Hi Ladies, I dont think there is a time when you actually do stop stressing, well not at least when you are pregnant! I had 5 normal, trouble free pregnancies and then I had my first m/c, the doctor just put it down to my age and the fact that there may have been something wrong with the baby! I got over that m/c, the first one is a shock, but you never think you will go through it again.....hmmm.....didnt I find out otherwise! I fell pg again without too much trouble at all, but unfortunately I m/c that baby too, it was truly a very sad time for me, two m/c's in a row!!! That shouldnt happen to anyone! Well, once again I got over that m/c and thought I would be safe now, but I was to be proved wrong yet again! I fell pg again (to my new/current partner) and we were so excited (it wouldve been his first). At 11 weeks I started bleeding and I knew all too well what was about to happen, even though I did try to be optimistic. So, m/c#3 and I think that one was the hardest one of all, no one should have to go through a m/c, let alone a number of them!
We decided to go to an OB and I had test after test, dp had tests too and after I had a d&c (the OB thought I should seeing as though I never had one after I had my m/c's) I managed to fall pg again. I was terrified, I went to the doctor and had an early u/s, I had beta draws taken for a couple of weeks and even when I heard the h/b with the doppler, I still was scared.... I even went through a stage where the only colour undies I would wear was white, that way I could see if there was any spotting more easier. We didnt tell anyone I was pg until after I had my 12wk u/s and everything was fine with bubs at that u/s, so then we let everyone know.
But the stressing and worrying didnt stop til I had that little girl snuggled up in my arms after I gave birth. I would watch to see if she was breathing all the time as I knew I couldnt lose her now, I actually had another baby without losing it to m/c! Miracles do happen and my little miracle is now currently 20 months old and giving me and her family so much pleasure, each new day she makes us smile in some way. We love her to bits and we are so glad and lucky to have her.

I sure hope things work out for all of you who are pg and have had losses in the past. I found that my doppler was my best friend once I was able to find bubs h/b at around 9 weeks, if I was ever worried, I would get the doppler out and listen intently to bubs h/b, very reassuring and that helped me get through a lot, at least until I started getting movements anyway. Once I got movements, I started to stress a little less.

All the best to you all and Ill send you heaps of sticky vibes so that your LO's stay put til the are good and ready