Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

[ferrals5]

Melster & mildez-looks like we all have dramas with child support i hope we all get some results soon.

Melster-Did your DH make the same mistake and pay for shoes school stuff ,sports ect and not actually pay it through child support so they credit him my DH did that with all those mortgage payments while his ex was living in their home and he was renting they say it was classed as child support because he was providing rent ect to keep a roof over her head but the ex objects to it and because DH didnt pay the money through child support they now can not accept it after there original decision to accept it so thats what we are fighting for.

Tegam & alish-i know how you girls feel Abbi's birth and death anniversary date is 4 days after Ella's c section and i cant shake this feeling i will not have a good out come again.

Alish-Tegam got lucky so lets hope we do to.

AFM-2 SHIFTS OF WORK LEFT!!!! tonight and sunday and i am done.

[Melster]

Morning ladies

I hope everyone is well

Ferrals, Mildez.....yES WE DO..and its great isnt it...unforunately hubby didnt want to stir the pot with the ex because she always cracks it and makes our lives hell..and never did a change of assess or claimed for any of those things which he paid for...BUT he should of because she has just done it to us....even though she is crying poor, she has done it to herself......Her partner broke up with her because she stole money....and she is the one that her messed up her work partnership with this lady and this lady took her too court (she got what she deserved) and i think she is in trouble with centerlink etc and never did her tax etc..so i am hoping all this will come into it........ and CS never help you out in any way and let uno what you can do. I'm just waiting for Monday and waiting for some miracle to occur were she gets what she deserves...that someone is watching out for us and all those things she has done will come and bite her.........hopefully she gets nothing!!!! Or even if it was $5000.00 i could probably deal with that but any more and im going to spit chips. Then we are going to have a big drawn out battle and im sick of the fighting and stress. There is no way i am letting her get away with running a buisness and not paying us, but yet we have to pay her. Wish i could deal with CS because hubby will get all flustered and forget what to say etc......

He send me a message late last night because its our wedding anniversary today

Alish..i hope you have a great scan..

I rang my ob just to be sure about all the stress, and like he had already said he even had a ladies husband died and the baby was ok. He said the baby should be fine and if i get any pains or bleeding let him know, and it was like all of you said but i just had to get more peace of mind...the last thing i need is anything to happen to this baby...

[Khaleesi]

Sorry for no personals but i have been reading

I had some bleeding on sat & still spotting now, Having a U/S tomorrow to rule out an ectopic & m/c.
i'm not feeling positive at all, i've had cramping & pain on my sides. So pretty much accepting the fact it will bad news tomorrow

[ferrals5]

Melster-You can talk on your DH behalf i do all your DH has to do is put in an authorisation for you and then you can be his representative like me because my DH just yells and swears at them tells them where to go and gets nothing resloved or never gets the right info to them so i do all the talking unless he answers the phone then god help them.

I am feeling really low today i had a look at all the bills mounting up with extentions we cant afford to register DH car so how does he go for job interviews ect what i am bringing in is no where near enough i was even $20 short for rent this week so i have to put that in on friday.
I have never been this bad in my life i have never not worked and with DH ( sorry to sound mean) but f#cking everything with his temper and his loss of his security license and this court case which we got a letter to say legal aid might not represent him now oh! great 3 weeks before the court date i just am not making ends meet and i have 35 days until bub arrives.
And i am soooooo worried something will go wrong to many people are losing their babies in the last few weeks of there pregnancies and it is scareing the hell out of me what did i do to deserve such a bad run i just want to be comfortable and bring this little girl home safe in my arms but the way we are going i cant even afford to hire the capsule i am just going to go off for a cry right now.[/B]

[ferrals5]

Cheshire-I missed your post hun my fingers and toes are crossed it's just bub snuggling in.

[Tegam]

Alish-Tegam got lucky so lets hope we do to.
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Tegam Got very lucky and so will both of you!

Dory: TegamM you think? Maybe Gammet? LOL

Chershire Thinking of you!

Forshelby it would be the 1st time Dory and i meet to - whats the odds of both of us being psycho?

