weeks, just as cute!
Duchess - good on you for eating only when hungry. I just seem to be hungry now all the time and even when I should be feeling full I can find room for more and not feel too full. I didn't gain any weight in the first trimester, but was also still on Metformin tablets. In the last 10 weeks I gained 9 kilos :$
Tictoc - fingers crossed the time will fly for you. Not long now!
Me4ever..we sound so much the same...its probably been the last week or so my hips have started and i have found it difficult to walk over the shops....i need to drink more water im naughty :/ the last two times i had heart burn so bad i woukd cry and it was the worst thing in both pregnancies...i would get it night and day..didnt matter what i ate, what i drank or what i was doing. I would vomitt constantly in my sleep and always be woken up from it..it was terrible...so im thanking my lucky stars its only just started now..i have been taking tablets but it will get too a point were i will have to take them night and day....they say eating late at night is defiantly the worst...and yeah staying up right after dinner, being propped up in bed...not eating spicy food, breads/cakes, anything acidic and not get over full with drink or meals because youre stomach is already squished so small meals....im getting really kranky at night...with DD2 being a nightmare at the moment..winging, clingy and crying and then not sleeping properly with her sister then i have to go in there...then DD4 wetting the bed...argghhhhh and then the pregnancy..hb...im one KRANKY mumma.......I think ill be a bit a jeolous when they have there babies :)
Im eating at the moment sometimes and im not even sure if im hungry or if my body is just telling me too eat :) ...its not even that im craving junk food..i am just nibbling.....
School holidays are making me crazy! I love having my big girl home but its sooooooo busy!! So exhausted, just so tired!
Early nights don't happen as I just enjoy a bit of quiet so much I lose track of time.
The weight in first trimester is the worst, it gets away from you, second trimester you try and fix it, third trimester the baby gets huge so you don't know where you are at.
I don't mind how fat I get as long as baby healthy.
Endocrinologist tomorrow :) I need to up my meds for my diabetes insipidus its really driving me crazy. Basically my kidneys don't work so I'm always running to toilet and then bub squashing bladder makes worse :( I wonder if baby hormones make worse too.
Tic toc hold in there hope the next two weeks fly by.
Duchess good luck with school holidays winter sux
Mel hope you can manage hip pain not nice.
Me4 wow you're doing so well walking the dog still heartburn here too :( milk seems to work for now
Hi all
Me yesterday I went to hosp and was informed squirt is in the 95% so dr suggested a cs due to ds breaking his collar bone during delivery and this bubs is BIGGER! So not sure how I feel. I don't want to put bubs at risk or have an emergency cs, lots of thinking. I will be doing the big diabetes test fasting and two hours yuck, I don't think that's it but will follow instructions. Bubs is booting me all the time I love it but so distracting. A also getting a cold blah.
Morning everyone!
Duchess - no idea about 1st baby & weight gain was exactly my problem! I was young & thought woohoo! I'm going to get fat anyway so lets make the most of it. :wall: It took me along time to lose the weight but I put alot back on when I finally gave up smoking 5yrs ago. So my lifestyle & diet are definitely healthier but I'm heavier. Trying to snack on fruit & nuts to curb my continuous hunger lol
Melster - sorry to hear about your hips, is there someone you can see about them? And don't be hard on yourself for being a cranky mumma - it sounds like you have so much going on as well as growing a baby so you're bound to be stretched emotionally xxx
Me4ever - hope your hips are feeling better & having acupuncture has helped you to feel better. I've never been to one but my sil swears by hers.
Greenslw - wow, sounds like you have BIG bubbas! I hope you have access to a lot of information to help you with your decision.
AFM I'm feeling crampy the last few days, keep telling myself baby is growing & has to make room but it does have me a little bit concerned (but what's new? Lol). Am suspecting my backaches are being caused by my gall stones, hmmmmm. Will definitely be cutting out trigger foods if that's the case. I got put on elective surgery waiting list to have GB removed but decided to not put off TTC due to age & fertility issues etc & of course they rang a week after my bfp to give me a date for surgery. Bugger!
I told both my brothers & sil's last night about baby - am hurt by their lack of enthusiasm. One even went on to talk about their new car they're buying. Luckily my Dad is over the moon & was so excited when I told him on Sunday.
My friend had gallbladder removed about 16wks pregnant, scary but safe. I had mine removed on the same table as my c/s horrid.
Stressed to the max yesterday hopefully I can control it better today.
Drumroll... I've put on 6kg since I last saw my endocrinologist around 12 weeks before that I hadn't put on more than 1kg since before getting pregnant. She is happy with me so that's good except..... She's making so the GD test which was horrid last time! I fainted an vomited twice and had to go to hospital in an ambulance!! I had no issues with my eldest but that was before medical conditions. So instead of not taking my meds I am allowed to take my main one so fingers crossed I can handle it. But I'm now basically besties with the blood test lady so I'll be in good hands and bring a friend.
ticktoc sorry your family were so enthusiastic xx we're happy for you though x
Duchess hope all goes well with gd test xx
Gd test won't be for about 5 weeks so I have time to arrange a bloodtest buddy lol
Tictock -- people react to early pregnancy weird, hubby's family was kinda like that, some people I told around 10 weeks made me feel bad, like it was their turn or they always wished they had number three so they were put out I was... I felt like reminding them what I'd been through and what a miracle this bub was.