Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

[forshelby]

Ferrals - Oh I'm so glad your little disco queen is discoing away again. I love the bite out of the sandwich thing, that's hilarious! I once made DP a sandwich cut into a heart-shape, only thing is I lost so much bread doing that I had to give him 3 instead of 2 because they were so small LOL. It would be so cool if our babies shared their birthday! Good luck with your OB appointment, I hope you get the date you want. On the up side it must be nice to have the power to choose a date. Me I have no idea when things are going to get started, which is the only thing that makes me nervous. I'm confident about labour and delivery, sure I know it'll hurt....... but not knowing when it's going to happen has me a bit edgy! (How do I know when to groom my bikini area LOL) I get the feeling I'll go into labour while DP is at work and be here by myself worrying about him rushing to get to me. One step at a time though, I'll just worry about getting through today first hehe.

[ferrals5]

Forshelby-do what i did with my boys natural births every day i shaved my legs and bikini line and kept myself neat and tidy but at the end of the day the midwives dont pay attention to that.
I am still maintaining my bits and pieces everyday just in case i end up in hospital but with little miss i am struggling with my undercarriage i am more out front with her so my belly is in the way havnt seen my vag for weeks now not that i want to lol.
I will get my eyebrows waxed and eyelashes tinted and a wig chop the week before so when i am feeling like crap i dont have to look like it.

[Melster]

happy valentines my lovely lades.....

well...the child support was as we suspected.............i wont write the swear words i am saying.....they are basically going to make a decision based on all the incorrect information....the lady was a sub contracto to child support.....and they will make there judgement....and then we will have to contest it......and we are going to claim against her buisness and her selling of her buisness........so now its the waiting game and waiting for the ridiculous amount there going to come up with....we have to send her the amount we got....and we told her we have spend it all on bills etc..........so i am just waiting to see this amount. couldnt believe there was nothing we could do even tho we were telling her all the info was wrong.....cs is so swaer word swear word....pains in the uno what.

im still at mums but we saw each other today and we tried to get a few things sorted. i have told him that this is it....they have been separated for ten yrs and its time to take back control and not let her do this any longer..........im still at mums because i just want to process it all......its defiantly not fixed and its going to take time......hopefully we can sort it out.

i woke up with a blinding headache and threw up this morning from all the stress and i havent really felt baby very much at all and its concerning me alot. i thought being my second and 18 weeks that i would be feeling baby all the time.....

Hey ferrals..how u going darl

alish..thats right...u just focus on u and ur baby and let ur friend worry about whats going on in her life. Sounds very complex

forshelby....all that talking of ur baby is getting me excited....its so close....i cant believe ur the next one...i hope everything goes smashing for u and ur new bundle

damprye...oh i hear u about the internet and mobile...its so annoying...im on mine now

kellbell and reet......i dont think it matters at what stage of our pregnancies we are at there is always something to worry about and its completely normal...u just end up worrying about different things....best thing we can do is keep talking about those fears and get support...i have also been trying not to read about all the stories....for me it just plants seeds and makes me even more worried...

Freya......so sorry darl.....i really hope u are getting thro the best u can..thinking of u

possums....so glad things are going well and ur twelve weeks...yayyy

mildez..dory...everyone else...belly rubs

[ferrals5]

Melster-FARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRK!!!!!! i hate cs if you and DH are in the right and have proof dont give in contest it take it to court.

[damprye]

......not knowing when it's going to happen has me a bit edgy! (How do I know when to groom my bikini area LOL)....

Forshelby- I could not read that without bursting into laughter. Mainly because I remember thinking that same thing haha. In the end I was doing it every couple of days, I was so paranoid that people were going to see down there and that there would be hair lol. In the end, I did end up going in the night before I was supposed to redo it... Without my razor haha. It really didn't matter in the end though, DS's head was hairier

[possum magic]

Damprye: Oh thanks for that! The image of Ds's head being hairier than your nether regions was priceless! But you are keeping us in suspense... you've posted twice today but nothing about your u/s. Didn't you go today?

Ferrals: Oh dear! More ROFL. THe image of the disapearing vag, legs shaving and the 'wig chop'! And i loved your trick of biting DH's sandwitch. You are one inventive woman! You should be running some sort of romance advisory service! Sounds like your DH could run it with you with his choccy cake skills!

