Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

Morning ladies

I hope everyone is well

Ferrals, Mildez.....yES WE DO..and its great isnt it...unforunately hubby didnt want to stir the pot with the ex because she always cracks it and makes our lives hell..and never did a change of assess or claimed for any of those things which he paid for...BUT he should of because she has just done it to us....even though she is crying poor, she has done it to herself......Her partner broke up with her because she stole money....and she is the one that her messed up her work partnership with this lady and this lady took her too court (she got what she deserved) and i think she is in trouble with centerlink etc and never did her tax etc..so i am hoping all this will come into it........ and CS never help you out in any way and let uno what you can do. I'm just waiting for Monday and waiting for some miracle to occur were she gets what she deserves...that someone is watching out for us and all those things she has done will come and bite her.........hopefully she gets nothing!!!! Or even if it was $5000.00 i could probably deal with that but any more and im going to spit chips. Then we are going to have a big drawn out battle and im sick of the fighting and stress. There is no way i am letting her get away with running a buisness and not paying us, but yet we have to pay her. Wish i could deal with CS because hubby will get all flustered and forget what to say etc......

He send me a message late last night because its our wedding anniversary today :redface:

Alish..i hope you have a great scan..

I rang my ob just to be sure about all the stress, and like he had already said he even had a ladies husband died and the baby was ok. He said the baby should be fine and if i get any pains or bleeding let him know, and it was like all of you said ;) but i just had to get more peace of mind...the last thing i need is anything to happen to this baby...

Sorry for no personals but i have been reading :)

I had some bleeding on sat & still spotting now, Having a U/S tomorrow to rule out an ectopic & m/c.
i'm not feeling positive at all, i've had cramping & pain on my sides. So pretty much accepting the fact it will bad news tomorrow :(

Melster-You can talk on your DH behalf i do all your DH has to do is put in an authorisation for you and then you can be his representative like me because my DH just yells and swears at them tells them where to go and gets nothing resloved or never gets the right info to them so i do all the talking unless he answers the phone then god help them.

I am feeling really low today i had a look at all the bills mounting up with extentions we cant afford to register DH car so how does he go for job interviews ect what i am bringing in is no where near enough i was even $20 short for rent this week so i have to put that in on friday.
I have never been this bad in my life i have never not worked and with DH ( sorry to sound mean) but f#cking everything with his temper and his loss of his security license and this court case which we got a letter to say legal aid might not represent him now oh! great 3 weeks before the court date i just am not making ends meet and i have 35 days until bub arrives.
And i am soooooo worried something will go wrong to many people are losing their babies in the last few weeks of there pregnancies and it is scareing the hell out of me what did i do to deserve such a bad run i just want to be comfortable and bring this little girl home safe in my arms but the way we are going i cant even afford to hire the capsule i am just going to go off for a cry right now.[/B]

Cheshire-I missed your post hun my fingers and toes are crossed it's just bub snuggling in.

lol dory, you didn't scare me off :) Just been a combination of busy and lazy to get on and post. I promise I am seriously considering your offer, :)

to everyone else, I'm at the hospital right now waiting for my appointment so will be back later for persies.

Forshelby - hope your appointment goes well.

Alish - thinking of you on Friday... just take a deep breathe every so often and just believe.

Cherished whoops I mean Cheshire - oh sweetie - hugs - like Ferrals said, hope it's bubs being snuggley... good luck with your ultra sound... I know it's a very scary and lonely time right now...... just hoping you get through to some good news tomorrow.

Ferrals - Hmm, did I see you sneak a name for little miss in there? If you haven't posted her name before, what a beautiful name you have choosen... Ella..... if you have posted and I missed it, sorry. I hoe you feel better after your cry last night. It just helps to get all those feelings out. I am sorry you're doing it so tough financially and stress wise right now.

TegamM - thinking of you my blossom.

Sunshine - I was thinking about little Obed today and realised I was smiling..... hope you are all getting along as best as can be expected.

Dory-Yes Ella Jean Christine is our girls name she has 2 middle names lucky girl.

i dont think ill be having a scan on friday :( its only a midwife appt, my next one isnt until 21st march, im sooo upset :(:(:(

Cheshire..I will hope and pray for you...I had bleeding and spotting early in my pregnancy...twice actually..so i will pray everything is ok..

Ferrals...its completely understandable you feel the way you do. Finances can control our lives and our feelings and can make us feel in a hole. You have had alot on you're plate and to deal with, its no wonder you feel the way you do. Its so hard until you start feeling like you're getting to the end of the tunnel...all you can do is try you're best to survive and hope and pray things will eventually work out ok..
Can you put $5.00 away a week for a capsule? or can you look in the trader, garage sale or one of those second hand baby stores? How can legal aid do that? Oh i wish i could help because i can really sympathise with the way you're feeling and i defiantly know how you're feeling at the moment and then having a baby to worry about as well....Unforunately there are things we just cant control (i need to take my own advise) and we just need to keep plodding along.....i am sending you a massive hug and a cuddle. Go have a big cry and let it all out....then try and tackle all these things the best way you can...to releave at least some of the stress....

Cheshire I'm praying your scan shows a gorgeous little bub growing perfectly in your uterus.

Alish FX you get to see bub. That would be such an added bonus.

Ferrals I'm praying you find some money. Everything happens at once doesn't it? Can you sell any unwanted things on ebay? Not that it would help alot but it could do. Are your DS's eligable for some youth allowance or something that might beable to help as a family? I hope something unexpected in the way of lots of cash happens.

Sunshine - Thanks for keeping us updated on Obie's progress :) He sounds like a real little fighter. Stick around as long as you need to hun! A part of me does enjoy the attention my belly attracts, but the other part of me feels a bit awkward lol. This is the most attention I've received since I was young(er) and stylish... hehehe.

