Had my specialist appt and it was not real great he did an u/s the placenta is covering the cervix still and he said that it is highly unlikely to move in his 50 years experience he has never seen one move from where mine is located SH#T SH#T!.
So he gave me the scarey speech NO SEX! at all i am not to do anything physical only light housework do not let myself get tired i am not to be on my own at any time and i am not allowed to be more than 30 minutes from hospital at all times so no travel no nothing.
Then he went on to say the mortality rate of this kind of placenta previa is 1 in 1000 and i will definately bleed 3-4 times before bub is born i am to not panic but get to the hospital ASAP and if its a little bleed i will be in for a few days if the bleed is heavy i will be staying in hospital and if i hemorrage they will deliver baby.
He also said that i need a specialist to do the c section not a registrar as it will be difficult.
So all in all it pretty much scared the hell out of me.
So little miss will be delivered by c section at 37 weeks if no problems before then so that is in just over 12 weeks
Ferrals I'm sorry your placenta hasn't moved up. I was so hoping it would although there is till time. Are you far from the hospital? Yes you don't want a registrar doing the c/s as one of the issues with grade 4 PP is as the placenta is down so low the actual area of the uterus that contracts is the fundus so once the placenta is out the bleeding doesn't neccessarily stop as there is nothing contracting the lower part of the uterus which helps stop the bleeding. But don't worry to much. There is heaps they do to stop it but thats basically why you don't want a reg or a reg on his own anyway. Do you know if the placenta is on the posterior section or anterior? They say 1:25 pregnancies are PP and they have been fixing PPs up for many years so you will be in the best hands and be fine as will your little miss disco dancer. 12weeks thats so close!
Mildez-he didnt say but last u/s it was posteria i am freaking out now i was not so concerned before i just thought ok i might bleed a bit but have a c section and everthing will be fine.
But now i am worried he said i can not even go to the u/s clinic i want in newcastle as its to far a drive and to far from my hospital he also scared me in saying that i will bleed a few times and it is life threatening OMG! now i am going to be sitting here waiting and thinking every dribble is blood he said i can even hemorrage in my sleep WTF! great bedside manner.
Now i worry i could kick the bucket.
Gee that does seem scary Ferrals. Sorry that his bed side manner wasnt better but maybe there is no nice way of being told this stuff. where do you work? Will you be able to keep that up? Whats DHs thoughts??
You know what 12 weeks isnt that far!
Also not sure if this is a happy thought for you or not but if the placenta is that low it means bubs almost didnt implant! WOW see she really is a miracle allround!
Tegam-I had the same thoughts it is very scarey to go through everything we have been through and now this i just want us both to make it safe and healthy.
As for my work DH has no work with this court case and them revoking his security licence and it has been ajourned until march when bub is due he has applied for other jobs but having done security for 15 years he has no other recent experience with anything else so he has lost $900 a week and i am covering what bills i can i only bring home $500 a week and rent is $420 so my family payment covers food and petrol and car insurance i had to suspend health insurance and foxtel and a few other things because we just dont have any money we wont be able to pay phone and electricity bills when they come in unless i do extra shifts at work but how can i do that when the doctor told me not to get tired and do the least amout of any work or house work i am not even allowed to dance.
I dont know what i am going to do what if they put me in hospital i have 4 weeks long service and 4 weeks holiday leave so eight weeks in total so i need to work at least for another month before i can take holiday pay that will take me to jan then my long service starts in feb until march and then my maternity leave kicks in so i just need to hang on for another 4 weeks.
Ferrals just think of all the people who do have PP and go on to have an elective c/s at 38weeks without a drop of blood. That could be you. Alot of PP have already had abit of spotting now and you have had nothing. In 5yrs of midwifery I have only seen 1 nasty case out of hundreds and it was complete medical negligence as the stupid Dr refused to do a c/s until poor mummy had a big bleed (she had been in hossy for over a week by then at term). Alot of the time you wont get any bleeding what so ever until after birth. I think Drs like to scare the cra- out of you so if you do start bleeding you race in rather then mossy on in in your own time IYKWIM.
