Pregnancy after miscarriage or loss ~ November 2010

[luna moth]

Nooooo Tegam! You do not want the induction! The induced and artificial bit of my labour was the absolute worst. But I know what you mean.

We have a capsule, got it so that we could transport bubs without having to wake her, but she screams in the car, and we hardly drive anyway. Might use it more as she grows.

Our little bunny is just perfect - dozing in the sling right now. It's so cold here today and we don't have many warm clothes for her. So she's in a long sleeve bodysuit and booties, seems to be about right. Just keeping her close, seems to work And I can't stand putting her down anyway. Too too precious.

[Tegam]

Just keeping her close, seems to work And I can't stand putting her down anyway. Too too precious.

Oh i am so green with envy!

[KitFaerie]

Me too!

[Melster]

hey everyone....

I have been reading but have been having trouble positing.....plus i have been so negative.....ill post a big one when im on my work computer

m2r......how are u going now?

Atm.....well i have my scan thur and im completely petrified....i want to call up and cancel....we have christmas at our house...and if somethings wrong ill loose it.......i feel so so negative...cant help thinking that somethings wrong.....i keep thinking the baby is not growing and thats why my stomach is getting smaller and not bigger and its gone all soft which is freaking me out......i know the bloating might have gone but its not hard like with dd......i still have ms but then they say u can have ms even if baby has passed.......so i have totally convinced myself something is wrong which is making me a hormonal nightmare and fighting with everyone...........blehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......i feel so stressed and unhappy.......nothing seems to be helping

[Mum2Romone]

Melster, It makes things so much harder that you cant get all excited straight away and be happy

I know how you feel, hopefully your scan will provide you with the hope you need

[Tegam]

Oh melstar you sound a mess! So sorry you are facing the scan two days before xmas...too much hey??

Im sure everything is fine but a million of us could tell you that and you are still going to stress. I say just get it over and done with. You will have such a better xmas when you know everything is normal and ok with your little one. Putting it off til after xmas will not make you any happier.

We are all here for you and cant wait to hear the good news thursday avo!

[forshelby]

Audax - It's good to hear you and bub are well. Best Christmas present ever!

Melster - I hope Thursday brings you some good results and you can relax and enjoy your xmas.

M2R - How are you going, hun?

Angelfish - Congrats on the big win, that's awesome!

Tegam - Induction or no induction, it won't be long now! So excited for you! Wheeeeeeee!!! lol

AFM - I'm exhausted after babysitting (well kid-sitting) for my best friend today. Her boys are 11 and 9 and I had them all day today. They're generally well behaved but I've noticed the more they get to know me the more they push the boundaries. The older one was standing on my lounge at one point.. and I had to get rather firm with him. There were other small incidents, but mostly it was a good day. I find I'm just super tired from having to be 'on' all day and hearing 'NELLY- NELLY - NELLY' all day.... I'm sick of my own name, lol. My throat is even sore from yelling. Well not so much yelling but you have to raise your voice to be heard over the chatter & loud roughhousing of two boys. I've got them tomorrow too, and as much as I love to lend a helping hand to my best friend by doing this from time to time..... I know I'll be a dishevelled mess by tomorrow afternoon lol. When she picked them up this afternoon I turned off the tv, sat on the lounge with a very large glass of water and basked in the silence. I must say though they were very good boys while I had my BT done this morning at the clinic, waited very patiently and weren't too much to handle as we wandered around for the hour after I had my special drink.

Whew! Sorry that was so long, I needed a debrief though, hehe. Wish me luck for tomorrow, and please please tell me it's different when they're your kids! Repeating myself is driving me a bit batty, and I'm tired of hearing myself say 'no' or 'behave yourself young man'. It is good to have some company for a change though, at least I wasn't lonely!

[Tegam]

different when its your kids, but it changes daily as to whether thats better or not

[Melster]

Ferals.....my hubby got one of those...but it was for her car that SHE had.....i can really sympathise...Who's name was it under, both?

M2R..how are things going now? any news on the baby front, have you told you're partner yet?

Forshelby..how you feeling?

Angelfish..thats fantastic!!

Tegam..I have never used a capsule, but i know some people who love them

Hello to everyone else..

A lady at work,,,who has an extremely big mouth asked if i was pregnant...so right about now everyone should know!!!!!!!!!! I still havent had them do my contract yet and i was assuming it would have to be in the next day or two coz tomorrow is our last day...so who knows whats happening with that..i just want to be able to sign it so i feel safe........thanks for you're support. I have been a bit of a nightmare lately but its because i am scared and stressed...these hormones are taking over. Im dreading that scan Thursday...i really am..i dont know why... i just dont want to know and want to bury my head in the sand...dont know why i have convinced myself something is wrong...maybe when i have my scan and if things are alright i will ease up a bit...because ill be ten weeks...closer to 12 were the percentage of mc drops and ill be past the last baby who died at 6 weeks but i went until 9.........the fear is horrible..i think the bleeding earlier certaintly didnt help the fear factor......i have no real evidence except that bleeding a few weeks back...and last week i had real bad pains for about half hour which completely freaked me out...but it was after eating..eggs, bacon, cheese muffin...for breakie which was really fattening and i have had it before when not pregnant...and have needed to go to the toilet...so i am hoping and praying its just that....my belly is getting smaller and muschy...but that could be the bloating has gone down and maybe i have lost weight from throwing up and not eating as much and maybe its stretched....i havent had that heavy, pulling type period feelings but i am hoping thats coz its already stretched down there......i havent had any red blood like last time...and i still have ms...maybe not as bad......and i am DEF hormonal lol so that should be a good sign............anyways i am just going to have to find a way to live through this........and we have all the stepkids for christmas......GREAT....just what i need right now

