Hey ladies! sorry i dont have that much time but i will come back and do some more persies
i jsut want to say thank you to Milly for the kind words. Likd Dory said somethings in life are honestly incomprehesible until they happen to you. I always knew that bad things sometimes happened to babies but i never knew they could happen to my Babies.
Kyarna was born at 18 weeks so in WA she was actually concidered a miscarriage. We didnt get a birth Certificate or a death certificate. we were not able to have a formal funeral and every time the Ob spoke about our little girl he reminded us that she was a "baby" she was a fetus ( i think that was the hardest part.) but i did give birth to her. i did labour for 10 hours and i felt sooooo ripped off that she was not recognised. I told my DH that i dont even want a scan until after 20 weeks this time because if anything happens then we will get to recoginse this bub. sounds totaly stupid but it is how i felt at the time... doubt i will be able to last another 13 weeks without a scan now tho lol
the way i think of it tho is taht every single little angel lost is a life and they all deserve to be recognised no matter how far along you were.
sorry i know its probably way off track lol but once i get started sometimes i forget were i was going lol
anyway like i said i will come back later!!
Bobbie XOXO
I just wanteds to start the week off by saying I am thinking of you all and sending big belly rubs -
Mo4 - No way I could wait that long, but I do understand. Imagine being one of those women who "discover" you are pregnant at 20 weeks - the good thing about that? Only 20 weeks tops of worry!
Audax - how are you doing? Has your fear peaked and now coming down? I hope so. I agree that its not always entirely reassuring, but its just practice.... I am lucky that my Ob has helped me learn to savour the moment. The look of just pure delight on his face when he hears the heartbeat( or comments on the emerging bump or the fundus height) is just infectious, and often enough to overcome my numbness and fear so I too can feel the hope. Bless that man. It doesn't take way the fear or anxiety, but in that moment, there is some peace and there is hope. I think in this journey, for me to stay sane, I have to try and grab the better moments with both hands and refuse to let them go. Big hugs.
Laney - are you in here? Are you ok?
Milly5 - I just love watching your ticker..... I hope you've stopped scaring yourself!
Milly d - I am so proud of you, that you come in here, I know it must be hard. It's always nice to hear from you and you seem to have such a good way with words.
EliseLousie- how are you doing? 22 weeks! Awesome!
Tash - how are you doing? Bugger that work has cut off BB..... look forward to hearing from you when you do get access.
Maddison - how are you doing? 35 weeks now..... not long now. How was your scan? How was that ALL DAY ante natal class?
AFM - had a pretty anxious Friday and weekend. Didn't think I was feeling bubs move as much as usual, had some changes to my pregnancy symptoms. Tried to reassure myself with getting the cats to stand on my chest ( I know sounds weird), but ultimately it was my feeling bubs again that took the edge off and stopped me sliding down the precipice.
Feeling much better now and feeling a bit like a "survivor" after the weekend. Amazed and proud I made it through, but feeling a bit battered. Luckily today is a good day.
Hmm about the cat thing? I just have to explain. One of my furbabies loves to lie on my chest when I am lying down on my back. When he moves he just puts those little furry paws of his indiscriminately over my chest. Ok if I am not pregnant but pretty painful if I am. So somtimes if I am feeling anxious, I tempt him over for a cuddle and hope like hell it's going to hurt. Usually it does, so I guess we both win.
Fears not allayed. My progesterone is dropping, and has been all the way through. It's still normal, and in the 60s, but has droped from the 90s in the early days. One particularly annoying thing is that everyone is SO worried about my hCG after the molar, that they're not int he slightest bit fussed about any other aspect of the pregnancy.
Sorry, too distracted for persies. Hope you're all well.
Audax - I hope everything is OK. I had very low progesterone at the start of this pregnancy (around 30) and asked to go on progesterone pessaries. I took them until 12 weeks. No idea if it made an actual difference, but I felt better about it.
Audax - Hun, i'm sure everything will be fine. Have you talked to your DR about it, and if he is not concerned get a 2nd opinion. Big hugs & thinking of you.
