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Kell- Oh i hope things are happening for u! I wld be a bit scared of being induced too.. (especially after forshelbys birth story!) it wld be way better for ur little man to decide his own bday.. sooner rather then later! I cant remember has ur ob. said that baby is engaged?? Is that the feeling where it feels like it cld just fall out??? I have had nothing like that dammit! Come on baby engage!!!
So are u all ready and organised if he does decide to come soon?? No more jobs on the to do list??? I dont think my list will ever end! I just keep thinking of things i need to get done! ...like um the babies room! haha.
Forshelby- I knew u wld be worried about sharing ur story and freaking some of us out. I was a bit worried before i read it wondering if i shld or not! But im glad i did. It sounds absolutely horrendous and im so sorry u had to go thru all of it. I cld just kill those nasty midwives/ nurses! GRRRRR. But yeah i know that stuff like that doesnt happen very often... u have made me even more anti-c-section now tho! But ofcourse whatever happens happens. Ill still live in my little dream world for the time being that my labour is going to be all rainbows and butterflies! haha.
How is b/f going??? Any main pointers or tips???
A big gggrrrrr to ur mum too! But really from what u have said about her.. what do u expect... great that ur aunty is being good tho So how is ur mum with u letting ur puppy in the house (oh god forbid!!) with Axel?? Has she said anything?? I think that was one of her concerns..?? Its my mums too.
Oh and it was SO lovely to read about how good ur dp is being.. and the 'new connection' u share with him now! Its so beautiful I hope im just as proud of my man as u are of urs. xx
Alish- I hope ur heart palpitations settle down soon, there awful If they dont tho mention it to ur dr next time. If u do think its being caused by all the sadness on BB pls try and think positively.. just remember there are so many women on here all having babies or have had babies, as awful as it is there is going to be very sad and cruel losses from time to time (just like there is always going to be horrible natural disasters that wipe a lot of ppl out etc) But just remember.. (Famous words from Dory) Every day ur pregnant is a good one!! Every night i go to bed and thank this little wriggling thing that its made it thru another day and is still alive and kicking.. I dont think its normal to be thinking like that but i really do appreciate it!!
So good that ur so organised and have everything ready for baby!!! How exciting!!! Are u painting the nursery??
Anyway im being summoned to bed! Better go! Nite nite xxx
kell - yeah we were obsessed with ebay at one stage, had at least 2 parcels coming a day! its sorta good that we r broke atm lol..
come onnn baby!
reet - probably wont paint the nursery - we are going to put the house on the market soon so there isnt much point!
yes im ridiculously organised, ive always been like that!! haha!
morning everyone! i woke up to guns & explosions this morning, dear old brett is watching ronan..! i sh*t myself!
Hugs to those who are just so fearlful now... India's Mum, Possums, Alish - for me the fear never left, never. And even though I never actually believed I would be blessed enough to bring a baby home, I did. I can't say I felt instant bonding and happiness, but it doesn't always happen like that. I never felt disconnected from her once she was here though, and each new days brings just so much more connectedness. So don't worry that your worry and fear will interfere with how you bond with the baby once they are here.... because once they're here the real love story begins... and it is truly beautiful, in all it's hard work and exhaustion.....
India's Mum - I agree with TegamM - will having the info from the extra tests change what you'll do? For me, it wasn't likely to. DH and I had agreed even if we had a high risk of downs, the baby would be carried and loved irrespective. For a friend of mine whose first child had cystic fibrosis, they didn't do any additional testing, becaue they knew what the outcome would be for them irrespestice of the testing. Luckily for him their DS2 didn't get it.
Forshelby - good to hear from you. I must go looking for your BS... sorry you're mum has been exactly as you'd expected. And girl PRIORITSE rest!!!!! The house stuff can wait. I had so much trouble adjusting from doing basically nothing to being a mum to a newborn and recovering. So I hear you.... give your little bam bam a cuddle for me.
Reet - you make pregnacy look sexy!
Kell sorry to hear you're being induced.. I know it's hard to manage when the birth doesn't pan out like you'd dreamed.... be gentle on yourself and allow yourself to adjust.... it's ok to cry... and I know you know that baby getting here safely is really the most important thing... but while you're adjusting to the new arrangements, just give yourself some space.
Melster - a belated happy birthday... I know it's hard for you right now, just know that there's a lot of us sending you love and strength.
Kellie - He has to have his cast on for 6 weeks, getting a new one every week as he'll grow so fast. I'm getting used to it now, as I'm sure he is. Nappy changes are a bit of a challenge but we're getting there! I guess people are staring at ME, not him.. probably thinking I broke his leg being a stupid first timer or something.. I dunno. Not that I really care, but I'm sure that's what they're thinking.