[forshelby]

Melster - If it helps at all, I was told that most mcs happen before the 8 week mark. I know they do happen after that point too, but that's what my doctor told me. When I had mine the pain was accompanied by a LOT of bleeding, and a LOT of clots. The nurse at the hospital told me as long as I wasn't seeing clots that there was hope. (she told me this before the clots started) I know how hard it is though to calm yourself in these early stages when there isn't a whole lot of evidence you're pg, like feeling kicks etc. Just take it one day at a time for now and try to de-stress yourself as best you can. As for that lady at work.. ugh how annoying! If they don't renew your contract I would be asking questions. If their reasoning is that because you're pg, then that's discrimination. I hope everything works out for you! Oh and to answer your question I'm feeling great. My feet are always sore, but now my knees have started to hurt and my hips too. Apart from that, everything is just perfect and bubby is kicking all the time so it's all very reassuring.

Tegam - Oh, LOL.... I have my FX that I can maintain some kind of peace and serenity as this baby grows up

AFM - Round 2 of kid-sitting today. They seem calmer today, I haven't had to get cranky yet but we're only an hour into it... lol. Let's see how this goes. *deep breath*

[Tegam]

forshelby: hehe at remaining calm at the hour mark! hehe

Mel: Poo the lady with the big mouth!

AFM: Nothing new! Sorry Oh but we are getting our new car this avo at 3pm so now i can have the baby and we can all get somewhere together!

[T-hopes]

Melstar - sorry to hear your so stressed about the pregnancy - i guess we can all relate to those fears, they arent much fun! Im prayinh that everything is wonderful on Thursday and it gives you that reassurance that you need and you can enjoy the festive season knowing bubby is strong and healthy!

Reet - how are you doing gorgeous? xx

Tegam - Yay for the new car!! What are you getting?

Audax - So excited to hear your little girl is well!! Im so loving your avvy!!!!

AFM - 15wks today! Hooray Bought my first pair of Maternity Jeans on Sunday!! They are ace!! I got 2 pairs for $78 at Jeanswest - i had no idea they even sold them there until some girls in my bellybuddies were talking about them! And they are cool as! Skinny leg and straight leg! Im rockin em with my little belly

[Melster]

Thanks ladies..

Hows those kiddies going forshelby...i KNOW exactly what you mean..i pull my hair out when i have stepkids over..

Tegam...wow new car..very flash

T-hopes...congratultions.......yep i heard about those jeans also..miss my skinny legs..think ill be popping over there also

ATM.......WELL BIG MOUTH certaintly open her big mouth.....YIPEE tho for getting my contract renewed for six months...(been here 10 years) and he said if i wanted to talk about anything...told him what was going on and he was really good...said at the end of my contract he would fight his hardest so they would keep me...guess ill just have to wait and see...so now two bosses know and two work people..so it will be all around the office soon....lets hope that my scan on Thur is ok...if not at least i have two weeks off

[forshelby]

Tegam - Yay for the new car! Ok baby, all systems are go, you're free to make your way to the exit when ready.

T-Hopes - Awesome, I had no idea there were fashionable maternity jeans out there! It's way too hot here for jeans atm though.... I shudder just thinking about them. Congrats on 15 weeks!!

Melster - OMG... I'll launch into my rant at the bottom part..... first let me just say hooray for getting your contract renewed. I'm sending positive vibes your way for Thursday

AFM - I've had my moments today where I actually thought 'what have I gotten myself into having a baby'. The younger kid has been pretty manageable. Nothing too out of order, and when I get cross he listens and says sorry and does what he's asked! The older one though.... omg. I actually had to yell. I am NOT a yeller. But I yelled and the guy in the drivethru window heard me say 'frigging'. LOL. I don't know if it's just because I'm pg or what, but the older one just WON'T LISTEN and I'm sooooo sick of repeating myself. I'm getting all stressed out. No exaggeration here, I told him in excess of 20 times NOT to sit on the lounge in his wet swimming pants and wet towel, and every time he'd get out of the pool, he'd go straight to the lounge. Then when I say 'remember what I told you. Get one of those chairs and bring it over here until your pants are dry' and I get the rebuttle. 'Oh my pants aren't that wet. they won't wet the lounge. My towel is dry'. Anyway, I have to go now because they're FRIGGING arguing again, and the little one is getting a bit upset.

!@#$%^&*() give me strength. About 45 minutes until I can lock myself in my room and have a tantrum.

[forshelby]

Might I just add.......................................

SERENITY NOW!!!!!

I made it. I did it! I did it without losing my sanity.

[KitFaerie]

YAY Forshelby! You did good Now enjoy the quiet!

[T-hopes]

Forshelby You can come out now from your hiding place!! Your free!! Yahooo....!

[ferrals5]

Ladies,
I am having a mental breakdown, yesterday DH got all the court paperwork and in it is a quote for $7500 for the drunk d#ckhead two front teeth that suposedly will need root canal therapy and capping if the pulp of the teeth die WTF!!!!! if DH loses the case OMG! this is just getting worse i broke down and burst into tears at work last night and txt DH and went off HOW COULD YOU GET US INTO THIS SITUATION! i know he didnt mean it and the drunk assulted him first and DH was just protecting himself but it has all backfired.
DH has to apply for hardship to access his super to help pay for the lawyer and help us move house and pay bills.
If he doesnt get it we are f#cked we now cant even afford to pay for a car seat if i were not pregnant i could work more but i just cant risk it with this placenta.

Sorry to rant i am going to have a few days off work and use some sick leave.