Our little puppy dog was hit by a car this afternoon.. it was so awful, i havent stopped crying since it happened, she had to stay at the vet tonight, they didnt seem too positive that she was going to make it thru the night. I cant bare the thought of her dying all by herself in a cage, they wldnt let her come home tho. Ive never had a dog die, i really dont know how im going to get thru the night. She was in so much pain, all i can think about is the thud the car made when it hit her. All the old man cld say was 'i cant believe shes not dead from that!' and then went on to say shes a stupid little puppy for running out in front of him. Hes a stupid man for not slowing down!!! We cld see her running from metres away, if he had braked just a little bit, it wldnt have been so bad, he only braked once he hit her.. we live on a very quiet street where everyone goes 30ks cos theres always kids playing etc. He was going atleast 60ks.
Dh keeps reminding me that ive gotta be strong and stay calm for our growing little baby cos i keep getting quite hysterical thinking about it all. How do i not think about it tho and stay calm?! Its impossible. I want tomoro to be here but then again im absolutely dreading it cos what happens if she dies tonight.. i know i will have to get thru it but i honestly cant see how i will. The only loss i have ever been thru is my m/c... strangely enough nala was born on the same day we had the m/c so ive always thought of her as my little angel.
Anyway im just upsetting myself even more talking about it... pls pray our little girl is going to be alright, and if she cant fight it she just goes peacefully.
Stupid old man!!! So sorry to hear ur puppy is hurting... I hope he gets through the night n lives a long long life so he/she can play with ur bubba....
Ferrals: I just think ur amazing... Going through what you and ur family have wow ur superwoman!!! I have no experience with what ur going through in the pregnancy but I do hope so much that everything turns out just perfect for you and your family...
Audax: Massive congrats on bubba girl - can't wait for the name and BS
Reet-i hope your furbaby is ok and can come home to you soon.
Hope-Thanks i dont feel amazing i am starting to feel tired and just want a break but i have to keep going i have 3 boys to worry about and little miss on the way.
AFM-I am working the whole weekend 10 hour shifts so i wont be back on until monday night have a good weekend.
Ferrals - Ugh that sounds really scary! You're having a really rough year, hun. I agree with Tegam though, I think sometimes they just give it to you straight without any sugar-coating to make sure you get to hospital ASAP if you have a little bleed. Try to relax as much as you can though, there's always hope you'll get through without any scary bleeding episodes and I just know this little one will be perfect. As will you.
Reet - Even though I already knew about this from fb, just reading your post made me tear up! I've had everything crossed all night for your little (big) puppy dog and I'm just dying to hear that she pulled through ok. I know it's hard not to think the worst, but I promise you, the vet is the best place for her to be right now. She's in good hands, and they wouldn't just let her die in her cage on her own. She won't be suffering, they will medicate her so she isn't aware of what's going on. If she does slip away, it'll be peacefully and someone will be there with her. Ok now you've got ME crying! Don't fret about baby right now, we all get a bit hysterical now and then. He/she is also in good hands (tummy) and if you need to cry, let it out. My little dog ran out onto the road today and I LOST IT this morning, thinking about Nala. I called him and called him and he kept just wandering around looking dumb.... I was ready to start crying it was all in slow-mo and I just thought 'oh god a car is going to come around that corner any second'. DP ended up marching over and just pointing at the car and the little bugger jumped back in. Phew! I was so upset though driving back home, he normally responds to me really well when I give him a command, and I even used my most angry growly 'GET IN THE CAR' voice and he just...... looked at me. Oh golly gosh our puppies are like children aren't they? Imagine us two with babies, lol... we'll be frantic 24/7. Let me know as soon as you hear about your sweet girl. Oh yes, and STUPID OLD MAN. I would have socked him right in the face. Typical older generation men, blame everything around them for their own mistake. His slow reaction time was the problem.