Alish - It's not unusual for m/s to kick in at 8 or 9 weeks, it's a good sign that you feel crappy lol. I thought I would feel awkward having people touch my belly (I generally was not a very touchy type person except with DP) but I LOVE it! Everyone I know likes to rub my belly when they see me, I tell them to make a wish when they do it, lol.

Ferrals - I think the better diet really does help with the weight gain. It's hard to tell for sure though, as it should be tapering off by now anyway. At this weeks checkup I hadn't gained any, so I was thrilled with that! The adjustments I've made are pretty minor, actually........ it's not something I have to worry about a whole lot. Mostly I just cut out sugary drinks and desserts. I'm having 'lite' icecream if I need a sweet fix and even on the odd occasion I've eaten out, I just eat as usual and my blood sugar never goes higher than 8, so I'm very lucky it's only mild. Good to hear you're still getting it on with your DH hehehe. I think it's been about 6 weeks for me, but it's not a problem for us. We just don't feel all that frisky with everything this big belly represents. I must try to get a couple of good rounds in though before D day lol. Hooray for your last shifts of work!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ikwym about worrying about the last few weeks of pg... for some reason the nervousness has started to kick in a bit that I will get all this way and not take a baby home. It seems irrational, but it creeps in here and there. It's not surprising you're feeling edgy, you've had a really rough time with everything during this pg, and the financial stresses don't help the situation at all! I'm hoping for some kind of a miracle for you. Can I buy you a lotto ticket?? :)

Mildez - I hope all is okay, good idea getting checked out though to put your mind at ease. :hug:

Melster - There comes a time when a man needs to 'make his choice'. I get that he has kids with this woman, but his primary concern should be what's happening in the present, with YOU. Perhaps this 'break' will be what he needs to put things into perspective. I had a similar issue with DP's ex (no kids involved thank goodness) and her manipulations. She would constantly be calling every time something went wrong because she 'had nobody else'. Eventually I told him to make his choice. I asked him if he wanted to jepoardize a present fulfilling relationship which is healthy and actually going somewhere, for the sake of being his ex gf's safety net. She called just a couple of weeks ago to say she's moving to Sydney. She asked what was going on with DP, and he told her we are having a baby. He and I both think she was trying to gauge her chances of getting back with him (as she's never really given up on that as far as we can tell, by the way she hovers around in the background on and off). Apparently she went all quiet and got off the phone very quickly. I hope she really is leaving town, and wasn't just saying that in the hopes he would be single and begging her to stay. But enough about me! LOL. I do understand the feelings it stirs up when there's an ex in the picture...... it's hard to explain, but I get it. It must be 10 times harder for you because there are kids and she isn't going to just disappear. :hug:

Tegam - I haven't given Dory my number yet, but will do as soon as I respond to her PM. You guys are so cute..... I feel all shy though and a bit weird about meeting people from online. My cover will be blown! LOL, I liked being anonymous. We've all shared such TMI moments....... I think we'll have a few good laughs. I still haven't decided for sure if I'm brave enough (or have the spare cash) to meet up and have lunch or something.......... but I'm working on mustering up the courage. It's so unlike me to just bust out of my rut and say 'let's do it!' so it might be good for me. Hmmmm.. still pondering. :) I hope you're feeling alright today, being the anniversary of your ectopic. It must be such a mixed bag of emotions. :hug: It's ok to reflect on it and feel sad, it doesn't mean you don't appreciate Molly at all. Thinking of you today.

Dory - Oh yes, the what if questions are hard. I could have written that word for word! Cosmic twin high five... lol. I'll PM you later after my nap.. hehe I haven't forgotten about you!

Cheshire - Good luck hun, I hope bubby is hanging in there and the bleeding is nothing to worry about. :hug: don't lose hope yet.

AFM - My appointment went well today, everything is going just fine. Better than last night anyway! I had THE WORST headache, and of course not being able to pop a couple of nurofen plus to kill it was really horrible. This is the first really bad headache I've had this whole pg, so I've been lucky as I'm really prone to them, and they suck. I even got that 'sparkle' effect in front of my eyes, so was a bit concerned. I took the maximum dose of panadol though, and still couldn't get rid of it. Then the ice-pack I'd resorted to went warm.... and I kept waking up all night with my head pounding. Ughhhh. Oh, and I saw a giant ****roach when I was trying to pee during one of my night-wakeups.......... made my head pound even more trying to get out of the bathroom in a hurry. Ewwwwwww. LOL. I still felt crap this morning, but thankfully 2 panadol for breakfast followed by a banana did the trick. I did mention it to the midwife (or nurse.. or whoever I saw today at the hospital) and she took my BP and said it was fine, but to be aware and if I get any more 'sparkles' or bad headaches that happen more often to come in and have my BP checked.

In other news (yes I have a lot of news) we've decided to take on a housemate to ease our financial burdens. As much as I wish we didn't have to have a friend living with us at a time like this............... we need the money, and he needs a place to stay. (his gf cheated on him and he is devastated) I used to work with this guy, and he was always nice and polite etc. I do feel slightly weird about having another person here though when I'm going to be kind of out of sorts and vulnerable. Breastfeeding will be um, interesting with another person around LOL. I figure I'll get over it though, and it might even be handy having the extra person around to help with the housework and cooking.

Ok I think that's all. Time for me to snuggle in for a nice air conditioned nap. Then I promise I'll be back to answer your PM, Dory.... lol. :)

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Alish-Tegam got lucky so lets hope we do to.
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Tegam Got very lucky and so will both of you!

Dory: TegamM you think? Maybe Gammet? LOL

Chershire Thinking of you!

