The first thing I thought of this morning was that i must see if there are any other posts answering my dilemna. I am pleased to say that there was and they, just like the others last week, have been really helpful. I have been loath to say this before, but my dp and I are both of the opinion that if there was something wrong we would terminate the pregnancy. However, that still doesn't mean I want to have the amnio either as I believe that the next scan at 19 wks or so can still detect the same problems as the NT plus others (thank you RYN for pointing that out to me as I had wondered about that).
It truly is a hard decision and I have spent so many agonising hrs pondering the decision. I guess all I can do at this stage is to see the genetic counsellor again tomorrow with my dp, before the scheduled amnio and make my decision from there. I have a lot of q's to ask about just how far the next scan can detect problems as this may further deter me from the amnio and risk of mc?
Thanks again everyone, I can't describe how wonderful it has been to hear back from so many of you caring people out there. Big smiles to you all, Nicole
Nicole, I am glad you have found the response helpful. As Michelle has pointed out, we haven't all been in your situation and this is why I was hesitant to respond. However, another thing you might want to think about is how you will feel after the amnio if you have it. A great NT result has not stopped you worrying, will a good amnio result achieve that? Especially in the first week or so afterwards, will you feel relieved or terrified that you might mc? I think it's important to consider this, as what you really need now is peace of mind and to enjoy your pg and new baby when the time comes. I really hope that you find a way to achieve the peace of mind you deserve. I would hate for you to be so worried about what can go wrong that you do not enjoy your long awaited pg and baby.
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