I am new to this forum and have been reading some of the posts which have helped me alot. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant (3rd pregnancy). I mc twin girls last January (at 23 weeks) and found out last week that I am carrying twins again (non-identical this time). I have had a fair bit of spotting and have been placed on bed rest for the next couple of weeks. I can't help but feel petrified with every small ache and pain I get. I find that I am getting alot of period like and back pain this time around, however I have been told that this is simply my body stretching and making room for the bubz to grow.
I have an appointment with my dr next week and hope that all goes well. I can't help but feel scared that this pregnancy will be a repeat of my last one.
Are the emotions I am feeling at the moment normal???
Mummy of 5 - oh sweetie, I am so sorry for your pain, and your fear. But they are totally normal!
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Hopefully coming here helps with some of your anxieties. It's good news that your twins are non identical - from a pregnancy point of view - hopefully they are also di chorionic di amniotic - or dcda - which means they each have their own amniotic sac and placenta. I remember there are more aches and twinges with a twin pregnancy and more fatigue, and more appetite ( I ate the house out of food I reckon) and more chance of spotting. But honestly if you are really worried, it is your absolute perogative to call your Dr. Don't be shy about it. if you need to call, call.
Rest up as much as you can. Bed rest can be pretty hard, so know that someone is usually lurking in here and will respond to you. You're not alone.
Each of us has to find a way to deal with the fears and anxieties. I am not saying that right now this strategy will work for you or even whether you should try it.
Mine is, every day, I try to remember that I am blessed with a pregnancy, and that this moment, this day, there is hope that it will work out. I put my hand gently on where I think my baby is, and give my baby every ounce of love that I can muster. I still get scared. I still feel sorry for myself. I still grieve my 3 precious little ones. But right now I have a gift, and I think it would be sad to think when I look back on this time, that I didn't "enjoy" the time I have with this bub in this pregnancy, irrespective of how long I have.
Have you got some good DVD's and books or craft to keep you occupied?
If you don't mind me asking, did you name your girls? If you're up to sharing I just love knowing our precious little ones by name. For me its important, but I understand if you are not up to sharing.
Take care, and good luck with getting yourself in the right head space. Hmmm, it doesn't have to be "right" just one that works for you? There is no right or wrong in this journey.
mummyof5 welcomo this thread and congratulations on your pregnancy. Im so sorry to hear of the loss of your beautiful angels and i wish you a H&H pregnancy this time round. It is completely normal to have those fears that your experiencing but as dory said try and enjoy every minute and dont be afraid to call your dr even if it is only for peace of mind for yourself. Dory your words are just amazing and you truly are a beautiful & strong person, i love coming in and reading your posts and taking away lots of advice from each and every one. HPL it is ok to have those feelings towards other woman who are pregnant, we wouldnt wish it on our worst enemy to go through what we have been through but it is hard to think that some people do have it so much easier and even harder when these people dont appreciate how lucky they are that it has been so easy for them.
AFM just plodding along, still cant get the fear out of my head that im going to go to the docs for my next appt only to be told your bub has stopped growing or there is no hb. I know i shouldnt be thinking like this and i should be enjoying it but its just a little hard at times. Ive had no signs or reason to think this but just cant seem to get it out of my head. I have a docs appt on wednesday and im going to get her to do an u/s just to put my mind at ease, but wednesday cant come around quick enough. Anyway enough whingeing from me, id better go and get ready for work.
Take care
Thank you for your replies, I completely agree with EL85, Dory your response was beautiful and very helpful, thank you. I was 22 weeks and 5 days pregnant with my twin girls when one of the sacks ruptured, I was in hospital for 5 days and went into labour on the morning of the fourth day at 23 weeks and 2 days. I find it very soothing to talk about my loss because I am not alone and I find it comforting to hear other people's advice. This twin pregnancy is a diachorionic diamniotic (I think that is the termonology) twin pregnancy i.e. seperate sacks, seperate placentas, I have been told that this is the safest twin pregnancy to have to fingers crossed.
Because the girls were 23 weeks I had to give birth and register their births, we ended up naming them Mikayla Hope and Gabriella Faith, because at the time eventhough we were very confused as to why God was doing this to us, we still had hope and faith that he would send them back to us one day, which ultimately he has.
I am really trying to enjoy this pregnancy and am very lucky that I have a strong support network around me, as I have a little girl who is turning two next month.
Kx
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