Forshelby it would be the 1st time Dory and i meet to - whats the odds of both of us being psycho?

ferrals - yeah i know, i just havent seen the baby in 4 weeks and im guessing i wont see it on friday so now im really p*ssed off.. i hate living rural sometimes things just arent available at your beckon call :(:(

im such a downer today. ontop of that ive had a sh*t day all round.

forshelby - my mil is so touchy feely - even now, like rubs my arms and stuff and wont stop for like 5 10 mins or every time she walks past she has to rub my arm!! it makes me really uncomfortable!! im only touchy feely with dh, everyone else im not at all..

i dunno what the extreme sickness was about the other day cuz its pretty much gone now,, im starting to have a bad feeling

I got todays HCG levels back & they are over 6000, they 437 last Wednesday.
Dr said that it's a good sign that they are still doubling.

I'm trying to be more positive about tomorrow now.

Thank-you so much ladies :hug:

Cheshire - I have just been through a very similar situation. I had bleeding for a week and pain in my left side and thought it might be ectopic. Yesterday my levels reached 8500 which showed they had been doubling every two days for the past week. They did a scan and found a uterine pregnancy and couldn't see anything in the tubes so they doubt it will be ectopic. The bleeding has now stopped but that doesn't stop me checking every 10 minutes to see if has started again. I hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

Melster-I need the capsule in 5 weeks so it needs to be fitted in 4 weels but i have sorted it out i picked up one last shift before i finish work on sunday and its a saturday shift so thats an extra $200 the capsule is $130 to hire.

Midez-My to youngest that are still at school are to young for youth allowance they are only 13 & 14 and my eldest works and he pays his own way now i just do his washing and feed him when he is home.

Forshelby-Lol i might just go and buy one.
I actually lost a kilo this week so i am back to 69kgs and i only started out at 64kg hope that is normal for this heat ect i dont eat that much now.

Cheshire-excellent news hope the bleeding buggers off.

India's mum-way to go it's all looking good.

AFM-My mum dropped around a $100 meat voucher and my dad is paying for the 6mth-7yr car seat and now i can hire the capsule so i feel a little better today we are going to see someone to help with our elect bill on the 15th i have never done that in my life and feel so embarrassed but we have no choice and DH car and motor bike just wont get registered.
God i need him to find work before the next round of bills come in.
Sorry for the selfish posts just have so much on my plate.
Thanks for being so supportive and understanding of me girls you are my mental life line right now.

Glad to hear your family are helping a little with some of the costs Ferrals. I didn't know how youth allowance worked. I know some of my friends got it at school it wasn't much but it helped. It was there money but they had to contribute to certain things in the house such as a bit of food etc. I guess all of us with financial concerns will find ways to manage. I'm the same when I stop working. I earn more then DH does and all my money goes on food and the kids. I do get that gov parental payment but were not applying to receive it until July. I've worked out I can hold of my direct debts to DDs private schooling until July. Biggest worry is food and both kids need Winter clothes and I don't have $ nor does DH to buy any. I've had a look at Vinnies but our Vinnies is so scabby. I swear all the things there you would only use as rags for your dog.

Hi everyone!

Sorry i have been MIA again! Got some sad news about DH's mum last week, she has cancer and there is now nothing they can do for her. Very sad, she is only 55y/old! They will do some pallative chemo/rad in hopes that she will be here for when bubs is born! Been very stressful!

Question - I have started having Braxton Hicks - all very new to me! They woke me up about 5times last night, not painful but very strong. There still happening this morning. How often do they come and go?? Had a teeny spot of blood over night too so i have called my obs rooms but he is in theatre! Bubby is booting around so thats reassuring! Any advice?

xx

T-Hopes BH can be funny. They can be regular and painful and mimic real contractions or they can be irregular in strength, duration and frequency. Have they stopped? I'd call your hospital or intending birth place and ask them. Maybe its wise to get checked out especially if you have had a drop of blood. If I were the midwife on the phone I'd tell you to come up and get checked out just to ensure there were no cervical changes and that they did stop. I've been having them since 15weeks and I'll get alot then go for a week or two with nothing. I've now had them for 3days irregularly but not painful at all just the tightening feeling and discomfort but it normally always goes away when I lie down and take some panadol.

I too am so sorry to hear about your MIL. I'll keep everything crossed you and DH and your baby get alot longer with your MIL then expected. What a difficult time it must be for you all.

Mildez - Thank you so much for replying! My ob called back and said that if there is any more blood or if they get painful in anyway, to go straight to my birthing hospital. He is in theatre all day but he wants to see me tomorrow morning to do an examination! Im still having them now, maybe 2-4 an hour and they dont feel as strong as last night and early this morning so hopefully its easing. No more boods thank goodness! Thanks again for the advice, really really appreciate it xx

And Thanks for your kind words about MIL, hoping and praying we get some special moments with her and bub xx

Had my scan & it's not an ectopic, we didn't get to see a HB but we did see a yolk sac and it was measuring 5w4d.
My cervix is closed as well so all good signs :D
I do have a bleed near the sac & cervix so that explains the bleeding/spotting so i have to take it easy & go back in 10 days or sooner if i have another big bleed.

I feel better knowing there is a reason for the bleeding & i wont stress anymore about the spotting because i have a reason for it.

Alish - It's not uncommon for m/s to come and go. I know it doesn't help to settle your nerves though! I would feel weird having such a touchy feely MIL too, lol.... I hope you get to have another scan soon so you can see that beautiful bubby growing safe and sound.

Cheshire - Those numbers are promising, as are the results of your scan. Looks like bubby is snuggling in :)

India's Mum - Good to see you're still around :) Great news the bleeding has stopped and bubby is snuggling in. Keep us posted!