AFM - Feeling a bit down on myself today, as DP had another one of his 'I'm not having a go at you...... BUT' moments last night. Apparently I've put on too much weight (10kg) because some other woman only put on that amount by the end of her pg. I tried to explain that every woman is different and that it's impossible to lose weight right now, (also that the dr said 15-20kg is still in the normal spectrum) but he thinks otherwise. Apparently if I went for a walk every day I'd lose weight. Um, no. I can't lose weight right now, I'm pregnant!!! Gah. I explained that my body is storing fat for breastfeeding, but he keeps focussing on the fact that bubby only weighs around a kilo. He says I'm bordering on unhealthy and that I'll have to work hard to lose weight after bubby is born. I get it, I'm not as thin as I used to be. BUT I'M PREGNANT!!! Yes, I eat what I want a lot of the time, because I'm craving it. Yes I realize I'll have to work hard to lose weight but I've done it before, I can do it again! Sometimes I feel like he would love me less if I wasn't able to lose weight for some reason. He has a real problem with very overweight people, and doesn't hold back in telling me so at times. God, that makes it sound really bad but it's not like he isn't a darling 99% of the time. He just seems quite hung up on body image, and at the moment it's mine! At least he lets me know what he thinks gently, but frankly, now isn't the time to be giving me a heads up on my weight gain. I am VERY aware of it. I do feel like a beached whale. Right now I need to know I am loved regardless of the size pants I'm wearing, (which is only size 14, give me a break!) and for god's sake, I'm big because I'm carrying his baby. I made that point last night and his response was 'you wanted this'. Yes, I did, but I didn't want to be told that I'm fat!! Let's end this on a high note. In his defense, he did say that I'm still beautiful, just a bit chunkier than before. *sigh* lol MEN! Perhaps I should start talking about the size of his penis and act really hung up on guys with small d****s. I think that would be the male equivalent of being the pregnant woman being told she's fat. Can't wait to be back to my old size 10 self sometimes.
Sorry for the mini-rant, I really needed that though.
I love it forshelby. Do it ever so casually... just say there are women in your forum talking about the size of their husbands willys and you just cant believe that they can get so big! "i mean darling yours does the job its just not a chunky as others it would seem"
She died overnight at the vets tho I havent been able to stop crying all day.. i cant imagine ever stopping right now. Everything in the whole house reminds me of her, even going to the toilet cos the cheeky little bugger wld steal the toilet rolls and rip them up.
I guess this is to be expected when i have never had a pet die... gosh my 14 yr old little silky is still kicking!
I just miss her so much i dont know how im going to get thru the next few days
(forshelby my dh is the same about overweightness.. he is even paranoid about my um.. vajayjay getting puffier! He used to bring up all the time that when he met me i was 50kgs and i have basically put on a kg each year since.. EXCUSE ME! I was 18 years old!!!! He always points out really skinny mums too and says see theres no excuse not to get back to how u were once u've had the baby etc. Grrrr stupid men. Anyway ill come back later when i can think straight and we can discuss this further! xx)
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Audax! Cant wait to hear more!
at all i am not to do anything physical only light housework do not let myself get tired i am not to be on my own at any time and i am not allowed to be more than 30 minutes from hospital at all times so no travel no nothing.
and i will definately bleed 3-4 times before bub is born i am to not panic but get to the hospital ASAP and if its a little bleed i will be in for a few days if the bleed is heavy i will be staying in hospital and if i hemorrage they will deliver baby.
I agree with Tegam though, I think sometimes they just give it to you straight without any sugar-coating to make sure you get to hospital ASAP if you have a little bleed. Try to relax as much as you can though, there's always hope you'll get through without any scary bleeding episodes and I just know this little one will be perfect. As will you.
I havent been able to stop crying all day.. i cant imagine ever stopping right now. Everything in the whole house reminds me of her, even going to the toilet cos the cheeky little bugger wld steal the toilet rolls and rip them up.
so sorry about your dog! One of the reasons i dont have a pet! Cant stand the pain of the loss!
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