Can you get your SD and SS together with your parents and PIL and do dinner?
Tell them all there and then and then use FB or SMS to tell other ppl?
We called our parents with DD1 as mine are 2hrs away and i thought it only fair if mine find out like that then so should his... we got in trouble from my MIL... lol
my SIL bought little pair of socks that said i love nanna and i love poppy and gave them to her parents at tea one day, my MIL cried for hours!
I think you should wipe the doubt out of your mind, tell everyone important and enjoy the moment, what if you never get to experience this again?
I'd tell those who would be happy for you and revel in the joy they will share with you, then tell those that you think will be not but keep fresh in your mind the happiness you felt with everyone else.
This is your experience and you need to remember that.
Your ticker says your 15 weeks! I'd tell them soon and start to enjoy everything about being preggers, don't spend another minute worrying about others and what they think.
This time round we kept it quiet far longer than 12 weeks, as I had wanted to. We told parents and siblings (and accepted that other family would then find out through them) at about 17 weeks (only cos DP wanted to). Everyone else started to find out after I posted photos of a trip to QLD in June, when I was 6 months on, but there was no 'announcement' (again, that's how I wanted it) and people either saw my belly grow and said nothing or just asked if the bump was a baby! I didn't really show until I was abot 21-22 weeks, anyway, but it was perverse fun to have people unsure to ask in that in-between stage After all, they only want to know, they don't need to know until it's either really close to the due date or the baby is actually here!
With my first I knew most of my family would think I was too young (although I was married and our baby was very much planned, my family can be some what controlling!) nad it would be so hard for them to be happy for us, when I told them I made a big deal about saying how excited we are and how happy we are to be starting a family of our own. I blocked out everything else, such as my mother asking 'how far gone are you?!' or my dad sounding completely disgusted and not being able to speak to me for a while (apparently he never wanted children, so anyone stupid enough to have children in their 20's must have been off their head!), one of brother's just went on about how blown away he was as he is 8 years older than me and not even close to being ready for a family. Thankfully my other brother was so sweet and said 'Thats great news, you're going to make such a great mother', so thats the one I thought of when I thought about how it went telling the fam.
If there is only one person happy for you, just go with that. Make that stay in your mind and think of the kind of words that came out of that person's heart. Make sure you make a big deal infront of anyone that may not have been as happy as they should about what that beautiful person had said to you and how great it made you feel! They'll soon all turn around and share in your excitment!
This is your time, don't let anyone come in front of your joy and overwhelming excitment.
I know how you feel mrzbaby. I am almost 17weeks and still havent told anyone yet.
My brother and SIL have just (2weeks ago) had their much longed for IVF baby girl.
When we announced I was expecting number 4 it kinda caused a "blip" in our relationship with them. Gradually things got better, but during my pregnancy with him I felt as if I was doing something wrong< I know I wasnt and it was jealously but we pretty much stayed away from them and vice versa.
They are just fine with him now and with my other boys too but we decided to let them have their moment and warm fuzzies before we announced number 5 is on the way.
Trouble is I still dont know how to do it. Have I waited too long now and I am worried about how they are going to react this time. Knowing what they had to go through and here I am breeding like a gremlin after a bath!!!
Sorry to hijack but any ideas??
Just tell them your pregnant, how far along and if they ask why you 'took so long' (as if there's some mandatory requirement that you 'confess' at the 12 weeks mark at the latest!!), just say you wanted to have it to yourselves for longer. And I've said to people that it's less time they have to spend watching me be pregnant and they fastrack to the birth
My mum was offended - but that was about her and what SHE wanted...not about me and what I was comfortable with...no, that's just not important in her world! People get offended when they think something's about them, and far too many people assume they have more involvement in a pregnancy than they actually do and then disappear when you actually would appreciate their involvement...after the baby's here. Meanwhile, there's only so much they need to know and if they've made plans for holidays for when you're due or whatever, too bad - you don't need them there for the birth, or you would have told them sooner
i was only 16 at the time so i had to tell my parents straight away.. i was like 5 weeks..i told my dad he made a smartass comment and didnt say anything else. my mum was totally different but i couldnt care less..
my DH told his mum while she was cutting his hair(idiot right?)
this time i told all our family at 8weeks(3 days ago) as Bil & SIL are coming up to visit us..i wouldnt be able to hide why i wasnt well lol.
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After all, they only want to know, they don't need to know until it's either really close to the due date or the baby is actually here!
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