Pish - you're doing great re the changes to give yourself a break away from the in-laws, keep that relationship on a healthy footing, and putting some boundaries in place. Expecting your first bub is a particularly sensitive time and one in which you are adjusting yourself to a massive life and role change, and unfortunately also a time when in-laws may feel they need to exert their influence more which does not help you. Believe me I have been there, and unfortunately I didn't have the assertiveness during my first pregnancy to put boundaries in place with my in-laws - a lot of boundaries were overstepped and MIL had difficulty perceiving hubby and I as our own little family with our new baby on the way. I later developed PND and at that point hubby and I decided changes must be made, and they were made, and hubby and I have never looked back. We now have our third on the way and NOTHING impedes on our precious little family life and it is wonderful. I think grandparents and extended family in general play an important role with young families but it needs to be in a supportive and helpful way which backs up rather than hinders the important job the young couple are in as parents.