Ferrals - Wow you've done so well only putting on 5kg! I've put on 16 in total.... but I don't know where I've put it. I really don't look that much fatter, well except for the expanding belly. (it's probably all in my huge swollen feet and ankles lol) Great to hear your mum and dad are helping out, it must be a relief knowing they're there for you. Don't feel ashamed about asking for help with the elec. bill. These things happen, and you're doing the right thing trying to get on top of things. Keep your head held high and keep on fighting! I'm sending employment vibes to your DH as we speak :)

Mildez - :hug: It's so hard when you're trying to dig yourself out of a hole and more expenses keep on coming in. We have a lot of great op-shops here on the coast, if you need anything I'm more than happy to be your personal shopper. Set me a budget and give me the kids sizes, likes and dislikes (we all know how fussy they can be when it comes to 'fashion') and I'll take care of the rest.

T-Hopes - Ohh hun that is very sad news. :hug: How is your DH coping?? I don't have any solid advice about the BH..... but the spot of blood would have me calling my doc too. I hope you can get through to him soon and get checked out. Better to put your mind at ease. Perhaps your little ninja is just getting a bit over-excited in there with the kicking??

AFM - Nothing to report here, just being a good housewifey today and doing some last minute preparations before bubby arrives. (pest control, debt consolidation.. ALL THE FUN STUFF) lol. We'll hopefully be able to put all our eggs in one basket and have some cash leftover so DP can take more time off work. Ya-ay! Dory, I still haven't forgotten about you, I actually have some news on the baby shower front, it's just a matter of finding the time to park myself in front of the computer long enough to respond.

Hi Lovely Ladies!

T-Hopes- Oh im so sorry to hear about ur MIL :( That is devastating. How is ur dh? a mess? How is ur MIL coping?? Gosh i dont even know how u wld cope in that situation.. im really hoping she gets to meet ur gorgeous little baby. Will it be her first grandchild??
Ive been getting BH since about 8 weeks.. ive complained and worried about them a few times on here and to my ob. and midwives but everyone has always said they are completely normal. Theres times when i get them very regularly too, like every 15 mins, but they are never really painful, my uterus just bulges out (or sometimes its only bits of my uterus, like left side, or the bottom of it.. very weird!) and feels really really tight. I found a great article on a baby website that explains that getting them thruout ur pg is really good and it helps ur body be a lot more labour ready! Lets hope its true! :) Braxton Hicks contractions Have a read!
I hope the spot of blood was nothing to worry about.. good that ur ob. is happy to check things out tho. Good luck!

Ferrals- I have found some car seats that are for newborns right thru to something like 20kg.. and they are only like $200, have u considered just buying one of these? Especially if ur dad is happy to pay for it??
I really hope ur dh can find a job soon, it must be super frustrating and stressful for u. Has selling his bike been spoken about again??

Forshelby- Oooh have u had ppl reply to ur baby shower invite?? So its a go ahead again?? I really hope it turns out to be a lovely day! :) Yay for being able to afford for dh to be home longer! How long are u hoping for now?? How on earth is his work going to cope without him??! Are they fine with him having extra time off??

Melster- How are u going?? I find that i try and protect my dh too when hes being an a**hole cos im embarrassed, not sure why either tho! I hope ur feeling a little better now, not a very nice way to spend ur anniversary :(
From reading ur girls stories on child support and ex's I am SO bloody grateful that my dh has never had any kids with anyone else! Gosh it sounds awful! I think i wld hold a lot of resentment towards my partner if i cld see that our hard earned money was going to his stupid ex.. i dont think i wld handle it too well! I really hope the issues get sorted and the problem somehow magically disappears and u can live happily like u deserve too. :hug:

Sunshine- How did the EEG go the other day?? Hopefully the results came back normal again. Enjoying lots of kangaroo cuddles??? :) Has his jaundice completely gone now?? Is he putting on weight?? Or will it take a little while?? Thinking of u.

Alish- Funny that ur MIL is touchy feely, i guess its better then being one of those evil MIL's!! I dont mind ppl touching my tummy (not alot do it yet tho.. i dont think its bulging enough!) except i saw a guy i went to school with at a shopping centre the other day, his partner is also pg, u know what he did??! He just lifted up my top to have a look at my tummy!! I thought that was SO RUDE! I was so caught offguard! And a tad embarrassed! Im glad i had my maternity pants on with the highish waist band (even tho thats quite embarrassing in itself.. there not exactly very stylish!) cos i hadnt been waxed in a few weeks :redface: How embarrassing if there had been a few little strays hanging out! haha.
How annoying that ur not having a scan tomoro.. can u say that u want the nuchal translucency scan done at 12 weeks just so u can get one earlier??

Mildez- So glad that u have been able to bring ur shifts down to 4 each fortnight now.. must be a bit easier on u, bet u still cant wait to have some much needed time off tho! Has ur baby been a bit more active the last few days??

Tegam- I hope u got thru ur ectopic anniversary ok, was thinking of u.

Cheshire- Oh what great news!! So happy for u!

I hope i havent forgotten anyone... i leave too much time between posting and get so far behind its not funny!!

AFM- All good here! I thought maybe my waters cld have been breaking this morning this morning tho. I got up to go to the toilet at 6am and on the walk back to our bedroom i had a stream off water run down my leg! It wasnt a gush or heaps but it was definitely enough to run down my leg in a thin line and reach the floor! I got some toilet paper so i cld check the colour, it was just clear so i wasnt really worried. Went back to bed, dh was up for some action, DTD, had showers and then half an hour later the same thing happened! Luckily i was wearing knickers by this stage tho! Then nothing for the rest of the day thank goodness! I figure it must just be from DTD! (sorry for the tmi!!) I always clean up really well afterwards but i guess there was some 'stuff' left inside me from last nights 'session' and it turned all watery!! And then this mornings session wldnt of helped either! Im glad thats all it was tho.. Im so not ready to have this baby! We still havent bought ANYTHING!! Must go shopping this weekend for the cot etc.
I had my Ob. appointment yesterday, i took my sister with me, she loved it! We havent had any babies on our side of the family since her and that was 22 yrs ago so its all very exciting for my family! The baby was opening and closing its mouth and poking its tongue out.. adorable!! Im going to take my older sister to the next appointment in 2 weeks and then my mum the fortnight after, then i even think my MIL wants to come once as well! Lucky from 32 weeks onwards i will be having fortnightly appointments and then weekly from 36 onwards! Will be seeing baby lots.. yay! :)