I am 17 weeks today, morph scan in 2 weeks, ob appointment tomoro, midwife next tues, its all happening. Still feeling only occasionally flutters, can't wait to feel the little one kicking me constantly. I am pretty good and not really stressing, but it will make me start REALLY enjoying this pregnancy, the morph scan will be a big relieve also. Getting a little belly, but no where near enough for ppl who don't know ie. shop assistants etc (we live in a small town) to ask. Will update after ob appointment tomoro.
Hope evryone else is well & thinking of you all xx
Hi guys! Sorry I've been MIA. I'm still feeling sick and my computer is having issues (it's on it's way out) so I don't get on much and when I do I'd rather read than post. I've skimmed through a bunch of posts but there are so many to catch up on. Hope everyone is doing well.
Other than being sick, and tired, and sore, things are going well here. DH and I are struggling to pin down some names. We decided not to find out the sex so once the baby comes i can sort through all DH's baby stuff and see what to keep and what to unload. 13 more weeks to go, woo hoo!
I was just reading about what to say to people who ask if this is your first baby. My 2 cents is you smile and say yes. Obviously it is up to the individual to respond with how they feel comfortable but I think of it this way: These people are not asking for your pregnancy history, they just want to know if you have other children at home.
I totally agree people need to be educated about miscarriage, and I am totally open and honest about mine, but I don't think the way to do it is to drop it on people asking an innocent question cuz it just makes them feel bad. That's just me though, to each his own
no more persies this evening, feeling a bit after my scan today, but to my BBs.
Ok, a bit of a me post here... I had my scan today and well, I am not feeling reassured like I would have hoped...well, the good news is, Spud is there, very active, and very shy - did not want to co-operate at all, kept putting his(?her) hands in front of his(?her) face, crossing his(?her) legs, and basically avoiding the camera at all costs.
the reason I can't feel too much is I have an anterior placenta - right across the front, so cushioning all the blows. And I realised that some of what I had been feeling, like "flutters", and "stretching" was a little bit of movement afterall.
Heart beat is 147 beats per minute
But... Spud was measuring a bit behind where s/he should be.
If we go by LMP I am 20 weeks today (& edd 8/9)
My 8, 10 and 12 week scans all consitently had me at 2 days behind (which I wasn't worried about), so I would be 19w5d today (I just couldn't be bothered, OK not that clever, to change my ticker) and my edd would be 10/9.
But scan today has me at 18w5d to just 19w which is a whole week behind where I should be, and has moved my edd to 15/9.
The radiographer was lovely, the same one as for my 12w scan, and she did say that it can be normal but depending on your circumstances, and she then said that I will probably have to come back in for growth scans - next one would be at 26 weeks I think, but obviously she wouldn't say too much, and said I needed to discuss with my ob.
So, I'm feeling a bit concerned at the moment, I mean a few days I wouldn't be concerned about, but a week! (I just keep thinking of my angels now).
My ob appt isn't now until 4/5, so I am trying to see if I can get an earlier one. Am I over-reacting? I would love some reassurance right now!!!
sorry for moaning, and having an "all about me" post!!
Milly hugs to you sweetheart xxx
If it helps, which I hope it does, with both my children each time I had a scan they changed the dates...I hadnt had a m/c at that stage in life so innocently went about my business not worried at all. My dd who is now 5, was changed back 7 days, so very similar to you.
I know you say given your history its good to check and I totally agree, but I would try not to concern yourself too much and look forward to getting to see your little bugalugs an extra time xxx
They even changed my sons edd at 37 weeks to 36weeks, I was so annoyed that time as I was ready to meet the little bean and it meant it was a whole nother week...hehehe
Love to you darling I hope this eases some of your concerns
xxxxxx
milly5 - I know it's a worry, but please remember that the further you are into the pregnancy, the less accurate u/s becomes, especially with regards to growth. At about 20wks, it is accurate to +/- 7 days. Earlier, it is accurate to +/- 4 days (I can't remember the exact accuracy). So at 26 weeks, it will be less accurate again, which sucks. That's why you hear of so many women being told their baby is going to be huge and turn out not.
Audax - hope you've been able to talk to your doctor about the progesterone or got a 2nd opinion.
Hope everyone else is well. I've developed SPD, which is agony. I've had to give up bellydancing and will probably have to give up yoga too Aprat from that, all seems good. Feel bub everyday, some more than others. S/he doesn't seem to have woken up yet this morning, so hopefully s/he likes to sleep in after birth too
thanks milly & tashy for your reassuring posts.
