With my first I knew most of my family would think I was too young (although I was married and our baby was very much planned, my family can be some what controlling!) nad it would be so hard for them to be happy for us, when I told them I made a big deal about saying how excited we are and how happy we are to be starting a family of our own. I blocked out everything else, such as my mother asking 'how far gone are you?!' or my dad sounding completely disgusted and not being able to speak to me for a while (apparently he never wanted children, so anyone stupid enough to have children in their 20's must have been off their head!), one of brother's just went on about how blown away he was as he is 8 years older than me and not even close to being ready for a family. Thankfully my other brother was so sweet and said 'Thats great news, you're going to make such a great mother', so thats the one I thought of when I thought about how it went telling the fam.
If there is only one person happy for you, just go with that. Make that stay in your mind and think of the kind of words that came out of that person's heart. Make sure you make a big deal infront of anyone that may not have been as happy as they should about what that beautiful person had said to you and how great it made you feel! They'll soon all turn around and share in your excitment!
This is your time, don't let anyone come in front of your joy and overwhelming excitment.
I know how you feel mrzbaby. I am almost 17weeks and still havent told anyone yet.
My brother and SIL have just (2weeks ago) had their much longed for IVF baby girl.
When we announced I was expecting number 4 it kinda caused a "blip" in our relationship with them. Gradually things got better, but during my pregnancy with him I felt as if I was doing something wrong< I know I wasnt and it was jealously but we pretty much stayed away from them and vice versa.
They are just fine with him now and with my other boys too but we decided to let them have their moment and warm fuzzies before we announced number 5 is on the way.
Trouble is I still dont know how to do it. Have I waited too long now and I am worried about how they are going to react this time. Knowing what they had to go through and here I am breeding like a gremlin after a bath!!!
Sorry to hijack but any ideas??
Just tell them your pregnant, how far along and if they ask why you 'took so long' (as if there's some mandatory requirement that you 'confess' at the 12 weeks mark at the latest!!), just say you wanted to have it to yourselves for longer. And I've said to people that it's less time they have to spend watching me be pregnant and they fastrack to the birth
My mum was offended - but that was about her and what SHE wanted...not about me and what I was comfortable with...no, that's just not important in her world! People get offended when they think something's about them, and far too many people assume they have more involvement in a pregnancy than they actually do and then disappear when you actually would appreciate their involvement...after the baby's here. Meanwhile, there's only so much they need to know and if they've made plans for holidays for when you're due or whatever, too bad - you don't need them there for the birth, or you would have told them sooner
i was only 16 at the time so i had to tell my parents straight away.. i was like 5 weeks..i told my dad he made a smartass comment and didnt say anything else. my mum was totally different but i couldnt care less..
my DH told his mum while she was cutting his hair(idiot right?)
this time i told all our family at 8weeks(3 days ago) as Bil & SIL are coming up to visit us..i wouldnt be able to hide why i wasnt well lol.
Thank you so much for the ideas...
I am going to try and squeeze another 3 weeks out of this beore the 'announcement'.
I google some and they were really good like printing a tshirt for the sibling to wear with somehting like I'm going to be a big brother....
Cute but I haven't got the children young enough to wear it!!!
Have my BIL and SIL coming up in October and were thinking of getting tshirts made for all the neices/ nephews when we go around for dinner for them to wear ( except mine will have going to be a big brother / sister ). Then seeing how long it takes for them to work it all out!. Only down side is not knowing what the reacition will be and having the children there might help...
My SIL will be ther and I don't know how she will go with me putting it on her son
will have to think a little more on that one ...hmmmmmm
to DF: *WAVE PEE STICK IN FACE* Loooooooooooooookk!!!
To Mum & Dad: I actually told them seperately... Mum went into overdrive about some herbs I'd been taking that you're not meant to while pregnant, so I had to explain to her that I had actually stopped taking them... after that she offered to babysit ><; Dad is a pretty "oh yeah" kind of guy so he was easy to handle to.
IL: DF told them by text message, resulting in OMG phone calls...
I think the longer you don't tell them the harder it will be. And either way it's going to hurt your SIL a bit... Hell my SIL announced she was preg about 3 months after we did and I STILL found that hard to handle because I was petrafied something was going to happen to my baby, and I'd have to watch her have her fourth while I went through losing another one.
GL, I know it's hard but think quick like a bandaid and remember you have your DH for support, Always remember to keep in mind what it would be like to be in the receiving end but also that this baby is your little miricle - who cares what other people are gonna think! I think the shirts may be a bit to "I'm rubbing it in your face" IMO, I'd give them a miss
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