Anyway i better go.. WELL DONE if u have managed to read all this!!

xxx

Reet-yeh i have seen the car seats but i dont want to buy 2 as you need one from birth until they are 7 now so there is one that is from 6mths to 7yrs my dad is buying that one and my sister has said she will help pay to hire the capsule for the 1st six months.
And the lovely drippy vag isnt it just wonderful the further i get in my pregnant state the worse is gets i have had the dribble down the leg a few times now and thought oh! sh#t is that my waters but i remembered with my last son i felt a pop or snap feeling 1st then the water this time it is just excess cm from being pregnant or fooling around even though we are not supose to we have had a sneaky very gentle fool around with mainly for hubby i hate him missing out but OMG! do i miss my big o's none of that for me no upsetting the uterus.

T-Hopes-i am sorry to hear about your MIL god i hope she gets to see her grandbaby before she gets to ill and what an awful time for your family.

Cheshire-all looking good for a nice sticky healthy bub.

Mildez-the braxton hicks i have been getting have woken me up some nights and can be slightly painful i will have a run of them for 30-45 minutes even at work then they settle i hope they dont aggrivate my PP to much i had quite a few false labours with my last son it went on for a few weeks were painful and lasted up to 2 hours then died off until one night at 37 weeks pop went my waters and 2 hours later DS3 arrived.
And the money situation is a worry isnt it.

AFM-My dad told me today that as soon as we are back on our feet and DH has a job and this court sh#t is over with he will buy us a house and we can pay him rent until he dies then its ours so i wont have to worry anymore about moving and bad landlords we will have to wait about 6-12 months to get all our current issues sorted and i am back at work but WOOOOHOOOOO!!!! i will have my own house for the rest of my life.
Just have to find a rental for another 12 months while we get all sorted.

T-Hopes sorry to hear about you MIL, I lost my Mum last Nov so i know how hard & upsetting it is.
I hope the BH have stopped.

Ferrals how fantastic is that, that must be such a relief. I'm glad your family are helping you out :)

Reet glad it wasn't your waters & that's really nice of you take your family to your appointments. I bet it means a lot to them.

Forshelby glad everything is going well with you.

T-Hopes how are you this morning? Hope the BHs are giving you some peace.

Ferrals how wonderful your Dad is going to buy a place for you to rent and then own. Thats amazing. I'm so pleased to hear you will have a nice place of your own where you don't have to move and put up with landlords etc in the near future. Lol on the drippy Vag. Charming isn't it?

Reet I too have had the drippy thing going on. Freaks me out as with DD they thought my waters broke at 32weeks but wasn't discovered until 36weeks when we both had an infection. They were sure they had ruptured which is why I went into labour and I said well I'd smelt liquor since 32weeks and I didn't get tested as it was only a damp feeling, not dripping and I thought they would put it down to incontinence. Anyway I got a mouth full from the Ob about it. I guess you can never be to careful but.

Cheshire your scan sounds spot on. I had one around the same time (5wks3days or 4days) and they saw similar. They didn't see a fetal pole just the gestational sac and they said a hint of the yolk but they couldn't bne sure so the official report didn't comment on it having the yolk. But only 5days afterwards we saw bubs HB.

Reet yes my bub has been more active. I worked yesterday evening and not a single movement in the 6hrs I was there. I think reducing the hours should help with that.

Forshelby that pain you were having is it still there? Anymore show looking stuff? Not long til term now!

Well DH is really peeing me of. Thats really my only news. I've been scheming ways to leave him. Maybe its just a pregnancy thing but right now I am so SICK of him. I told him last night I've lost all my respect for him. I wish he cared that I have but I don't think he cares. He seems to be working less and less and doing nothing around the house and nothing with the kids but its all my fault the house is a mess etc. Then to make matters worse I'm cranky that he isn't working more (his averaging about 4hrs 5days a week (his self employed) normally it wouldn't bother me but it does at the moment. We ahve never had join accounts so its his money my money etc. He wants me to apply to get the gov $ as soon as bub is born so the financial burden isn't all on him and I basically told him to stick it. He can support us for 2months. Thats not going to kill him. And if its difficult for him he can go work more. I'm so sick of him knocking back work as his busy but he only comes home for hours at a time and does nothing anyway.

Hello ladies, I am still here, but as I only have my phone for Internet at the moment it is very tricky to keep up with this thread as you all chat so much! Hahaha! Makes for good reading though!
Found out yesterday that I get to have another Homebirth so very excited about that! Also heard the beautiful heartbeat which was the greatest sound!
Have a lovely day everyone! Xx

Stoked great news on the homebirth. I'm so jealous. I enquired before I was pregnant about a homebirth and it wasn't going to be possible without relocating (the closet IM is basicaly 500kms away so chances are they wouldn't make it) I'm not into freebirthing so its another hospital birth for me. I guess with the chances of haemorrage and my placenta its for the best.

Just wondering if anyone knows where our twin mummy vanished to? I've forgotton her user name but its been ages since we have heard from her.

Hmmm, twin mummy may have been before my time here. I can't remember reading of anyone having twins.
I didn't think I'd get into the CMP for a homebirth again as I had a PPH after my last birth and also after the last m/c I lost alot of blood. But we have already started an active management plan so fingers crossed all goes well!

mildez.....oh i defiantly know how ur feeling at the moment. The hormones defiantly play a role in making the problem worse....and the lazy part...i defiantly can sympathise...

