Hi everyone-- I was out of commission and not getting updates-- don't know why, but hopefully, I will figure out how to get it fixed. Couldn't sleep again, so I got "caught up" on multiple pages of everyone's journeys... It's good to read your posts; I didn't feel so lonely with my insomnia.
I've been just waiting to feel the baby move here. I have a doppler which has been reassuring... and I celebrate 20 weeks this week-- woo-hoo!
I have an ob-gyn appointment this Friday, and I am hoping that they give me info about childbirth classes. I am clueless. Also, I hope that our little baby boy is doing okay inside-- honestly, sometimes, I don't "feel" pregnant-- or can't quite believe it-- until my head starts to say, "look at yourself." Plus, my right hip hurts wicked bad...and that is definitely pregnancy related.
Kitten: Welcome and I hope all goes well with your pregnancy.
Dory: You give me inspiration to keep hoping and hoping that all will go well in the end!
Ferrals: nice to hear from you; I agree with Forshelby... your DH was doing his job and some people will keep doing annoying and rude things to *push* the limits. I hope everything works out for your DH, in his favor, and he gets support from the law. Also, I am glad to hear that you are doing better...
Forshelby: Yikes-- I know what you mean about the housework and hubby. I feel so guilty though 'cause my hubby is *totally* carrying the load here-- I am on so many restrictions 'cause of my former miscarriage and 'cause of the high risk pregnancy, that we have had to let some things just slide around the house. We did clean together on our day off for a few hours-- hubby did the vacuuming and I did the scrubbing and dusting. He already does the laundry---because of the lifting involved-- and it's my job to put the clothes away. But sometimes I am so tired and lazy that I don't even do that. So, usually, when DH criticizes me (gently), it is because he knows that I need to move around some more.
Reet: I hope that your bleeding stops -- vanishes!-- and that you are reassured in every way that all is well.
To all the ladies that I missed--- Keep the faith! Ha! I should listen to my own advice LOL. I just started maternity leave negotiations with the church where I serve. Heaven help me-- I sometimes wish we had a human resources department. Hopefully, I will be able to transition the church without a lot of speedbumps along the way. Whoever takes my place will need to take the congregation through Lent, holy week, and Easter. Since I am a solo pastor (and the first clergyperson there to have a baby) this will be NEW for everyone. Boy, Christmas will be different this year. Definitely!
OH sunshine i do not envy you! Whilst the love and support will be showered upon you, the politics of your work would be a nightmare! Have strength and 'keep the faith' You know what i mean! 20weeks YAY
Sunshine - aw schucks! You are an inspiration too you know...congrats on 20 weeks, it is such a milestone. Less days to go than have already gone! Yay.
Forshelby - about the pets and bubs? Can't comment on how to manage a woofa but the kitties? We probably did all the wrong things. But as our cats are indoor cats ( they do have access to an outdoor cat enclosure but don't roam) we set up babies stuff as early as we could given our emotional journey in the pregnancy. We wanted them to get used to the furniture. We let them sleep/crawl on it initially to suss it out and then once they were comfortable with the stuff, started to teach them not to go on it. Both positive rewards and scolding, depending on what they were doing. I played sounds of babies crying to the cats for weeks. DH also brought some of Hannah's blankets home from hossy and let the cats sniff them. Now, we never leave her alone with/near them. I read somewhere that pets should just be banned from the babies room. That wasn't something we could put into effect. Some people recommend getting a net and draping it over the cot/sleep space - we will in time. My SIL suggested putting the cat travel cages to the door of the room and that kept her kitties out. Apart from that? It's just vigilance and we reward the cats with love and treats when they do the right thing - so when they sniff Hannah/or her stuff and then walk away. Mostly our cats don't seem to really pay that much attention to Hannah. I think they don't see the point of the new addition to the household. Oh we also make sure when she is asleep that we give them attention, so they still feel loved.
Tegam - you are welcome. You did the same for me. I have been trying to do the same for some friends who just had twins. LOL re tiles. We have tiles in most of the house just not the bedrooms/lounge. We needed to recarpet but decided to wait awhile..... just as well. Although the best carpet cleaner I have found is some biozed laundry powder. Dilute it with water and put it in a sprayer. Works pretty good and cheap as chips.
