Audax - poor bugger. At least feeling sick does take up a lot of your focus! Poor Bugger. Seems like Milly5 and HLP are going to have to move over and share with you....
Elise- that IS exciting. LOOK at how far alng you are? I am so excited for you. It's ok and normal to be scared. I found the 20 week scan I had dissapointing and scary, becuase I didn't do any research into it and thought it would be like the nuchal - with lots of nice shorts of bubs in profile. Just in case you don't know, the 20 weeks scan is a morphology scan and the sonographer will be looking for all the vital structures and organs to see if the are present and developing, so lots of focus and time spent on individual parts of bubs. I have only ever had one, but that's what it was like for me. I am going to ask the sonographer to give me a few profile images of bubs this time around. It's pretty exciting to feel the "quickening" isn't it?
Milly - don't worry about not "feeling" bubs yet, particularly if this is the first time you've gotten this far along. There are so many factors, first of all, your abdominal muscles will still be "tight" ( rather than loose) so that makes it harder and also, you're not quite sure exactly what to look for. For Amelia, I thought I was starting to feel the flutters, but it wasn't definite nor all the time, even at 21 weeks I was still uncertain. Now, though, I am fairly sure I have been feeling them for a while, which surprised me. I suppose there have got to be some positives to all that stretching and heartache...but then again it could just be my wacky GI tract! Who knows, it makes me feel better to say its bubs.
About the proceedure, thanks for asking. I am not sure for me there is a time to breath a genuine sigh of relief, except maybe after 30 weeks when bubs has an excellent chance of surivial without too many complications if born prem, although every day after 24 weeks is welcome. I am not trying to be meladramatic.
I will be monitored closely, at least every 2 weeks my cervix will be measured ( either internal manual, or internal dildo cam (u/s) or external u/s - but worth it) and I am going to ask the Dr about the benfits of testing me for fetal fibroconnectin levels ( an indicator of that prem labour is likely). Luckily I get on well with my ob and its no hassle for me to get to his rooms, given that I will be there a lot!
But having said all that, I am quietly confident, that I will be holding a healthy bubs at term. If I wasn't quietly hopeful, I wouldn't be on this journey. If history is an indicator of the future, it doesn't bode well for me, but I just try to take each day as it comes and be thankful for what I have today. It's all I can do to keep myself from going around the twist. But all the optomism goes out the window whenever I feel a twinge or cramp or back ache - my immediate thought is - am I going into labour?
Sounds tough, but I read a book by Darci Klein called "To Full Term, a Mothers triumph over miscarriage", and her pregnancy journey was truly truly frightening and inspiring. So when I feel sorry for myself, I think, it could be so much worse.
Charliecat - hope you are hanging in there girl.
HPL, Gabrille and Emersyn, MillyD - how are you doing?Hope easter has kept you busy with enough time to rest.
Hi to everyone else - Laney, Angelic... I am going on memory here, which is not the best.....
Hi ladies,
Congratulations to all on your BFPs!
There are quite a few familiar names in here and its so good to see so many good stories.
Looking forward to getting to know you all in the short time i have left.
Hi all,
Congrats to any new BFP holders!!
Hope everyone had a nice easter weekend, we went away and it was lovely and i got another definite kick while away!!!
As for the doppler , i used it again this morning and found a nice strong HB of 157bpm straight away, i'd say if you are calm enough to cope if you cannot hear a HB then go for it and get one. I had convinced myself that it may never work and coped really well when i couldn't find it, but i think until you are in that situation you don't know how you will react!! Starting to get a real little pot belly now, which is exciting and also bought some material for some curtains for the nursery, its all beginning to seem real!!
Have midwife appointment next week, ob appointment the week after and 19w scan two weeks after that, its all getting exciting now!!
Thinking if you all xx
Maddison - welcome. Blimey 33 weeks! are you excited? Are you huge? That's one the the things I am looking forward to, being huge. Hope your pg has been going well.
Sparkles - awesome! 157 is right on! You must just feel so good when you hear bubs heartbeat.
What happens at a midwide appointment? My ob spoke about them at some point in one of my pg, but I have never attended one, I always see the ob.