Ferrals..thats great to hear about the house..

Cheshire....stay positive it sounds great

reet...im glads its not ur water...yeah i know i always try to protect him when maybe i shouldnt

forshelby...not long now...how u feeling

hey stoked everyone else....


Atm...spoked to hubby last night to try sort thro a few things...im still not at home tho. Think its going to take time...with the cs phone call monday its really not helping matters either not until we know what were in for and how much. They keep ringing him to tell him to answer monday. He said something about why is he in arrears and not paying 300 a week and being behind.....hubbys like um no i didnt do a tax return because im on disabilty idiot.........he is like ummmmmmm ill get back to u.......they dont even have the right info..........im going to be real nervous until we can sort this out and know whats going on...guess there is not much we can do and ill need to try and accept it and not let it ruin our lives...unfair or fair............so the waiting still continues and my guts churning............plus my dad my have dementia which is also really stressing us.......when it rains it poors.........

Mildez-I am pretty sure it was hope who was in here and she is in my Belly buddies group and doing well.

Ferrals - oh bugger - you beat me to it... I was going to say Hope... she's due not too far away... glad she's going ok. I am glad that there is some lightening of the load financially.

Reet - I had that weird ass** leaking too - once it was serious and all the other times, who knows what was going on? But I got checked out at the obs for it. For me it used to happen after I showered so I thought maybe I was just douching too enthusiatically....LOL.... DH and I were in a drought so it was DTD. But still go and get it checked - the ob/hossy might check your cervix to assess whether there are any changes and do a swab to see if it's amniotic fluid. The swab is just getting some of the fluid, not a huge internal exam ( aka ordeal).

Mildez - Sorry you're doing it tough with DH just now.... I hope it's just a pregnancy thing. Maybe you should have an indepth discussion about whether he has depression - the lack of interest in his usual activities ( work, family, chores) is just ringing alarm bells with me.

T Hopes - I am so sorry you got such sad news about your MIL. And so young. Hoping she is able to have some dignity in this very hard journey....

Cherished - phew - that's awesome! What a relief huh?

Forshelby - oh sweetie - Tegam said it, what's the chances of us both being psycho's? Honestly ... I don't tink I am a psycho. And about the $ - not to worry - my shout. You have enough to worry about AND I don't want money to be an excuse. I am the queen of anomimity.... usually, but remember my name is Dory, so I am unlikely to actually remember any of the embrassing or peronsal stuff you've written. I am pretty forgetful and vague. I am not usually this confident or pushy either... not sure what's going on. I really liked what you said too about partners making choices and making their priorities right... but can't remember who you said it to? Anyway, it was tops advice.

India's Mum - good to see you popping in.


Sunshine - - Just wanted to say hello and that I am thinking of you and DH and little Obie. I even put your name in colour so it's easier for you... I know you don't have much time and that this thread moves really fast.

AFM - well a fizzer of a day here. I WAS going to redeem a day spa voucher I was given for chrissy. My aunt took the day off work to sit Hannah. Well 10 mins after I left Hannah started to cry and didn't stop. My aunt called me just as I got into town ( 30 mins trip in) and I came straight home ( only 10 mins .... wee bit of a zoomer on the way home and really good traffic). When I got home Hannah was crying and so were my aunt and I. After I calmed Hannah down, she had a breast feed snuggle and nap, and then we 3 girls went out to lunch. I feel bad that Hannah was just inconsolable. Guess we just need to get Hannah even more used to my aunt and start with smaller increments of time. It was hard enough just getting me to go out in the first place, and part of me says -"see I was right". But I am going to try again..... as hard as it all was, there is one thing that just comes home to me and it just melts my heart.... my baby needs me..... I never thought I would get to say that.

Yes Dory your little bubba Hannah needs you. Sounds like she was ensuring you knew it lol such a clever girl. She is just adorable in your picture. Yes your right. I'm sure my DH is depressed and I'm sure its over money which I obviously haven't been helping demanding he supports us financially. Obviously its something he isn't coping with which sh-its me when we have been together 7yrs, had a bub together and he has never contributed even 50% financially ever. It ****es me of but perhaps I should back of a little and except he is like that. He doesn't sponge of me at all just seems to have trouble supporting anyone else but himself. I'm sure thats probably why he isn't doing many hours at work as he just has no motivation anymore even his ambition is going. Hopefully its just a phase as I don't know how long I can deal with this myself.

Reet - Thanks for the article about BH, very informative hehe. I've had 2 people respond to my baby shower invite, one yes and one no. Out of 20 people that's a pretty slack effort if you ask me, so as of Monday I'll be cancelling publicly. *sigh* We were declined for the first loan we applied for so I'm a bit sad about that, we were hoping it would mean DP could take the whole 18 weeks off. His work would just have to suck it up as he is entitled to do this if he's able. Now we're not sure what to do.... I'm feeling a bit stressed about it all. I couldn't help but chuckle at your 'gushing' story.... lol. How embarrassment, eh? Being pg isn't the most glamourous thing in the world. As long as you haven't had any other signs, or 'gushings' all is well. And yes, you MUST go shopping this weekend, that's an order, soldier! It must be so nice sharing your u/s appointments with your family, I haven't had a chance to do anything like that... it's just me and DP and now with my newfound lack of friends (who needs friends like that?!) I won't even have anyone to visit with the baby to show him/her off. Kinda sad, but I'm better off without these people around.

Ferrals - Wow that's great news about the house...... what an awesome Dad you have! I hope this is the beginning of things starting to turn around for you in the luck department.

Mildez - I hope things are sorted with your DH soon. I can understand your frustrations. Just remember to turn to eachother and not away when things are tough. :hug:

Stoked - :) Yay for homebirth!!