Kellbell, reet,mildez, melster: I totally know where you are coming from. Reading stories about other people's late losses freezes my blood. Makes me very scared. I'm trying so hard to get back to the state of denial i lived in when i was pg the first time. I know late loss could happen but the chances are small and so i'm trying really hard to keep thinking it won't happen to me (cos if it did, heaven forbid, it wouldn't feel any easier if i'd been worrying about it before hand and it won't feel any worse if i haven't been thinking about it). But i'm still feeling scared.

Melster: ****e about the child support stuff. It must be hard not to climb the walls in frustration.

Forshelby: Glad you were able to enjoy your day.

AFM: My u/s is tomorrow arvo. Will post tomorrow night.

[Reet]

Wow forshelby- i think u have beaten me with ur long post! Its normally me catching up and having to write huge posts! Its funny how our catch ups end up being so long.. when other ppl havent posted for ages and they catch up there posts can still only be like 10 lines long.. i think we talk to much! Here i go again... haha
I used to think friends were really really important and i was always on dhs back to stay in touch with his.. he was always saying he didnt need anyone but me in his life.. i thought it was a bit silly but in the last few years i have realised that i wld much prefer it to be like this.. just the 2 of us! I never have to worry about him hitting the town without me.. or waiting for hrs for him to come home from work cos hes with mates etc. I know its probly not overly healthy just relying on each other so much but hey it works for us right now so why not go with it! I think it also helps me having 2 sisters... who needs friends when u have family!
Speaking of family.. ur mum!! Wowee! It put a huge smile on my face reading what ur mumma did.. its great! Maybe shes turning over a new leaf.. she sounds like a normal mummy!
So did u have a good shop?? I was so close to asking u for ur address and sending u some super comfy pants for hospital.. if u look at my latest tummy pic im wearing them in it.. they are bloody magnificent! But they are $70... and its not that ur not worth it!..but i really cant afford it I hope u found some bargain knickers and pants! How exciting packing ur hospital bag!!! Yay!!! U will have to tell me in a few weeks what u packed in ur babies bag.. i think ill need some help
I think my dh is only going to have a month off max when babys born... im hoping he can work around town for a day here and there still in that time tho just to keep some money flowing in.. ive warned him he better not be working too far away when our edd approaches.. that wld be stressful if he was miles and miles away! I hope u guys can sort something out so he can have the whole month off but yeah if it can only be 2 weeks that will be ok too.. i just hope for ur sake he doesnt get too much OT when he starts back again.
Oh and that was hilarious that u wrote basically what i wrote to alish!! (u wrote it better tho) hahaah while i was reading ur post i was thinking hmmm this is so similar..its like shes copying me! even the high school comment... haha..definitely some kind of cosmic twin connection there...
And finally..! Im so glad u had a good bday and that u got a lovely foot rub and dead skin removing session.. very sweet of ur dp!

Now girls girls girls... (forshelby and ferrals) please go and get a bikini or a brazilian wax done before u have ur babies.!! Forget this shaving business! Honestly u will never look back! Ive just had mine done so i figure that will get me thru til im 34 weeks and then ill go and get another one just before 39 weeks.. I promise u u will love it!!! I really dont know how u girls are even managing to still look after that area.. i used to love looking for ingrown hairs now i cant see anything! Lucky my waxer looks after it all now I was talking to someone and they also said if u need stitches after giving birth it will heal a lot better and be a lot cleaner if u have been waxed. Have i convinced u???!

Ferrals- Are u being serious u had castor oil twice?! Isnt it revolting???! Woohoo for ur little disco queen making a comeback! Must be a huge relief!

Melster- Hope ur headache has gone and ur not feeling sick anymore, how awful to wake up like that

Possum- Cant wait to hear all about ur u/s tomoro!!! I hope u get a good tech that talks u thru everything. And ur so right.. no amount of worrying will change the outcome of things.. i need to remember that!! So were u really pretty carefree ur first time around?? I sometimes wonder if i hadnt had my mc wld my thoughts be different.. like wld i breeze thru pg not worrying about anything... I guess the m/c has opened my eyes alot tho.. maybe even too much. I suddenly know all the little things that can go wrong.. whereas this this time last year i was 9 weeks pg and spotting but not really freaking out.. oh to be nieve again... Once again best of luck tomoro!! x

