I think apart of most people want to know what the baby is at the morphology scan although I agree nothing beats the surprise at the end after the birth of knowing what you have being blessed with. I didn't find out with either of mine and although I wanted to know the surprise at the end was so worth the wait.
I didn't find out with either of mine and was so excited to just meet our baby that I really wouldn't have cared if they were a boy or a girl. I loved the element of surprise and I think I would have found it too hard to keep a secret from family who didn't want to know. With my first DH wanted to find out the sex but I didn't and it was actually him that said he didn't want to find out for the second!
I had to find out. I like to be able to plan and I'm not big on surprises. And I just couldn't wait. I found out with both ds and dd (who is still cooking). I'm glad I found out with both of them. I found it helped me bond with them while I'm pregnant. With dd we have been able to choose her name and start calling her that. Now we say to ds, where is Emily, he comes over puts my shirt up and gives it a pat, hug or kiss. Its very cute.
I think you need to decide what YOU want and what you feel happy doing!!!
:yeahthat: I'm with Mum2...i definitely wanted to know and I love knowing I have a little boy growing inside me. I LOVE being able to organise all the clothes etc and also agree on the "bonding" factor - calling the baby "Blake" has definitely been really nice.
I actually HATE surprises so knowing is a comfort - but I understand people who like the surprise at the end. Good luck with your decision.
DP and I basically decided from the beginning that we're going to find out for a few reasons:
1. He comes from a large family and they have been already buying things for Sprout. I can only accept so many yellow, white and green items before the bub ends up looking like an Easter egg once they're out!
2. My extended (and only) family is in Canada and they're busy knitting, crocheting and buying away. They're desperate to know so they can feel as close to the baby as possible without having the opportunity to be physically present.
3. I think it'll give DP and I the chance to bond with Sprout better - and stop calling the baby Sprout!! - once we know what we're having.
I always thought I'd leave it as a surprise but now that it's happening, I think logistically for myself and my family it's just much easier to find out. Plus I was - and sadly still am at times - the girl who snuck downstairs on Christmas Eve, carefully unwrapped my gifts to check them out and then wrapped them back up again in stealth-mode so who am I to fool myself into thinking that all of a sudden I'll be great with surprises?!
I wanted to know and as it turned out they could not give me a sure answer anyway. Don't forget that if you do choose to find out, they may not be able to tell becuase of position or etc and it might be a surprise anyway!
i was always big on Not Knowing but for some reason that has changed. I'd say probably because of ivf, finding out the sex is at least something we can control iykwim.
DH didn't believe in keeping it for a suprise and wnated to find out. So i had a think about it and i just sort of dawned on me that, yes, i do wnat to know.
I feel completely comfortable with our decision.
But we aren't going to tell anyone, unless they really press us and we won't select a name til after we meet bubs. we'll have a shortlist and then see what suits. we are finding out just for ourselves.
We also don't live near any family so it's not like i have to hide it or whatever. andl like someone else said, i can buy suitable stuff over the next few months.... given i won't be working, i want to spend the money while i still have it.
hope that helps you make your decision! in the end, it's each to their own.
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We've found out the gender with each pregnancy for pretty much the same reasons as Mum2 & ControlFreak have described. I am a person that needs to know things in advance so I can process it then plan and organise. It wasn't that we minded what we were having, we just wanted to know in advance so we could plan, pick a name, bond, etc. It has been great each time to be able to buy/borrow clothes in advance so you don't have to worry about it once the baby is here.
I completely understand why some people like to keep it as a surprise and I admire anyone who has the self control! I think it all comes down to our own personalities and what we feel we need/want.
I didn't find out with my first 3 but during my 4th we decided to.. While I was pleased to know what we were having I wish we had waited. I love the guessing game. Its fun..
Have fun making your decision...and either way...you'll have lots of surprises once your bundle arrives...babies have a tendency for delivering many surprises as they grow up...heck my kiddos STILL surprise me almost daily...you never know what they might say or do and I love it!
That being said I did not find out with my 1st BUT was dying to know with the 2nd...really could have went either way with this one but DH just HAD to know...
I had to find out,am too impatient but with my first they got it wrong anyways so it was still a surprise and this being my 2nd i had to find out and its obvious its a boy...that probably didnt help lol
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I had to find out. I like to be able to plan and I'm not big on surprises. And I just couldn't wait. I found out with both ds and dd (who is still cooking). I'm glad I found out with both of them. I found it helped me bond with them while I'm pregnant. With dd we have been able to choose her name and start calling her that. Now we say to ds, where is Emily, he comes over puts my shirt up and gives it a pat, hug or kiss. Its very cute.
- the girl who snuck downstairs on Christmas Eve, carefully unwrapped my gifts to check them out and then wrapped them back up again in stealth-mode so who am I to fool myself into thinking that all of a sudden I'll be great with surprises?!
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