Melster - I'm feeling heavy lol. But otherwise good. Still having some pains here and there, a lot of BH and my back is killing me today after I turned house-cleaning into an extreme sport. (Ok, so I went a bit crazy!) I'm glad to hear you've been speaking with your DH. Communication is the only way to bridge the gap and come to a solution you are both happy with. Keep it up and stay strong. :hug: I hope the whole cs thing is sorted soon too, ugh it must be so frustrating.

Dory - Oh I gave that advice to Alish. :) It worked for me anyway, so I figured it couldn't hurt to offer my perspective. As lovely and sweet as it is for you to offer to shout me to lunch..... I would feel SOOOOO guilty about that. I hate not being able to pay my own way, and really couldn't ask that of you. (I pm'd you before I read this btw so yes I did make the money excuse lol). Anyway, as I said just making me feel important enough that you would offer is enough for me. I don't think I'd be much fun anyway right now, there's so much going on. Stressing a bit about money, and how DP is going to be able to take leave... my mum descending on us (that's what I call it anyway) once bubby is born, my crap friends, I feel a bit overwhelmed. I don't even have enough undies or pj pants to wear in hospital. I'm going to be pantsless in hospital!!!! :o I'd probably wind up crying LOL. I definitely don't think you and Tegam could both be psychos though. Who knows, maybe I'm the psycho.... lol. We will definitely do a meetup soon though, right now I just don't feel up to it. :hug: You're so wonderful though for wanting to do this so much... it's so sweet. I'm not one to break promises so I'm going to say I PROMISE we will meet up once bubby is born, and I'm less likely to cry over my lunch lol :) Sorry to hear you didn't get to go to the day spa, but like you said, it'll take time for Hannah Bear to get used to being with other people while mummy goes out and gets pampered. Maybe she was jealous and wanted to go to the day spa too? LOL, so cute. I bet as much as it breaks your heart when she's inconsolable like that, it means so much to know that your baby needs you and wants you and only you. HOORAY for being able to say that, you've come such a long way!

AFM - Nothing exciting to report. Money sucks, time is short, and as I said above, I am going to wind up pantsless in hospital if I don't get my butt into gear. I'm considering going to an op-shop to get some 'slumming it' pants. *sigh* I'm officially cancelling my baby shower on Monday, and trying not to feel too upset about it. I have no idea what kind of leave DP is going to be able to take, he says he's stressing about the money and now I'm stressing too but unable to do ANYTHING to help. Oh and it's my birthday on Sunday and we have no money to celebrate. DP said he felt bad he couldn't get me a present but I told him it's not about the present, it's about the cake. LOL. (last year after yet another birthday mishap which I won't bother to drivel on about in here, he bought me a cake and sung happy birthday to me by himself, just the two of us here at home. I nearly cried he's so cute.) There won't be cake either though because of GD. I'm trying not to let all this get me down, but I haven't had a good birthday in about 10 years. No exaggeration. Mum calls it the birthday curse. Something sucky always happens every year. So to anyone out there willing, please have a cupcake for me on Sunday, then describe how it tasted to me. :)

On the up side, (If you can call this positive, lol) the pest control man came today and victory is mine against the roaches. There are so many tiny dead bugs appearing it's very exciting not having to worry about the disgusting critters anymore. Not only that but my house is SUPER clean because I went a bit berserk yesterday and mopped, bleached the shower, cleaned the toilets, did the laundry..... you name it I did it. My back is paying for it today but it's soooooo nice at least having a clean house. Bugger, nothing else is going right for me (slight exaggeration) so I might as well have a clean house to live in.

Forshelby- aaaaw u make me sad! :( But trust me my life is no better.. except im quite happy not having any friends! Well i guess i do have friends.. but i never really see anyone. I dont think ive ever really put myself into a situation where my friends cld let me down.. its easier that way.. no ego bruising goes on! Maybe its a good thing realising now that ur 'friends' suck.. new beginnings and all. Me and dh have realised we cant really stand a lot of the ppl that we used to hang out with, we are more then happy to just have each other! We are rather anti-social tho! Probly not the best way to be.
Pls try not to let it get u down tho.. same with the money issues.. things do normally end up working out. How much time can dp have off now without struggling too much?? I think it wld make a huge difference if when dp does go back to work he does just his normal work hours... no OT for a while. Atleast then majority of the time u can do normal things like have dinner together at a reasonable hour etc.
Its weird that ur feeling down at the moment.. cleaning normally boosts me up! I guess it wld get me down a bit not being able to feast on cake on my birthday... what happens if u accidently forget that u have GD and have a little bit?? ;) I really hope this years bday is different to the rest and u can have a lovely day.. its normally the simple things that bring happiness. xxx

Ferrals- Im glad im not the only one with the 'drippy vag'! Hahaha love ur way with words :) Its funny i was remembering today that back in the TTC days i wld get so excited if i woke up the next morning and had a drippy vag still.. it meant that i had kept dhs little swimmers in all nite which i thought wld give them a big chance of finding my eggy! Haha those were the days... glad there over for now tho!
And im with forshelby.. ur dad is AWESOME!!! That is fantastic news.. a huge weight off ur shoulders. I hope u can find a suitable place to live in the meantime.

Cheshire- Are u still on ur little high from ur u/s?? Hope so! :)

Mildez- Oh wow.. i guess it is better to get checked out then if ur waters broke 4 weeks prior to going into labour! I really think this was just from dtd tho, it hasnt happened since. DH is away for the next week so if it happens in that time i will get it checked out!
Sorry to hear about ur relationship issues.. i think pregnancy definitely brings out all those stresses and issues. U want ur partner to be a good provider for u and ur new baby and when it seems they cant live up to that role by things they are doing or not doing it can get very stressful! Are u both happy not sharing money or wld u prefer to put it all together? Will he have any time off when baby is born or since hes only doing a few hrs each day its not really an issue.. he will be home enough anyway...?
(If ur still feeling angry and upset about all this i reckon u shld make a post in the Boohoo room- General chatter area. Its the best! Whenever i have.. the girls have always made me feel a lot better.. and not alone!)