AFM- I am feeling a bit better now.. it makes things a lot easier once u have opened up and shared ur fears and worries.. other ppls words help so much (a big thanku to the beautiful Kit for ur pm xxx) And i guess it just doesnt feel right to be so worried when u have a lovely little bottom..or head.. poking out from ur tummy all day reminding u of the lovely journey ur on.. its just so beautiful! Im also going to try and stay busy busy busy! And focus on the present.. if u live in the present moment u have nothing to be afraid of.. its worrying about the future thats the killer.. scared of the unknown.
Oh before i go.. here is the link to my latest fb tummy pics for u girls with fb! u will also see a couple pics of my little beautiful puppy dog on my main profile page Our beautiful baby! | Facebook
xxx

[kellbell]

Just a quick one from my phone- reet your belly is gorgeous!!!

[Reet]

haha finally its looking like there is a baby in there and i havent just drank a carton of beer every day for the last 6 months!
Kell- pls dont be a stranger! Keep posting when u have time too... tell us all about ur little ones movements and the funny little things he does during the day.. honestly we can keep each other positive! It was hilarious the other day my little one was having a little skitz attack it felt like for about 10 mins and it ended up giving itself the hiccups! It was so cute!! I felt sorry for it tho so i was trying to scare them away by making loud noises unexpectedly.. haha yes im a weirdo!
Oh i just saw ur ticker! Wat a big girl! Are u planning anything for ellas 2nd bday?? I bet the next 3 weeks will absolutely zoom past! In 3 weeks time ill be going 'see it did!! we only have 7 to go!'

[kellbell]

I do feel better tonight - thanks for everyones advice it all helped
I will try and post more i just felt abit lost after what hqppened to skybie
Im going to try qnd be more positive
My little man had the hiccups tonight too its super cute. He hates me putting anything on my tummy he has to kick it off - i sat the remote there the other day and he went beserk. I should try it with the malteasers like the add
So you reckon go the wax- its like a forest down there at the moment TMI i know i wouldnt want to go into labour now poor midwives lol. i havent been able to see down there for a long time haha i should do something about it!
Does the waxing hurt down there though???

[kellbell]

And your puppy gotta to be the cutest doggy ive seen- love his colour. Is he a naughty puppy he looks spoilt :-)

[Reet]

Kell- Im glad ur feeling a bit better tonight.. i believe we can honestly get to the finishing line! We can do it! one day at a time! Well really the days are going pretty quickly when u think about it so it shld be more like.. 1 week at a time!
One girl said to me on here months ago when i first fell pg and was freaking out.. focus on the positive stories.. dont read the ones that are going to make u sad..
So when ur feeling negative go and read someones birthing story.. there are some absolutely beautiful ones!

Yes get waxed! Even if u just get a nice bikini wax.. I wld say go the G-string wax or brazilian tho..why not??! It does hurt but honestly we are going to go thru something a lot more painful (and u already have so u know REAL pain!) It is so good.. u dont have to worry about anything for atleast 3-4 weeks.. u also dont get that awful itching or rash that comes with shaving. Find urself a good waxer though.. it makes a huge difference! If they have a lot of experience and are mature and professional u feel a lot more comfortable.. and they normally get it over and done with quicker! Oh and dont be embarrassed! Just like ur ob. they have seen it all before a billion times! If u have any other questions pls feel free to ask me! If not tho go and make urself that appointment.. u shld be able to get 2 in before ur little boys birth!
Oh and yes our little man is just gorgeous..and very spoilt! How can u not spoil something so cute tho!! Hes not too naughty yet, thank goodness.. except he doesnt quite understand the whole peeing outside thing.. dirty little boy.. we'll get there tho!

[damprye]

Reet- I'm petrified to ever get down there done lol. i waxed my legs once, the hair hasn:t grownback properly since.. eep

Kell- Even this early I am reading the positive birth stories, I think that if I didn't I would start forgetting that this could end in a real live baby and could actually be a good experience. i am holding onto the thought of a better labour because I start to panic everytime I don't suppress all the things that could possibly go wrong.

Possum- Yays just one last sleep and you get to see your bubba Lol at the image you got of my DS and my nether reigon funny/gross thing is over 200,000 have actually seen it O.O, I have the link to the vid in my sig... but don't watch it, tis gross lol. And yes I had my u/s but not till after 6WST.