I phoned my ob today (receptionist anyway) and he didn't have the report yet, but they did say that he will go through the results with me over the phone if all is OK, or if not then they will get me in much sooner, so that is a relief in terms of not waiting so long. I rang the u/s place and the report was typed, just waiting to be signed, so my Ob should have it tomorrow morning. Fingers crossed that I get all the info over the phone and I have just been over-reacting!
tashy - I'm with milly, what is SPD? sorry that you are in pain, whatever the cause. I also do belly dancing, but was told to wait till after 16weeks, but haven't got back yet as teacher is on a break. I'm not very good at it, BTW!
SPD stands for Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction. The Symphysis Pubis is the bone at the front of the pubic area which has a gap that increases in pregnancy. If it increases too far it can destabilise the rest of the pubic area, causing a lot of pain to groin, hips and lower back. It's not fun, but there's no "cure" except birth and it can last after that too. I'm seeing an osteo and may consult an acupuncturist if needed. It makes walking up & down stairs and rolling over in bed painful.
something else I didn't know about with pregnancy!
milly5 - I'm really going to miss the bellydancing. I was using it for fun as well as preparing for birth. Anyway - hope you're able to get back into it. Just remember no shmmies allowed until birth.
Tash, Milly - I love the visual of heavily pregnany women trying to shimmy. It almost defies the laws of gravity and good sense.
Tash SPD sounds very painful. I had heard of pelvic girdle pain but didn't realise the extent or severity of hte pain.
Bit of a selfish post from me today. Appointment with the Obstetirican this morning - all good. HB at 155 and cervix soft, closed and TIGHT! Got to record the heartbeat on our mobile phone. Ob even asked us to play it back to make sure we got a good clear one. Can't wait to edit it out some of the talking! We have our 20 week scan Tuesday week. Getting excited.Its nice to be excited after about 3 days of feeling inexplicably sad and weepy. Maybe it was those famed pregnancy mood swings?
I have decided to do a non diagnostic scan and invite some of my family along so they can see the baby. The place reckons the best time is from 23 June.... not sure I can wait that long to share the moment. The say before then is ok. I might try before then...... was thinking of inviting my mum and aunt along, I don't imagine they would have ever seen a baby on ultra sound before, and the first time is pretty mind blowing. Even for a hard but like my aunt. Maybe my cousins too. You can have up to 10 in the room apparently. Anyway, am going to wait to book a date til after the 20 weeks scan.
I got to pat a dog today. I know doesn't sound like much. I am a dog lover from way back but don't have one. There is a guy in a wheel chair that walks his dog every morning and I see him most mornings but don't say hello. But today after DH and I came back from the Obstetricians, the guy was in front of our house and had some sort of coughing fit. I asked him if he was ok, and he was, and then we got to talking and I got to pat his dog. Bad dog breath though! When I go out to wave goodbye to DH I can now say hello to the wheelchair guy and his dog ( I got both their names too, I won't just call out to him "hey wheel chair guy!") Anyway, for me, it's often the small things that make my day.
Hope you all have a good weekend and cat cuddles to everyone.
tashy - OUCH!!! that sounds painful! very gentle hugs to you
thanks for the advice re the shimmy, though I doubt I could pull one off ATM anyway.
Dory, your comment about the belly dancing made me laugh!
so soon for your 20w scan - wow! I can't beleive they will let you have up to 10 in the room for your other scan - where I go, I think 10 would struggle to fit!
AFM - well, I got to talk to my ob, and he was great, yes everything is fine, and yes I was panicking. He said scans at this time are inacurrate up to a week either side (exactly what you ladies had said), especially as they rely so much on the measurements to calculate the date. But the most importantly, that the HB, placenta, cervix and all the other "bits" that they they look at were all fine. So I guess there is a huge "phew" from me - for the time being anyway, still only half-way there. This is quite a journey for us all, isn't it?
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after my scan today, but 
to my BBs.
Aprat from that, all seems good. Feel bub everyday, some more than others. S/he doesn't seem to have woken up yet this morning, so hopefully s/he likes to sleep in after birth too 
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