when to feel safe?

[Inanna]

Rory what you are feeling is something many women report in pregnancy after a loss. Often once a woman has passed the time in her previous pregnancy that she lost her baby she feels better, but can continue feeling cautious and uneasy. Basically a loss reminds us that sadly things can happen in pregnancy, loss happens & this reality cannot be escaped once a baby has been lost.

I think you will feel better once you feel movements & can monitor your baby yourself that way... For all of our technological advances maternal monitoring of movements is known to be one of the best ways to guage a baby's well being.

For me & I know my story is different but I didn't truly believe that she was alive until she was born and alive. And I didn't truly believe she was coming home with me until I walked out of the hospital with her wrapped in my arms...

[ll80]

after my m/c it was until about 35 weeks that I started to think, hang on, this is all ok and going to happen. I could really start to focus on the birth and having bub arrive safe and sound.

Up until that point I found it really hard to get excited about the pg and no one really knew I was UTD until I was over 20 weeks.