[alish]

ferrals - yeah i know, i just havent seen the baby in 4 weeks and im guessing i wont see it on friday so now im really p*ssed off.. i hate living rural sometimes things just arent available at your beckon call

im such a downer today. ontop of that ive had a sh*t day all round.

forshelby - my mil is so touchy feely - even now, like rubs my arms and stuff and wont stop for like 5 10 mins or every time she walks past she has to rub my arm!! it makes me really uncomfortable!! im only touchy feely with dh, everyone else im not at all..

i dunno what the extreme sickness was about the other day cuz its pretty much gone now,, im starting to have a bad feeling

[Khaleesi]

I got todays HCG levels back & they are over 6000, they 437 last Wednesday.
Dr said that it's a good sign that they are still doubling.

I'm trying to be more positive about tomorrow now.

Thank-you so much ladies

[India's Mum]

Cheshire - I have just been through a very similar situation. I had bleeding for a week and pain in my left side and thought it might be ectopic. Yesterday my levels reached 8500 which showed they had been doubling every two days for the past week. They did a scan and found a uterine pregnancy and couldn't see anything in the tubes so they doubt it will be ectopic. The bleeding has now stopped but that doesn't stop me checking every 10 minutes to see if has started again. I hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

[ferrals5]

Melster-I need the capsule in 5 weeks so it needs to be fitted in 4 weels but i have sorted it out i picked up one last shift before i finish work on sunday and its a saturday shift so thats an extra $200 the capsule is $130 to hire.

Midez-My to youngest that are still at school are to young for youth allowance they are only 13 & 14 and my eldest works and he pays his own way now i just do his washing and feed him when he is home.

Forshelby-Lol i might just go and buy one.
I actually lost a kilo this week so i am back to 69kgs and i only started out at 64kg hope that is normal for this heat ect i dont eat that much now.

Cheshire-excellent news hope the bleeding buggers off.

India's mum-way to go it's all looking good.

AFM-My mum dropped around a $100 meat voucher and my dad is paying for the 6mth-7yr car seat and now i can hire the capsule so i feel a little better today we are going to see someone to help with our elect bill on the 15th i have never done that in my life and feel so embarrassed but we have no choice and DH car and motor bike just wont get registered.
God i need him to find work before the next round of bills come in.
Sorry for the selfish posts just have so much on my plate.
Thanks for being so supportive and understanding of me girls you are my mental life line right now.

[Mildez]

Glad to hear your family are helping a little with some of the costs Ferrals. I didn't know how youth allowance worked. I know some of my friends got it at school it wasn't much but it helped. It was there money but they had to contribute to certain things in the house such as a bit of food etc. I guess all of us with financial concerns will find ways to manage. I'm the same when I stop working. I earn more then DH does and all my money goes on food and the kids. I do get that gov parental payment but were not applying to receive it until July. I've worked out I can hold of my direct debts to DDs private schooling until July. Biggest worry is food and both kids need Winter clothes and I don't have $ nor does DH to buy any. I've had a look at Vinnies but our Vinnies is so scabby. I swear all the things there you would only use as rags for your dog.

[T-hopes]

Hi everyone!

Sorry i have been MIA again! Got some sad news about DH's mum last week, she has cancer and there is now nothing they can do for her. Very sad, she is only 55y/old! They will do some pallative chemo/rad in hopes that she will be here for when bubs is born! Been very stressful!

Question - I have started having Braxton Hicks - all very new to me! They woke me up about 5times last night, not painful but very strong. There still happening this morning. How often do they come and go?? Had a teeny spot of blood over night too so i have called my obs rooms but he is in theatre! Bubby is booting around so thats reassuring! Any advice?

xx

[Mildez]

T-Hopes BH can be funny. They can be regular and painful and mimic real contractions or they can be irregular in strength, duration and frequency. Have they stopped? I'd call your hospital or intending birth place and ask them. Maybe its wise to get checked out especially if you have had a drop of blood. If I were the midwife on the phone I'd tell you to come up and get checked out just to ensure there were no cervical changes and that they did stop. I've been having them since 15weeks and I'll get alot then go for a week or two with nothing. I've now had them for 3days irregularly but not painful at all just the tightening feeling and discomfort but it normally always goes away when I lie down and take some panadol.

I too am so sorry to hear about your MIL. I'll keep everything crossed you and DH and your baby get alot longer with your MIL then expected. What a difficult time it must be for you all.