I have a ten year old and was still cr*pping myself during my pregnancy with Archie as i thought i wouldn't be able to remember how to look after a baby or that i wouldn't cope! You'll be fine! And they really don't need that much stuff, just clothing, nappies and blankets really! All the other things are optional extras...
Congratulations on your miracle bub!
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Hahahaha! I remember reading a book that suggested putting a sink in the nursery! Oh hell yeah NOT.
Half the crap for sale is exactly that - crap. Don't panic about having everything ready. You can always go out and buy something later if you think you will need it. If you have boobs and warm arms that is all you really, truly need xoxoxoxxo
Thank you everyone so much - your thoughts & advice mean a lot and really help to relieve the stress I have been feeling. It makes my pregnancy feel much more human!
I am so happy & in love with this baby I just want everything to be perfect
I'm glad you're feeling better. Your bub will be perfect, no matter what things you have...until they draw on your walls, and then you start to question the perfection... But by then it's too late, you're already sucked in and are too in love to give them away!
When we started TTC, I read a book about natural fertility which basically told me that if we couldn't fall pregnant naturally after implementing the book's recommendations, then we weren't doing it properly, and that IVF was only for those who failed at natural fertility (which is technically true, but way to make me feel like cr*p). I beat myself up for months because we followed the book to a tee, and each month AF would arrive and remind me how much of a failure I was. Nevermind that we had male factor infertility issues and that technically, there was nothing else we could do but turn to IVF. You can't argue with 98% abnormal sperm, with a count of less than 5 million.
Since falling pregnant, I've found a few books that basically tell me that if I don't live like an absolute saint, eat only organic, purified, wholegrain, healthy food ALL THE TIME then I'm doing harm to my baby. Nevermind that I can hardly look at red meat without retching, or that hot chips with gravy are all that I can stomach sometimes. I've put those books away now and repeat to myself, daily, "I'm doing the best that I can." I cannot do any better than that, and there's no point beating myself up for not being a saint. My baby will be born to a happy, well-adjusted mother, not a freakish saint woman who never touches sugar or fatty food.
Do the best that you can, and pat yourself on the back for doing it.
i just read this and could not, not reply!
dont just throw the book out, BURN IT! that sounds like the stupidest book. if you want a good preg book Kaz Cookes Up The Duff - very realistic (plus who doesn't love cartoons?) its the kind of book where "she" (the main lady) eats magnoms almost every day your doing the best for your baby and your body will take what it needs from you! i have a think ATM for Ribina & lemmonaid. as for the baby stuff, i have no idea why they sell half of it. becuase im fairly sure my DS wouldnt really care if i had a bucket with a rubber thingy to pour water over his head or not!
you're doing a brilliant job, your growing a human after all!
Lol another one who says - throw away the book! My independent MW was over the other day, she went through my pile of 20+ pregnancy booksm and chucked most of them in a box and told me not to open them!
Re. food and diet - HAHAHA! Before we got pregnant, during the 8 months trying to conceive, I researched the Perfect Diet, planned meals, did checklists etc., so I could be the perfect pregnant mumma and nourish my baby with 4 serves of yellow vegetables and 3 serves of red vegetables and 4 serves of green leafy veggies... Now that I think about it, I nearly fall off my chair laughing! I was soooo sick for a few months, I ate what I could. For over a week that was ONLY deep fried food. Often I couldn't even eat the fish, and just ate the batter off it. Hey. It was that or nothing! Now my diet is pretty good, I'm eating as many raw veggies as I can, drinking lots of milk... But it's still not perfect.
My MW said, 'your bloods were great at the start, you obviously have loads of vitamins in store, and your body is so efficient when you are pregnant, so don't worry about it!'. She would not even have a discussion about diet with me - she said I look healthy, I obviously care about what I eat, no point stressing in any way! LOL last week a friend, who is a GP, said 'your body knows what you need when pregnant, listen to your body' and I replied, 'if I listened to my body I'd be eating instant noodles, milk and raw capsicum and nothing else!'. She shrugged and said maybe that's what I need this week! Carbs, dairy and vitamin C!
Re. all the Junk. Hmm well despite having a room heaving with Stuff like rattles and 20+ bibs and enough singlets and socks to clothe an army (a very small army), plus waaaaay too many onesies (every time I see my mum she has another onesie in a bag!).... Well the truth is, all they need is a couple of blankets, some suits, some nappies, some boobs and a carrier!
You will be SO fine! At least you are asking and wondering and thinking!
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Thank you!!!!
But by then it's too late, you're already sucked in and are too in love to give them away!
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