Forshelby - I do you know what you mean about the feelings of losing motivation, boredom and inadequacy..baking can only go so far in that department huh?... luckily I was a bit like Sunshine, high risk preg and not supposed to be doing much... and a bit like Ferrals - I couldn't help myself, but I did try to avoid doing too much and any heavy stuff. It's still that way for me whilst I recover from the caesear, but I can do more than I could during the preg. On top of that it doesn't help to feel criticised. I so get the crying...I did a lot of that too.
Best advice? Talk to your man and just let him know what's going on for you. Yes you do have more time to do stuff around the home but you are also doing something WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN HOUSE WORK - tell your man he can either have you doing your absolute best for the little precious life growing inside you the one you both want so much or the washing up, but because you are the one doing all the gestating, it's your call and you say baby!
But if you really are still keen to do the housework, set up a roster so that each day you have a VERY LIMITED number of tasks to do and discuss with your man what takes priority.
When baby does come... the housework, at least initially, will slide anyway so why not get him used to it now? I drove myself spare trying to even just do the basics. Just lucky that DH doesn't seem to mind.
Anyway, time for me to try to catch some precious zzzzz's. I have so lost my preg ability to sleep at the drop of the hat.
Hi all, haven't been posting for a bit, but have been reading, and stalking.
I would have been on sooner tonight but we didn't get home until 6pm as we had to go to the shops and get some things - I am definately not going to be shopping in Target anytime in the near future! I spent 10 minutes waiting to be served at the layby counter, 5 mins before closing and 5 mins after closing, and still didn't get served so I stormed off swearing my head off lol and then put in a complaint!
Anyway, hubby stole my computer when we got home as his laptop has a virus....
Anyway, had my morphology scan today, and we are having...
A GIRL!!!
At least the sonographer thinks it's a girl as there was no "dangly bits" as he put it lol
Was a very co-operative little bubba, did everything that she was supposed to and gave the sonographer good views of her heart, everything is measuring exactly on dates and she has really long legs - measuring a week ahead! - but she only has a small skull, measuring 2 wks behind but the sonographer said he could have been a bit out in his measurements as her skull is still a bit narrow in width and still needs to do some more growing.
So all in all it's been a good day - and next week I get to go shopping buy some cute little purple things!!! (I can't stand pink... I keep on telling people I only want purple clothes lol)
Tegam: I have a lot of red clothes, awesome colour!
Dory: I like the cat tips, DH and I are looking at a basinette that has a full cover over the top in case George gets too curious.
Wow, I can't remember much more. Ummm. Oh!
Forshelby: Pfft at DP for the comments about housework! Your doing more work lying down than he could do in a whole week of work, one of my friends told me she screamed at her DH ''I'm making baby eyelashes! Leave me alone!'' I thought that was pretty cool I too find myself in a 50's time warp. There's been a few times when DH has come home and I've just finished a batch of cookies and he'll be at the table with cookies and milk and I'll be thinking ''who the hell are we?'' LOL! So far I've felt no inclination to vacuum in heels.
Reet: Hmm, I'm in 2 minds about this, one - you do what you want honey two - sometimes, we get stuck in a headspace of anxiety that's not useful or helpul. As long as dopplering is useful/helpful tis all good, but if it becomes a source of stress in itself, then it's no good and maybe you could replace it with something else, like reading a book to your bubba.
Sunshine and stars: Oof, the politics! Hope it all goes well!
Audax: Getting close honey! Woop woop!
I really hope I didn't mix up who said what!
AFM, all going well, Tiger's still bouncy and happy and we have a midwife appt this afternoon. Got a stash of MCN's and clothes, but his room is full of boxes - not so great as a newborn but when he's a toddler he'll freaking love it Hoping to have everything finished by the end of November, we have furniture kindly donated from friends, just gotta pick it up! Birth classes start next monday and DH has promised to read the birth skills book. Still freaking out about birth. Deep breaths!
You know what i mean! 20weeks YAY
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