Stoked- Woohoo for being able to have another homebirth!!! :)

Melster- Im not sure what to say except im so sorry ur having such a tough time :( Have u got some support?? Is ur mum good to talk to or do u try and hide a lot of it from her?? Hows ur dd going with it all? Sorry to hear about ur dad too.. thinking of u xx

Dory- Ur day spa outing sounds devine! Pity it didnt work out.. but atleast since u have a voucher u will have to eventually use it when the time is right! I bet ur aunt didnt mind too much having a day off work to have baby cuddles anyway.. oh and a lovely lunch! :) Oh and I gave my little yogi boy a cuddle from u the other day.. he is such a snuggly little thing! I will put some pics of him on my fb and post the link one of these days.. hes beautiful.. well i think so anyway.. i am of course biased tho!

AFM- Everything good here! I really dont think this little baby ever sleeps tho! Its always moving around. And majority of the time i can feel the little body parts poking out.. im never sure what body part exactly but i love it! Im still just loving every part of being pg.. even the drippy vag is definitely worth it!!!
Oh a little story.. last night i was so clumsy and fell UP 2 steps.. i was carrying my plate to the kitchen and my pyjama pants must have gotten a bit tangled with my feet.. i fell on my side on my elbow and knee so everything was all fine but omg u shld have heard my dh and seen him come running! He got to me half worried but half angry! I was laughing cos it wasnt the most stylish fall but he definitely wasnt finding anything funny! Its not like i meant to fall over! He rolled my pants up to my knees and gave me a stern warning to be more careful. Haha yes daddy! A few hrs later he even asked me if i had felt baby move since.. 'haha yes honey, it hasnt stopped' Nice that he was so worried but its made me super paranoid about being clumsy in front of him cos i dont want to 'get in trouble' again! I definitely know it cld be serious if i were to fall splat on my tummy but i really didnt mean to fall over and im pretty sure i wld do everything i cld NOT to land on my tum tum.

Anyway better jump off, take care beautiful ladies! (and i will try my hardest to as well! :) ) xxx

Reet - OMG , you sound like me - tripping up stairs over your pj's and trying to do it stylishly. DH deserved a gold star for being so concerned.. the visual image of him rolling up your pants is just so cute.

Forshelby - Happy birthday for Sunday - I will eat a cup cake for you and even light a candle for your birthday.

Reet & Forshelby - you guys sound so much like me - don't put yourself out there 'cause then you don't get burned. And then when you are brave enough to put yourself out there you do get burned so reinforcing your beliefs.....

speaking of sad birthday's - I invited a stackload of people to my birthday party a couple of years ago and the only people that turned up were my DH and my toxic now ex friend.... I had self catered food and drinks. It was pretty miserable. Everyone had an excuse ...... but it doesn't stop the lonliness birds settling like stones into your heart. So now? I don't invite loads people anywhere, and if I want to invite people, I make it intimate and I do try and make most things I am invited to. The thing about not inviting anyone? No clean up, no preparation.... it's all sweet. Hmm I did invite a lot of family to the christening, and I got annoyed at some who said "it's too far and I'll be tired for work on Monday" when we've driven to things for them, AND my Dad who's almost 70 drove up from Victoria - now that's a long way to drive.

Anyway.. should go...

Just thought I would pop in quickly to let you all know I am still alive and kicking along. I have my OB/GYN appointment on Monday morning so praying that everything is still all good for bub. Had a huge scare last night when I started getting some cramping. Haven't been feeling to bad the last few days nausea seems to have settled for me and I am only getting it a little bit if I get really hungry now. So I am stressing about Monday huge time especially after the cramps I had last night. DFs grandmother passed away tonight after battling a very long illness of Cancer and some major strokes as well. So it looks like we are in for a road trip next week down to Grafton for her funeral.

Forshelby~ Happy Birthday for this week end hun, hope you have a wonderful day, be thinking of you.
Sorry for the lack of personals.

it seems quiet a few of us are having some sort of issues at the moment and its so sad.....and although im not saying its a good thing. its kind of reassuring that others also have problems and u kinda dont feel so alone.......i spat it at the shops today at mum because she was just at me and at me because i was in a bad mood......im like......ummmmmm yeah its not like my life is falling apart or anything and u want me to be this happy peron and i cried in front of everyone lol......i saw hubby and we have transferred the money. half to him and half to me....well by next saturdays anyways....when really we should have kept the money together......but i am just sad because he is doing exactly what he wants and giving me no other option or choice........but wants me to be ok with it and go home.............but im not ok to be given no other option....and all because his ex........i have still told him to go so we can come home but i dont think he is going to....think he is scared to leave because he thinks i wont let him back.......i just need more time to think.....dd is ok but she is extremely unsettled...poor thing.....im just in a daze.............app the ex got our response to her csupport claims and boy was she going off........u think after ten years u would be over it wouldnt u.......but know she is still at it.....all i can hope for is she gets nothing and we dont end up in court.......im so so stressed its not funny..........

Ill do persies when i can get my brain together

hi everyone!

melster - sorry to hear it hasnt got better.. hopefully it will soon :) xxx

im way too tired to do persies, went out to our block today and cleared some shrubs/bracken/trees... my lord! i had a nap out there lol..
i had my midwife appt yesterday and i have the paperwork for the downsyndrome test / checkup ultrasound i can do it in the next two weeks so im happy enough to wait.. i spose.. haha!