I was talking to my DH the other day after I read your post about that very issue - how I would cope if I couldn't find the HB. I decided until a little later on,its not for me. I was at the ob last week and it took him ages to find it, I was strying to keep calm and not jump to conclusions but it was getting hard.... I know I would have without the ob there reassurring me. So for me, as much as I would love to have easy access to bubs HB, I am not ready to cope on my own if I can't find it. Besides the ob says i can go up to his rooms anytime.
hi all. It's been a while since I posted in here. Hope you're all doing well
Milly5 - I understand where you're coming from with not feeling bub. I'm nearly 20wks and still havent felt a thing. The longer it goes, the more anxious I am. I'm starting to dread the scan next week, in case it's bad news. I know all the logic - it's my first to get this far, I have an anterior placenta and I'm overweight, so it may take another few weeks... it doesn't stop the anxiety and the negative thoughts driving me into tears.
dory - I am in awe about how strong you're being. Its wonderful that you're doing everything you need to to make sure bub is kept in nice and safe as long as possible. I also wouldn't cope not being able to find bub's HB. If the midwife takes more than a couple of minutes I start to stress.
Audax - I hope you're feeeling better and the test results were good
CharlieCat - I hope you had another positive result
I hope everyone else is well. I have good days, when I can feel the uterus stretching etc, but the constant "when will I feel bub" anxiety is getting to me. Getting exercise can help clear my head and help me start to focus on the positives, but some mornings, it's just hard to get out of bed. I think the depression may be sneaking back in again. I suppose all I can do is take it one day at a time.
Tashy - awesome to hear from you and that really you are doing so well, with a good dash of anxiety and worry thrown in too. 19 weeks already! Good luck next week - I hope everything is fine and you feel little bubs soon enough. My thoughts are with you. You are stronger than you realise, and one day at a time is what gets me through.
Tashy - glad you found some peace and some answers.
HPL - I am so excited for you for next week, you must have been exhausted after 3 hours! OMG, I would have needed to lie down and have a toilet break and something to eat and drink. Did you have to take a vommie break?
I can understand what you mean about more testing not being useful to you. I am so proud of you that you and DH made a decision about that because it can be tough.
Audax - today is thursday???? Any news? How is the m/s going?
Sparkles - how is that doppler going?
Charlicat - how are you doing?
Elise - one more day til your scan! OMG I am so excited for you!
Hi to everyone else, sorry if I missed you. I have been having some very Dory moments lately. Maybe its a good thing I am not a work? All seems to be going well here - the usual ups and downs and excitment at getting to 16 weeks, soon replaced by fear of losing bubs to be replaced with a worry that feeling warm/cool means a temperature which means infection. You all know how it is. But today is a good day, the sun is shining, the cats are snoozing, and I have felt bubs today. Have a godo day.
Arvo all Dory yep scan tomoro, i cant wait! Glad you are having a good day today and WOW 16 weeks that seems to have flown. HPL 3 hours that is massive, my first mw appointment was only about half an hour but im not a huge talker so maybe thats why mine wasnt as long hehe. Tashybabe dont feel like you should be feeling bubs just because everyone else is. I completely understand your worry as i was doing the same thing but i just kept telling myself that everyone is different and i know quite a few woman who have not felt anything untill 23 weeks or later, im sure it will come for you shortly Audax those levels sound just perfect, good luck with your next BT results and hopefully time continues to fly along and youll have your bub in your arms before you know it Sparkles YAY to hearing a nice strong hb with the doppler, that must be so amazing to be able to do that in the comfort of your own home anytime you feel the need. Maddison 33 weeks wow not long to go now, have you got your nursery and everything sorted?
Hello to anyone else i may have missed AFM Cant wait for tomoro and hoping bubs cooperates and lets us see if boy or girl. Im a little down today as DP cant make it to the scan and hasnt been to any as yet because hes flat out at work. On a happy note though my 2 sisters are coming with me so that will be nice to have some time with them. I just set up my bassinette all by myself and am very proud. It is so cute and now i just cant wait to get everything else to fill the nursery.
Anyway better get going to work, take care & talk soon xxx
Elise - blimey - you are so organised. What sort of bassinet do you have? Do you have other baby stuff? Sorry DP can't be there at the scan, but so glad you M and Sis can be there. How exciting for you all.
I was just thinking I should pack my hossy bags.... which means getting my list prepared. My sweet MIL made me a light little kimono for hossy because who knows when a girl wants to laze around looking divine in her brunch coat?
I periodically buy stuff for bubs, clothes, nappies, books - getting quite a collection together now.
Tashy - thanks sweetie. I don't see myself as strong. But I suppose none of us really do, just more doing what we need to to get by. That's what makes us all so special.
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