AFM- Ok, ok, I'll get to the scan news Bubba looks perfect, kicking, stretching and wriggling about. Was so cute. Very low risk for down syndrome so no amnio test and it means that I can finally relax because this baby is mine and will be sticking around for a long time! My OB didn't do the HB but with all that movement I am happy. My lil one is already 5cm from head to rump, it seems so big lol and I am so very happy! Only 8 more weeks and I get to find out the sex and I will be halfway. I just cannot seem to contain my excitement atm lol! I need to sleep but don't want to stop looking at the pic of my lil one. Will upload the pic to my album if I can and then when at a computer next, I will change the pic in my sig over. And just once more... Woohoo!!! And a deep sigh of relief

[Mildez]

Damprye fantastic news on your scan. Everything sounds completely perfect. Any guesses what its gender is? No strong feelings etc?

You girls are so funny on the whole waxing, shaving business down there lol. Been on the other end it really doesn't matter. I wouldn't remember who was hairy and who wasn't a minute after seeing down there. And what is even funnier to me is I was the opposite. I grew mine back as I didn't want my work collegues to see me bawled down below! I reckon less then 10% of people are "clipped" so the odds are in favour of the bush. I certainly am having trouble keeping myself presentable. I can't remember having this much trouble with DD2. My belly is not even big but do you think I can reach down there and its not something I want DH to do. And OMG letting a beutician down there with veins I don't think so. I'd frighten her for life.

Possum Magic you have given some fabulous advice on manahing these horrible feelings of ours. Your completely right that regardless of how it ends its not going to change. I'll try add that to my positive thinking. Hope you have a wonderful scan today. Do you plan on finding out the gender of having a surprise?

Caster oil now I don't think I could force myself to drink that and if I did I'm sure I'd have the runs whilst pushing. That would be so yuck. I guess I might be desperate enough to try perhaps when the time is closer.

[alish]

yay dampyre great news!

reet how cute is your belly!

i remember my friend when she was pregnant, close to when she was due she made her husband shave down there hahah, she was such a tiny person and her belly was huge so there was no way she could do it.. haha i couldnt imagine brett ever doing that he would be sick!!! :P

[alish]

turns out she is pregnant, nice to know she isnt a total liar!!

[ferrals5]

Reet-sorry to say no i cant handle the regrowth while waiting for it to get to the right length to be waxed again i like smooth 24/7 and the one time i did try it after i nearly had a flap ripped off i looked like a plucked chicken so i shave or nair every 2nd day.
One of my friends gets her legs done every 4-6 weeks and yes they are real smooth for 2 weeks then *****ly and hairy for the other couple of weeks until her next wax ewwwww i hate hair.
And yes castor oil is BAD YUK! but it made me go into labour with DS2 & DS3 so works for me.

Possum-good luck with your u/s hope your bubby puts on a little show and wave for you my girl has hidden with every u/s so hoping my one on wed we get a 3D pic of her face finally.

Kellbell-we will all get through this myself included i have had such a bad run since 2009 when we lost Abbi everything just got worse with all the testing and genetics failed PGD ivf an effected embryo unable to get pregnant because of stress then with this one all the f#ck ups with the CVS testing and waiting and waiting for someone to tell me this bub is effected and i will lose her aswell i really expected for lightning to strike twice and i supose i still do i think all this is to good to be true but i have to believe this bub will be ok i have to be positive for her otherwise it is unfair to start off her life with nothing but fear and stress.
Dont get me wrong i have my moments but most of the time i try to put it aside and be normal for her.

Damprye-woohoo on a good scan it feels good to get that sigh of relief doesnt it.

Mildez-i got the runs first from the castor oil which set off the contractions and i didnt have anymore runs while in labour or while pushing cause i was cleaned out i will say it gives you a belly ache until you are on the loo and all empty.

Alish-LOL i wont let my DH shave me down there at the moment because he would pitch a tent and it would lead to us getting it on and seeing as we are on NO SEX!because of this placenta i dont want to temp him but i can tell you he just loves doing it.

AFM-my disco queen has been kicking up a storm keeping her mum and dad happy.

[Mildez]

Alish I almost got DH to shave my legs this morning but just managed to do it myself. He would happily do the other area but there is no way I would shave (the itch would drive me insane when it grew back) Dh happily took my stitches out down there (down there and up to) They were disolvable but after a few days I couldn't stand it so got him to take some out! He definately wasn't complaining IYKWIM just about it been out of action It wasn't after birthing otherwise I would have slapped him I think.