oh possum: such tragic news. im so sorry that you are going to have a birthday with empty arms and a heavy heart. i had to have two d&c with my 1st m/c, it too was drawn out for far too long and yes that takes its toll! my heart hurts for you and your dh! fly free little one. i am blown away by your generosity to say such lovely personals when you have every right to be selfish in your grief.

all my hugs and support.