Reet - I had some really great midwives and nurses... as well as some real shockers. It just depended on the shift, I suppose. Being there for a week I met a LOT of people. There's actually more to my story but I haven't found the time to tell it yet. I might try to do it after this while Axel is having some Daddy time and I'm free. Your labour IS going to be all rainbows and butterflies, because I said so. Honestly, I didn't find labour that bad compared to everything else. Yes, the synto drip was horrible, but if I only had to do that part, and none of the c/s, or icu experience, I could do it again. So if you get to go into labour naturally etc, you should have a really great experience. The slow natural buildup of contractions is what I didn't have, which is why I think it was so hard to resist the epidural. I could only stand 2 hours of non-stop contractions before I begged for pain relief. I'm sending you positive birth experience vibes though lol. Yours will be very different to mine, I just know it. I always did have to be a rebel and do things the hard way, I should have known it would go like that for me. Oh and yes, Mum has said a few things about the cat and dog being in the house... I just told her not to be paranoid or ignored her. She's been a total drain the whole time, not offered to do anything and just wants to go shopping all day every day. Ok so she bought me some nice stuff but really I would forfeit all that for some frigging housework to be done. I even asked her why she hadn't done any laundry or anything and she scoffed and said it wasn't her job. Pfffffft. Rude! Today she's gone out shopping with my sister, and I hinted again that I had a lot of stuff to get done at home and she just said 'Oh well you'd better go then so you can get what you need done.' Yeah, thanks mum! I thought she might offer to come over later on and help, but no. It seems she's here for a holiday, not to help me at all.
Dory - I agree about the bonding thing. It's taken a couple of weeks to even 'wake up'. I do feel more connected to Axel now, but I still have my moments where I think 'OMG, who the heck are you...'. I am trying to prioritise rest, but it just doesn't seem to happen. I know it's important, but it's also important that I can move without tripping over crap on the floor.. lol. DP has been really helpful and doing housework while I wrestle with the baby, and vice versa. We kind of tag-team. Don't worry though, only the bare minimum is being done. dishes and laundry. My sister has been cooking and bringing us food which is great. Really helps! I'm glad I'm not the only one who found the transition to motherhood overwhelming. LOL, bam bam.. I will give him a cuddle for you.
AFM - Not much to add, still recovering, still adjusting. Axel seems a bit more settled today, but nighttime is just the worst. DP let me have a good sleep last night and this morning though so I feel a bit more with it today. That won't last long though lol. I have to say I miss my belly though. DP now calls me 'slim jim' which makes me laugh as I'm far from it........ but the transition from big round pg belly to having a waist etc again has been pretty drastic. Oh and my ankles are back!
ForShelby 6 weeks will go quick im sure! stupid people staring
I just read your whole story you are amazing what a bad experience you went through what a crappola hospital. Im really glad you shared your story
Grrrrr to your mum how frustrating
Hang in there the first weeks are hard but wait till axel smiles at you it is so worthwhile.
NOBODY tell you how hard it is esp when you are tired i promise you its gets easier as they get bigger
Dory - thanks for your support i appreciate it. you have a dream in your head about the ideal birth its hard to shift it sometimes. The way im feeling over the weekend he might come on his own
Alish i need some of your organizing skills i am hopeless lol
Reet My doctor said he wasnt engaged yet but was close. i reckon he is now for sure - sooooooo much pressure down there i feel like i cant walk today its painful. I have an appointment tomorrow arvo so well see what he says
Everything is making me cry today something must be happening i reckon
No not organised lol - need to get the car seat in finish packing my bags and some more cleaning to do
Hi girls, sorry I've been a little slack. DH is away camping, been gone since thursday so it's just been me & Moo!
I've been okay, tiredness just comes over me all of a sudden which is hard when you're on your own. I've not had any m/s but I actually feel a little off today.
I'm loving all the 'bad bits' though as my last pregnancy was very different. I'm still nervous that I'm going to loss this one too. I don't think I could stand another loss. I'm not strong enough.
kell - GL at your appointment..... sorry about that things feel different today... sneaky little monkey you've got there.....
I know I was disappointed that I didn't get a natural labour with Hannah but rather emergency c section under ga. But it was weird, initially I was just so stoked to have her here, but the disappointment set in weeks later. Now? Not sure. Sometimes with my history I just think I should count myself lucky to even have her here and to hell with what appears to be in my case the luxuries of birthing ideals.... but all the same I was sneaking a peak at the vbac threads in here just 10 mins ago.....
It's so hard to think things through properly at the end of your pregnancy when you're so anxious to meet your little one, so anxious not to be suffering from the discomforts of the third tri, trying to get everything organised.....
Woohoo bubs engaged and a 1-2 cm dilated already prob wont need the gel just break my waters next week
If i last that long
Im on my phone be back on tonight
Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April 2011
So how is ur mum with u letting ur puppy in the house (oh god forbid!!) with Axel?? Has she said anything?? I think that was one of her concerns..?? Its my mums too.
If they dont tho mention it to ur dr next time. If u do think its being caused by all the sadness on BB pls try and think positively.. just remember there are so many women on here all having babies or have had babies, as awful as it is there is going to be very sad and cruel losses from time to time (just like there is always going to be horrible natural disasters that wipe a lot of ppl out etc) But just remember.. (Famous words from Dory) Every day ur pregnant is a good one!!
YAY KELLBELL thats great!
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