Has anyone had a family member die while pregnant? Did it affect name choice?

[Inanna]

Me! My DH's grandmother passed the day I discovered I was pregnant with DD6. Consequently she was named Lucy Philomena after her great grandmother.

I like Carlo - I had a boyfriend Carlo who made the best paella - Oh MY that takes me back.... But I do like the name!

[CathyS]

I love the name Lucy!

It's nice to hear a positive opinion on the name Carlo. I wonder if it's too old fashioned or italian sounding. Though this baby is half italian and will have an italian surname lol. (Carlo, 84 was born in Rome, though my partner is Aussie born italian).

[Pandora]

Is your daughters name pronounced the Italian was of the Aussie way?
I think Carlo/a would fit nicely with your other kids ames if you like it.

[CathyS]

Laura is pronounced the aussie way. Though I know in Italy it is more like "Louwra" (trying to type how they sound it out).

Not keen on K for Karlo...if i were to name him that, I'd give him the same spelling.

So....Yasmin, Ronan, Laura and Carlo or Carla. Though I still have to speak to my partner about it....and he may or may not be keen on that idea. I think he'd probably push for the name though... If I'm really not happy, I'll have the middle name at least. I need time to think about it. And by march 13 I SHOULD know the sex of the baby..as long as I can tell the sex at those 3d scans (i'll be 29 weeks then).

[Lisa]

I had 2 people pass away when I was pregnant with Madeleine. One was my cousin, and one was my Ex's very close friend.
My cousin Ben knew we had been trying for a baby... and I actually found out just after he passed that I was pregnant... We decided that if the baby was a boy we would name him Ryan Benjamin.
Obviously we didn't get to use the name Benjamin, but all my children have or will have middle names in honour of their extended family members, some are alive, some are not.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

DH's aunt died when his brother's wife was expecting; they used her name as a middle name. It is a beautiful name though!

I'd not use a dead person's name as a first name because to me it's as if you're trying to fill that place. As a middle name it's a nice thing to do if you like the name and the sentiment. And your child won't hate you for it when they grow up. But Carlo/Carla is a nice middle name, IMO.

[CathyS]

I like what you wrote Rosehip-Fairy. I do wonder if it's a bit too much to use the exact same first name, as if you are trying to replace them. And every time you mention "Carlo"...who are they talking about?

I will talk to my partner about this.

Very grateful for your opinions ladies.

[alioops]

My Grandma passed away the week before my ultrasound with Em. My scan was right after the funeral. It definitely did affect our choice in her name because she was going to be Emma Louise. She is Emma Josephine after my Grandma. I called my Grandpa right after the scan to let him know and he was so touched.

I would recommend going for the middle name. It is a lovely reminder without getting confusing, unless they decide to use their middle name as their preferred name later in life.