It is a lot to take in the first time hey. What book are you reading? It doesn't sound particularly reassuring, perhaps as the others have said put it aside for now.
As for what you need? Nothing you can't buy once you realise you need it. xo Think of babies in third world countries - obviously that's not our standard, but it helps you realise that lots of 'necessities' are actually just conveniences.
There are plenty of lists around BB (try searching), and maybe check out the articles section too - and if you can't find what you're after, then ask away!
The book sounds like it is really stressing you out..I would put it away
Eat what you feel like..that's what I have always done and have 3 happy healthy children.
I have not been the most conventional in eating during pregnancy..love black pudding ate it, love Ice cream Sundaes..ate it. Coffe Can't live without it.
Just go with your instincts.
Your baby just needs somewhere to sleep ,something to carry them in (if you wish), something to bath them in and clothes. The rest you can get as you need and you will find alot of people will buy you things anyway (whether you want them to or not ).
Tust in your Instincts they will kick in...you will be the best mother ever, I can tell this as you wouldn't be in here asking advice from these amazing people in Belly Belly Land.
And yes..lot's of different lists in Belly Belly, pick out the things you like the sound of.
I get where you're coming from - I had literally never held a baby in my life until I held DS. And he's just fine, growing and being his own little person. Water would make me sick, so it was milk or slushies (which aren't recommended, but hey, I was over milk!) I ate chocolate and peanuts and he's just fine, no allergies or defects (unless you count cute-ness as a defect).
Do the best you can with what you've got. Indulge yourself, if you see something you *really* want, be it a fluffy toy or a rattle or a furniture item or clothing, buy it! Spoil yourself, enjoy your pregnancy - cause you'll only be pregnant with this little person once!
Have you started your ante-natal classes yet? If so, they usually have heaps of advice about what you need - in fact, everything on the list the hospital gave us to bring in was what we needed most of (except the car seat/capsule - one's just fine And if you have people offering to buy you stuff, ask for vouchers so you can buy your own when you've an idea what you need - although gorgeous heirloom clothing is always wonderful.
I have a ten year old and was still cr*pping myself during my pregnancy with Archie as i thought i wouldn't be able to remember how to look after a baby or that i wouldn't cope! You'll be fine! And they really don't need that much stuff, just clothing, nappies and blankets really! All the other things are optional extras...
Congratulations on your miracle bub!
x x x
Hahahaha! I remember reading a book that suggested putting a sink in the nursery! Oh hell yeah NOT.
Half the crap for sale is exactly that - crap. Don't panic about having everything ready. You can always go out and buy something later if you think you will need it. If you have boobs and warm arms that is all you really, truly need xoxoxoxxo
Thank you everyone so much - your thoughts & advice mean a lot and really help to relieve the stress I have been feeling. It makes my pregnancy feel much more human!
I am so happy & in love with this baby I just want everything to be perfect
I'm glad you're feeling better. Your bub will be perfect, no matter what things you have...until they draw on your walls, and then you start to question the perfection... But by then it's too late, you're already sucked in and are too in love to give them away!
When we started TTC, I read a book about natural fertility which basically told me that if we couldn't fall pregnant naturally after implementing the book's recommendations, then we weren't doing it properly, and that IVF was only for those who failed at natural fertility (which is technically true, but way to make me feel like cr*p). I beat myself up for months because we followed the book to a tee, and each month AF would arrive and remind me how much of a failure I was. Nevermind that we had male factor infertility issues and that technically, there was nothing else we could do but turn to IVF. You can't argue with 98% abnormal sperm, with a count of less than 5 million.
Since falling pregnant, I've found a few books that basically tell me that if I don't live like an absolute saint, eat only organic, purified, wholegrain, healthy food ALL THE TIME then I'm doing harm to my baby. Nevermind that I can hardly look at red meat without retching, or that hot chips with gravy are all that I can stomach sometimes. I've put those books away now and repeat to myself, daily, "I'm doing the best that I can." I cannot do any better than that, and there's no point beating myself up for not being a saint. My baby will be born to a happy, well-adjusted mother, not a freakish saint woman who never touches sugar or fatty food.
Do the best that you can, and pat yourself on the back for doing it.
i just read this and could not, not reply!
dont just throw the book out, BURN IT! that sounds like the stupidest book. if you want a good preg book Kaz Cookes Up The Duff - very realistic (plus who doesn't love cartoons?) its the kind of book where "she" (the main lady) eats magnoms almost every day your doing the best for your baby and your body will take what it needs from you! i have a think ATM for Ribina & lemmonaid. as for the baby stuff, i have no idea why they sell half of it. becuase im fairly sure my DS wouldnt really care if i had a bucket with a rubber thingy to pour water over his head or not!
you're doing a brilliant job, your growing a human after all!
It is a lot to take in the first time hey. What book are you reading? It doesn't sound particularly reassuring, perhaps as the others have said put it aside for now.
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Can't live without it. 
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And if you have people offering to buy you stuff, ask for vouchers so you can buy your own when you've an idea what you need - although gorgeous heirloom clothing is always wonderful.
Thank you!!!!
But by then it's too late, you're already sucked in and are too in love to give them away! 
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